Men are a mess. I can say that because I am one.
We can be better. Yes we're coming off of generations of madness and holding in feelings... but now is the time to learn and grow.
Or just keep looping the madness.
Women have a keen instinct when it comes to explaining the way men can represent themselves as... less than desirable.
Time to chat gents.
Redditor ANONIMkiddowanted all the ladies to have a sit done and spill some tea the boys need to hear... they asked:
"Girls, what makes a guy instantly unnatractive?"
Why can't we just be real?
That is always my first question.
Lose Control
"Uncontrolled anger issues." ~ reaubsew
"Happened to me too - it was an unprompted no context pic of his bloody fist after he’d punched a wall (I had to ask for context). IDK which is worse, getting into fights and bragging about it or punching walls and bragging about it. He def has a few screws loose (the fist picture was when I realized, but unfortunately too late) and still virtually stalks me years later." ~ sofiacarolina
Be kind...
"Being condescending... Instant no." ~ bellachuuu
"I worry about this, since I tend to tease that way. I'm pretty good about knowing when it's appropriate, but sometimes playing along and being offended can feel very similar." ~ Polymersion
Bad Personality
"Controlling personality." ~ DweedleDee69
"Hi! This seems to be a fairly common issue. Will you please provide some examples and do you think age differences might contribute? What is an example of one’s intended good actions that are interpreted as controlling?" ~ AgreeableMoose-
"Limiting who you talk to men/women -limiting what you can wear in public -isolation from friends and family -deciding where and how much you work -limiting access to social media or makes you delete altogether -doesn’t let you go places without them -goes through your phone -'who are you texting/talking to.' There’s more examples but I don’t have all day. But they always say 'I only do this because I love you.'” ~ DweedleDee69
Ego is always a problem.
Love yourself yes, but don't be elitist.
Be Clean
"Bad hygiene. Anger management issues. Laziness and dependence on others to get things done. Same things that make girls unattractive." ~ Person9183736
GiphyBehavior
"Poor manners." ~ Cat_Astrophe_X
"I had an ex talk about my dinner manners and how a past guy had extremely bad manners. I took cotillion and learn the proper dinner etiquette. She loved it. After she is gone I still do dinner parties and set 6 course meals for friends. Everything I learned in cotillion, my mom forced me to go, hated it then, love it now." ~ polyphemus69
Sushi Issues
"Constantly interrupting and one upping. I hate when they won’t allow anybody to have a moment of their own. I knew someone who wouldn’t even allow people to have their own tastes. As an example, someone said they liked sushi. His response was, 'you don’t know what real/good sushi is.' WTF they didn’t say they were experts in what sushi should or shouldn’t taste like, they just said they liked it."
"It wasn’t just positive things either. Someone would complain about a body ache or pain and get responses like, 'it can’t possibly hurt as much as my (insert injury here) so you need to just get over it.' Dude we get it, nobody can be as smart/traveled/experienced/sick/wounded as you." ~ cellendia
Anger
"Through years of anger management I’ve learned that anger manifesting itself in physical release (punching walls, kicking, etc) releases endorphins which is why it’s so easy to just resort to that, I had this problem myself growing up."
"Learning to realize it’s futile, and that it wont achieve anything or solve the problem is really the key point in solving such tendencies. Took me a while but I can’t control pretty much everything now, except if I’m watching a raider game I will be yelling non stop lmao." ~ Stellar_gz1724
Two Feet
"An overly dependent man. Learn to take care of yourself before getting into relationship. A woman shouldn't have to tell you when to clean up, set alarms for you, do your laundry or anything else. I've met way too men whose parents didn't teach them how to be independent and stand on their own two feet."
CSIBakerStreet
“broken pipe”
"Lying. The smaller the lie, the weirder it is. I once had a guy tell me he hated Christmas music but, once I said that I liked it, he changed his answer to loving it. It was… that’s weird right?"
"My friend who was dating awhile ago had a guy lie to her about a pipe breaking at his work. He sent her a picture of a broken pipe that was clearly just pulled off google… it had a water mark. When we searched 'broken pipe' it was the first thing to come up. Bruh…? Like… why?"
Ambulism
Winning
"Fighting or arguing in a way that’s obviously just aimed at 'winning.' Like if I overhear a guy who canNOT let a small (wrong or right) comment go at the bar when a group of friends are hanging out, it turns into an hour long argument. Bonus points if between two guys, which it almost always is. Eugh. Drier than the desert."
Wit-wat-4
GAS
"When they do that thing where they squint their eyes and clench their teeth before pushing out a fart. Like you can fart around me that's fine. But why are you trying so hard to force it. This is why you pooped your pants at the mall and the other time at barnes and noble."
Catladylex
fart GIFGiphyWhat about this?
