Worried People Share The Fastest Way They've Seen Someone Wreck Their Life.
"Don't do drugs. Make good choices. Stay in school." We've heard that mantra over and over again from teachers, parents, and guidance counsellors but in the end we will make the decisions we make regardless of the advice we've been given. Sometimes it all works out for the best, but there's always negative consequences to making risky decision.
People on Reddit were asked: "What's the fastest way you have seen somebody screw their life up?" These are some of the saddest answers.
A doctor in an emergency department writing prescriptions for oxycodone and diazepam to be filled by their partner in crime who would then sell them for recreational use. They were caught when a patient in the emergency department shouted out "That's my dealer" as the doctor walked past.
EM_doc
Caught a CPA candidate cheating on the UFE last week. 4 years of college and 4 years of prep to become a CPA. Student now banned from the CPA for ethics violation. Immediately lost job. Sucks to be them. Professional code of ethics violations are serious issues.
Ack_Nak
My cousin got too drunk one night. His brother put him in a taxi home and told the driver he would get paid when dropped off at his mum's.
Cousin is so drunk he doesn't realise this and starts freaking out about having no money and demands the taxi driver lets him out. Cousin getting angry about it so taxi driver does.
The road he is out on is the M8, the biggest motorway in Scotland - quiet at night, but still cars coming down.
Cousin is walking ON the motorway, all over the place. Two cars swerve round him, one of which pulls over and rings the police. While on the phone to police she hears a massive thud and screeching breaks. Some poor guy on the way home from work, on the same road he always drives down, at the same time, hit him.
My cousin is dead. If he hadn't of drank so much, or reacted in such a way he would be alive. The driver who hit him will be scarred for life, the taxi driver will have the "what if" in his life for ever. My aunt is severely depressed, a recluse who doesn't go out, after 10 years she still hasn't cleared out his room. Four lives screwed up quite quickly.
HearingSword
At my school this week some idiot posted a picture of a fake gun on his Snapchat story saying "Don't go to school tomorrow." That kid is now in jail.
lllELIOTOlll
I had a friend in high school who got a full ride athletic scholarship to a regionally-prestigious college. He was all set to go when his mom and girlfriend begged him to stay in town instead because they loved him so much and couldn't bear for him to be away. So he gave up his full scholarship and stayed home instead.
Within a year his girlfriend had dumped him and his mom had kicked him out of the house. The opportunity had passed, and now he was living in town without the things he'd sacrificed that opportunity for.
Granted, it looks like he's happy based on current Facebook (who doesn't look happy on Facebook, really) but things really went to crap for him quick.
Kijafa
The night of my high school graduation, one of the valedictorians got arrested for underage drinking. She was supposed to go to some big-name college but ended up at community college because she lost her scholarships. I don't know what happened to her after that.
krisfunk27
I have a relative that married a guy she thought she could change. She couldn't.
cpqarray
A friend I met during Freshman year of college came in with thousands of dollars saved from refereeing for youth sports, which I guess pays pretty well. He spent all of that money in about a month--he did ecstasy nearly every day and had a 2 week coke binge on top of that in the middle. Despite my and others' efforts to get him to get his life together, he was kicked out of the school with a .28 GPA by the end of his first year.
From there he was kicked out of family homes for stealing money and prescription meds and ended up living out of a yellow convertible someone sold him for $300. From all this was born some sort of eating disorder, I met up with him and bought him some food and he couldn't even fit 3 garlic knots in before he felt sick. He was so screwed that his skin was basically purple with a yellowish sheen. It was awful.
We lost touch because he kept being a jerk and did some pretty meh things on the friend-scale, but I ran into him a few years ago and he was actually doing pretty well--a girl had helped him clean up and he had some life in his face again.
HelloIAmHawt
Rich kid shot a parking attendant and killed him. The short story is he went to a basketball game, wanted to park in a handicapped spot and tried to bribe the parking attendant. Guy wasn't having it, so he got out of his car and tried to start something. Rich kid ends up getting beat up by parking attendant and goes back to his car, gets his gun and shoots him dead. Dude had a young son.
