Weddings are a time of joy and celebration. We're loving LOVE! However, in a heartbeat weddings can turn into a scene out of 'Psycho' or 'Dynasty.' And honey, that can be fun to watch too!
Redditor u/SittingOnTheToilet82 wanted those of us who have witnessed the drama surrounding the uniting of two souls by asking.... What's the worst/best thing you've ever seen happen at a wedding?
Hurt Me. No More.Giphy
The minister was doing their speech during the ceremony and asked, rhetorically, "What is love?"
"Baby don't hurt me" was muttered by several groomsmen, who all started cracking up. PoseidonsHairyNipple
My ex-husband and I were at his cousins wedding. Another cousin of his (25/M) was a groomsman. He was a GIANT guy (6'4, roughly 400 pounds) and the life of the party. Picking kids up and throwing them in the air, holding the Groom on his shoulders, dancing like a maniac. Having a blast.
I went to the bathroom and came back to the reception to the music cut and everyone circled around the dance floor just... panicked. There was Matt. Completely purplish red and on the floor while a guest performed CPR and others were calling 911, taking his pulse, screaming.
He passed away from a massive heart attack. Pronounced dead on the scene.
The reception ended right then and there, obviously. The bride and groom were supposed to leave for their honeymoon to Hawaii that same evening. They ended up not going and instead they stayed home to attend the funeral where the Groom was a pallbearer. YasMysteries
My buddy married a woman who was estranged from most of her family save her 90+ year old grandpa. They were so close and he was in poor health that the wedding was held in grandpa's backyard so he could be there.
36 hours before the wedding he had a massive heart attack and was rushed to the ER. They were recommending hospice/palliative care and bride to be was going to call off the wedding. Grandpa insisted it go on even with him not being at his own house because people were flying from all over the country. All during intermittent bouts of consciousness.
Fast forward to the wedding and this determined grandad "broke out" of the hospital. just unhooked all his equipment/IV stuff and took a cab to his own house hours before the wedding.
The family that was invited was incredibly upset but knew how close he was to the bride and he ended up staying through the whole ceremony without issue. Slept in his bed and then returned to the hospital the next day. Think he also drank a few beers
Absolute legend of a man. an4x
Watching the groom and his best men ride the bathtub that was used for the beer down a hill and not die. It was a hill for loading boats into a river. It was like a 150 foot ride and they got going scary fast. The bath broke into pieces but all five of the men where fine.... somehow. TheGreatWitchPaige
The Long Pause.Giphy
At my wedding, the maid of honor gave a 15 minute speech that did nothing but reference her breakup, and then me and my wife's prior relationships in gruesome detail. Longest 15 minutes of my life. We're no longer married. HackTheSystem-90
My best friend's biological father, who took off when she was very young, threw a fit and made everyone from his family leave, because my best friend did her father/daughter dance with her step dad, who has raised her in her father's absence. watermelonoma
It Works Out.
When I was a child, my cousin and I cut my our aunt's wedding cake while everyone was out of the room. We thought we were helping. I'd feel bad, she ended up divorcing the dude and her current husband is awesome. AbraxasEolh
Good for the Soul.
I was at a wedding where the family had a tradition that between the wedding and the reception, the couple would take a fifteen minute break to share a large bowl of chicken soup. They ate at a table in the middle of the courtyard and no one was allowed to come near.
Not only does it prevent the starving bride problem, but it emphasizes that they are accountable only to each other. jeffbell
A guest let their children play in the kitchen a couple hours before the wedding despite repeatedly being told not to let their children in there (among other things, apparently they'd been misbehaving a lot). The kids destroyed the wedding cake. I believe they were related to the bride somehow and that's why they were there so early. Chickenpastalover
I Love an Evil Monkey.Giphy
At my wedding the registrar said the best mans name instead of mine during the I do's and my wife was to busy staring at me to notice. My mate with pure class started to stand up and walk up to take my place! I gave him the evil monkey stare and the whole room was laughing pretty hard. The registrars face was bright red and she apologized for it. LOL Badger_bo
The Sound of the Tings....
