The Most Unromantic Things Couples Have Faced That Actually Brought Them Closer Together
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Having a partner in life is great, but even romantic relationships aren’t all about the romance. Sometimes, things happen that are just plain unromantic.

And sometimes, those unromantic things end up bringing you and your partner closer. Like when one of you gets sick the night of a long-awaited concert and your partner ends up cleaning up your vomit all night long and never once complaining about missing his favorite group (a real life example? No, of course not)!

Redditors have had their fair share of unromantic experiences that ended up bringing them and their partner closer together.


Wondering if they’d be willing to share, Redditor Roivas14 asked:

“Couples of Reddit, what’s the most unromantic thing that’s happened between the two of you that actually is a stronger indication of love than others might think?”

And We Lived Happily Ever After

"My SO puked in the parking lot on our first date. BEFORE we even got into the restaurant. I thought she was having second thoughts because she just got out of a horrible relationship. Nope, she was on her period and it was bad enough where she would puke."

"We're married now!"

– dounce87

For Better For Worse

"Man all of these are like medical conditions and crazy stuff like that.. One time my girlfriend just said she wanted to see me but didn't wanna talk to anybody after a rough day at work. So she came to my house and sat in my bed with me while I played video games until we both fell asleep. Didn't say a word other than "hey" when she got there, and "Alright, bed. Love you."

– DrKurtCockings

"I’m away for work right now and had a really tough day. I called my husband and he instantly knew something was wrong. I told him just to talk to me. He told me about his day and when he ran out of things, he read me a Wikipedia article about different types of pastry dough. SO’s that can support you through the little days are the best."

– bulelainwen

In Sickness And In Health

"I fell down some steps and broke both my arms. My husband wiped my butt and helped me shower/wash my hair... for weeks. For better or worse, that was definitely filed under worse."

– Buttercreamqueen

Then She Became The One

"I grew up with my grandparents bc both my parents had to work various jobs simultaneously, so my grandfather was my world. I took care of him during his last 5 years, when he became bedriden. I tried to visit him as often as I could. He lived with an elderly aunt who fed him, but needed me to bathe him and, eventually, change his diapers and so on. Early in our relationship, my now wife would come over sometimes. One time I got to his house and found his fridge full and him watching Tv, eating a bowl of ice cream. My wife had gone a few hours before me without telling me. 6 months later I proposed."

– Sameotoko

He Saved My Life

"My boyfriend made me go to the gynecologist to talk about getting an ablation after watching me struggle from crippling pain and bleeding every month for years. He said not to worry about money or anything else besides solving my problem. Fast forward two months and I got a call from my surgeon. Apparently I missed the fact that they did a biopsy when they removed my polyps and found uterine cancer. Had I been stubborn and continued to ignore my miserable periods for years, who knows what could have happened to me. No one expects uterine cancer in someone under 30. He held me while I cried, took me to every appointment, and helped me when I recovered after my hysterectomy. That dude is my rock."

– keepcalmandhydrate

Personal Sleeping Arrangements

"My wife and I came to understand that we can sleep apart for the sake of comfort and good rest, without it being an expression of emotional distance."

– scarabic

"When my husband and I first got married we bought a king size bed and our own blankets. Best decision we ever made. Saved us so much arguing. Some people I've told think it weird but I am free to cocoon in my blankets and he is free to only sleep under a sheet. Neither of us snore so it works well."

– beccalynns

The Best Man Is The Best Dad

"I have a now 12 year old daughter who is not biologically his, however she calls him Dad now and he always refers to her as his daughter. When she was about 10 he’d been moved in about 6 months we were settling in to things as a family. I was working and they were home hanging out and she got her first period. I had briefly had a couple small discussions enough that she knew what was happening. But was pretty unsure what to do."

"So he handed her some toilet paper, told her the basic girl trick of putting it in her underwear and took her to the store. He helped her pick out some pads, detoured to the ice cream, chocolate, chips and bakery section and picked up junior Advil just in case. They settled in on the sofa he explained the basics of how to use it. Showed her a quick YouTube video. Made up a hot water bottle for her, popped her dirty clothes on to soak. And they snuggled and she talked about it and they googled answers if he didn’t have them."

"I came home to them having a nap on the sofa looking like a slumber party exploded and a happy child. Probably one of the moments I’ve loved him the most."

– Danigirl_03

Affection Through Humor

"Definitely pranking each other thoroughly."

"I spent a little more than a year randomly sending him emails from a man named "Nolan." He works in customer service and I made the most ridiculous case for him to solve involving a balloon business. Once in a while, during a slow time at my job, good old Nolan would email him. Last message was about Nolan asking the hubs to join him in a doomsday bunker..."

"I finally decided to tell him the truth on our anniversary, which is on April 1st."

"He got me back this Christmas. He anonymously sent me a super low-rent Chevy Chase coloring book. I greatly dislike Chevy Chase, to put it mildly. He enjoyed me plotting revenge against my friends and even egged me on. He finally admitted the truth on New Year's Eve."

"I plan to retaliate in the near future."

– edbeale01

Me And Her And Us

"We spend the majority of our time at home doing our own separate things. We have two TVs in our living room so I'll often be playing video games or watching podcasts while she watches Netflix or Youtube. We also spend a lot of time in our own separate study rooms where mine is for making music and and hers is for getting her career work done. I believe respecting each other needs to do things alone and not always needing to do things together every day is the single biggest reason we've lasted as long as we have and we just celebrated our 13 year anniversary."

– ReeG

"This. All. Day. You cannot be together all the time."

– YourWordsMatter

Medical Help

"My boyfriend texted me one day when he was at the gym that he believed his rectum had prolapsed. No idea how, but I started googling what we needed to do about it. I read that if it wasn't serious, you could just push it back in before going to a doctor, instead of heading to the ER."

"So what do I do? Put on a pair of gloves, lube my finger up, and kneel in front of him while he's lying on the bed attempting to push part of his rectum back into his anus."

"Turns out it was just a giant hemhorroid when he went to the doctor the next day. But I think that was a moment in our relationship where it was established that we both had complete comfort with each other. If your partner can try and shove part of your rectum up where it belongs then nothing is really too disgusting or gross to discuss."

– Ineedathrowaway18

I envy that level of comfort with a partner!

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