Ways That People Instantly Lost Interest In A Crush After Getting To Know Them Better
It can be really easy to develop a crush. That’s because they usually happen before you really know the person you have a crush on.
Sometimes, when you really get to know the person you have a crush on, you find yourself falling in love with that person.
When I found out my first crush loved Harry Potter just as much as I did, I decided he was the boy I was going to marry.
Of course, since I was in second grade, things didn’t exactly work out between us, but I digress.
However, other times, getting to know the person you're crushing on leads to a piece of information that makes you instantly lose interest.
Redditors have plenty of experience with that and are ready to share.
It all started when Redditor wcypierre asked:
“What did your crush do that absolutely killed your interest?”
Can I Have Him?
"She asked if things didn’t work out, if I would mind if she went out with my roommate. I said I couldn’t possibly do that to him and left."
– Medicmike43
"Quick, we’re gonna need an ambulance for this burn."
– LuqmanLSG
Pay Me For My Time
"This was in college, we were acquaintances and had a few classes together. He was cute, funny, and I totally had a crush on him. He asked me out to dinner and a movie. At the restaurant he ordered the most expensive things on the menu. Apps, drinks, lobster, and even dessert. When the bill came he said “You got this, right?” I was so embarrassed I paid. Then I said I’d skip the movie because I wasn’t feeling well and he asked me to give him $20 for gas and for wasting his time. I didn’t and just left. Ugh!! After that he couldn’t seem to understand why I didn’t want to go out with him again."
– nancesans
Something Wrong With Her
"I was giving her a place to sleep when she was feuding with her mother. After weeks of picking up after her, I dared to complain. She had a screaming fit, packed up her crap and left. I was glad to be rid of her, until later it got around to me that she was telling people on FB that I kicked her out for refusing to give me oral sex. There is a lot I can forgive, but that was the first time I had ever had anyone just straight up make stuff up about me. F*ck you, A."
– PiercedGeek
Just Awful!
"Her: Why are you leaving a tip?"
"Me: Because...the service was really good?"
"Her: But she's fat."
– TheKoreanMango
"I nearly downvoted that because it's so egregious."
– insertcaffeine
He Was A Criminal!
"Bragged about drinking and driving. He told me that he and his friends have a “nothing under 100” club, where they drink and then drive on the interstate going 100+ mph and have to send a full-length snapchat video of the speedometer to each other."
"Two of my friends had been killed by a drunk driver 3 months prior."
– sarah_the_intern
"If someone told me they did that I would report them to the police and maybe slash their tires"
– drizzitdude
Happiest Place On Earth?
"We went to disneyland - where I had an annual pass - with my friends and family for an event called “Dapper Day” where you dress up in “dapper”clothing so everything looks very old timey. I had done it for years with my friends and he wanted to come, and my mom and siblings were going for the first time too. I was really excited as it was the first time he had ever met my family."
"Well, we went on one ride with my family and my friends and then he said “do you want to go on a ride just me and you?” I thought we’d come back and spend the rest of the day with them but as soon as we were out of earshot he was complaining about my family and how weird it was that they were there and he wanted to do disney with just me. But he had known they were coming so I was confused. Then we went on one more ride and he started complaining about how hot it was, how tired he was, and before lunch he wanted to go home. I was super upset but didn’t want him leaving on his own so I just went with him."
"But on the way home I wished I had just let him leave and I could have stayed with all the people I loved. It was the first time in years my sister and my mom had been to Disney and I didn’t know it then but it was the last time I got to go with my brothers before they grew up (and now they hate me)."
"He was just some dude I dated. Not a boyfriend or anything that lasted very long. I’m still so mad at myself for letting him ruin my day. But yeah, it absolutely killed anything I felt for him and we broke up a few days later."
– the-willow-witch
Yikes
"I'm Black, she's Black, our crush was mutual. Then she found out that I was once in a relationship with a White woman. She then jumped down a rabbit's hole of my "betrayal" of the Black family, and some other nonsense of my trauma of self hatred. Never been turned off by anything faster than that."
– SIMCARUS
"That reminds of an exact opposite situation I had in high school where this white girl in my class was borderline obsessed with dating black guys that made other black guys and girls really uncomfortable she dated this one dude in my computer science class that I talked to, and he told me that she likes black guys as a kink but not as a person"
– sebastian_ramirez05
"I've date both kinds of extremes when I've dated interracial. One girl was honestly only attracted to black/Latino men from a physical standpoint. She wasn't fetishizing us, just had a physical preference for us. Then I've dated another white woman who had watched way too much porn. It got so annoying.Thankfully it didn't get to an intimate relationship before I ended it."