When my uncle got married the best man dropped the ring. In the dead silence of the church you could hear it 'ting ting ting' as it bounced along the floor, followed by one of the groomsmen stage whispering "Jesus Christ" loud enough for everyone to hear. The pastor didn't even bat an eye, just said, "The ring has already been blessed, thank you" and carried on. ink_monkey96
We hear You!
I walked by an outdoor wedding in which the bride walked in to "Maneater" and the groom walked in to "Gold Digger." Either the whole family has a great sense of humor or the marriage is doomed. GKrollin
Roller Skate wedding. Bride fell down and opened a gusher on her head. They finished the ceremony and took her to the hospital. She ended up needing emergency surgery to drain fluid build up in her head and ended up having to relearn how to walk.
The adverse effects were from the surgery that saved her life, not the accident itself. Sometimes to save someone, you gotta mess some crap up. TheLightningCount1
They rented a huge manor.... Music? Not a problem: Spotify.... Premium you ask? Nope..... with the commercials. osktox
This couple asked everyone to request a song on their RSVPs and they made a playlist. It was all random songs in random order. A lot of them weren't even good dancing or party songs, just songs people liked. Spotify sounds better. jittery_raccoon
There was a couple who had been "best friends" forever- like... many years. They never put the boyfriend/girlfriend label on anything, but they were both in the military, lived together, and were an item long before they introduced each other as girlfriend and boyfriend.
By the time they started "dating" they only really dated for about a year before they got married, even though they'd effectively been together for over a decade. Their families knew each other, everyone who knew them knew they were going to eventually get married- it wasn't weird if you knew them.
During their wedding, they were brought to the dance floor to play some kind of newlywed game while the DJ (who didn't know them) MC'd the event. He asked how long they dated, to which they said just under a year. The DJ goes on this rant about how he can't believe people that only know each other for a short period of time and get married. He ironically asked them if they understood that they were getting MARRIED and that he seriously doubted that they'd known each other for long enough to make that kind of commitment. Yiiiiikes. raddlesnake
Beware the Rando!
My wife was recently a bridesmaid for her friend who she hadn't really seen in a few years. It was actually a nice wedding and the reception was also pretty nice. Unfortunately the groomsman my wife was paired with was under the impression that she was going to go home with him after the wedding. Me and my wife have been together for almost 20 years. And some rando she met one or two times is going to sweep her off her feet when her husband and kid are in the same room? PunchBeard
Tears and Upstaging!
Best: Bride and Groom both happy crying at the alter.
Worst: Another man proposing to his girlfriend during the reception.
Never seen but heard about: Someone else proposing to the bride during the ceremony. Somuchtoomuchporn
What a Zoo....
My cousin had her wedding at a zoo because she was a vet tech and her first date was at a zoo as well as her engagement so it just made sense. I was a bridesmaid so we got to get especially up close to the animals. The giraffes kept trying to eat the bouquets during the pictures (and they were nontoxic so it was mostly just funny and cute). detrimentsLament
I was at my "cousin's" wedding (not actually related but she's my godmother's daughter). Her and her husband hired this performer for their reception. This woman was dressed up like a plant and was in what looked like a large cement planter outside.
My mother and I decided to sit right next to where she was. Every so often she would change position but did so kind of slowly, almost like she was being moved by the wind in slow motion.
Now that in and of itself isn't really that cool. What was great though, was the fact that this woman dressed as a plant was manufacturing fun for herself. She would stay still and wait for people to stop in front of her and start a conversation. When she was sure they hadn't noticed her, she would start moving and scare the crap out of the people that were there. My mother and I got a good hour or so of amusement from that. EsotericTaint
Gay male wedding in England. Registrar stands at front of the ceremony before starting the vows and for some inexplicable reason says "get your rings ready boys." Cue 30 gays bursting out in uncontrollable laughter, and the older family members at the front looking round confused and/or disapprovingly. Didsburyflaneur
We all know we don't have endless time on this earth, so we prioritize things that we want to do while we are around. We create bucket lists and dream boards and imagine all the endless possibilities for adventure. Often, those bucket lists include dangerous acts like sky diving or deep sea exploration.
