The Most Uncomfortable Questions People Have Ever Been Asked
Reddit user Dr_Cloying asked: 'What's the most uncomfortable question you've ever been asked?'
Everyone jokes about not liking small talk and how ridiculous it is to talk about the weather, sports, and the traffic all the time.
But compared to the most uncomfortable questions someone might ask, those dull topics might be the way to go.
Redditor Dr_Cloying asked:
"What's the most uncomfortable question you've ever been asked?"
Almost Arrested
"Have you been dancing with my wife?"
"From an angry cop as his wife and I exited a country bar where we had danced for hours."
"Note: I met her there and she told me she was single."
- PantsDownDontShoot
Truthful Kids
"A small child crawled under the stall I was using and immediately asked me why I didn’t have hair down there."
- mahhhhhh
Lose-Lose Question
"'Am I fat?' from a random middle-aged woman I’ve never met before while I was at work."
"She completely caught me off guard."
- xanhadd
Jokes on Demand
"Can you tell me a joke?"
"My friend passed away in his early 20s and I was at his wake when his mom said she remembers hearing that I'm funny (I'm not) and asked me that question."
- Ok-Resolution-9625
Spectrum Radar
"My brother was asked by a girl on a first date if he had Autism."
"As it turns out, he did, but it was undiagnosed up to that point."
- PrometheusHasFallen
Adoption Costs
"'How much did you cost?' I’m adopted."
- RambleJar
"My sweet 10-year-old boy just came back from summer camp. He told me one of the boys in his cabin was a foster child and didn't have a family."
"He asked, 'Can we buy him?'"
"I gently explained that the correct term was 'adopt,' lol (laughing out loud)."
- yourmomprobably
The Most Important Question
"Some weeks ago, my mum asked me, 'Are you happy?'"
"That question hit me deeper than anything else."
- BuDDah77
Disability Awareness
"'What did you do to yourself?'"
"I was a kid with leg braces and a physical disability I was born with."
"I always replied with, 'I was born…'"
- Famous-Tumbleweed-98
Child Loss
"At the start of the pandemic, my hospital asked all pregnant staff to go home and shield. I was very early in the pregnancy and had had two previous miscarriages that no one at work knew about."
"Everyone found out why I was shielding, because what other reason did a doctor have to not work during the pandemic?"
"I ultimately had another miscarriage and came back a few months later."
"A male colleague I was friendly with said, 'It's so good to see you back, what did you have?' (Assuming I had the baby.)"
"I said, 'A miscarriage.'"
"(He literally stopped in his tracks, apologized a ton, and was extra gentle around me for a few weeks. I've got an amazing two-year-old now and am due with my second any day. )"
- DrBasia
Apparel Reveal
"Because of the size of my chest, people automatically think it's acceptable to ask what bra size I am/how big are they."
- SaraSmashley
Inappropriate Dates
"I got asked for my number by an overbearing sales canvas guy in town. He was way older than me and I was only 16. Ugh."
- c0mpromised
Invasive Questions
"I'm a disabled veteran and when some people learn that they say, 'Really, what's your disability?' which I find to be an invasive and highly personal question."
- Backsight-Foreskin
Digging Up the Past
"Because I have military tattoos and Dog tags and a tattoo of a rifle driven into the ground on my arm, it is clear I served overseas."
"I get asked by strangers all the time, 'Did you ever kill anyone, did you have any friends die, did any friends die in your arms, did you see anyone die, what is the worst thing you saw?'"
"I get that people are curious but holy f**k, who asks questions like that."
- Irondaddy_29
Dating Scene
"On the third night that my wife was in the hospital for blood clots, a nurse asked me, 'If she passes away, how long before you start dating again?'"
"WHAT?!"
"I told her that, 'Should she die, YOU are the first person I'll have investigated.'"
"I never saw that RN again the rest of my wife's stay in the hospital."
- GeneOTheGreen
In Need of a Filter
"I have a stepdaughter. She’s fair-skinned and has red hair. A clerk at a store asked me two days ago where she got her light skin, saying I’m much darker."
"That might not have been the MOST uncomfortable question I’ve been asked, but it’s a recent example of an uncomfortable question."
- Dovleti
These were undeniably unreasonable questions for someone to ask another person, especially if that is a person they do not know well.
