Now yes, love is a wonderful thing. Finding your second half, your "other" to complete you is a beautiful thing. But if that hasn't been your journey thus far, don't feel bad. Being single, not alone, SINGLE is a very healthy choice. Sometimes love, or what we perceive as love can ruin you. We're all trained by society to believe that being single makes us unworthy and nothing could be farther from the truth.
Redditor u/05_16k wanted to here about the upside to the single life by asking.... Singles of Reddit, what do you like most about being single?
My Castle is Mine....Giphy
Everything in my car and apartment is exactly where it should be. Scrappy_Larue
Nothing in my apartment is where it should be but at least it's my fault. thecravenone
It's Always about ME!
I can do whatever I want, whenever I want. I can spend money on myself with zero regard for what anyone else thinks. I don't have to factor anyone else into my plans or life decisions.
It can be lonely sometimes, but it's also delightfully selfish. TheCorvus303
Hands off the Skittles....
Married father here chiming in.
The thing I miss most about being single is the ability to act purely in your own self-interest without having any sense of guilt or responsibility to another person. And I'm not even talking about something with high stakes -- I'm talking about something as simple as wanting to eat an entire bag of skittles without sharing with another person.
Don't get me wrong, I love sacrificing for my family and sharing any and every thing I have with my wife and kid, but when you're single, you have the ability and right to make every tiny decision based on your own self-interest or selfishness, and that's something I sometimes miss on a very simple rudimentary level. orange_cuse
My time is Mine!
You can do whatever you want in your free time. Get home from work and feel like watching Generation Kill? There's no one to say, "I don't like that show." Feel like reading a book? There's no one to interrupt you. Feel like listening to music? There's no one to say you can't. Don't feel like cleaning up the dishes after dinner? No one to chastise you for procrastinating the task. morris9597
Free to Choose...Giphy
i don't have to chose between hanging with my friends or my SO. CLEAN_WATER_
My ex always had to come with me and if I tried to do a dudes night she would call me the whole time freaking out. God I hated her. karmagod13000
The $$$ keeps rolling In...
My coworkers make fun of me for being single, and then in the very next breath talk about how they hate being so busy and then having to work a lot of overtime to pay for things for their kids on top of their busy lives. I always try to remind them how great it is to have the choice of being able to go home, crash on the couch and play video games for seven hours straight after work without a single word of complaint from anyone. Cochise22
Not having to share a bed.
Not having to share your food.
Your space. Your free time. Your time out with friends.
But best of all ...
Not having to have unnecessarily long discussions on where to eat. spiderBlastoise
Just Gotta be Me!
My life was 10x worse when I was constantly anxious about needing to do as much as possible to keep my partner happy. She rarely wanted anything to do with me as well, but I always took that as something I was doing wrong, not her as a person.
Much easier to just focus on my own goals and spend my money/time doing what I want to do. I would like to settle down with someone one day but I'm still really young and seeing so many people already getting divorced in their early 20's with 3 kids makes me feel good about not making any rash decisions so far. bull04
NOT seeing the family!
Not getting dragged into lame events with her family that essentially ruin my weekend.
"Oh no, I totally want to drive three hours and hangout with your family this weekend. I had these crazy plans to relax, maybe go for a bike ride, have some beers by pool, go to a movie with our friends, etc. But you're right, lets drive three hours away to listen to your family argue about politics, eat bland food, and sleep on a futon. Sounds great." JohnyUtah_
EVERYTHING!!!Giphy All of my stuffis exactly where I left it when I get home.
My bed is still made, my dishes are still done, my food is still there, my clothes are still clean, and nothing is missing from my cash stash.
If I want to stay up late and watch movies or listen to music, I can.
If I want to go to bed early, and use the whole damn bed, I can.
If I want to go out and have a few drinks with my friends, I can.
I never have to laugh at unfunny memes' found on FaceBook, or explain why I'm laughing so hard at anything.
I never have to justify my joy.
I'm my own person. Full, complete, and content.
And no one can drain that from me.
This is what I love about being single. helljack
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That is until they stumble and land on their face.
It turns out what they were resistant to accepting in the first place was accurate all along.
If only they listened.
Curious to hear of other people's growing pains, Redditor TinyUnderstanding948 asked:
"What lesson did you have to learn the hard way?"
You can protect yourself with these reminders.
Leave A Paper Trail
"Any monetary or business agreement needs to be in writing!"
Observing The Fine Print
"Read the contract."
Generally speaking, business relationships and friendships are mutually exclusive.
"Not everyone you work with is your friend."