But what about things you would never do in your lifetime. Not for any other reason other than it being too fear inducing or too dangerous. We went to Ask Reddit to find out what those wild adventures are that just aren't worth the risk.
Some folks also shared that they made some serious life decisions that were important to their health and well being. Trying dangerous substances or staying on top of their weight loss was important and they never wanted to take that risk again.
Redditor machine1892 asked:
"You all know what a bucket list is, what is on your 'f*ck no, not ever list'?
Let's find out what people are just not willing to do.
Exploring the depths of the unknown is just too unknown.
"Cave diving or underground not fully explored dark tight tunnels. The movie 'As Above So Below' and the real life tragedy of 'Nutty Putty Cave' was enough for me to add that to my f*ck no list."
"A real caver once told me that for every 1 hour you travel into a cave, it will take them 4 hours to drag your busted up @ss out of there if something goes wrong."
"I'm a caver and one black humor mantra I've heard before is 'Don't worry, help is just 3 days away!' due to the difficult nature of cave rescues."
"That said, there are incredible teams of cavers who will do everything possible to rescue people and animals from cave-related incidents. I have a whole book covering the past few decades of cave rescues."
"Dunno if you will have seen this, but there's an old American emergency/911/sh*t happened kind of show in which 4 open water divers on air go 30ft down, and the instructor tells them to avoid entering the cave around that level both in briefing, and signs to surface, and 3 of them don't and go into the cave."
"Instructor alerts people at surface, seconds away, there is a trained cave rescue diver on scene by chance, he is in within 2 minutes, and saved one of them."
"Literally, they are less than 35 ft from surface, less than a minutes travel into the cave, and only one survives, despite having a guy right there, with lights, trimix and the right training."
"Dive talk covered it at one point."
If you're claustrophobic, this is definitely off your bucket list.
"A submarine or anything else bad for a claustrophobe."
"lol I worked on subs for 4 years….it's cool once, then it's just cramped, tiny and annoying."
"Son was a Navy Nuc on a ballistic missal sub. Said he was too busy working, eating or sleeping to be claustrophobic. I got to tour the sub once. I am extremely proud of him but thought he was crazy."
The ocean can destroy you.
"I absolutely fear the ocean and I won't go out farther than 6ft lmao. So I'd never go on things such as cruises or boat trips. It also doesn't help that I can't swim."
"I'm VERY comfortable in the water, but even I still fear the ocean. I live in Hawaii and swim, board, fish, kayak treasure hunt, etc., all things ocean-related and love every second of it but man the ocean will destroy you. People die here all the time. An experienced surfer died here a couple weeks ago in an area considered a calmer area. A couple of days ago another girl fell off the rocks and drowned. If you do not respect the ocean, you will die."
"There were 3 rescues today at a popular bodyboarding beach in my town. Only 2 survived."
That early 2000s game show is nightmare worthy.
"Those Fear Factor games where they put a sh*t ton of spiders or other scary creatures on top of you while you lay there. Yeah, that's a huge f*ck no from me."
"The ones where they make you eat a whole lot of stuff that's not just weird or another culture's food (i.e. crickets/tripe) but is actually seriously unhealthy ... like drink a litre of rancid oil... are far worse, to my mind."
"I always said the prize money from that show was to cover medical bills because there's no way people were 100% okay afterwards."
"That's actually why the show got cancelled. They made a girl drink donkey semen and the network finally said 'enough.'"
"Not even kidding, one of the most popular shows in the UK is where we send celebrities to live in the jungle for three weeks and do exactly this to them! And the celebs who go on it LOVE IT!"
Keeping off the weight.
"Become obese again."
"I was obese for almost 10 years of my life, but I decided to lose the weight in my early 20s. Feels great to be active and healthy."
"I'm here with you. Was 250 at my largest, I've since lost over 70 pounds and am in my mid-twenties. It feels great to look great, which I expected, but it feels better to just feel healthy. I wanted to lose weight more for vanity reasons, now I care way less about those and just love being healthy. I'm not at my goal weight but I feel amazing and it's such a huge contrast. So congrats, I'm really happy for you!"
