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People Share The Three Word Message They'd Share With Their 13-Year-Old Self

People Share The Three Word Message They'd Share With Their 13-Year-Old Self
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Sometimes I sit around and wish I could go back and deliver a message to my younger self.

I think about ways I could encourage her or people I would help her avoid. I think about the people I'd tell her to wait for.

I think about the years of crap medical care we could avoid.

And then I remember 13-year-old me didn't listen to anybody anyway. Me and my Sony Sports Walkman had better things to do than listen to some time traveler.

Reddit user KiwiPangolin asked:

"You meet your 13 year old self, but you can only tell them 3 words. What do you say and why?"

They say humans really only want health, wealth, and happiness ...

Turns out Reddit is not only much more hopeful about their 13-year-old selves than I am, but the answers pretty much all fell into one of those categories. Happiness won by a mile, though.

Warning: Unexpected Feels Trips Ahead.

Health - Your Teeth

Dentist GIFGiphy

"Brush your teeth."

- mynameisusama

"My teeth feel so much better since I started flossing after every meal a couple years ago."

"I floss after every meal I eat at home and it's a huge improvement."

- Zerilentix

"Can I show them my teeth as well? My 13 year old self wouldn't give a feck what my 30 year old self says unless I give physical examples. My teeth are, unfortunately, great examples of why."

- Andminus

Health - Don't

" 'Don't smoke, dumbass' "

"I smoked from 14 to 30. I tried quitting about 12 times and it never took."

"Then I talked to my doctor and she had me try a medication. After two or three weeks I didn't want to smoke. I finished the full two months prescription and have been nicotine free for six years."

"Don't give up. It is possible to quit, you just need to keep trying until you find what's right for you."

"Even if you can't quit completely, just try smoking less often."

- chef_in_va

"I told my Dad not to smoke every single day growing up."

"I used to throw fits when I was a kid because I knew how bad it was for him and I had watched my grandmother die from it at 64."

"He's made it to 73, but he virtually immobile due to COPD."

- AKSupplyLife

Wealth - Invest

"Invest Amazon 2003"

- uncaringbear

"Ah yes, because 13 year old who just hears an adult stranger saying 'invest amazon 2003' is totally going to start investing their pocket money in that."

- FartingBob

"You heavily invest in the Amazon rainforest only to have 70% of it destroyed by 2030."

"You are destitute."

- captaingigglesworth

Wealth - A Little Slap

Big Brother Fight GIF by 20th Century Fox Home EntertainmentGiphy

" 'No student loans.' "

"Then I'd slap myself to drive the point home."

- TravelingGleeman87

"And for me, a double slap—'Don’t ever co-sign!!' ”

- Sarcastic_babs

Happiness - Jeff


- AlmostAlwaysADR

"This is mine too, and it’s the same name. Jeff is a prick."

- noimneverserious

"I seriously dislike every person I've met named Jeff. It's incredible."

"My born again Christian uncle, a co-worker at a movie theater who was a close friend and then stabbed me in the back, a co-worker I had about two years ago who was so f*cking annoying and incompetent... all Jeff."

"I don't hate a lot of people but that's three people I do. Like 90 percent of people I hate are named Jeff."

- catsinspace

"Must be a Jeff thing. My 3 words would be 'Don't date Jeff' "

- [Reddit]

Happiness - 5 Years To Make A Difference

"Here’s what I’d do: first I’d show young-me my college ID pic that I took at 18 years old. I’m 23 now, so the image looks enough like me and enough like him for him to understand and believe who I am."

"Then I’d shout slowly but as loud as I can:"

“ 'Dad pancan 2017' ”

"Hopefully he’d look up what 'pancan' is, and see that it refers to pancreatic cancer."

"2017 is the year he got diagnosed with stage 4, he died 2 years later, but if we had checked even earlier we might’ve detected it sooner and at a smaller stage, he may have survived."

"I was 13 in 2012 so I’d have 5 years to make a difference if I got that message to myself."

"Hope I was smart enough at 13 where if this scenario had occurred I could’ve done something about it. If not, well… at least I’d know how much time I had left with him."

