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Bob Hope Lived A Twisted Hidden Life

Bob Hope Lived A Twisted Hidden Life

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People have called Bob Hope the “Entertainer of the 20th Century,” and he was no less than a titan of Old Hollywood. But behind the scenes of Hope’s family-friendly career is a life of rivalry, scandal, and very dirty little secrets. Without further ado, draw back the curtains and let these hidden facts about Bob Hope entertain you…

1. He Had A Completely Different Name

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Bob Hope’s name wasn’t actually Bob Hope; he was born Leslie Townes Hope in London in 1903. Hope may have taken on the name "Bob" as a tribute to the popular racer Bob Burman—but there is a sadder theory. Growing up, children would tease him by calling him "Hope, Leslie" until it sounded like "Hopeless," spurring the name change.

2. His Home Life Was Rough

Hope came from modest beginnings, being the son of a stonemason and a light opera singer in a large family of seven boys. In 1908, the family picked up and moved to the United States for a better life, and Hope helped to support them by taking on a series of odd jobs, including working as a busker. But a life-changing event was just around the corner.

3. He Got Into A Horrific Accident

While making money for his family, Hope worked with one of his brothers as a lineman, clearing trees from power lines. That's when disaster struck. One day, Hope was on a tree when it began falling to the ground with him in it. Although he swung from underneath it, narrowly avoiding a potentially fatal accident, he didn't walk away unscathed...

4. He Got Plastic Surgery

As Hope crashed to the ground, he busted up his moneymaker—his face—and only came to in the hospital. His facial injuries were so bad that the staff refused to give him mirror for three whole weeks. In the end, though, it might have been the best thing to happen to him: After reconstructive surgery, his visage became even more handsome and memorable than before.

5. He Was A Drop-Out

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With his looks set, Hope started to pursue stardom with a obsessive grit. The teenager even dropped out of school, feeling that it would only hold him back, and became a successful vaudeville dancer. With the likes of popular comedian Fatty Arbuckle attending his shows, it wasn't long before Hollywood came knocking...except that wasn't a good thing.

6. He Hated His Own Work

Hope's first appearance on the silver screen was in 1934’s Going Spanish. It couldn't have gone worse. Just about everyone panned the film, including Hope himself. Notorious bank robber John Dillinger was at large when it premiered, and Hope quipped after the film's release, “When they catch Dillinger, they're going to make him sit through it twice.” But Hope was about to make his mark.

7. He Was In An Iconic Series

By the 1940s, Hope's career took off in both film and radio, and he became became a major box office draw with Road to Singapore. Acting alongside Bing Crosby and Dorothy Lamour, Hope went on to make six more “Road to…” films that would cement his place among the Hollywood legends. And just as you'd expect, Hope was downright naughty on set...

8. He Caused A Fight On Set

While on the set of Road to Singapore, Hope might have been having too good a time with it. One day, the actor started a giant soap suds fight with co-stars Bing Crosby and Dorothy Lamour. While this was fun for them, the director was utterly incensed, since it meant the crew had to spend hours redoing their costumes and make-up.

9. He Made A Frenemy

Hope and Crosby always had a friendly rivalry going on together, and liked to joke about it frequently. Hope once famously said, "There's nothing I wouldn't do for Bing, and there's nothing he wouldn't do for me. And that's the way we go through life—doing nothing for each other!’" Yet behind the scenes, the story was much more complicated.

10. He Had A Nemesis

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Hope and Crosby were supposedly as close as brothers—but there was a dark side to their friendship. The two legends often fought, and as their egos grew, so did the conflicts. Not only was Crosby aloof on set, the pair reportedly rarely hung out in private. Apparently, Hope even once confessed that he “simply didn’t like Bing and, at times, detested him.”

Still, that's not even the worst surprise when it comes to Hope.

11. He Had A Secret Wedding

Just before he made it big in Hollywood, Hope headlined with the vaudeville performer Louise Troxell. Soon after, the sparks were flying between them off stage, and the pair married in secret on January 25, 1933. At 30 years old, Hope might have felt he was ready to settle down and start a nice, quiet family. Only, that's not what happened at all.

12. He Was Unfaithful To His Wife

Shortly after Hope and Troxell's wedding, a new girl named Dolores Reade joined their vaudeville troupe. She turned out to be Hope's undoing. A busty Ziegfeld beauty and a heck of an entertainer in her own right, Reade caught the very married Hope's eye the minute she walked in the joint, and they struck up an affair. Spoiler: This is going nowhere good.

13. He Had A Bitter Breakup

Suddenly, Hope and Troxell's marriage was over almost as soon as it began. The couple officially called it quits in November 1934, although very few people had known about their wedding in the first place. Reade and Hope, meanwhile, had been carrying on a public dalliance for months. And it gets even more twisted than that.