"That's how I feel. At my heaviest, I was at 235 and I'm down to 202, but it's not even the weight loss that keeps me going. For the first time ever I actually craved working out when I went on vacation for a week and couldn't. The vacation was fun, but damn my body went back to aching at the end of it. If I don't stretch I get really bad pain from sitting down for work."
This cheese is called Casu Martzu. It's a sheep's milk cheese that has living larva inside.
"Those who do not wish to eat them place the cheese in a sealed paper bag. The maggots, starved for oxygen, writhe and jump in the bag, creating a "pitter-patter" sound. When the sounds subside, the maggots are dead and the cheese can be eaten."
"Somehow, there is a hint of sadism behind this paragraph."
Though there are plenty of people who have done these things, there are good reasons to avoid them. Especially for those choices that were life threatening or deadly.
What's most important in your life is finding what is meaningful for you and doing what makes your life worth living.
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There's an old saying that describes women as a mystery; however, today we're going to crack the case…well, at least a little bit. This thread allowed men to ask the questions they've always wondered about in a safe, informative zone. This can be difficult in face-to-face conversations where personal or private questioning is not always appropriate.
Have you ever wondered what women really do at sleepovers? What do they think of your flirting? Or the truth behind "size doesn't matter" but could never really ask? Then this one is for you. We've lined up some of the most common questions that people don't dare ask from one Redditor's bold question.
Redditor _somename_ asked:
"Men, what are some questions you've always wanted to ask women, but were too embarrassed?"
The responses from the women of Reddit were helpful and matter of fact even when it came to some would-be awkward questions.
“How are most of you not bald? I swear I can make a muppet with the amount of hair my partner and female friends seamlessly dump all over the house. Why the h*ll am I pulling a 2 ft long hair out of my a**crack lmao” RealFlyForARyGuy
“Women's hair thins with age, too, and some do actually experience a degree of baldness. More woman than you realize are wearing toppers, extensions, or wigs.“
“Women losing their hair is way, way, WAY less socially acceptable than men losing theirs, so those who suffer from hair loss tend ito go to great lengths hide it, in a similar way to how we are so secretive about how much hair grows everywhere else on our bodies.” AccessibleBeige
Flirting vs. being nice?
“How do I differentiate between a woman flirting with me and just complementing me?" Issac_-
“Compliments aren't stretched out for long periods of time unless you're in a relationship. People usually give 1 or 2 compliments then continue the conversation. While flirting will be part of most of the conversation." Blake-Bell
“If she's at work, just assume she's not flirting. She might be, but it's way more likely that she's not and it's just too messy and awkward. So don't hit on baristas or bartenders or cashiers." Mehhhhhhhjay
Yes, please, just shave it!
“Not embarrassed to ask this but since women are giving their honest opinions, how do y'all feel about being attracted to guys who are balding/bald at a young age (20-25)? Does it make a big difference to you?” arixrdc
“Personal opinion, shaving it off is way hotter than going for the prince William look of pretending like it's not happening. Just shave it. If you are able to, grow some facial hair, that balances out the shaved head. But it's not important.” Hoppinginpuddles
Conversation skills don’t always come naturally…
“How should I approach/ meet people? I'm really shy and bad at conversing and genuinely believe I'm probably going to end up alone since I'm 30 and can't talk to people like an adult.” Panicradar
“So there are a few things that I want to touch on here. One, if you are approaching a strange woman in public that you're romantically interested in, you need to tread very carefully. Women are socially conditioned to be polite even when we feel uncomfortable/threatened.”
“So if you are going to try, you need to be very aware of leaving ways for her to exit the conversation (both socially/verbally and physically--a lot of guys I know unwittingly block exits because they don't realize how big they look/don't have to constantly worry about safety like that).”
“Beyond that, practice. I once went without answering ‘good’ or ‘fine’ to ‘how are you’ for a few weeks as a challenge. Even just switching to something like ‘It's almost the weekend’ or ‘I can't wait for spring’ and a smile to the checker at the grocery store gets a much more warm and genuine response back.”
