The word "triggered" is misused and thrown around a bit too freely these days.
A prime example of this was when Twitter user @themagicmuir, aka Ciara, tweeted about what it means to be a true friend.
Actual triggering refers to survivors of trauma with PTSD, people with anxiety disorders, people with obsessive compulsive disorder, people with sensory processing disorders or people on the Autism spectrum having involuntary reactions to certain situations or stimuli. As part of treatment, they're counseled to identify and develop strategies for dealing with their triggers.
But much of the cultural landscape has coopted the term, trivializing the experiences of those with clinical or medical triggers that they have to avoid as they work on strategies to deal with them.
Ciara didn't hold back when it came to her thoughts on "triggering" and "communication" between besties, but it didn't quite come off the way she intended.
Now the tweet has made major waves on Twitter, which isn't surprising due to the controversial statement.
"One of my friends told me she can't talk to me right now, because my success is triggering her insecurities and jealousy."
"I respect the hell out of her for being open and vulnerable."
"Communication is key, which is why we must all come from a place of non-judgement."
One of my friends told me she can’t talk to me right now, because my success is triggering her insecurities and jea… https://t.co/KtYkula7rX— Ciara ✨ Youtube: The Magic Muir (@Ciara ✨ Youtube: The Magic Muir)1580419496.0
Talking about a friend's insecurity and jealousy seems like something that should not be blatantly exposed for the world to see. It seems a little insensitive to broadcast this to begin with, but doing so in a humblebrag has brought criticism from the rest of the internet.
Ciara followed it up with a bit of self help guru inspiration.
"We are all capable of success. If I can do it, so can you."
"It's a matter of believing in yourself. All it takes is dedication and action."
We are all capable of success. If I can do it, so can you. It’s a matter of believing in yourself. All it takes is dedication and action.— Ciara ✨ Youtube: The Magic Muir (@Ciara ✨ Youtube: The Magic Muir)1580419566.0
The tweets have truly divided Twitter, with some not reacting so kindly.
@Themagicmuir This is a BIG YIKES for me. Communication and honesty is great, but girl come on. Tou have a toxic fr… https://t.co/INnuoKNKZt— 🦂MJ🦂 (@🦂MJ🦂)1580483323.0
@Themagicmuir Given you being a ~ healer ~ idk how comfortable I would be going to someone for ~ healing ~ that wou… https://t.co/PUYoO4DEhq— lotus flower bombed. (@lotus flower bombed.)1580434060.0
@Themagicmuir I’m sorry, no, her feelings should not be accommodated. They should be corrected. This is a patently… https://t.co/LfBtljSocF— moonraker (@moonraker)1580483368.0
@Themagicmuir I'm pretty sure that was hate. Real friends celebrate your wins.— Joshen McEwen (@Joshen McEwen)1580471534.0
@Themagicmuir I commend her for being honest .. most just ghost you without telling you . She wouldn’t be my friend… https://t.co/thKy7uFvX1— ✨Queen of Zamunda✨👑 (@✨Queen of Zamunda✨👑)1580504912.0
@Themagicmuir We'd be over. I have no place in my life for friends who are not happy for my successes, and/or are s… https://t.co/ff43tETYMC— Black Together Again (@Black Together Again)1580518233.0
@Themagicmuir If your friends can’t get behind your successes and be happy for you are they really your friend?— CLO (@CLO)1580480759.0
@Themagicmuir Honestly, cut her off. Eventually she will try and sabotage you and drag you down. Surround yourself… https://t.co/6ss243dlKt— YT: Nellyobii (@YT: Nellyobii)1580477812.0
Others commended her for how she and her friend handled the situation.
@Themagicmuir It’s great that you were able to take on her truth in such an open hearted fashion. Give her time to… https://t.co/kUviCq3PX7— ✨InnerWisdom121✨ (@✨InnerWisdom121✨)1580424103.0
@Themagicmuir @MindTendencies2 No one can help what they feel. It’s how you react to your emotion that defines you. She’s a keeper.— Wisdom Spitter (@Wisdom Spitter)1580423435.0
@Themagicmuir salute to you for being mature enough to understand where she's coming from bc I know a lot of people… https://t.co/A5t2B2Wk1Z— big tex (now with onlyfans) (@big tex (now with onlyfans))1580429041.0
@Themagicmuir Im going through a similar situation. My expartner, is someone I really love and admire but triggers… https://t.co/lGYBiu4M99— Daniel Covarrubias Espinosa (@Daniel Covarrubias Espinosa)1580425806.0
@Themagicmuir You’re a better person than me bc I woulda thought she was a hater & cut her off 😂 thank you for leading by example— Alexis (@Alexis)1580435317.0
@Themagicmuir I’m really satisfied with how this tweet ended. I didn’t expect that.— Charbear🌙 (@Charbear🌙)1580437262.0
@Themagicmuir @BarbieWitch_ Let's be honest though, people say they want someone to be honest like this with them b… https://t.co/PpxsLki7wS— ♤bae leaf♤ (@♤bae leaf♤)1580483854.0
Whether or not you believe Ciara and her friend did the right thing—or if you believe this friend being traumatized by Ciara's overwhelming success even exists, one thing's for sure.
Social media posts about your amazing level of success "triggering" your friend isn't a good look.