People Confess The Real Reason They Never Went To Their Class Reunion
"Reddit user Throwyz asked: 'People who never went to their class reunions, why?'"
In movies and television, school reunions look like tons of fun.
Everybody attends and hilarity ensues.
But in real life, there is a lot of mystery surrounding these events.
Who plans them?
Who pays for them?
Why would anyone really go?
After decades start to pass, these people are really just strangers.
And it's also proof of aging.
Who needs other old people wandering around reminding you you're old?
Redditor Throwyz wanted to know why people chose to skip school reunions, so they asked:
"People who never went to their class reunions, why?"
My high school reunion was ok.
The sexy guys were still handsome.
That was all I cared about.
Who Cares
I Dont Care Shrug GIF by Puss In Boots Giphy"I don’t care about the people I went to school with."
SnooLemons5609
"Same. Who cares. I stayed in touch with those I cared about. The end."
TinyNightLight
A Selective Process
"I keep in touch with the people from high school I want to keep in touch with. No need to go to a mediocre event and be judged by the others."
Leeser
"Living in the age of Facebook everyone I care about from high school knows what's going on in their lives already. Anyone I actually want to interact with I already do."
mousicle
The In-Crowd
"Didn't want to be there as a kid, so had no desire to return."
MahStonks
"This is the answer. I've skipped all of my class reunions and never regretted it."
"But one of my friends decided to go to a class reunion a few years back. He said it was amazing (or scary if you will) how quickly old group dynamics re-emerged, even 30-plus years later."
"The guys and gals who made up the 'in-crowd' back around 1988/89 had mainly peaked at 16. Everyone acted much more mature, obviously, but he said the whole affair got really cliquey really quick. Like I said, I never regretted not going."
Fresh-Hedgehog1895
Not Welcome
"First of all, I wasn’t invited. I’m still as invisible to them as I was back then. Second of all, f**k those clowns."
Sweet_Platypus4981
"LOL, me too. I wasn't invited to the five-year reunion, and I still lived in the same town! I randomly worked with an old classmate, and she told me that the official list had me under 'could not find.' It was just so hilariously petty. I considered writing a note to suggest that they simply consult the local directory for my name but decided I didn't care enough."
ChangeTheFocus
Peaks and Lows
I Know Right Mean Girls GIF by filmeditor Giphy"I feel like reunions are for all the popular kids who peaked in high school who want to return to either gloat about how successful they are or to relive the 'good old days' if they weren’t."
ScoutJulep
The popular kids always have to show up and show out.
Even when their lives fall apart.
Irrelevant
Romy And Micheles High School Reunion Interview GIF Giphy"Are class reunions a thing in the time of social media? We can find out everything we want from everyone we ever met should we choose to do so."
Lumpy-pad
Forget Them
"I stay in touch with my best buddies from high school and university, don't care enough about anyone else to make the effort of traveling for a reunion."
Bu**holeQuiver
"This indeed. Half of this thread is people going 'f**k those guys.' I literally don't care. Hope they're doing well in a general sense but if I wanted a follow-up, I would've gone after it sooner. I can't be ar*ed."
Hotemetoot
"Exactly the same reason for me. If I was still local, I probably would have gone, but it was not worth traveling almost 1000 miles round trip."
SharksFan1
Nightmares
"I was bullied, had my property vandalized repeatedly and permanently (my car was keyed to sh*t more than once), got in fights, had inappropriate comments made by teachers. Why the actual f**k would I travel out of state and pay hundreds of dollars for a ticket to be surrounded by those memories?"
Chaotic-NTRL
Didn't Know Most Of Them Then
"I graduated with 450 people and I didn’t even know most of them then. I personally think class reunions are for people who want to brag about how much money they have or how great their kids are. Show off the new plastic surgery. Why the f**k would I go to something like that? Later losers!"
lunalovegood17
Never Look Back
"I hated HS, couldn't wait to get out, hated where I grew up, felt like a caged animal, and my life only got better after leaving there. Didn't look back and didn't want to look back. Now 55 and retired with lots of good years in front of me."