14. He Claimed He Was A Bigamist

See, while Hope and Troxell got divorced in November 1934, there was a snag: Hope claimed he married his new flame Dolores Reade months before that date, in February. So, according to Hope's own testimony, America's most beloved and wholesome entertainer was a big ol' bigamist. Hold onto your hats, though: There's one more stop on this crazy train.

15. He Had A Fake Marriage

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In the end, Hope and Reade would stay together for a whopping 69 years. Except there is one jaw-dropping problem. In the end, Hope may never have married Dolores Reade. Records show the comedian lied through his teeth about their February union, and there are zero photos and no marriage certificate anywhere in evidence.

Most damning of all, Hope had a performance in New York the night he claimed he married Reade in Pennsylvania. Jesus. What else was this man hiding? Answer: A LOT.

16. His Life Looked Perfect…

Oh, don't get me wrong. Hope's life still looked ideal. After enough drama to last a lifetime, he settled right into his marriage with Reade, fake or not. The pair both had strong faiths, and they adopted a brood of four children to complete their picture-perfect life. Seriously, it was like The Brady Bunch up in here. Until, that is, you looked closer.

17. He Had A Harem

The public knew Hope as a stand-up family man, but industry insiders knew him much differently. Surprise, surprise: The man who hoodwinked two women into marriage wasn't so faithful. Actually, he wasn't faithful at all. As one insider wrote, whenever the superstar went to a hotel, "outside his room were three, four, five young, beautiful girls, waiting to be picked by him to come in."

Hope was flirting with disaster...and disaster flirted right back.

18. He Had A Secret Rendezvous Spot

In 1949, Hope began an affair with the up-and-coming actress Barbara Payton, even setting her up with a Hollywood apartment so he could come and go from her bed at all hours of the night. But Payton, like many a starlet before her, was starved for attention and kept demanding more gifts and more favors from the veteran actor. Cue ominous music.

19. His Mistress Betrayed Him

Fed up with his plaything, Hope eventually broke things off with Payton, though he made sure to pay her off to keep her quiet. Her reaction was the definition of "spiteful." Unable to seal her lips, the actress signed up for a 1956 tell-all interview in Confidential magazine, spilling the beans about her affair with Hope. And that wasn't the only confession she made...

20. He Was Tabloid Fodder

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Payton was out for blood in her interview, and she painted a grim portrait of the sunny comedian. According to the starlet, Hope wasn't an American everyman, but instead "a mean-spirited individual with the ability to respond with a ruthless vengeance when sufficiently provoked.” Unfortunately for Payton, Hope's response was nothing short of chilling.

21. He Knew How To Be Cruel

Although Hope must have been beside himself when Payton's interview came out, he hadn't survived so long in Hollywood without picking up a few tricks for dealing with attention-seekers, and he knew just what to do. He ignored her. Without Hope commenting, poor Barbara's splashy confessions made barely a ripple in Tinseltown, and his secrets remained safe a while longer.

22. He Had Another “Mrs. Hope”

By the 1950s, Hope was getting more than a little sloppy about his extramarital affairs. At the beginning of the decade, he'd started a dalliance with his co-star Marilyn Maxwell, and the pair were all but shouting their lust from the rooftops. People would see them checking into cheap motels together, and industry insiders saw her around so much, they took to calling her "Mrs. Bob Hope."

23. He Served His Country

Throughout his career, Hope was heavily involved with the United Service Organizations, entertaining the brave men and women in uniform from WWII all the way through to the 1990s. Hope's support of the troops was so outsized that the US Congress made him an “Honorary Veteran.” But even here, he was one tough customer.

24. He Didn’t Like Cry Babies

Hope wanted to ensure that he only brought laughter and joy to the men and women serving. In fact, when touring with other performers for USO, Hope made one bizarre rule. He demanded that no one cry in front of the troops, particularly when they visited them in hospital. Except one day, a miracle forced him to break his own rule.

25. He Performed A Miracle

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While Hope was visiting injured men in the hospital, he passed by the bed of a wounded soldier who had been in a months-long coma. Suddenly, with Hope standing by his bedside, the man awoke and exclaimed, “Hey, Bob Hope! When did you get here?” The actor teared up and had to leave the hospital room so the soldier couldn’t see him bawling his eyes out.

26. He Was Demanding

Hope didn’t get to the top of the Hollywood pecking order by being a nice guy, and he made brutal demands. The actor required all of his comedy writers to submit 20 jokes a day, five days a week, to his home. If they failed to bring the goods for two consecutive weeks, Hope would fire them without a second glance. Ouch.

27. He Mixed Business And Pleasure

Hope cheated so much, some of his affairs can't really be called affairs; they were more like long-term relationships. While hosting the 1961 Miss World competition, Hope crowned Rosemarie Frankland as the winner and then quickly took her on as his mistress. They were together for 30 years, and many considered Frankland “the great love of his life.”