“They'd tell me about how they heard the weather would warm up soon or tell me if it was almost the end of their shift. I didn't form any deep relationships with them or anything, but it gave me the confidence to at least try to talk to people in other areas of my life.” tonightbeyoncerides
The question most men want to know…
“Does penis size actually matter to y'all?” DefectiveJay
“It's like boob size. A vocal minority cares a lot, the rest is just happy with what is there.” Allegutennamenweg
Different ways to support…
“How do I support you in public if I'm anxious and nonconfrontational? If someone's being kinda creepy I may not feel confident enough to speak up... what is the next best thing to do?" SeatDisastrous2262
“Get us out of the situation quickly and safely. You don't have to fight someone to show us that you want to keep us safe. Support us by helping us get to safety and be open to talking about it after." OIWantKenobi
Someting to never ask irl...
“Do periods stink?” OrdinaryBallowski2
“The metallic smell is the iron from your body. You are shedding so much blood and loosing that iron. That's why some people tend to get super thirsty/dry mouth, chew ice, or get light headed while on their period.” jadapotatoe
FYI, its like carrying a bowling ball in your groin that kicks and makes you puke…
“How do pregnancies feel? is it like carrying a backpack on the chest? is the baby pulling down? does it block ways of sitting?” SlimeCrafterLP
“This can vary among women and which stage of pregnancy they are in. At first, you might not feel anything or your pelvis might feel really tender and kind of bloated. At a certain point you can start to feel movement inside.”
“When the baby is small and has space to move around it might feel like a flutter. After the baby is bigger and space in the uterus decreases it can feel like getting poked and prodded from the inside. This can make the pregnant woman feel happy and reassured but also sometimes uncomfortable.”
“Sometimes the baby will kick you in the ribs or push into your back. You could compare it to carrying a backpack but imagine that the back pack is inside your body.”
“After a certain point it does feel like the baby is pulling down on your body especially if the belly sticks out a lot. Being pregnant can make different physical positions uncomfortable but again, it depends on the person and the stage of pregnancy.” JstVisitingThsPlanet
“Are women's bathrooms really cleaner than men's? I've heard that they just get cleaned more often.” ChronoLegion2
“It depends! I've used men's public restrooms before in a pinch, and I find it's usually just different kinds of messy. Women's restrooms would have the occasional blood stains or hygiene product that isn't properly disposed of, and men's restrooms would be more likely to have feces where it didn't belong. Plus, sticky floors? Especially near the urinals.”
“You're definitely right about the cleanliness thing! I find it more common with women to be concerned about dirt or grime, with more leeway being given to regular clutter (clothes on the floor, books scattered around, etc). My dad and brothers both seem pretty blind to nasty messes.”
“They'll leave used plates and bowls or cups in their rooms for days, let their trash cans pile up with god knows what, and I've seen them wipe their runny noses on their clothes way too much.” Lilac_Summers
“…get smashed and order stupid amounts of food…"
“What do you actually do at sleepovers?” yrrrrrrrr
“Talk about guys and gals we think are cute, watch movies (usually Disney or horror), listen to music, play video games (Mario kart, Mario party, super smash bros, just dance, etc), take over the kitchen to bake at 3am, dance around in our pajamas, try out ridiculous or extravagant makeup looks, and occasionally play dress up, too! and depending on our age, get f**kin smashed and order stupid amounts of food lmao.” Lilac_Summers
Some of these questions wouldn't exactly be appropriate in the real world so we're glad we got to get answers here.
If there's one thing we can rely on history for it's that it never changes.
What historical inaccuracies are still taught?
Let's get the basics out of the way, the things we were most likely taught in school by teachers who perhaps didn't have access to a real history book.
Not Short At All
"That Napoleon was very short."
"He was slightly taller than an average Frenchman of his time. Around 168-170 cm."
"It was English propaganda. He was also often surrounded by his Imperial Guard who used to be a lot taller.
"Still, alot shorter than average Europeans these days."
"My mother and all her siblings were taught at a Catholic school that [men] have one less rib than [women] and that's to origin of the Adam and Eve story. Completely untrue. Men and women have the same number of ribs."