"Definitely could’ve appreciated him more, he was the best dad in the goddamn world."

- Philander_Chase

Happiness - Talk About It

water sea GIFGiphy

"Talk about drowning."

"When I was 12, I almost died in a rip tide on a trip with a friends family."

"The family I was with told my parents it was nothing (afraid of lawsuit perhaps) but told me that they had told my parents the whole story."

"Basically, the lifeguard saved me at the last minute, and the rip tides were so bad the beach was shut down for days afterwards."

"My parents never knew a life guard had to save me and were told I got scared and over reacted."

"The ptsd from almost dying (I had given up and was dying when the lifeguard reached me) led to depression and drug use as a teen."

"If my parents had known I truly gave up and thought I was dying and was ok with it, they would have gotten me therapy and my whole life would have been different."

- sassycatastrophe

Happiness - 30s Rock

" 'Wait two decades.' "

"She struggled with suicidal thoughts in her later teenage years and when her baby was first born."

"Knowing that The Good Sh*t (tm) happens when she's in her 30s should keep her going... and hopeful."

- insertcaffeine

"Mine was '30’s are AWESOME!' "

"My childhood and teenage years were good. My late 20s were the hardest years you can imagine."

"My life didn’t truly start until my 30’s. And I’m sure to tell as many teenagers as I can!"

- iluvcuppycakes

"35 here, and this is the truest thing."

"I was a young teen mom who struggled and struggled… just one thing after another, homeless for a short time, broke, domestic violence, etc, etc… until my 30s."

"Finally got to finish school, I don’t literally have to work 7 days a week while trying to be a good mom, and I’ve found a great 'balance' ”

"I’ve been looking for something my entire life. Not anymore."

"I’m able to prioritize being healthy and I’ve overcome the negative body issues (thinking I’m fat no matter what), but I’m still young enough to look and feel good."

"In all honesty, my 30s are the best times of my life, so far."

"I have time to listen and enjoy my kids, support their hobbies, businesses, and dreams. I finally own a home. I can finally go on vacations. 30s rock for me."

- Embarrassed-Tap9458

Happiness - Kimmy

" 'Yes Kimmy California.' "

"My sister wanted to move to California near where I was living."

"My life was really complicated at the time and I actively discouraged it. My marriage was a mess and I was afraid it would make it worse."

"She stayed where she was. About a year later she was killed by a drunk driver."

"My marriage ended."

"I would do literally anything to still have my sister here."

"Maybe that message to 13 year old me would make sense when it came up later and I would know to say yes when she asked about moving."

- purplecrazypants2

Happiness - Choose Art (?)

" 'Choose Art School.' "

"My entire college career was based on:"

" 'This will let me earn $X. Do business, do CS, do Cybersec. It’ll impress dad and the family. Artists starve and money = happiness anyways.' ”

"Made really good money in the business world before graduating and realised how little my degree helped me."

"All I wanted to do was animation for other people and that’s all I ever dream about."

"Should have done what I wanted to do instead of being a people-pleaser for so many years."

- Bryans-Ghost

"I did go to art school, and I was going to tell myself the exact opposite:"

" 'No art school!' "

"I wish I had done something practical like CS because it sucks to be financially unstable."

- lacksleepdna

Happiness - Dogs

Dogs Puppies GIF by MOODMANGiphy

"Always adopt dogs!"

"They give eternal, unconditional love, and help you to learn how to regulate your emotions and take care of others. I always thought I was too busy to take care of a pup. I wish I'd known how much it would help my depression and anxiety and just how freaking lovely they are to have around all the time."

- MarbleZee

Health - Authenticity

"Stop copying others"

- Kyndron

"Younger you: 'sToP cOpYiNg OtHeRs'."

- kAlb98

"Yeah this really held me back from a lot of things in life. I felt like I robbed myself of a lot of authentic experiences and yes I am happy where I’m at now. I have a daughter a nice job. Sometimes I think. 'If I wasn’t trying to be like others..where would I be?'."