28. He Was A Strategic Lover

So how did Bob Hope manage to keep his dirty laundry out of the public eye? He actually had an ingenious answer. Hope paid his publicists with more than just cash, and he carried on a (you guessed it) affair with his PR maestro Ursula Halloran. In turn, Halloran made sure not a word of his nighttime activities got published. Yet these violent delights have violent ends.

29. He May Have Been Cursed

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30. He Was Almost Mauled To Death

While filming their sequel Road to Utopia, Hope and Crosby were meant to have a scene with a tame bear. It went wrong right from the start. The bear was supposed to lay down next to Hope, but instead it sniffed and growled at him. Both stars refused to return to set with the animal, despite the trainer's protestations that it was safe. Sadly, they were right to worry: The next day, the bear tore off its trainer’s arm.

31. His Wife Knew All His Secrets

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It’s hard to imagine that Hope could carry on all of these affairs without his family knowing. Well, as it turns out, they did know. In a 1978 interview, a reporter asked his wife Dolores Reade if she believed Hope was 100% “true-blue.” Reade answered, “I doubt it. I think he’s perfectly human and average and all that.” Not so sure about "average," Dolores.

32. He Suffered A Huge Shock

Hope and Bing Crosby worked together for decades in the “Road to…” film franchise, but their friendship came to a tragic end. In 1977, the two were planning to join forces again on yet another “Road to…” film when Crosby passed away unexpectedly. Despite their possibly prickly relationship, Hope was so distraught at the loss of his friend that he couldn’t sleep for days.

33. He Was Witty

Having toured extensively with USO, Hope was no stranger to danger, and had stepped into active combat zones armed with nothing but his wit. At the height of the tensions between the Soviet Union and the United States, Hope set off to the Motherland. Upon returning, he quipped about his great vacation, “We had a very successful trip to Russia. We made it back.”

34. He Was A Sugar Daddy

Hope may have had scores of lovers, but he almost never forgot about his paramours. Indeed, he even continued to support his first (possibly only) wife Louise Troxell even while he was with Dolores Reade. The entertainer sent his ex a tidy sum of money for the rest of her life, which is a deal I definitely wouldn't turn down.

35. He Was Addicted To Intimacy

Long after most men would have retired to their rocking chair in an assisted living community, Hope was still chasing down women. Get this: The actor kicked off yet another affair when he was in his 80s. This time he skipped out on the chorus girls and picked up with one of his writers, Sandy Vinger. But it seems like Hope had lost his touch…

36. His Ex Got Revenge

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Not surprisingly, Hope’s affair with Vinger didn’t last too long—he was, after all, a husband, a father of four, and super freaking old. But it did not end happily. After their split, Vinger sued Hope for breach of contract, claiming that the geriatric actor had agreed to support her for the rest of his life; they settled out of court. Talk about going out with a bang.

37. He Had The Longest Happily Ever After

With a 69-year union, Hope’s marriage to Dolores Reade lasted longer than anyone could have possibly expected—and longer than anyone in Hollywood could match. While most Tinseltown marriages end as tabloid fodder in just a few years (or days), Hope and Reade held the record for the longest Hollywood marriage of all time until recently.

38. There Was One Thing He Never Got

Believe it or not, Bob Hope never won an Oscar. In fact, the "Entertainer of the 20th Century" never got so much as an nomination, even after he had hosted the Academy Awards a ridiculous 19 times. One of those times, Hope hit back at his Hollywood “friends” with a real zinger. “We’re all here to celebrate Oscar,” he said, “or as he’s known at my house, The Fugitive!”

39. He Was Funny In Every Language

Despite never clinching that competitive Academy Award, Hope was still famous…maybe too famous. The actor once commented that the only place where he could stroll around incognito was in the People’s Republic China. But even then, someone recognized him from one of his films before the Chinese Revolution. I want to feel bad...but I don't.

40. He Almost Ran For President

Bob Hope was so popular, people often suggested he should run for president. Yet even though First Lady Nancy Reagan referred to him as America’s “favorite clown,” he was never interested. As Hope once quipped, “I thought about it. But my wife said she wouldn't want to move into a smaller house.” But that didn't mean Hope kept out of the Oval Office entirely...

41. He Advised The White House

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In 1948, a seemingly unpopular Harry S. Truman was facing re-election, and he'd only got the job in the first place after Franklin D. Roosevelt's passing. To Truman’s shock, he actually won the vote, and received some sage advice from Bob Hope in the process. In a one-word congratulatory telegram, Hope told the president to “Unpack.”

42. He Had An Obsessive Hobby

Hope was famously golf-crazy, and he might be the only Hollywood actor who can say that he beat Tiger Woods in a round of golf. Still, Woods had a significant handicap: He was a toddler. Hope and the soon-to-be-legendary golfer made an appearance together on The Mike Douglas Show in 1978, when Woods was just two years old.

43. He Had A Bromance

Although they had a famous and legendary friendship, Bing Crosby and Bob Hope had rather humble beginnings. Hope only met Crosby by chance in 1932 when he was emceeing a show where Crosby performing. Still, the pair ended up hitting it off, and were each excited by the other's comedy chops. And thus began a beautiful bromance.

