How much do you actually know about the friend you recently made, or the person you are currently dating? It seems like most people have a dark past that they don't want to be associated with anymore. In this article, 17 people share the darkest secret they've learned about someone that instantly ended their relationship with them.
[Source can be found at the end of the article.]
1/17. This apparently awesome girl I went on a few dates with let slip after a bottle of wine that her mother had successfully hired a hitman in the past. After that, I never contacted her again.
-furryskier
2/17. New guy started at our restaurant. I thought he was pretty cute from afar. But after a couple days someone decided to Google him and we found out he'd been charged with animal cruelty, theft, domestic violence, and was connected with the disappearance of a girl (never convicted, insufficient evidence and her body was never found). He was fired shortly after that discovery. Just saw him in the news again connected to another missing girl, again no body so no murder charge as of yet. A girl that still worked at the restaurant started a relationship with him during his brief time there and actually talked to him the night the most recent girl disappeared and for most of the next day. She defended him vehemently and continues to. Two people I refuse to ever interact with.
-disregardlessness
3/17. She told me that she cut open her pet cat when she was a kid to see what it looked like inside. She told me like it was a funny story and that coupled with a few other things made me instantly decide to end it. But not in person, because I don't like being stabbed.
-TheEntireSumOfDucks
4/17. I was really close friends with a girl. One day she tells me she's going to England with her boyfriend. They take off to England. They come back 6 months later, they had locked a brother and sister cat who were not fixed in a room that whole time.
They had a couple of litters of imbred kittens and they were feral. Instead of trying to find homes or take them to a shelter they took them down to a stream and drowned them all.
She told me this laughing and over dinner. I called her a psycho and left and never seen her again. I have never been so disgusted since in my life.
-Wackydetective
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5/17. I was talking to this woman a week ago. We are from the same area and both lesbian. So I asked her if she knew some good gay clubs where you can be "new" without problems and also where you can be safe. As in not getting drugged by pills in your drink etc. To which she responded "Oh yeah, I used to do that. Putting stuff in other girls' drinks."
Needless to say, I will not go anywhere with her.
-GetEatenByAMouse
6/17. Had a coach in high school who was an awesome guy. Got along great with him. Became friends after as I continued the sport and graduated. He was an ex-Vietnam vet with some crazy stories of his time serving.
Years later he was drunk at the bar and we were talking. Turns out he was also "stationed" in North Africa. Starts out all funny stories, like the time he got chased by a lion. But by the end of the night I heard about how him and his men raped women and killed some of the local men. Some deaths I heard in way more graphic detail than I really planned on. After hearing what might have been considered war-crime, I ended my friendship with him. Not too long after that I had heard that he allegedly made advances toward some of the girls on the team. He's still working at the high school last time I checked since I can't prove anything. But I definitely got myself out of there.
-UnoriginalAnomalies
7/17. I had a clingy guy at work who I was trying to be nice to. He casually mentions one day that he dated a 13 year old when he was 22 and I nope'd right out of there.
-katalyst220
8/17. A guy I worked with for a year, seemed really cool and we got on pretty well. He would come out with some weird stories, one I remember involved dressing as a cop and having a fake hand grenade, I thought he was just a bit of a bullsh*itter.
Anyway, he invited me too his home one day and I saw a whole new side of him. He had framed pictures of Hitler and SS guards on the walls around his bed. Then he started telling me that the Holocaust was all lies to make the Germans look bad, then started pulling out pictures of said Holocaust saying how great they were! I tried talking rationally with him about it but that instant was the end of or friendship.
About two years later a mutual friend of ours was visiting him and his new girlfriend, they got him drunk and stoned and tried to torture him to death, he manage to escape by jumping through a bay window and running to the neighbours. He had a collapsed lung and numerous burns.
-skreed
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9/17. One guy friend came out to me that he was a sociopath and didn't really care about his family or girlfriend (now wife), but just played the part. He thought I would understand because I was apparently a sociopath too. I'm a dude and cry at all emotional movies. I haven't spoken to him since. I feel bad for his wife.
-herpityderpdoo
10/17. When I was stationed in Arizona my next door neighbor and I got along quite well, so much that we even kept in touch for years after leaving the Army. One day, I called to see how things were going, and in a casual way he described how his wife had been shot and killed in their driveway by an unknown assailant, and he didn't hear anything because he was in the shower, which is where the cops found him. He said they considered him a suspect but he expected to be cleared because there was no evidence. Not "no evidence showing I did it" but no evidence. I never called again, and for whatever reason he never called me, either. I suspect it's because he doesn't have my number with him in prison.
-Aegisuv
11/17. I learned that my former friend was having an affair just weeks before he was to be married. When he asked me to promise that I'd say nothing and just play along with it, we parted ways.
-Back2Bach
12/17. A fire once broke out in the dorm I lived in when I was 16. After the fire department had done their job they said the fire had originated in my room. I was absolutely clueless as to what could have happened. Later my roommate confessed she was the one who had set my trash bin on fire, while laughing like it was a great joke. The next day I reported the incident anonymously, because I was scared she would go psycho on me. She ended up being evicted and committed to an institution.
-kryzcek
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13/17. Found out she had faked cancer for whatever reason. She claimed that she had brain cancer, and that it was "terminal". Her online journal was filled with her thoughts on dying and the like, but she was always online playing MMOs.
She said that her ex-husband even came back in tears, hoping to get back together after finding out the news she was dying. Even though she was the one who cheated on him while out in a camping trip to Alaska to bury their husky.
Then suddenly, with her ex-husband rekindling the relationship she had a turn around and was cured of cancer!