As boring as it might be, sometimes it's best to stick with talking about the weather.
People really need to think first.
Some questions, no matter how innocent, are not appropriate.
But the people with the questions never seem to care, so the gravity of the question is always on the person questioned.
Most people shake it off and just deal with the unease.
But maybe it's time to chat about what makes a good conversation.
So many times I know my face has said...
"Did you really just ask that?"
Redditor chickenoodlesoupp wanted to hear about some of the times we've been asked something that left us a bit uneasy.
So they asked:
"What’s the most uncomfortable question you can ask someone?"
I've been asked so many stupid things I can't even begin to remember.
Siblings
Parks And Recreation Nbc GIF by HULUGiphy"Do you have a sister by chance?"
umpalumpamonkey
"This is made worse if the asking person is male and the receiving person is female and both are single."
BlandJars
Hold Me
"Where’s my hug?"
Lalalalanay
"Lol this gives me some flashbacks. After work on a Friday I was saying goodbye to ones of my friends and a gave her a hug. Here comes Brett 'Hey, where's my hug?' So I give him the biggest bear hug, the kind that traps their arms at their sides, and picked him up off the ground."
"There's your hug Brett. My friend said he didn't ask much after that, but you bet your b*lls I'd tell Brett 'Hey Brett, I got your hug right here buddy' with outstretched arms. He would give me an uncomfortable look like ew gross. Yeah Brett, that's how you are making everyone feel."
myusernamebarelyfits
Findings
"Hey, can we have a talk about your search history?"
SumoSamurottorSSPBCC
"For my generation that is 'Can we have a talk about what I found under your bed?'"
"I'm an adult now tho so I leave porn mags on the coffee table. Nothing funnier than watching a guest look through the magazines in your living room while you serve coffee only to find a Hustlers in the middle of the pile and not know what to say as you sit and stare at them."
P00PY-PANTS
Don't Ask
"Why don't you have any children? I was a chronic miscarryier. My son is a super duper miracle."
kcooper1214
"Came here to say the same thing. I have one child, during the labor they both were very close to dying. The doc said if she gets pregnant again she will lose the child and possible die in the process."
"I ended up getting a vasectomy very shortly after. We’re incredibly grateful and happy with our little family; but without fail, we always get the same question: 'So when you getting a little brother or sister?' I don’t mind as much when people ask me or my wife, but ask my son? Why?"
Danfu777
Ouch
Will Smith Reaction GIF by Red Table TalkGiphy“How come I wasn’t invited?”
Real_sg4bomb
"I was once invited to a party... at the end of which the hostess asked me 'How do you keep finding out about these?'"
"That freaking stung. Never talked to them again."
Well, that is just a step above cruel.
Speak!
"'Why are you so quiet?'"
spamcritic
"This makes my blood boil. I’m a fairly quiet person in social settings and have received this question a few times. It makes you AND the people around you feel awkward. Like... let people be quiet if they want to be. Not everyone is a social butterfly!"
justaregularderp
Loathing
"Why does everyone hate you so much?"
"I hate this one so much. I lived in a small town so everybody knew everybody. High school was rough, I didn't know how to stick up for myself and soon became the scape goat for bullies and rumors."
"Once our Sr. Year people matured a little and started being nicer to me. I made a lot of friends suddenly and all of them would ask 'Why does everybody hate you, you're not like they say.' It was awkward because most of those people were the ones contributing to the rumors/bullying."
PlanBaccount0987
Shots
"If you come in the back office with me right now, just you and me, are you gonna be cool about it, or be a snitch? Asked by my old boss at a grocery store, he just was offering me shots of fireball because it was almost closing time on New Years Eve, but that phrasing."
pdxblazer
"White male privilege here, but that wouldn't make me uncomfortable at all. Like, I'm game, if we get back there and it is something super sketch, I'll just dip out."
TeleKenetek
Let's Chat
Scrolling Michelle Obama GIF by ObamaGiphy"Hey we need to talk. This is the worst, especially over text."
SubnautGames
"My boss texted me the other day, 'Call me.' My blood turned to ice. Of course it ended up being some inconsequential thing he had a question about."
coffeeordeath85
Sometimes silence is best.
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