– SIMCARUS
Ummm...
"She slept with my dad"
– dimple_guy
"I would say “motherf**ker” but the term doesn’t work here"
– fukkin-sweeeet
"My ex had been previously engaged to a girl that slept with his Dad. It caused his parents to divorce and he still maintained a relationship with him. She had been 18 and he was in his 50's at the time. I was always so uncomfortable around him."
– Darkmoonlily78
Ick.
"She invited me over to her place (not as a date thing, but just to hang out as friends). Her house was absolutely filthy and the glass of coke she gave me had a hair in it. She was really cute, had a great personality, and was a genuinely nice person, but as soon as I saw cat sh*t on the floor near the front door and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry"
– tahsii
It's A Delicacy!
"She ate a live snail."
"I was in 6th grade."
– sp33dzer0
"She might be a masterchef now, pushing the boundaries"
– _malaikatmaut_
Users In More Ways Than One
"She offered to drive and picked me up in her car because we had plans to go out to dinner and get to know each other better."
"I realized after about 20 min she was not driving to the restaurant and instead stopped at a gas station to get into someone else’s car and buy drugs."
"Basically made me accessory to a drug deal under false pretenses."
– Deleted User
"Believe it or not this has sort of happened to me. The guy was driving us in my car and conducted a deal in a back streets of an industrial estate close to where I lived. I was baffled. I had big self esteem issues and we had been fooling around and I just didn’t even care about anything he did up til that point. I was so angry he had literally used my car to commit a crime!"
– MummaGoose
And That Was That
""We were in the process of getting together. She had called over and we spent an afternoon watching movies and sitting close together."
"By about 8 in the evening she was considering staying later and I was casually encouraging her. She asked if she could take a shower, and I was like “yeah, sure of course”. Glad that the bathroom was clean and tidy and I had fresh towels."
"Anyway about 4 mins later she calls me saying she needs help with the shower, and I give her a moment to get a towel around herself and knock on the bathroom door. She opens it completely naked, and shows me that she’s having trouble with the shower controls. So I’m kinda unsure whether to make the move or start with the controls so, I go with the flow and show her “this is hot & cold, this is pressure, this is rainforest, and this is power jets.""
"In the 5 seconds it takes me to do this she has sat on the toilet. Which is kinda a weird thing because I need to be able to make the next move. And she’s . . . Well she’s sitting on the toilet, naked, with the lid up. Looking all disinterested. I’m thinking “ahhh I’ve screwed it up” when suddenly . . ."
"Ker-splosh."
"And she takes a dump right in front of me."
"And then another one."
"I was just “uhmmm I’ll leave you to it.”"
Yikes! That would make me lose interest too!
Do you have any stories? Let us know in the comments below.
The Most Unromantic Things Couples Have Faced That Actually Brought Them Closer Together
Having a partner in life is great, but even romantic relationships aren’t all about the romance. Sometimes, things happen that are just plain unromantic.
And sometimes, those unromantic things end up bringing you and your partner closer. Like when one of you gets sick the night of a long-awaited concert and your partner ends up cleaning up your vomit all night long and never once complaining about missing his favorite group (a real life example? No, of course not)!
Redditors have had their fair share of unromantic experiences that ended up bringing them and their partner closer together.
Wondering if they’d be willing to share, Redditor Roivas14 asked:
“Couples of Reddit, what’s the most unromantic thing that’s happened between the two of you that actually is a stronger indication of love than others might think?”
And We Lived Happily Ever After
"My SO puked in the parking lot on our first date. BEFORE we even got into the restaurant. I thought she was having second thoughts because she just got out of a horrible relationship. Nope, she was on her period and it was bad enough where she would puke."
"We're married now!"
– dounce87
For Better For Worse
"Man all of these are like medical conditions and crazy stuff like that.. One time my girlfriend just said she wanted to see me but didn't wanna talk to anybody after a rough day at work. So she came to my house and sat in my bed with me while I played video games until we both fell asleep. Didn't say a word other than "hey" when she got there, and "Alright, bed. Love you."
– DrKurtCockings
"I’m away for work right now and had a really tough day. I called my husband and he instantly knew something was wrong. I told him just to talk to me. He told me about his day and when he ran out of things, he read me a Wikipedia article about different types of pastry dough. SO’s that can support you through the little days are the best."