- Embarrassed_Camel825

"Like, career-wise?"

- Dymonika

"It wasn’t so much my career, but more my personal life choices. A lot of my “interests” when I was young were simply because that’s what my friends were interested in. I wasn’t, but I wanted to fit in, so I copied them. Took me a long time to find myself."

-- Kyndron

Health - Say No To 'All Terrain Vehicles '

ride atv GIF by NOISEYGiphy

" 'Stay off ATVs'."

"Rolled a 4-wheeler when I was 16. Left leg has never been the same."

- Cloudkicker91

"I work in a pediatric operating room in an area where atvs are popular. Anytime the weather is nice and the kids are out of school, the number of add on surgeries we have for atv injuries is mind boggling."

"4 year old, shattered femur, atv rollover. 8 year old, broken left arm, atv roll over. 13 year old, atv ejection, emergency crani. Shattered pelvis, degloving of the leg, brain bleeds, punctured lungs... On and on and on. So much agony. So many kids. It's easily the number one cause of emergent surgery we do."

"In my book, putting a kid on an atv is about the same as giving an infant a loaded gun for a pacifier."

"I'm really only replying to you because I hope at least one person will read this thread, change their mind, and keep a kid out of the OR/morgue"

- YamGroundbreaking953

Happiness - Music

"Keep making music"

- [Reddit]

"There is taking a break to grow and then there are Darkages where you forsake your instrument and regress."

"They suck."

- CatOnProzac

"i needed to hear this, thank you bro"

- honkhonker22

"Ohh this one man. Hits hard on me. Because of fucking college I stopped producing music, it was my passion since 13, if only I could have listen to myself earlier. Depression messed me, I tried to combine both music and university but didn’t work out. At the end I sticked to college and got a degree like the rest. I felt i was different, I wasn’t like the others, i made music, art for people to feel better."

- mynameisdanii

Health - On The Spectrum

"You are autistic."

"That’s my three words. That would’ve solved so many god damn problems, knowing who I am"

"A PSA to other fellow autistics who struggle with it. Go get a trampoline and jump! It can rewire your brain. Also 15Hz beta waves help balance out the brain! Go try it out"

- kelcamer

"It would of helped me so much to understand why i'm so different. And I could of had a proper education"

- Mighty_Mac

"THIS. If only we had known when I was younger. It wasn't until I was a young adult that I got a diagnosis. Would have saved me from soooo many problems I was going through precisely at 13."

- Rawbbeh

Wealth - Pokémon Cards

Ash Ketchum Cartoon GIF by KennymaysGiphy

"Don't trade Charizard."

- facepwnage

"I wish I still knew where my holographic Charizard card was"

- TexasToast9

"I just resurfaced painful memories"

- clubdon

"I'm 30 now for reference and I think it was early high school when I made an ebay account and sold all my pokemon cards for like 50$. At the time making 50$ felt like winning the loto. I'm pretty sure I had charizard along with many other holos in mint condition. Oh well."

- muchostouche

Health - Abused

"You were abused"

- Bepis_drinker_cum

"I've been on reddit for almost 3 years and just bought coins for the first time for you! THIS, I always thought my feelings were invalid and 'people have it worse' , etc."

- MortalLilith

"The 'people have it worst' it's still pretty hard on me. For years I've thought that I was making a big deal out of something that wasn't 'that bad'."

- Natsume-Grace

"13 y/o you: 'No sh*t, sherlock'."

"You probably knew what was happening, but was unable to deal with it (legally, at least). Not your fault man, and your nice username"

- KokuRochu

Health - Therapy

"Go to therapy"

"I finally went to therapy in my mid 20s, and it improved my quality of life so much."

- cornygiraffe

" I'm not sure where my life would have lead had I been medicated 23 years earlier. I'm happy where I am now, but I can hardly imagine decades of suffering were necessary."

- Pleaselobotomize

"This is so important, it's unfortunate though when your parents and their culture don't believe in it"

- CXyber

So what would YOU tell your 13 -year-old self?

And do you think you'd have listened anyway?

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People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.