44. He Looked Like Charlie Chaplin

When Hope was still a young boy, he idolized the comedy legend Charlie Chaplin, like just about everybody else his age. But unlike everybody else, Hope tried to be Chaplin—literally. During his youth in Ohio, Hope entered a Chaplin look-a-like contest and came out with the top prize. It might have been a good omen, but Hope's next move wasn't.

45. He Had A Hidden Talent

It might surprise you to know that the reedy Bob Hope had a very rough hobby: Boxing. When he was a teenager, he decided to enter the ring under the professional boxing name "Packy East." Weighing in at an astonishing 24-karats of future Oscar gold, Hope racked up three wins and one loss. Not bad for a man who spent more of his life loving than fighting.

46. He Was A Doctor

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Hope might have been a clown and a high school dropout, but no one can call him uneducated. Over the course of his career, Hope racked up more than 2,000 honors and awards. As if being one of only two honorary veterans of the Armed Services wasn’t enough, Hope received his praise from academia as well, and had 54 honorary doctorates.

47. He Came Back To Life

In 1998, with Hope well into his 90s, a strange thing happened. A newspaper accidentally released a pre-written obituary for the comedian, leading the US House of Representatives to announce Hope's death while he was, in fact, still alive. Certain congressmen—some of whom Hope had entertained while touring with USO—took the news hard. Thankfully, it was only minutes before the paper corrected the error.

48. He Had The Last Laugh

Despite falling trees, questionable marriages, a flurry of affairs, and a few close calls, Hope’s life was full of…hope. Entertaining audiences was Hope’s single focus, and he accomplished that with his wicked sense of humor. In his own words, “I have seen what a laugh can do. It can transform almost unbearable tears into something bearable, even hopeful.”

49. He Saw A Century

Just think about how much happens in a century. Computers are invented, phones become mobile, air travel turns to space flight, and the list goes on. Well, Bob Hope would have witnessed it all. He lived to be exactly 100 years old, passing less than a month after his centennial on July 27, 2003. And you can bet your bottom dollar he was full of wit and great one-liners right to the end.

50. His Humor Survived As Long As He Did

At the very end, Hope still had a joie de vivre that no one could beat. While lying on his deathbed, his wife asked him where he wanted them to bury him when he was gone. Hope had his zinger all lined up, and joked in response, “Surprise me.”

51. He Had A Special Offer

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For a comedic wit like Bob Hope, late night talk shows provided the perfect opportunity to try out new material and promote upcoming films. To that end, NBC—Hope’s parent network—gave Hope an open invitation to walk onto the set of The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson any time he wanted. This ended up backfiring in the most awkward way possible.

52. He Was Johnny Carson's Most Hated Guest

Hope took up the NBC invitation in a big way, walking on the set again and again...and again. Even worse, Hope would often show up with stale, scripted gags, unwilling to engage in any of the show's signature banter. Eventually, the inimitable Johnny Carson got so fed up, he called Hope his least favorite Tonight Show guest. Ouch. And it only got worse as Hope got older…

53. He Infuriated Johnny Carson

Hope appeared on The Tonight Show well into the 1980s, and well into his decline. The aging actor had difficulty hearing Carson’s questions, forcing the quick-witted host to stick to dreaded pre-written notes from Hope’s team. Carson's reply was so disturbing, it's impossible to forget. After one particularly bad show, Carson snapped to his writers, “If I ever end up like that, guys, I want you to shoot me.”

54. He Seduced A Wholesome Star

Of all Hope's affairs, the most scandalous might have been his naughty acts with a famous "good girl" screen siren: None other than the wholesome Doris Day. According to Hope, the two had a fiery affair while touring together to raise funds for charity in 1949. But before the two stars had time to catch feelings, it ended abruptly...

55. His Wife Lashed Out

When Hope and Day returned to California from their charity efforts, the lovers got a nasty surprise. Dolores Reade—Hope’s wife, remember her?—was waiting at the airport to give her husband a nice, big, and pointed welcome home hug. Day interpreted the gesture as a shot across the bow and backed off, squelching the dalliance.

People Describe The Creepiest Things They Ever Witnessed As A Kid

"Reddit user -2sweetcaramel- asked: 'What’s the creepiest thing you saw as a kid?'"

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For many childhood memories are overrun by living nightmares.

Yes, children are resilient, but that doesn't mean that the things we see as babes don't follow us forever.

The horrors of the world are no stranger to the young.

Redditor -2sweetcaramel- wanted to see who was willing to share about the worst things we've seen as kids, so they asked:

"What’s the creepiest thing you saw as a kid?"

Serious Danger

"Me and my best friend would explore the drainage tunnels under the Vegas area where we grew up. These were miles long and it was always really cool down there so it was a good way to escape the heat of our scorching hot summers. We went into this one that goes under the Fiesta casino and found a camp with a bunch of homeless people."