What Venting Led To
Consumers who were previously taken advantage of have the following advice to pass along.
Splurge On Good Quality
"Buy it nice or buy it twice."
"This is 100% accurate but needs a disclaimer: expensive does not always equate to nice."
The relationships we have with people are complex, but you may want to keep these in mind.
Extending A Lifeline
"You can't have a relationship with someone's potential."
Achieve Mutual Adoration
"Loving someone doesn't mean they will keep loving you."
And when it comes to your health, listen up.
"Drink plenty of water."
"Ended up at the ICU with an IV drip for severe dehydration."
"DRINK YOUR WATER!"
While advice from the people we care about comes from a good place, they are not always appreciated.
At least for me, I've found that picking myself up and dusting myself off was most effective.
That has to come naturally.
"What’s the most out of line thing a doctor has every said to you?"
Not Going Mental
The wrong treatment after a misdiagnosis can be a doctor's serious mistake.
"I was petrified. Went home in tears and absolutely petrified."
"Then my dad took me to his doctor, who took a biopsy."
"It was just a random skin growth and she cut it off then and there."
"Too Young" For Cancer
The "Sad" Pill
It's even more unsettling when someone you entrust your life to crosses a line.
Assessment Or Pick-Up Line?
"Mental health doctor told my daughter, 'You're too pretty to be depressed.'"
A NSFW Observation
Mom To The Rescue
The Gynocologist's Love Advice
The Gyno Who Jumped To Conclusions
Going to the doctor's office for any reason can cause a lot of anxiety.
Hopefully, you're in good hands with a physician who is professional, as well as compassionate.
Growing up, I had zero idea that the food I ate daily was "cultural."
She had to explain it because we were about to eat at a white friend's house for the first time.
"What do you mean there's no rice with the beans? Did they run out? Should we bring some?"
"No, they just don't eat rice and beans."
"So what do they eat with their chicharron de pollo?"
Y'all should have seen my face.
Reddit user remyleboi00 asked:
"Non-Americans, what is the best 'American' food?"
Even as someone born in America, it took a while before I got familiar with American food.
So if it's just not your comfort zone - let Reddit guide you to the can't miss dishes.
"Cajun food. Definitely the most unique American food"
"As an American I 100% agree with you. Cajun food is heaven sent"
They Are Fundesperate housewives eating GIFGiphy
"Curly fries 👌"
"It’s especially good with some pulled pork and caramelized onions mixed in. And some insulin."
"Solid choice. We Americans LOVE cheese."
"No need to apologize. One of our favorites too."
Thankful For Thanksgiving.I Love You Cooking GIF by Bob's BurgersGiphy
"We also get spoiled with your traditional cuisine."
"I usually get a food coma on Thanksgiving"
"Same with the ham or prime rib dinner at Christmas. And all the pies. God I love pumpkin pie."
"I smoke meatloaf, can't go back to oven baked ever again."
"This tread has me wanting to smoke a brisket sooner rather than later."
"Now, pork and chicken, whatever else... Go nuts... Just leave beef alone."
"I had smoked mac and cheese once, it was heavenly."
Risk It Allhungry bart simpson GIFGiphy
The Holy Pudding
"I can’t find someone who’s listed it so"
"That shit is LIFE CHANGING"
"Gotta have the Nilla wafers or it isn't right."
Cornbread!cornbread cooking GIF by emibobGiphy
"A nice warm cornbread muffin with some butter and a little drizzle of honey is amazing."
"Cornbread with a nice bowl of chili is such a nice comfort food."
"And the spicier the chili the nicer the sweet, buttery cornbread is with it."
"Farmer’s market jam is the way."
"It's easily top 3 greatest sandwich ever."
As American As It Getspulp fiction breakfast GIF by MIRAMAXGiphy
"Took them to my favorite little spot, they loved the waitress filling up their cups unprompted."
Now that youve heard Reddit, it's my turn.
I was 22 before I had meatloaf and mashed potatoes.
FAM. Fam. Faaaaaaaaaaam.
Keep your greasy pizza, amateurs. It's potato time over here.
"How does someone politely end a conversation with a person who won't stop talking?"
Extricate Yourself Immediately
"When they draw a breath, politely say:"
""On that note, I must be on my way.""
Then, simply leave."
Couldn't Get Him To Shut Up
"But some people just need to talk for whatever reason. I need my freaking silence."
Put It In Writing
Put Them (Back) To Work
Taking Care Of Each Other
Talk To The Door
Take Your Turn
Create A Deadline
"My entire dad's side of the family are the type that never stop talking."
No Need To Feel Bad