Important_Outcome_67
"This is relatable. Plus, I already know how all of those people from high school are doing-- they're all wasting away their lives in a shitty small town, still living out the same drama from 12 years ago. And I'd rather not hear all about their latest MLM bullsh**t. Enjoy your retirement!!"
Think_Doughnut628
The Quest
"Millennial here graduated from HS in the mid-to-late 00s."
"I'm still close with a core group of friends from HS. Those I'm not friends with, but still cordial acquaintances with, I keep up with through Facebook, which I'm slowly trying to remove from my life aside from my Quest 2 and looking at cat pics and vids on Instagram."
"I wasn't very popular in high school. I have some great friends from then, but I was also relentlessly bullied. Seeing as I can keep up with the positive parts of my life from then via just talking to my friends, why go back to the people who bullied me? I don't think about them anymore, I'd rather live my life without communicating with them."
tacobelmont
Decades Past
Aging Matt Damon GIF Giphy"I haven’t spoken to a single person from my high school class in over 20 years. I never really liked many of them back then so I’m damn sure not wasting time going to a reunion. Also I never even got an invite."
Technick83
As time passes, you care less.
Wish others well, but you don't have to know them forever.
People really need to think first.
Some questions, no matter how innocent, are not appropriate.
But the people with the questions never seem to care, so the gravity of the question is always on the person questioned.
Most people shake it off and just deal with the unease.
But maybe it's time to chat about what makes a good conversation.
So many times I know my face has said...
"Did you really just ask that?"
Redditor chickenoodlesoupp wanted to hear about some of the times we've been asked something that left us a bit uneasy.
So they asked:
"What’s the most uncomfortable question you can ask someone?"
I've been asked so many stupid things I can't even begin to remember.
Siblings
Parks And Recreation Nbc GIF by HULUGiphy"Do you have a sister by chance?"
umpalumpamonkey
"This is made worse if the asking person is male and the receiving person is female and both are single."
BlandJars
Hold Me
"Where’s my hug?"
Lalalalanay
"Lol this gives me some flashbacks. After work on a Friday I was saying goodbye to ones of my friends and a gave her a hug. Here comes Brett 'Hey, where's my hug?' So I give him the biggest bear hug, the kind that traps their arms at their sides, and picked him up off the ground."
"There's your hug Brett. My friend said he didn't ask much after that, but you bet your b*lls I'd tell Brett 'Hey Brett, I got your hug right here buddy' with outstretched arms. He would give me an uncomfortable look like ew gross. Yeah Brett, that's how you are making everyone feel."
myusernamebarelyfits
Findings
"Hey, can we have a talk about your search history?"
SumoSamurottorSSPBCC
"For my generation that is 'Can we have a talk about what I found under your bed?'"
"I'm an adult now tho so I leave porn mags on the coffee table. Nothing funnier than watching a guest look through the magazines in your living room while you serve coffee only to find a Hustlers in the middle of the pile and not know what to say as you sit and stare at them."
P00PY-PANTS
Don't Ask
"Why don't you have any children? I was a chronic miscarryier. My son is a super duper miracle."
kcooper1214
"Came here to say the same thing. I have one child, during the labor they both were very close to dying. The doc said if she gets pregnant again she will lose the child and possible die in the process."
"I ended up getting a vasectomy very shortly after. We’re incredibly grateful and happy with our little family; but without fail, we always get the same question: 'So when you getting a little brother or sister?' I don’t mind as much when people ask me or my wife, but ask my son? Why?"
Danfu777
Ouch
Will Smith Reaction GIF by Red Table TalkGiphy“How come I wasn’t invited?”
Real_sg4bomb
"I was once invited to a party... at the end of which the hostess asked me 'How do you keep finding out about these?'"
"That freaking stung. Never talked to them again."
Well, that is just a step above cruel.
Speak!
"'Why are you so quiet?'"
spamcritic
"This makes my blood boil. I’m a fairly quiet person in social settings and have received this question a few times. It makes you AND the people around you feel awkward. Like... let people be quiet if they want to be. Not everyone is a social butterfly!"
justaregularderp
Loathing
"Why does everyone hate you so much?"