"Mind you we are like 11 years old lol. And we just kept going like it was nothing. It wasn’t scary then but when I look back at it we could have been in some serious danger. Our parents had no idea we did this or where we were and we had no cellphones. We could have been kidnapped and never have been found."

oofboof2020

Waiting for Food

"I was at a portillos once when I was 12 and I was waiting with my little brother at a booth while my parents got our food. This guy was standing with his tray kind of watching me then after a couple of minutes he started to walk over really fast not breaking eye contact with me."

"He was 2 feet from the table and my dad came out of nowhere and scared the s**t out of him. He looked so surprised and just said he wanted to see if I’d get scared or not. He left his tray full of food near the door and left. My folks reported him but we never went to that location again since we found a better one closer to home."

nowhereboy1964

Captain Hobo to the Rescue

"When I was a pretty young teen, my friends and I were horsing around in San Francisco and started hanging out to smoke with some homeless guys. Another homeless dude came up and began aggressively trying to shake us down for anything (money, smokes, a ride, drugs- all of it) and wouldn’t take no for an answer."

"We got in over our heads and could tell this guy was now riling the other 2 guys up and they were acting like they wanted to jump us. Some grandfather-looking old homeless man appeared out of nowhere and yelled at us to get the f**k out of here- nice kids like us don’t belong down here at this hour!!"

"Captain Hobo saved our lives that night. My parents sincerely thought we were at a mall all day lol."

FartAttack911

Survival

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"I was 7 and survived the 2004 tsunami in Thailand. Witnessed the wave rise way above the already massive palm trees (approx. 40ft?) and my family and I watched/heard the wave crash into the ground from a rooftop."

faithfulpoo

These Tsunami stories are just tragic.

On the Sand

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"We were a group of kids who went to swim in a local lake. And there was a dead body on the beach with their hands raised and their legs bent unnaturally that local police just took out of the same lake. I've never put my foot in these waters again."

oyloff

Be Clever

"I was walking to school and I was about 5 or 6 years old and some guy pulled up beside me in his car and asked if I would get in. He also offered me sweets to do so. I said no. The creepy bit was when he calmly said ‘clever boy’ to me, then drove off. I’ve never even told my parents or anyone else about this as it would most likely freak them out."

OstneyPiz

Bad Jokes

"Dad's side of the family pranked me by burying a fake body on our back property and had me dig it up to find valuables. Was only allowed to use a lantern for light. They stuffed old clothes with chicken bones. Sheetrock mud where the head was... Random fake jewelry as the treasures... I was like maybe 10 or 11.. I remember digging up the boot first and started gagging because it became real at that point."

Alegan239

YOU

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"Woke up to find my little brother staring at me in the dark, asking, Are you really you?"

PrettyLola2004

Siblings can really be a bunch of creepers.

No one should talk to others in the dark though.

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When we hear about other people's jobs, we've surely all done that thing where we make assumptions about the work they do and maybe even judge them for having such an easy or unimportant job.

But some jobs are much harder than they look.

Redditor CeleryLover4U asked:

"What's a job or profession that seems easy but is incredibly challenging?"

Customer Service

"Anything customer-facing. The public is dumb and horrendous."

- gwarrior5

"My go-to explanation is, 'Anyone can do it, but few can do it for long.'"

- Conscious_Camel4830

"The further I get in my corporate career, the less I believe I will ever again be capable of working a public-facing job. I don’t know how I did it in the past. I couldn’t handle it in the present."

"I know people are only getting worse about how they treat workers. It is disturbing, embarrassing, and draining for everyone."

- First-Combination-12

High Stakes

"A pharmacist."

"You face the public. Your mistake can literally kill someone."

- VaeSapiens

"Yes, Pharmacist. So many people think their job is essentially the same as any other kind of retail worker and they just prepare prescriptions written by a doctor without having to know anything about them."

"They are very highly trained in, well, pharmacology; and it's not uncommon for a pharmacist to notice things like potentially dangerous drug interactions that the doctor hadn't."

- Worth_University_884

Teaching Woes

"Two nuggets of wisdom from my mentor teacher when I was younger:"

"'Teaching is the easiest job to do poorly and the hardest job to do well,' and 'You get to choose two of the following three: Friends, family, or being a good teacher. You don't have enough time to do all three.'"

"We all know colleagues or remember teachers who were lazy and chose the easy route, but any teacher who is trying to be a good teacher has probably sacrificed their friends and their sleep for little pay and a stressful work environment. There's a reason something like half quit the profession within the first five years."

- bq87

Creativity Is "Easy"

"Some creative professions, such as designers, are often perceived as 'easy' due to their creative nature. However, they may face the constant need to find inspiration, deal with criticism, and meet deadlines."