Did He Even Sail The Ocean Blue?! These Are The Questions.
"I don't know if it's still taught, but I know that a commonly held belief is that the whole world thought that the Earth was flat except for Columbus. In actuality it was well known that the Earth was round as early as the 6th century BC."
"It turned out that he was absolutely wrong about that, but luckily for him he ran into a whole unexpected continent that was sitting right in the middle of his route, because otherwise his miscalculation would have meant he was super screwed."
Sometimes, history changes because we don't want to know the truth. The story behind the fact is a lot more fascinating to hear and easier to swallow.
They All Knew
"There's definitely this thought process that normal Germans (and Poles, Austrians, Hungarians, etc) didn't know about the camps at all during the holocaust that gets pushed as fact in schools, which is bullsh*t. The concept of the goings-on at a KZ was absolutely something people knew. When my grandfather was growing up it was normal to 'hire' people from Dachau satellite camps to build fences or work in fields or whatever. T
he industrialization process and scale of it was news to them, for sure, but if something happened to you and you were sent to a KZ, everyone knew it was a death sentence, and you were going to be forced into labor until you died. By the time 1944 rolled around they were pretty aware of the gas chambers too, though most people didn't believe it."
Losing The Most
"In New Zealand, they sometimes seem to be taught that they had the highest casualty rate in both World Wars. I worked with a New Zealander who got genuinely angry when I said that it wasn't even close to being true. I put it down to him being misinformed, but then I saw another NZer making the same claim on the Guardian website."
"Post-war calculations indicated that New Zealand's ratio of killed per million of population (at 6684) was the highest in the Commonwealth (with Britain at 5123 and Australia, 3232).
He Was A Regular Einstein
"Albert Einstein didnt fail his classes.. He succeeded very well."
"Sometimes it's repeated by adults trying to uplift younger kids who struggle in school. 3rd grader having trouble with long division and is crying because he thinks he's stupid? "Aw, don't worry, even Einstein failed math. Math is hard. You're smart you just need to keep at it." The "keep at it" part being the point (because in this legend, Einstein eventually stopped being bad at math)."
"But yes, that is something that older kids take and run with to argue that their crap grades are in fact evidence that they are brilliant geniuses, and it's the school's fault for not challenging their genius."
If there's one thing Americans know, it's their own history.
Exploiting A Workforce? America? Really?!
"No so much inaccurate but heavily downplayed. The American labor movement from 1880 - 1920's was so bloody that my Anthropology professor referred to it as the second civil war."
"The Battle of Blair Mountain, over 1,000,000 rounds were fired in a battle with workers who'd been fed up with 14 hour days in coal mines and living in tents and being brutalized by "private investigators," thugs hired the Capitalists."
"lots of good music came from it too. The IWW, communist Party, socialist party, and so on feature heavily here."
"The National Guard was called in by the Capitalists, who shot or imprisoned anyone who didn't immediately get back in the mines."
America Failed Longer Than We Thought
"The Vietnam War started in the mid-sixties when it started in the fifties."
"Some misinformed people still teach that the USA did not lose the war (by using the red herring of a slow withdrawal) when in reality North Vietnam succeeded in their goal of kicking out the occupying foreigners and reunifying Vietnam."
Maybe The People Shooting Off Fireworks Early Have A Point
"The Declaration of Independence was signed on July 4, 1776. No, it was signed on July 2, it wasn't announced until July 4 but regardless even Thomas Jefferson and John Adams, and others, wrote that they expected July 2 would be the date that would be celebrated with great festivities."
"That got lost to history."
The Wild West Is A Lie
"I don't think it's taught but the general American seem to believe that cowboys were mostly White people. When in actuality it was Mexicans and even Black people after they were freed. It was considered a lowly position in the Wild West. If a cowboy was White, he was a very poor White."
"White people were on the frontier farming and such. Asians (the Chinese) did laundry and were cooks. That's where a lot of Chinese-American foods originated from."
"People also seem to forget that this time period, which was maybe only 30-50 years, had three pinnacle events unfold in US history—the Transcontinental Railroad was completed, The Chinese Exclusion Act went into law, and slavery was abolished. I may be wrong but I believe in that order too."