"I hate this one so much. I lived in a small town so everybody knew everybody. High school was rough, I didn't know how to stick up for myself and soon became the scape goat for bullies and rumors."
"Once our Sr. Year people matured a little and started being nicer to me. I made a lot of friends suddenly and all of them would ask 'Why does everybody hate you, you're not like they say.' It was awkward because most of those people were the ones contributing to the rumors/bullying."
PlanBaccount0987
Shots
"If you come in the back office with me right now, just you and me, are you gonna be cool about it, or be a snitch? Asked by my old boss at a grocery store, he just was offering me shots of fireball because it was almost closing time on New Years Eve, but that phrasing."
pdxblazer
"White male privilege here, but that wouldn't make me uncomfortable at all. Like, I'm game, if we get back there and it is something super sketch, I'll just dip out."
TeleKenetek
Let's Chat
Scrolling Michelle Obama GIF by ObamaGiphy"Hey we need to talk. This is the worst, especially over text."
SubnautGames
"My boss texted me the other day, 'Call me.' My blood turned to ice. Of course it ended up being some inconsequential thing he had a question about."
coffeeordeath85
Sometimes silence is best.
Do you have similar things to add? Let us know in the comments below.
Sometimes people let their minds run wild when thinking of others.
How do people even conjure such nonsense?
It feels like every person can actually be living in their own personal tabloid.
The things humans will believe.
Redditor redditusernameiforgo wanted to hear all the tea we sip about ourselves.
So they asked:
"What is the weirdest rumour you heard about yourself?"
A lot of my rumors were dull. I'm disappointed. Tell me yours.
Total
Freedom Feet GIF by HysteriaGiphy"That I had 6 toes. Not on one foot, but in total."
BioluminescentNewt
Bad Kiss
"Somebody spread a rumor that I purposefully gave their cat acid by making out with the cat while I had acid on my tongue. They claim their cat has never been the same. I have never french kissed a cat and I would never risk poisoning an animal."
bfraley9
"I notice you don't deny the acid though."
googlerex
Who?
"That my best friend and I had a threesome with this one dude in high school. Until the day I heard that rumor, I had no idea who that guy was."
julesdarula
"There was a rumor that I had sex with a random guy too! Apparently he was the one who started it. When I heard it, someone had to point him out to me because I’d never seen the kid before in my life… smh."
pahpahlahYou're Alive!
"That I was dead. I got in a bad car wreck in high school and an off duty nurse was first in the scene. She happened to have a white blanket to cover me up with because I was laying on the ground and it was cold. A classmate drove by and saw my car and a body under a white blanket. I missed the next day of school because I was too sore. When I came in the day after that everyone gasped and said they heard I had died in a car wreck."
Gunn_Show
WTF?
Season 17 What GIF by America's Got TalentGiphy"I got Shingles in 7th grade. I was taken out of school on 9/8/2001. Didn't come back for 2 weeks. Apparently, there was a rumor started that I was one of the pilots on 9/11. Kids are wild."
Therew0lf17
People have more imagination than they give themselves credit for.
Was it you?
Independence Day Happy 4Th Of July GIFGiphy"There was a rumor In my high school that I slept with all my friend's moms. Had several classmates who I didn't really know come up to me and with grave concern ask if I slept with their mother."
wittymoviereference
I love mom
"I killed my mother. This went around in high school. While I was in high school. Like somehow I was going to be there in class with them if this were remotely true. It kept me from getting bullied though. FYI I called my mom yesterday and sang happy birthday to her, so..."
Last-Place-Trophy
The Twin
"That I was a criminal with a warrant and needed to be in jail. Then the cops showed up because, low and behold, in the paper there was a person who looked f**king exactly like me with a warrant. Got cleared up real fast, but damn if I don't have a near identical twin jacka** out there."
KhaosElement
"My mom had frequent visits from the cops because a local petty criminal had the exact same first middle and last name as her. F**king rough being the good clone."
zairethorn
In French
"In school in Ireland a girl asked her ex about me because we were in the same class and in a bid to put her off he told her that I was French, that I wrote poetry, I payed chess and being half English I ate crumpets all the time."