Anyhow, he's in prison now, but his old man owns a business. So, he'll get out in about 10 years and have a lucrative job waiting for him. His life is just temporarily on hold unfortunately.
michaelscottspenis
A kid in school decided to show off by jumping off the school roof on to a mattress. He slipped and fell 20 feet on to his head. Can't move anything below his neck now.
AFTER_THAT_LION_DUDE
Drunk driving. Valedictorian, finished 1st year at Yale, decides to hang out with his high school friends back home. They had some drinks at the nearby college, and this guy got talked into driving the rest home since they were the "least drunk". Crossed a double yellow line, got pulled over and charged with DUI.
Scholarship money, gone, expelled from the school, now trying to get into another school but explaining why you're leaving Yale is pretty tough. But that's nothing compared to the jerks back home who are so glad to see this guy fail: friends, teachers, strangers he doesn't even know.
SCM1992
One of my best friends is who it happened to. To preface this happened over a few months span. Basically super successful working for an Oil and Gas firm, 24 years old. For some reason, goes through a recruiting service to find a better paying job. Ends up finding one, but the deal was not 100% done yet. He takes a few months off and decides to quit his job knowing that he's about to start a better paying one. Also buys a house in the middle of all this (knowing he's about to make more money).
A week before he is supposed to start... "Oh by the way we filled this position so you should probably just stay put until further notice." He burnt bridges to leave his old job so he was not able to go back to work there. Had about $500 to his name with over $3000+ in bills/truck/car notes/new mortgage. Had to work for a $10/hr job and sell off all of his stuff to get back on his feet.
Again this is just the worse I've seen personally, he seriously had it made before this. He didn't get an offer letter, he didn't get an offer letter. Let me repeat, he quit his job without receiving an official offer letter. That's the level of screwing up we're talking about here.
gt35r
A guy, Dave, that I worked with at my first job out of university. We were both engineers that started at the same time. Around 6 months into our jobs Dave's long term girlfriend whom he had been with since the 5th or 6th grade cheated on him, they broke up and he took it really badly as anyone would. I remember his Dad coming to our office with him, and them having a meeting with our team leader and program manager then agreeing that Dave would take like 2 weeks or at least some amount of extended time off to get his life together.
The rest of this was all relayed to me by my boss some year and a half later as I never saw or spoke to Dave again after those few weeks he was gone.
During those weeks Dave was not coming to work he somehow got involved with a high school dropout and it all went south when one night she called Dave to come pick her up from a party or something that she really didn't want to be at or was in some kind of danger being at.
Dave agrees and drives ~800 miles to this 'party' that's three states away to pick her up. Once there it's the girl and her two friends that he picks up. During this car ride they do some meth and/or buy some meth and decide it's a good time to try and rob a convenience store on their way home. Dave doesn't physically do any of the actual burglary but drives his car to the store, lets the two friends get out and they rob the place. At some point during they threaten the cashier with a gun and hit him with it, then get back in the car with the money they took and Dave drives away.
They're stopped by state troopers some time later still in that state and all of them are arrested, Dave is booked for aggravated robbery, possession of a unregistered firearm and possession of the meth.
b8le
I was a cop in the Navy and was standing guard duty at the main gate. A car came up with some body damage, running kinda poorly. It had a good number of impacts and paint transfer from at least five different colored cars.
Driver was wasted, obviously, he tried to show me his credit card instead of his ID. Got him out and confirmed the DUI with some field sobriety tests. Arrested him and sat him in one of our cars.
Conducted a search of his card, incident to the arrest and found a letter of acceptance to OCS (Officer Candidate School), it was dated just a couple of days before. Dude got into OCS as a non-nuke, which is extremely competitive, and went out to celebrate. Got trashed and drove, hit five other cars on his way back to base.
We called the local cops and asked if they had any hit and runs, of course they did and told them to come meet us to get the guy's info.
End of the story, obviously he's not going to OCS, he got charged by the locals with five counts of hit and run, we charged him with DUI. He got kicked out of the Navy and eventually turned over for local prosecution.