Double check your sources. Use more than one resource. Try to look for the bias in writing. There's lots of ways to learn about history. Don't always accept the first story being told because it's easier to accept.
Warning: Some sensitive content ahead.
I consider myself quite the film buff and I have a thing for disturbing films. Perhaps it's the way they've challenged me intellectually and emotionally. Some of the darkest subject matter is the most engaging, revealing truths about the world and the society we live in.
A lot of disturbing films take inspiration from reality. There have been some truly excellent ones, as we were so kindly reminded after Redditor JarJarBinks asked the online community,
"What disturbing films are based on true stories?"
Wolf Creek (2005)
It's based on the Backpacker Murders in the 90s. What happened was that a guy called Ivan Milat (basis for Mick Taylor) would pick up backpackers hitchhiking on the Hume Highway between Melbourne and Sydney. Instead of taking them to where they wanted to go, he'd tie them up, take them out to the Belanglo State Forest and torture them before killing them. He succeeded in killing at least 7 people (that we know of), but failed to abduct another chap, who ended up being the person who identified him."
A truly unnerving film. The "head on a stick" scene––you know the one––is probably the most unnerving.
"Conspiracy. A group of intelligent, high-ranking, sophisticated individuals meet for a conference to catch up, share a laugh, and calmly debate the merits of industrial scale genocide."
The true story of the newspaper that managed to uncover how far the pedophilia went in the Catholic Church."
An unsettling, if quiet film. It grabs you and doesn't let go. The journalists who handled this are heroes.
Come and See (1985)
"While not based on any one individual's experiences, Elem Klimov and Ales Adamovich based the movie on the real experiences of the civilians who lived on the Eastern Front during WW2. Klimov drew on his experiences as a refugee surviving the Battle of Stalingrad while Adamovich drew on his experiences as a Belorussian partisan. It gives an unflinching look at the reality of the Holocaust by bullets and partisan warfare."
Probably one of the most disturbing films that I've ever seen. Not for the faint of heart. The barn scene alone is the stuff of nightmares.
The Sacrament (2013)
"The Sacrament. It's this found footage film based on the story of Jonestown. It's about this camera crew that travels to Guyana to find one crew member's sister. They act out the lectures Jim would give, the suicide, the shooting, etc. It's one thing to read about the massacre or watch documentaries but to actually watch the massacre acted out is another kind of disturbing."
Jonestown was the largest loss of American life until September 11. The gravity of the event cannot be underestimated.
The Snowtown Murders (2011)
"Snowtown Murders. I couldn't finish it. That bathtub scene.....f***.
I did listen to an interview today with the guy who played the main psycho. He seemed really pleasant and said that, yeah, that scene was brutal to shoot."
The director, Justin Kurzel, is known for making subversive and engaging films. His latest, Nitram, is based on the Port Arthur shooting. Sure to be unsettlling.
"Changeling is about the mother of one of the victims of the Wineville Chicken Coop Murders. She really was committed to a psych ward because she insisted the 'Changeling' (the boy who claimed to be her son) was not her son, the LAPD was trying to use an uplifting story to distract from the fact they were garbage."
This film gutted me. Christine Collins never got a break.
"Downfall / Das Untergang
What really was disturbing was the fact that, after all was said and done, Trudle Jung never really seemed ashamed or even sorry for what happened during the war."
"Bully. Directed by Larry Clarke. A group of teenagers plots how they're going to murder a friend. So real and so raw. The whole time watching it I thought, "This is exactly how it'd play out in real life." Got to the credits and they start showing photos of the actual people."
Few films feel as much a slice of life as this one. It's graphic, it's cutting, it's disgusting––and it's also unforgettable. The performances are great.
"Room was a movie made in 2015 and took inspiration, if that's the right word, from several real-life cases where young girls were kidnapped and kept prisoner for years or decades and had children with their abductor."
If you have a strong stomach, it's worth checking out these films, because they're all exceptional. If nothing else, they're worth a conversation. And who knows, you might introduce others to films they might appreciate (if not necessarily enjoy).
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