– bulelainwen
In Sickness And In Health
"I fell down some steps and broke both my arms. My husband wiped my butt and helped me shower/wash my hair... for weeks. For better or worse, that was definitely filed under worse."
– Buttercreamqueen
Then She Became The One
"I grew up with my grandparents bc both my parents had to work various jobs simultaneously, so my grandfather was my world. I took care of him during his last 5 years, when he became bedriden. I tried to visit him as often as I could. He lived with an elderly aunt who fed him, but needed me to bathe him and, eventually, change his diapers and so on. Early in our relationship, my now wife would come over sometimes. One time I got to his house and found his fridge full and him watching Tv, eating a bowl of ice cream. My wife had gone a few hours before me without telling me. 6 months later I proposed."
– Sameotoko
He Saved My Life
"My boyfriend made me go to the gynecologist to talk about getting an ablation after watching me struggle from crippling pain and bleeding every month for years. He said not to worry about money or anything else besides solving my problem. Fast forward two months and I got a call from my surgeon. Apparently I missed the fact that they did a biopsy when they removed my polyps and found uterine cancer. Had I been stubborn and continued to ignore my miserable periods for years, who knows what could have happened to me. No one expects uterine cancer in someone under 30. He held me while I cried, took me to every appointment, and helped me when I recovered after my hysterectomy. That dude is my rock."
– keepcalmandhydrate
Personal Sleeping Arrangements
"My wife and I came to understand that we can sleep apart for the sake of comfort and good rest, without it being an expression of emotional distance."
– scarabic
"When my husband and I first got married we bought a king size bed and our own blankets. Best decision we ever made. Saved us so much arguing. Some people I've told think it weird but I am free to cocoon in my blankets and he is free to only sleep under a sheet. Neither of us snore so it works well."
– beccalynns
The Best Man Is The Best Dad
"I have a now 12 year old daughter who is not biologically his, however she calls him Dad now and he always refers to her as his daughter. When she was about 10 he’d been moved in about 6 months we were settling in to things as a family. I was working and they were home hanging out and she got her first period. I had briefly had a couple small discussions enough that she knew what was happening. But was pretty unsure what to do."
"So he handed her some toilet paper, told her the basic girl trick of putting it in her underwear and took her to the store. He helped her pick out some pads, detoured to the ice cream, chocolate, chips and bakery section and picked up junior Advil just in case. They settled in on the sofa he explained the basics of how to use it. Showed her a quick YouTube video. Made up a hot water bottle for her, popped her dirty clothes on to soak. And they snuggled and she talked about it and they googled answers if he didn’t have them."
"I came home to them having a nap on the sofa looking like a slumber party exploded and a happy child. Probably one of the moments I’ve loved him the most."
– Danigirl_03
Affection Through Humor
"Definitely pranking each other thoroughly."
"I spent a little more than a year randomly sending him emails from a man named "Nolan." He works in customer service and I made the most ridiculous case for him to solve involving a balloon business. Once in a while, during a slow time at my job, good old Nolan would email him. Last message was about Nolan asking the hubs to join him in a doomsday bunker..."
"I finally decided to tell him the truth on our anniversary, which is on April 1st."
"He got me back this Christmas. He anonymously sent me a super low-rent Chevy Chase coloring book. I greatly dislike Chevy Chase, to put it mildly. He enjoyed me plotting revenge against my friends and even egged me on. He finally admitted the truth on New Year's Eve."
"I plan to retaliate in the near future."
– edbeale01
Me And Her And Us
"We spend the majority of our time at home doing our own separate things. We have two TVs in our living room so I'll often be playing video games or watching podcasts while she watches Netflix or Youtube. We also spend a lot of time in our own separate study rooms where mine is for making music and and hers is for getting her career work done. I believe respecting each other needs to do things alone and not always needing to do things together every day is the single biggest reason we've lasted as long as we have and we just celebrated our 13 year anniversary."
– ReeG
"This. All. Day. You cannot be together all the time."
– YourWordsMatter
Medical Help
"My boyfriend texted me one day when he was at the gym that he believed his rectum had prolapsed. No idea how, but I started googling what we needed to do about it. I read that if it wasn't serious, you could just push it back in before going to a doctor, instead of heading to the ER."
