It can often be hard to believe that, in the 21st century, misogyny can still be so rampant.
But one viral thread recently pointed out just how deeply ingrained and pervasive it truly is in our society.
It all started when Twitter user @sswyers tweeted about a snide comment her boss made after viewing the thumbnail of a woman's profile picture on LinkedIn.
After some confusion, @sswyers tried to dig a little deeper into what her boss meant.
The boss finally got down to the matter.
He thought the picture was "slutty."
@sswyers wasn't having any of it.
I was getting annoyed right back, so I told him to just explain what he meant. He talked for a minute about how if… https://t.co/db9TEfsBze— Sawyer (@Sawyer)1560550026.0
And then, after some back and forth, @sswyrs finally got down to what it was really about.
Needless to say, @sswyers was appalled, and called out exactly what was happening here.
This man saw a THUMBNAIL of a picture of an attractive woman, and decided that not only was she a "slut", but that… https://t.co/f8FA4SD845— Sawyer (@Sawyer)1560550545.0
A woman has her smiling face on her profile. A man she has never met sees it and instantly feels rage and disgust.… https://t.co/Oy6lBe77nI— Sawyer (@Sawyer)1560550955.0
@ men: Don't you ever ask women why they're afraid again.— Sawyer (@Sawyer)1560550968.0
People were left shaking their heads.
@babenofun @sswyrs SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK— ☀️🌻🏳️🌈 (@☀️🌻🏳️🌈)1560687660.0
@BrettHethering @sswyrs It's too common at that! As in not every man feels/thinks that way, not by a long shot (!)… https://t.co/mTpkf93yy1— Good Omens Ivy (@Good Omens Ivy)1560631938.0
Other women soon chimed in with their own horror stories of misogyny from both men and women.
@MTA_1996 @sswyrs When me and my sister were kids, our neighbor asked my mom to put up curtains in our shared room… https://t.co/3ZwVOsLDws— Elisabeth (@Elisabeth)1560667226.0
@Elisabeth__E @MTA_1996 @sswyrs Ugh. Reminds me of my highly religious neighbors as a kid. The wife tried to get me… https://t.co/jOxmm7vN1p— Snap, Crackle, Pop (@Snap, Crackle, Pop)1560668221.0
You've been warned, ladies.
No attractive profile pictures that might make men all hot and bothered.
@Mickey_Marine @sswyrs @battleborngoali To be fair, you’re showing a bit of earlobe.— diecastzinc (@diecastzinc)1560651163.0
@FionaMMarsden @diecastzinc @sswyrs @battleborngoali *Scribbles note* "Must appear dead in the eyes." Got it.— 💗💜💙Foul-Mouthed Engineer💗💜💙 (@💗💜💙Foul-Mouthed Engineer💗💜💙)1560653789.0
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U/lit3rallyuseless asked: What doesn't deserve the hate it gets?
Film and media are probably the biggest contender for being hated on randomly. It may seem harmless, but not always deserved.
Actors are people too!
Actors who played characters that people didn't like.
Really if you hated the character then the actor did a good job (assuming that was the role).
The best cartoons.
nice day summer GIF by PBS KIDSGiphyChild cartoons. Some are actually really good, even as an adult.
I feel like watching cartoons aimed at generally a younger audience allows for you to be reminded of some life lessons, I know I forget some things, or didn't realise others, or it at least partially renews my awareness of something I should still like or appreciate
This doesn't deserve awards, it's just my opinion that is apparently shared by many.
This man did nothing wrong.
Guy Fieri, he literally is the nicest person in the world but since he looks like he was electrocuted by mountain dew people want to saw his head off.
Even before that, I was witness to his other charitable work. A few years back, Santa Rosa was hit by some terrible fires and he showed up at a few shelters and personally cooked up and served some killer buffet food. No cameras, no massive team of PR, just a dude with an assistant to keep him on schedule to hit up other shelters in the area. Guy Fieri legit earned a lot of respect in my book for that.
You know who DEFINITELY doesn’t deserve hate? Animals. They’re just living their best lives, and need to be left alone.
The best cats.
Black cats.
We got a black cat for the first time last year. I've since formulated the theory that black cats might get some of their reputation from the fact that people can't see them well in the dark and so they seemingly appear out of nowhere and they might be instinctually cautious because they know people have a tendency to kick them while walking in the dark. Our black cat is the sweetest cat I've ever known.
They get a bad rep.
Discovery Sharks GIF by Shark WeekGiphySharks. They are beautiful, complex creatures, deserving of respect and, like any wild animal should be left alone in their natural habitat, but they get this reputation as vicious bloodthirsty monsters. This is only because every shark attack is news, and only then because they are so rare. More people are killed EVERY DAY by mosquitoes than sharks kill in a year.
Any apex predator that has remained evolutionarily unchanged for hundreds of millions of years, whose existance predates TREES, is deserving or our respect and admiration. Shine on, you crazy cartlaginous fish, shine on.
So cute too!
Opossums. They're neat little critters. They eat tons of ticks that carry Lyme disease, (mostly) don't carry rabies because their body temp is too low, and they're the only marsupial native to North America! They get a bad rap because their first defense is to hiss and bare teeth, but failing that, they just play dead.
If you don't have the predisposition to hate them, you'll find they're pretty cute too.
E: this is about /opossums/, the north American species.
Kiwis, I feel for you, but this comment isn't about your possums.
Hating on other people for just living their lives also seems to be a big contender for things that don’t deserve to be hated on.
This is so true.
Unemployed people. A lot of people genuinely are looking for work and did not want to lose their last job/it was beyond their control (like a layoff) but they get so much hate and called lazy by most people. I know too many unemployed people that are actually really trying hard. They definitely aren't lazy. (Not saying lazy unemployed people don't exist, but to be fair, so do lazy employed people too lol)
Leave the weather man alone!
Fox Raining GIF by Family GuyGiphyMeteorologists. They try their best to predict the weather based on patterns, models, and data. They're not perfect because predicting the weather is insanely difficult. When they get it wrong, I think we should go easy on them. It was probably an outlier result almost no one could have foreseen.
I've seen people get angry over the meteorologists for getting it right. Like they control the weather - it is their fault we are having rain, that kind of BS. Never made sense to me, but hey, I have plenty of relatives I clashed with growing up.
Please stop being d*cks to these people.
Customer service associates.
I hate when customers think that I, the minimum wage person forced to sit there and listen to them yell, am personally responsible for every policy they disagree with. Like, ma'am, if I had that much power and influence, I wouldn't be sitting here on a Saturday evening serving you.
Wholesome and necessary.
People don't deserve hate they give themselves when they are not doing too good at the moment.
I'm in a weird place and I didn't know I needed to read this. Thanks buddy.
If you haven't heard it from anyone else today, I'm proud of you.
It seems like people hate on things simply because they think they're meant to hate them. But you can always be the change and make an effort to stop being an a**hole about certain things.
No matter what though, sometimes haters gonna hate