"I do not show enthusiasm for most things. The one emotion/reaction I have the most problems with. I was raised in an environment where no matter my accomplishment or excitement, it was always 'What about this? Did you know you did this wrong? Have you thought about this?' I know they were trying to make me see the big picture but it just made me not show any excitement or enthusiasm for most things."
michiganproud
Tripping
"Guilt tripping. Oh, I can’t hang out in 15 minutes at your place? 'I guess you don’t like me/want to be with me huh' it turns me off WILDLY when people do that. I’m allowed to have a life and say no to hanging out."
yeetmesomejuice
Psycho
"Long nails. Refers to an ex as 'crazy' or 'psycho.'"
Bananastrings2017
"On the second part that's sometimes all you can say about the person, as an example figuratively say you had an ex that threatened to kill a person just because you were hanging out with them because you were friends, that might be an extreme example but I think you would have every right in the world to call them crazy or a psycho."
R2**ckyou_
Materials
"Flexing brands. I have a good friend, but he’s all about the drip and brands, but when someone’s that materialistic it’s such a turn off. Great guy, has helped me a lot, I just wish he found his value in more meaningful things"
justblippingby
Material Girl Yes GIF by MadonnaGiphyHave you been listening boys?
I hope you took notes.
I did.
No matter how long ago we saw it, there are some scenes or images from movies that still send shivers down our spine or keep us awake at night to this very day.
Pennywise appearing in the sewer in It, Janet Leigh surprised in the shower in Psycho, Freddy Kreuger's tongue popping out of the telephone in A Nightmare on Elm Street.
Of course, some of the scariest, most disturbing, or most emotionally traumatizing scenes from films might have been featured in films outside of the horror genre.
Even more shockingly, some of these films were primarily marketed towards children!
Redditor alina_love was curious to hear which non-horror films the Reddit community saw as children still send shivers down their spines today, leading them to ask:
"What's a non horror movie that traumatized you as a kid?"
It Was Tim Burton, After All...
"'Pee Wee's big adventure'."
"Large Marge scared the crap out of little me."
"I was even scared of the fortune teller."- BlueStarrSilver·
With A Title Like "Temple Of Doom"...
"'Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom'."
"The scene where the guy gets his heart ripped out traumatized me for years."- Pbhf
That Funeral Scene Though...
"'My Girl'."
"Fear of death, fear of losing a friend, fear of bees, fear of puberty."- heidismiles
macaulay culkin kiss GIFGiphyJurassic Park's Got Nothing On This...
"'The Land Before Time'."
"Watching Little Foot’s mother die was awful."- HourglassSass
He'll Always Regret Not Bringing Her To The Museum...
"'Bridge to Terabithia'."- jumpstart-the-end
"Everything goes so well and it falls apart SO FAST and your left absolutely traumatized."- VortexDestroyer99
The Reason People Hold On To Their Appliances For As Long As They Do...
"The Brave Little Toaster'."- Catgurl
"The junkyard scene alone was responsible for so many nightmares."- ManChildMusician
brave little toaster animation GIF by Coolidge Corner TheatreGiphyAnd Let's Not Forget The Coachman's Smile...
"Disney’s version of 'Pinocchio'."
"The scene where kids are turned into donkeys and kept on the island and then resold was f*cking weird."
"You felt bad for that bully kid after he looked sad and nobody understood what he said because he was a donkey."- earnestlikehemingway
Few Things More Sad And Scary Than Deforestation
"'Ferngully: The Last Rainforest'."
"That evil tree scared me so bad."- slutsdotnet
Anything But "Truly Scrumptious"...
"The 'Chitty Chitty Bang Bang' Childcatcher guy!"
"I'm still scared of him!"- Jet_Maypen
child GIFGiphyOffing Children One By One...In A Children's Movie!
"'Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory' boat scene."
"Honorable mention of claustrophobia when Augustus gets stuck in the chocolate tube."
"UGH!"- looseseal-bluth
At Least We Know He Had A "Sole"...
"Who Framed Roger Rabbit."
"That poor shoe….."- dalalice5555
At Least The Song Is Catchy...
"Neverending Story."
"Not even Artax, which was awful, but the Rockbiter and his good strong hands."- marxychick1
Neverending Story 80S GIFGiphyDorothy Gettying Electro Shock Therapy Says it All...
"Return to Oz."- Jeff_Steelflexx
"Horrifying! What about the animated wig heads?"- weensfordayz
The Reigning King Of Childhood Trauma
"Old Yeller."- IceTech59
"I remember watching this on TV during, I think, Wonderful World of Disney (Sunday nights were Disney night on TV)."
"Cried and cried and cried."
"I've never been able to watch it again and I've never shown it to my kids!"- crowwitch
Not All Friendships Are Tenable... A Terrifying Thought
"'The Fox and the Hound'."