"So what do I do? Put on a pair of gloves, lube my finger up, and kneel in front of him while he's lying on the bed attempting to push part of his rectum back into his anus."
"Turns out it was just a giant hemhorroid when he went to the doctor the next day. But I think that was a moment in our relationship where it was established that we both had complete comfort with each other. If your partner can try and shove part of your rectum up where it belongs then nothing is really too disgusting or gross to discuss."
– Ineedathrowaway18
I envy that level of comfort with a partner!
Do you have any stories to share? Let us know in the comments below.
We all want those moments we see in rom-coms for when we meet our significant others.
We bump into each other at an ice cream shop and go on a wagon ride in Central Park.
Or else we meet in the elevator in the building in which we both work.
But what about people who have a not so romantic story?
Redditor VarmVaffel asked:
"Redditors who do NOT have a romantic "how we first met" story with your significant other, how did you meet?"
Here were some of those answers.
Girl, Interrupted
"Working at a residential treatment center for emotionally disturbed adolescents."
'There was a riot on campus. It took two shifts of staff to get the kids quieted down and back in bed. We were supposed to get off work at 11pm but were there until 1am."
"Guy I was working with was friends with my roommate. So after we got off, I said 'I'm going home to get drunk. Want to come?'".
"That was 42 years ago. We've been married for 37 years and have two adult children."
Drinks And Food
"He was drunk. An acquaintance and I went to pick him and another friend up to go out to a club. We've been together almost 15 and 1/2 years married 13."
"Even his proposal was not very romantic. We were in our backyard getting ready to barbecue and he asked me if I would marry him. First thing out of my mouth was 'are you sure?'"
"It totally works for us though."
A 70s Life
"Not me but an old friend. Back in the 70s, my friend Shirley was at a bar late one night making a phone call in the back room on a pay phone, and some drunk jerk came stumbling in and took the phone from her, hung it up, then proceeded to make a call to someone else. She stood back and SMACKED him in the face. He fell flat on the floor and busted out laughing. That's how they met, a short bar fight I suppose lol. I always loved hearing that story when I drank with them. She passed away a few years back and was a very sweet woman."
Meetup Pre Meetup
"Craigslist."
"I was new in town, didn't know many people. I put an ad up looking for someone to go explore and do weird stuff - like put googly eyes on things."
"She answered, we emailed back and forth a few times. Met. Hung out. It was really relaxed. Then about 3 weeks later we realized it was more than that."
Vomit Choosing
"I was the DD for the night at the local club. It was getting late and everyone wanted to party more, I was getting hungry. Outside the club this guy always had his hot dog cart set up so I went outside to get a couple. The club didn't allow outside food or drink so I just sat on the curb. She came out drunk as a skunk with her friends, took a few steps then puked on me, my hot dogs got ruined too :( Her friends really weren't in any condition to drive either so I called an uber and asked him to let me know they got home safe. She called the next day incredibly apologic and asked to make it up to me. She showed up to the restaurant with a new shirt and a pack of franks, laughed hysterically, got talking and here we are. I always say she had a very unique method of picking me."
The Universe Be Damned
"Met my husband on Plenty of Fish. I had an account my friend and I used to troll people when we were bored (used my own picture) and he seemed decent so I told him what was up with my account. He thought it was funny and asked me on a date. Day we scheduled to meet up my appendix exploded and was in the ICU for two weeks. Okay, rescheduled once I got home. His GPS directed him to my house by driving through a river (we lived in Florida at the time so mud, crackheads and alligators were a concern) police had to come save him and escorted him to my house. We still laugh about it."
D&D Times
"We both joined a group to play D&D together. He was a halfling rogue, I was a human barbarian. In the first session he climbed on my shoulders to spear some foe in the throat and then on my next turn I attempted to assist him up onto the roof of the small hut next to us. I rolled a natural 1 and basically punted him into a wall for some ridiculous amount of damage. Oops."
"We've been married for 5 years and have 2 kids (well, almost, I'm very pregnant right now)."
High School ????Hearts
"I don't remember meeting my husband. I was a freshman in high school and it was during band camp. I got a text from him one night and pretended to know who he was because I was too embarrassed that I didn't know everyone's names yet."
A Garbage Time
"Not me but one of my friends told me about how their parents knew a couple who found each other around the bin truck"
"So basically one day a guy went to take back his metal can from the street but there was a big problem. The garbage worker had accidentally made a tear in the bin bag and ripped it open, spreading sh*ts everywhere on the pavement. So next week the upset man waited for the same workers to show up to get some explanations."