It was all so bizarre, but I had known her since I was very young on the internet. She also claimed that she was a sniper for the air force, but there was literally no telling if anything she said was true. I quietly cut off ties with her through the years, because her stories just seemed so far fetched the older I got. It's scary to think I flew out to meet her, and depended on her help to get around her home city.
-aggiechicken
14/17. I was really good friends with a girl, but her family seemed really unstable from the few bits of information she had shared. Then, this one time she was acting super weird, so I asked what was the matter. She told me the day before her brother had robbed a convenience store and cut his arm on a piece of glass. He couldn't go to the hospital because he was scared he would get caught, but he was losing blood by the litre. The mom refused to help, because it would only enable the guy, so my friend (16 at the time) had to stitch him up.
The step father comes home drunk in the middle of this and has a psychotic episode when he sees all the blood. He starts shouting, all while the brother is almost bleeding out. It was just too much and too freaky for me to handle at 15, so I stopped hanging out with my friend - in case the craziness would rub off on her too.
-kryzcek
15/17. I dated a guy for a few months in college. Super hot. Super charming. Only wanted to take me to horror films on dates. Once, after seeing 28 Weeks Later, he had too much to drink at dinner. He told me he was going home the next weekend to "help" his dad about an "issue" with his mom's overspending and inability to "put out" anymore. I immediately broke things off and refused to see him or talk to him. He pretty much got the clue and moved on to other girls. Fast forward one year - his dad was arrested for hiring a hit man to kill his mom. Hit man turned out to be an undercover cop. It was all over the local news. I followed the trial very closely. At his dad's trial, he testified for his dad, claiming his mom had given them both PTSD for various white Christian anti-feminist reasons. Didn't keep a clean enough house. Didn't always have meals on the table etc. Mom actually ended up testifying on behalf of the dad too, saying Jesus had helped her forgive her husband in her heart and that she loved him and didn't want him to go to jail. He didn't come back to college after that and a few years ago I found out he ended up graduating from some Bible Belt Christian college in the south and was married with two daughters.
-peekaboomoose
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16/17. About six years ago, I lived with my roommate in a really nice apartment. He didn't seem like a bad guy. He was really nice, and he never really hated or judged anyone. There were a few things that seemed a little off though. Whenever I had my girlfriend (now ex) over, he would fidget or seem anxious. Whenever I had girls in general over, he wouldn't talk to them as much and he wouldn't make eye contact with them.
One day, my girlfriend and I decided to invite her friend/coworker and my roommate to this jazz club. Throughout the night, I noticed that her friend and my roommate gave each other weird looks. My roommate got up to get something out of his car and my ex's fiend gave us a stern look and said "never ever invite me to ANYTHING if he's tagging along".
I was a little confused, so while my roommate was at work, I did a little snooping in his desk drawers. I looked through the drawers and found dozens of apology letters to my ex's friend Erin. I don't remember exactly what it said, but it was along the lines of "please forgive me.
What I did was horrible, and I've served the time for it." So I asked Erin what happened.
Before I was his roommate, she was and they were really good friends until he raped her. Twice. He was in prison for about four, five years. I moved out as soon as I could.
-killowen_12
17/17. Just after High-school I had a friend named "Abe" (not his real name) Abe had parents that rented him a cheap apartment to get him out of the house. He had dropped out of school and wasn't making any friends. I was about 18 or 19 at the time, in about '03 or '04 and I went over to visit from my college during winter break.
He didn't want do anything other than play world of warcraft. I didn't play or have an account so it was fairly boring.
I tell Abe I was going to go home and go to bed. He puts on this offputting and disturbing grin. He tells me he has something to show me and pulls a CDR out from behind an AC vent, and pops it into his computer.
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Even before it starts playing I get this horrid sinking feeling in my gut, and could just tell something bad was about to happen. I realize that disturbing grin was a pedo-smile.
"She's 14 and they just abuse her!", Abe tells me. Christ the way he says it to me is so disturbing. Half excitement and half just uncomfortable cringe.
I freeze in place and stare at my shoes. I think I went into some kind of shock, because it takes a moment for me to register the audio playing from his speakers.
I kick his gaming laptop clear across the room where it cracks against a floor lamp which falls over , the bulb bursts against his fake wood floor, and laptop slams hard into his wall.
I just stand there for a moment the hard drive grinds loudly and Abe screams"What the f*ck dude!?"
I stormed out of there after I tell him him that he is sick and what he was doing is sick. Everything about what he just did was sick.
I told him needed to think long and hard about what he had just tried to show me and they he needed to make the decision to stop and seek help, and not to ever contact me again. I stormed out of his Apartment. I just wanted to be out of there. I'm still shaking as I walk down the street.
He follows me down the street sobbing as I limp away to my car (at the time I had thought I had broken my toe on his stuff.) He keeps begging for me to come back and that he would change his ways.
I got in my car and drove home. I start crying. I knew the guy for 4 years. Come to think of it I think this was the night I started smoking.
Three days later his mother calls my mother and demands we replace the laptop. Abe's mom is livid, they are going to sue; she says that I'm a danger to society that I am a bully, that I kick puppies. How dare I victimize her little angel.
My mother is furious at me and calls me into the kitchen while still on the phone. My mother gives me scowling look of accusation and disappointment. She's asks if I had destroyed Abe's laptop.
I reach out and ask my mom to hand me the phone. She gets this look of bewilderment on her face. I don't think I ever used such a serious and blunt tone with her before. Normally in this type of situation she would have argued with me. But she just handed it over. I think she kind of knew this was something I needed to handle on my own.
"Hello Abe's Mom? Your son watches child pornography. Don't call here or contact my family again or I am going to the police." And I just hang up on her.
I hug my mom, she says nothing and just holds me. I tell her I am going back to college early.
-ItsRobography
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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.