"She still dated me and it made for very interesting conversation on our first date so it kinda backfired on him. What emo teen wouldn’t want to date a French guy who writes poems??"
Spooky_Cron
For Calamari?
octopus GIFGiphy"That I was breeding octopuses for their ink to use in my printer. Spread it myself though as a joke in school, but it caught on and the whole year below me believed it and even asked about it to my friends. Been a while ago but still makes me chuckle."
Theli-Abraxas-Nox
Oh gossip, it keeps fun alive.
What's the weirdest rumor you've ever heard? Let us know in the comments below.
People Confess The Juicy Gossip They've Learned In Their Personal Life
I definitely don't endorse gossiping. Do it all you want, just keep me out of it.
Like many people though, while I definitely don't like being involved in drama, I get a vicarious thrill from hearing about it.
Hearing juicy gossip is like watching an actual soap opera unfold in your own town. It's truly something.
It turns out that people are sitting on all sorts of secrets.
We heard some of them after Redditor jonhart989 asked the online community:
"What's some juicy gossip you just found out in your personal lives?"
"One student a few years back..."
"I teach kindergarten! One student a few years back was acting off, super hyper and behaving in ways she never had. When asked if she had taken her peanut butter at home (code for her ADHD medicine, as it was administered in a spoonful of peanut butter), she told us that her mom sold all of her peanut butter to some guy in their trailer park named Steve."
[deleted]
Oh dear. This tells you a lot about the environment that young girl lives in.
"I've heard so many stories."
"Hairdresser here, I've heard so many stories. People truly tell their personal business to their hairdressers as if we're therapists."
"Had a client, sweet middle aged woman, she brought up Scientology. Having heard and watched that show about it I went in about it. "Oh they're absolutely crazy, blah blah blah..." And, she blurts out that her son is a Scientologist."
"I wanted to sink into the floor, then had to backtrack and, agree about all of these "nice" things that they do and how, yeah, you're right, DEFINITELY not a cult. Yikes."
glizzygobbler0707
It's totally a cult.
Shame she doesn't see it.
"A local CEO..."
"A local CEO of a telecom company secretly disappears every winter for two weeks. He doesn't tell anyone where he goes. He's married and has children. One of my department's paramedics is gay and goes on gay cruises in the Caribbean. He spotted the CEO on one of the cruises during one of his disappearances."
markko79
That Atlantis Cruise sure wakes up people's inner desires, doesn't it?
"The mayor's wife..."
"The mayor's wife cheated on him with a member of the town council and then they got into a fist fight during a council meeting."
[deleted]
This is definitely juicy! Well, the whole town definitely found out what was up after that!
"My friend..."
"My friend just dropped out of university to become an escort. He's happier, apparently."
daveofreckoning
Hey, if they are, more power to them!
Sex work is real work.
"My parents aren't going to lend out anymore..."
"That my brother asked my mom for a $1000 for rent, she gave him $1400 so he could also pay back a loan. Then he turned around and also asked my dad for $1000 for rent which he also gave him. He then turned around and used the money to buy tickets to Burning Man."
"My parents aren't going to lend out anymore money without talking to each other first."
hammerkat605
I find it odd that a spouse wouldn't bring up that they'd lent money to someone...
"I just found out..."
"I just found out my neighbour has been having an affair with another one of my neighbours and the kids figured it out."
yung_neill
Nancy Drew and the Oh No Our Parents Are Banging.
Awkward.
"My ex..."
"My ex after one week of being single started dating this SoundCloud rapper and now she’s pregnant with twins. We’re still in our teens."
exKlus
But do his songs slap, tho?
Seriously, though, this is a wild ride.
"My dad is having an affair..."
"My dad is having an affair. Just found out 30 mins ago. Mom is devastated although I had my suspicions. They've been married for 46 years. Dad is 73."
rayrayrayray
This is so heartbreaking, especially after such a long marriage.
"That my uncle..."