"Still makes me incredibly sad, lol."- mental_reincarnation
best friends friendship GIFGiphySometimes, writers and filmmakers simply overestimate what might go over a child's head.
Or, for that matter, they might underestimate their emotional capacity.
Regardless, ask any of Fairuza Balk's fans which is scarier, Return to Oz or The Craft, and their answer will be immediate...
(... and it won't be The Craft...)
Unlike introverts who tend to shy away from engaging in random discussions, those who are comfortable–or too comfortable–in their own skin love to get all chatty.
That doesn't mean they have anything significant to say.
"What’s the weirdest thing someone casually told you as if it were totally normal?"
People whom you don't know tend to overshare as these Redditors experienced.
A High Request
"A story from a friend - in Colorado, someone once asked, 'Could you watch my wolves, I can pay you in weed.'"
"There's a lot to unpack in that question!"
– surlymoe
"You don't unpack wolves, you keep them together."
– hwarang_
Unsolicited Prediction
"Husband (30) and I were pushing our shopping cart out of the grocery store when a random man (who honestly looked like dumbledore) looked at my husband and said 'take my hat, you're gonna need it, you'll be bald very soon.' Obviously my husband didn't take it. It was super odd of him to say because my husband had a FULL head of hair."
"Three months later, my husband was diagnosed with a condition that made him lose all of his hair. Weird coincidence."
– hollyjollyaf
Self-Casting
"A guy once told me how he loved the feeling of wearing casts, so he'd put casts on himself- for days or weeks on end. Even if it meant he couldn't drive and would be stuck at home the entire time. He'd use vacation time just to wear full leg & arm casts."
– Present_Dust_2308
Homophobic Homosexual
A homophobic guy I know: 'Being gay is a choice.'"
"I said something like - ok, choose to be gay for a day, an hour, a single minute if you can."
"Guy - That's easy, I'm attracted to men all the time, I just choose to only like girls because I'm not gay."
"Me - Ummm..."
– discostud1515
Longheld Grudge
"Once, an older woman came up to me on the street, took hold of my wrists and simply said 'they ripped out my afterbirth', and then carried on walking."
– JennyW93
"It's strange to grab strangers. But one day in Walmart, my granny walked ahead of me, and reached to grab me to show me something, without looking and she was pulling on an old lady's arm obliviously, and the old lady's eyes were like O.O."
"My grandma didn't even apologize, she just let go and yelled at me to stay closer."
– chzygorditacrnch
A Hairdresser-In-Training
"I was getting my hair done this last weekend by my daughter at her cosmetology school. One of her fellow students was excited to meet me. She talked nonstop and eventually told me that she has hemorrhoids and that she has her husband push them back in. So much TMI from a stranger!"
– Digjam823
You never know about the personal lives of people you see on a regular basis.
Squeaky Clean
"I had a college professor on the first day of class say that she is obsessed with Q-tips and cleaning her ears and that her family has to limit her to 3 a day-"
– lokeilou
Here's The Story...
"That they have 6 kids, all with different dads & each dad is in prison."
– ChyCgx2
"I once had a coworker who had seven kids with five different women and he'd constantly complain about how most of his paycheck went to child support. You uh, dug your own grave, pal. I'm really not sympathetic to your plight."
– apocalypticradish
It's the end of the world as we know it.
End Of Civilization
"I know a guy, we don't talk often but due to business we cross paths on occasion. More or less every time we talk he asks if I'm ready for the total societal collapse coming next week, or Tuesday, or at the end of the month.. and so on."
"I just tell him that it's not gonna happen; he usually then asks about my "crystal ball" so I remind him that I've been right every time."
– rkpjr
Zombie Apocalypse
"I went to a ComicCon type event in my city years ago(Walking Dead was a new show, first season for reference) and went to a panel about zombies. They talked about historical zombie lore, the first zombie movies, and the exciting first season of the new show Walking Dead, with some actors on the panel. When they opened it up to the audience for questions one of the first ones was, 'what kind of zombies do you predict we’ll have in a real zombie apocalypse? (Fast vs slow)'…panelists don’t really know how to answer, each gives their personal favorite or worst case scenario. Then we get to, 'What do you think the timeline is for the start of a coming zombie apocalypse?' Panelists are kind of like….? Talk about how things usually play out fiction."
“'No, but exactly WHEN do you think we’ll need to be fully prepared for zombies in real life?' Like, guys, these are actors and media studies academics, first of all they don’t have the level of belief you do and second, the people you should be asking about this stuff are probably biologists."
– AlternativeAcademia
Whenever I feel threatened by a homeless person who is pressuring me to hand over them cash, I tell them, "I''m allergic to corn."
The random phrase throws them and in the brief moment they assess what they heard I'm afforded more time to distance myself from them.
It always works, especially when they realize I'm all kinds of crazy and not worth targeting.
People's Wildest 'WTF Is Wrong With You?' Experiences