- rubberduckyis

"EVERYBODY thinks they are a designer, up until the point of having to do the work. But come critique time, mysteriously, EVERYBODY IS A F**KING DESIGNER AGAIN."

"The most important skill to have as a designer is THICK SKIN."

- whitepepper

Care Fatigue Is Real

"Care work."

"I wish it could be taken for granted that no one thinks it's easy. But unfortunately, many people still see it as an unskilled job and have no idea of the many emotional complexities, or of how much empathy, all the time, is needed to form the sorts of relationships with service users that they really need."

- MangoMatiLemonMelon

Physical Labor Generally Wins

"I’m going to say most types of unskilled labor and that’s because there’s such little (visible) reward and such a huge amount of bulls**t. I’ve done customer service, barista, sales, serving, etc; and it was all much harder than my cushy desk job that actually can be considered life or death."

- anachronistika

Their Memory Banks Must Be Wild

"I don't know if I'd call it incredibly challenging, but being one of those old school taxi drivers who know the city like the back of his hand and can literally just drive wherever being told nothing but an address is pretty impressively skilled."

"Not sure if it's still like this, but British cabbies used to be legendary for this. I'm 40 and I don't think most young people appreciate how much the quality of cab service has gone down since the advent of things like Uber."

"Nowadays it's just kind of expected that a rideshare/cab driver doesn't know exactly where you're trying to get and has to rely on GPS directions that they often f up. Back when I was in college, cabbies were complete experts on their city."

"More even than knowing how to get somewhere, they could also give you advice. You could just generally describe a type of bar/club/business you're looking for, and they'll take you right to one that was spot on. Especially in really big cities like NYC."

- Yak-Mak-5000

Professional Cooking

"Being a chef."

- Canadian_bro7

"I would love to meet the person who thinks being a chef is easy! I cook my own food and it’s not only OK to eat but I make a batch of it so I have some for later. So, to make food that is above good and portion it correctly many times a day and do it consistently with minimal wastage (so they make a profit), strikes me as extremely difficult."

- ChuckDeBongo

Team Leading, Oof

"Anything that involves a lot of people skills and socializing. I thought these positions were just the bulls**t of sitting in meetings all day and not a lot of work happening but having to be the one leading those meetings and doing public speaking is taxing in a way I didn’t realize."

- Counterboudd

Not a Pet Sitter At All

"Veterinary Technician."

"Do the job of an RN, anesthesiology tech, dental hygienist, radiology tech, phlebotomist, lab tech, and CNA, but probably don’t make a living wage and have people undervalue your career because you 'play with puppies and kittens all day.'"

- forthegoddessathena

Harder Than It Looks!

"Sometimes, when my brain is fried from thinking and my ego is shot from not fixing the problem, I want to be a garbage man... not a ton of thinking, just put the trash in the truck, and a lot of them have trucks that do it for you!"

"But if the robot either doesn't work or you don't have one on your truck, it smells really bad, the pay isn't what it used to be, you might find a dead body and certainly find dead animal carcasses... and people are id**ts, overfilling their bags, just to have them fall apart before you get to the truck, not putting their trash out and then blaming you, making you come back out."

"Your body probably is sore every day, and you have to take two baths before you can kiss your wife..."

"Ehh, maybe things are not so bad where I am."

- Joebroni1414

Twiddling Thumbs and Listening

"Therapist here. I’ve always said that it’s pretty easy to be an okay therapist—as in, it’s not that hard to listen to people’s problems and say, 'Oh wow, that’s so hard, poor you.'"

"But to be a good therapist? To know when your client is getting stuck in the same patterns, or to notice what your client isn’t saying? To realize that they’re only ever saying how amazing their spouse is, and to think, 'Hmm, nobody’s marriage is perfect, something’s going on there'?"

"To be able to ask questions like, 'Hey, we’ve been talking a lot about your job, but what’s going on with your family?' And then to be able to call them on their s**t, but with kindness and empathy? Balancing that s**t is hard."

"Anybody can have empathy, but knowing when to use empathy and when and how to challenge someone is so much harder. And that’s only one dimension of what makes being a therapist challenging."

- mylovelanguageiswine

Constant Updates

​"For the most part, my job is really easy (marketing tech). But having to constantly stay on top of new platforms, new tech, updates, etc etc is exhausting and overwhelming and I really hate it."

"Also, the constant responsibility to locate and execute opportunities to optimize things and increase value for higher-ups. Nobody in corporate roles can ever just reach a point of being 'good enough.' More and better is always required."

"Just some of the big reasons I’m considering a career change."

- GlizzyMcGuire_

Performing Is Not Easy

"Performing arts and other types of art. People think it’s a cakewalk or 'not a real job,' not realizing the literal lifetime of training, rejection, and perseverance that it takes to reach a professional level and how insanely competitive those spaces are."

- ThrowRA1r3a5

All About Perception

"I suspect everything fits this. Consider that someone whose job is stacking boxes in a warehouse has to know how to lift boxes, how many can be stacked, know if certain ones must be easily accessible, know how to use any equipment that is used to move boxes around."