"That my uncle left my auntie for the phone sex line worker he was calling for the last three years."
TortoroMei
This is somehow so existentially sad...
There's no doubt that if you prick up your ears, you'll hear something juicy. Just don't gossip yourself. It definitely won't end well.
If there was one thing every high school has in common, it's gossip.
Be it about two students who were secretly dating, a teacher who was up to no good behind the scenes, or that the girls bathroom on the lower level was haunted, every high school had their share of outrageous rumors.
But, did any of the truly unbelievable rumors from your high school actually turn out to be true?
Redditor Sam_21000 was eager to know of any high school gossip previously assumed to be fiction but later proven to be fact, leading them to ask:
"What was 'the big rumor' in your high school, did turn out to be true?"
Poaching the best atheletes
"Athletics coordinator was fudging documents on kids’ addresses so they would be able to go to our school instead of others in the district."
"We won like five state championships that year."- SL1Fun
That's "Doctor" to you!
"'Dr' Palermo, the band teacher never received his doctorate in music like he claimed."
"It was weird, he use to force all his students to address him as 'Dr', but when he came back from his leave of absence we all called him by 'Mr' like nothing happened."- googlyevileye
An underground operation!
"When I was a freshman some seniors were counterfeiting money."
"This was around 2004-05."
"They made some pretty convincing bills and spent them around town (including the school cafeteria)."
"That year I learned that the secret service has a counterfeit investigations department."- DLun203
Not fit to be a teacher
"That one of the English teachers used to physically assault kids."
"No one believed it because he was elderly and very kind."
"One day he told our class that back in the 80s when he was teaching any time a kid got mouthy or started a fight in his classroom he would pick them up physically and throw them out of his class."
"He gave a kid a concussion once because he bounced his head off a locker."
"They sent him to anger management classes but he stayed teaching at the school until his retirement."- dopiesarmy
Horrible acts never to be erased
"Not nearly as exciting as some of the replies, but at my old high school I was always told that if you go to school after dark, in certain conditions you'd see a bunch of swastikas painted on the brick walls of the building."
"I thought it was fake bc 'if they're really painted on there why cant you see them at all times'.
"One night I stayed late for an art club meeting."
"We were studying photo exposure and playing with some light tubes to make cool pictures, so we were having the meeting outside in the dark."
"As we were messing around I approached the building from a certain angle and saw them."
"Idk if it was spray paint that got scrubbed off and left some kind of residue/chemical on the bricks, or if someone sprayed them with clear coat or something, but there were very obviously swastikas on the wall."- CliffLanterns
The line that should never be crossed.
"That the English teacher had been sleeping with students."
"I found out when I was a freshman in 2008."
"Fast forward 8 years later, the chemistry teacher got caught and decided to bring the English teacher down with him to get some heat off his back."
"A total of three teachers went to jail."- backyardkinny
21 Jump Street?
"That a new student was actually a police officer."
"He was and the idiots were busted for selling drugs."- LilMissStormCloud
A truly heartbreaking story
"There was an 18-year-old freshman who was pregnant, and there was a joke spread that this was her 4th kid."
"They said she was first pregnant at 12 years old and that was why she never finished 9th grade."
"I actually made friends with her because we both walked the mile in PE, and I felt bad that people were spreading this rumor and making fun of someone who obviously is trying to better themselves for their baby."
"Well, turns out, it was actually her 5th kid."
"She had one set of twins at the age of 13."
"Then at 14 she was trying to be a mother of 2 and finish 9th grade, but she got pregnant again and dropped out."
"I realize now that the entire situation was very concerning."
"I hope she got some guidance."- zapsquad
A hard lesson learned, which he can continue to teach
"That an english teacher was using heroin."
"It’s pretty sad actually."
"He was just a regular guy who destroyed his knee."
"So after surgery he got painkillers, got hooked on them, and then eventually started using heroin."
"Nobody really believed it until he abruptly went on leave."
"He was gone for most of the school year and when he eventually got sober and came back, he told his story to the students to try to show them how dangerous that stuff is, and confirmed everything to be true."- Mirraco323
Who did they think they would fool?