"Turns out that garbage worker was in fact a woman of the same age (which was really rare in those times, 70s-80s). Charmed by her uniqueness, the dude decided to share numbers. They dated and we all know the rest."
"Not the nicest way to meet someone if you ask me hahah but quite a nice story."
Sksksksksksksk
"I was eating tacos in a mall food court. He walked by me and I thought he was cute but then I started choking on my taco and he looked at me weird and walked away. My friend with me went and got his number for me. 7 years ago. He told me he thought I was laughing at him. Thanks Taco Bell 😂"
Wings And Sex
"She first met me while dating my best friend and I was with another girl at the time."
"Years later, my best friend convinced me to hang out with her, called her up and invited her to Buffalo Wild Wings where he and I were hanging out."
"Since we had both already eaten, we walked across the parking lot to a bar. I played darts with friends wile drinking and talking to her a bit, then after the bar closed, we went back to our cars, started making out, decided there wasn't enough room inside, and f'ked with her bent over the hood of my car in Buffalo Wild Wings parking lot at 4am. It was a magical night we'll tell our grandchildren about one day."
Swiping Right
"Tinder! I had been dumped a few weeks earlier and wanted to just do me and not worry about anyone else for a bit. Well that got old fast so I downloaded the app and started swiping. We matched about a day later and spent a few days texting through the app before she gave me her number and then about a week later we met up for drinks. I was poor at the time, had just started a new job and missed the first pay period so we had one drink and then I made an excuse to leave because I couldn't afford anymore. We walked out and I gave her a hug saying bye and we should meet up again soon. We will be celebrating our two year in December!"
Next In Line
"My husband and I met while he was dating one of my friends in high school. Whoops."
"To my credit, they broke up after she cheated on him multiple times, so I don't feel like I violated girl code too badly."
They Call It Puppy Love
"My dog got her dog pregnant."
"I don't know how those two met because he's often chilling in my fenced backyard (without a leash, only a collar with my number in it) so he must have escaped and had a good time AND come back all in under one hour. One day she called me and yelled at me for not neutering him and let him roam freely. I yelled back at her for not spaying her dog and told her that my boy isn't walking around on the streets freely. We had a big argument about everything, my dog is the only one who could have gotten hers pregnant so I couldn't just do nothing."
"We talked it out and fell in love shortly after the puppies came :)"
Unromantically Romantic
"I met my wife at trivia at a local restaurant. She was cute, and we met amongst a group of friends. I found out she was working at Subway. She was a senior in high school, and I was a freshman in college. I stopped by that Subway one day with the intention of flirting, and managed to a bit.. until I realized she was buttering me up to get a ride home. Excited, I eagerly agreed. Then, I found out she was needing to get home to get ready for a date with another guy."
"We met again when she came to my University later that year. I was going to the comedy show with Carlos Mencia, and I was hammered drunk. Lo and behold, I stumble drunkenly into a group of girls, and I nearly topple her. We proceed to have a great night, and everything from there was history. Not particularly romantic though, lol."
High School Sweetheart
"I was shy in highschool. Senior year, I decided I needed to take initiative or I'd end up graduating without having had a girlfriend for my entire highschool career. I made a list of 3 girls that I wanted to introduce myself to. The next day, one of the girls was behind me as we all kinda gathered around the door to wait for the bell to ring at the end of our last period of the day. I turned around and asked her if she knew what the homework was (I knew there wasn't any). The bell rang as she was trying to answer, so we kinda had to start walking together for her to answer me. Then we started talking and ended up walking to our cars together. We did that for the rest of the week, then I asked her to see a movie with me that weekend. Now we've been together 12 years, are married, and have 2 daughters."
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What Started As A Joke
"Some bootycall agreement fwd was going around at work as a joke. I filled it out and gave it to the receptionist and she then filled out her portion. Then the next day I filled her out. 14 years and 2 kids later all is well."
Gregbot3000
The Timing Was Right
"Me and my husband met in a threesome I had with an ex (I did open relationships at the time). The sexual chemistry between us was very obvious from the jump, and over the years we became best friends that had an on-again-off-again sexual friendship whenever we were both single."
"8 years later, we both found ourselves single again and finally admitted that we were ridiculously in-love with each other. Been together and happily monogamous ever since."
Sometimes you meet the right people in the weirdest situations.
And that makes all the difference.
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