"Not to mention if some have hazardous or fragile materials inside, if some HAVE to be stacked on the bottom, if a mistake is made and all the boxes have to be restacked, etc."

"But everyone else is like, 'They're just stacking boxes.'"

- DrHugh

It's easy to make assumptions about someone else's work and responsibilities when we haven't lived with performing those tasks ourselves.

This gave us some things to think about, and it certainly reminded us that nothing good comes of making assumptions, especially when it minimizes someone else's experiences.

Left-handed person holding a Sharpie
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Many of us who are right-handed never even think about how the world is designed to cater to us.

It probably doesn't even cross your mind that 10% of the world's population is left-handed.

Because of this, there tends to be a stigma for being left-handed since society tends to associate the left with negative things.

For example, the phrase "two left feet" applies to those who are clumsy and therefore, incapable of dancing.

Curious to hear more about the challenges facing those with the other dominant hand, Redditor johnnyportillo95 asked:

"What’s something left-handed people have to deal with that right-handed people wouldn’t even think about?"

If only manufacturers appealed to an ambidextrous world.

Furniture Obstacle

"Those desks or couch chairs that have a small desk attached. They do make left handed/sided ones but they are few and far between."

– Prussian__Princess

"And they’re only on one side of the lecture hall, and it’s never a good seat. There is ONE front row, lefty desk in the entire room and it’s in the far corner, obscured by an ancient overhead projector."

– earwighoney

Everyday Objects For Everyday People

"as a left-handed person myself, one thing we often deal with is finding left-handed tools or equipment. many everyday objects, like scissors or can openers, are designed with right-handed people in mind, which can make certain tasks a bit more challenging for us lefties. we also have to adapt to a right-handed world when it comes to writing on whiteboards or using certain computer mice."

– J0rdan_24

Dangerous Tools

"The biggest risk is power tools. I taught myself to use all power tools right handed because of risks using them left handed."

"Trivial, I love dry boards but they are super hard to write on."

– diegojones4

It's hard to play when you're born with a physical disadvantage.

Sports Disadvantage

"Allright, Sports when you are young. Every demonstration from PE teachers are right handed. You cant just copy the movements they teach you you need to flip them and your tiny brain struggoes to process it. As well, 98% of the cheap sports equipment the school uses is right handed."

– AjCheeze

No Future In Softball

"I tried to bat right handed for so long in gym class growing up because the gym teacher never asked me what my dominant side was and the thought never occurred to me as a child to mention it! Needless to say I never became a softball star."

– Leftover-Cheese

Find A Glove That Fits

"In softball and baseball we need a specific glove for our right hand that's often impossible to find unless you own one, and we have to bat on the other side of the plate."

– BowlerSea1569

"I was one of two left-handers in a 4-team Little League in the 1980s. Nobody could pitch to me. I got a lot of "hit by pitch" walks out of it."

– Jef_Wheaton

These examples are understandably annoying.

Shocking Observation

"Having right handed people make comments whenever they see us write, like we’re some kind of alien."

– UsefulIdiot85

"'Woah! You're left-handed????'"

"I find myself noticing when someone is a lefty, and sometimes I comment on it, but I try not to. I'm primarily left-handed (im a right handed wroter but do everything else left), and every single time I go to eat with my family, someone says, "Oh hey, give SilverGladiolus22 the left hand spot, they're left-handed," and inevitably someone says, 'Wait, really?' Lol."

– SilverGladiolus22

Can't Admire The Mug

"We never get to look at the cute graphics on coffee mugs while we’re drinking from them."

– vanetti

"I just realized…I always thought the graphics were made so someone else could read them while you drink. Hmmm."

– Bubbly-Anteater7345

"I'm right-handed and I often wondered why the graphics were turned towards the drinker instead of out for others to see."

– Material-Imagination

The Writing On The Wall

"Writing on whiteboards is a nightmare. I have to float my hand, which tires out my arm quickly, and I can't see what I've already written to keep the line straight."

– darkjedi39

"Also as a teacher, it means I'm standing to the left of where I'm writing, so I'm blocking everything I write. I have to frequently finish writing, then step out of the way so people can see, instead of just being able to stand on the right side the whole time."

– dancingbanana123

Immeasurable

"Rulers."

"How the f'k is no one talking about rulers? It's from 30cm to 0 cm to me, or I have to twist my arms to know the measure I want to trace over it."

– fourangers

Just Can't Win

"EVERYTHING. The world has always been based around people being right handed. As a Chef, my knife skills SUCKED until I worked with a Left Handed Chef. Then it all made sense."

"Literally, everything we do must be observed, then flipped around in our heads, then executed. This is why Lefties die sooner, on average, than Righties."

"I had to learn how to be ambidextrous, just to complete basic tasks (sports, driving a manual, using scissors, etc). I am used to it now, and do many things right handed out of necessity, as wall as parents and teachers 'forcing' it upon me."