"On a ski trip, the PhysEd teacher allegedly porked the science teacher."
"Someone saw him go in to her room in the middle of the night."
"They denied it but years later they got married."- PlanetOfTheAprons
How did he get the job in the first place?
"Coming into high school as a freshman, one of the first tips given to me was 'if any of your classes are taught by Mr. J, request a transfer out of that class immediately'."
"Luckily, I never had him as a teacher but a few of my close friends did."
"During my first year I heard he was a creep, touching girls in ways that made them uncomfortable, making weird comments, etc."
"I remember one day walking past his class with my friend, who had him as a teacher, and he yelled out to her 'why were you gone yesterday?', to which she replied 'it was my birthday, I’m 15 now!'"
"He winked at her and said 'so close to being 18!'"
"My friend and I turned the corner away from his classroom and stared at each other in disbelief."
"One day close to spring break we heard a rumor that his classroom had been mic’d up, and police were investigating him."
"I guess they found something, because Mr. J never returned after spring break."- fvcksoff
Rebellious at a depressingly young age
"Not in high school but in middle."
"There was a sixth grader on my friends bus who was vaping while on the bus."
"The faculty didn’t know who it was, so they called all kids on bus 2, the bus the kid was on, down to the office to question them like it was some police interview."
"Eventually, some kid tattled and the kids bag was searched, they ended up finding 7 vapes and a couple pocket knifes."
"About a month later there was another 6th grader, on the same bus but that’s not really relevant, who brought booze to the high school football game."
"No one knows how he got it, and he was taken in a cops car."
"That same kid also apparently set fire to a public bathroom but there was no proof and it was probably just a thing people were saying."- Remarkable-Rule-4423
What sort of "guidance" was she really offering?
"Guidance counselor, woman, sleeping with one of the drama students, boy."
"Rumored to be happening during high school and came out to be true after he graduated."
"She divorced her husband, and they were supposedly seeing each other for a time."- matty_the_demon
Let's hope she was dared to do this...
"That a girl named Victoria, in my grade but not my classes, put a hotdog in her hooter at a party."
"That tube of mystery meat broke off inside her and they had to remove it from inside her at the hospital."
"It was indeed true and she was called 'Icky Vicky' until graduation."- ReferenceOk7943
A loophole if there ever was one...
"That the daughter of the band teacher, born again Christian family, was all about anal because she needed to save her virginity for marriage."
"Apparently it was absolutely true."- fluffy_navel
Where do you even begin?
"That a dude was selling e-cigarettes."
"He was in second grade."- Diamondtrolis164
Barely even tried to hide it...
"One of the girls from my class was dating the biology teacher. "
"They were never explicit about it in school, but he had a clear favoritism for her during class, and after she graduated they let it out officially on Facebook."
"The bonus: the girl’s mother was our language teacher, so the girl was dating her mom’s coworker."- lenalc
Dangerous games
"Freshman year, someone called a threat in."
"Someone said it was a fellow Freshman my friends and I were close to."
"Police raided his locker."
"Someone said they found a 'punch' list."
"Bout a week later he texts me."
"Apparently he called two upperclassmen girls stupid so they started the rumor to get back at him."
"Police figured it out cause their answers were rehearsed, scripted."
"They still tried to expel him."
"Didn’t work."
"Nothin happened to the girls though."- YaHoomanFlame
The people they let teach children...
"One of the teachers called a student a disgrace because of the way he read a sentence."
"I was at school, 1st period, we had RS with a teacher that we will call Mr. A**hole."
"We were halfway through the lesson when Mr. A**hole called out one of my classmates to read to the class."
"This kid had a very strong accent so when he started reading, Mr. A**hole stopped him and called him a 'disgrace' for how he spoke."
"We told our form tutor what had happened but he still teaches us to this day."- TheManicCat2
At least not a rumor anyone should hide.
The big rumour was I will be a doctor and it came true."- Hungry-Theme-5031
It must be said, most rumors begin from an element of truth.
Even though I'm sure there are many people who still can't believe these rumors weren't just the work of devious children.