"But, at least we are not put to death anymore, simply for using the wrong hand (look it up, it happened)."

"Ole Righty, always keeping us down."

– igenus44

The world doesn't need another demographic to feel "othered" for being different.

But if you're right-handed and tend to make assumptions about left-handed people, you may want to observe the following.

Ronald Yeo, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Texas-Austin told CNN:

"We shouldn’t assume much about people’s personalities or health just because of the hand they write with."
"And we certainly shouldn’t worry about lefties’ chances of success: After all (as of 2015), five of our last seven U.S. presidents have been either left- or mixed-handed."

Word.

Dog lying down on a bed
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Not all pet owners have the same relationship with their pets.

While anyone who decides to become a pet owner, or pet parent as some say, love their pets equally, some never ever let them leave their side.

Taking their pet with them to work, running errands, even on vacations.

Many pet parents even allow their pets to share their bed with them when going to sleep.

For others though, this is where a line is finally drawn.

Redditor Piggythelavasurfer was curious to hear whether pet owners allowed their pets to share their bed with them, as well as the reasons why they do/don't, leading them to ask:

"Do you let your pet sleep in your bed? Why/why not?"

The Tiny Issue Of Water...

"Absolutely not."

"I have fish."- Senior-Meal3649

Everyone Gets Lonely Eventually...

"I adopted an eleven year old cat the day before Halloween."

"She has mostly lived in my closet since I got her, and she hasn’t been too interested in coming out."

"Last night, she came out of my closet and jumped up on my bed, and crawled under my covers and curled up by my feet to sleep."

"I was so happy!"- YellowBeastJeep

The Comforting Reminder That You're Not Alone...

"I recently lost my Greyhound but I used to let him sleep on my bed with me."

"The company was nice and he was no trouble to have on my bed."- HoodedMenace3

Hungry Cookie GIF by De Graafschap Dierenartsen Giphy

What Do You Mean Allow?

"I have no choice."

"She is a cat, cats do whatever they want."- Small_cat1412

"He lets me sleep in my bed."- Poorly-Drawn-Beagle

Wouldn't Have It Any Other Way

"I carry my old boy upstairs to bed every night."- worst_in_show

Hug GIF by The BarkPost Giphy

Who Needs An Alarm Clock?

"I let my two cats sleep with me."

"They're so full of love and just want cuddles all the time."

"And so do I."

"We've all developed a lil routine."

"Get to bed, oldest sleeps on my feet to keep them warm, youngest lies in my arm while I lie on my side (she the little spoon), then when I snooze my alarm for work in the morning the youngest paws at my face and meeps loudly to wake me up."- GhostofaFlea_

Whose Bed Is It Anyway?

"Yes."

"They're also kind enough to let me squeeze into whatever space they've left for me."

"Although I do get a few dirty looks off them."- Therealkaylor

"I found this tiny kitten screaming her head off under a car."

"Would not come out."

"Got some food and some water in dishes."

"I stood by the tire so she couldn't see my feet."

"She got curious about the food and water and started gobbling it down."

"I thought she would bolt when I squatted down."

"She was too busy eating."

"I grabbed her by the nape of the neck and all four legs went straight out and she tried to scratch me to death."

"I got her in the door and tossed her toward the couch."

"She ricocheted off the couch as if she was a ping pong off a table and I lost sight of her."

"I put out food and water and a sandbox and did not see that kitten for three days."

"On the third day, I came home and she was on my bed pillow."

"I thought she would bolt when I came near, but she didn't."

"I wanted to sleep so I tried to scoot her little butt off my pillow."

"She would not go."

"I put my head down to sleep and that is the way it was from then on."

"She ran the roost."- Logical_Cherry_7588

sleepy kitten GIF Giphy

Sleeping Is A Prerequisite...

"No, he's a cat and he cannot keep still during the night."

"He walks across the headboard, opens the closet doors, jumps into the windows and rustles the blinds, etc."

"If he would sleep he could stay, but alas, he's a ramblin' man."- Spong_Durnflungle

Saying No Just Isn't An Option...

"'Let'."

"Lol."

"It's a cat's world and I'm happy to be on her good side."- milaren

Felines Only!

"The cat does, the dog doesn't and the horse certainly does not either."- Xcrowzz

Angry Tom And Jerry GIF by Boomerang Official Giphy

Is That My Hair On That Pillow?

"My dog is perfect."

"She comes up, cuddles til we start to fall asleep, then gets down to sleep on her bed so she doesn't get too hot."

"Jumps back up in the early morning for wake up cuddles."

"The hair everywhere is the only downside but she is so cozy, what can you do."- HoodieWinchester

It is easy to understand how some people are able to fall asleep more easily knowing their friend and protector is there, in bed, with them.

Though we can't blame others who don't want to run the risk of being scratched or bitten in the middle of the night either...