Moral of the story; If you drink, don't drive, do the watermelon crawl.
LaserSailor760
Girl I know overcame a household destroyed by drugs, did really well, and eventually became a physician assistant. She had surgery, got hooked on opioids like her parents, and started writing/filling fraudulent prescriptions with a couple other PAs at the hospital she worked in. Got caught, arrested, did her time, and cleaned up. She got off probation and immediately started doing drugs again with people she met in a rehab program. When I knew her, she was such a kind, smart, funny person. It's really sad.
princessblowhole
When I was in elementary school, our entrance to cafeteria were two big double-pane glass doors. One idiot was stupid enough to hold the doors and wait for a person to run inside. He saw one boy running towards doors that were open. And obviously, this idiot slams the door as he ran through. That poor thing dived head first through that pane glass door.
The next seconds are burned in to my memory like with hot iron. Half of the kids were screaming and puking. Cafeteria staff locked themselves inside and called an ambulance. The idiot who did this straight up fainted. Why all of this?
Because that thing, which was few seconds before human being, looked like a zombie, that went through lawnmower. He was choking on his own blood. You could see his insides and bones, that's how bad it was. Before ambulance arrived, kid died on blood loss. Guy who did it ended up in the hospital for the rest of his life. For whole week, the cafeteria and school were closed and when we returned, every pane glass door was removed.
SneakyBadAss
Guy I used to know at school who was quite clever and could've easily done something with his life started using weed, quickly jumped fully into weed culture, naturally got himself fired for smoking weed at work, and now can't get another job because of it. If he hadn't started his life would be very different.
Nambot
Knew a kid who was hanging out with his friends in his dad's study. He pulled out his dad's handgun from a hiding spot and was playing around pointing it at things and acting cool. His friends told him to knock it off and quit being stupid.
To show them that he knew what he was doing and it was safe, he took out the magazine, put the gun to the roof of his mouth, and pulled the trigger; only he forgot to empty the chamber and blew the back of his head off in front of his friends.
The saddest part of all of it was watching the aftermath as his friends, who watched it happen, and his family, who blamed his father, destroyed themselves trying to cope with what his stupidity brought about.
Hiddnsaccade
I have a friend who is bipolar. November of last year he was earning 40k+, taking care of his son, and doing well. He felt so good in fact, that he went off his meds. By January he was living in the streets, jobless, his ex-wife had a restraining order against him, and pretty much all his worldly possessions were stolen when he "hid" his shopping cart behind a dumpster. Current whereabouts are unknown.
thewiremother
College buddy, seemingly normal guy but got a little angry when he drank. Ok, maybe more than a little.
One night he went next level and a few of us were holding him back from a girl he was literally trying to fight. It went downhill from there, and soon the cops came. He ended up swinging on a cop, wrestling his gun from him and managing to fire it.
No one was hurt, but last I heard he was still in prison.
cubs_070816
He fell madly in love with a girl and would do anything she asked. She told him he should go rob a store so she could have some cash, so he went into a dry cleaners with a hairbrush under a towel (so it looked like he had a gun). He was caught and served 7 years in the state prison. It was his first time ever getting in trouble with the law. Once he was released from prison, he was unable to get a job, and eventually drank himself to death.
ExHokie
This guy's first day working at a diner he drops his tongs in the fryer, decides to pull him out with his hand. Surely the plastic glove will protect him.
That hot oil fused the glove to his hand and we never heard from him again at work or school.
Innersmoke
One summer, my younger brother's friends were partying at a lake. All in their mid-20's. I think they had rented a pontoon or house boat, can't remember for sure. But one guy dives off the boat into shallow water and hit bottom. He was instantly, and now permanently, paralyzed from the neck down. That's means he needs to be fed, bathed, clothed, everything, by somebody else. My brother and friends still take him out to movies and restaurants, hell even amusement parks, and they take turns pushing his wheel chair and feeding him.
My worst fear is being paralyzed like this. I am such a fiercely independent person that death would be better. Stay safe while partying, gang.
Strip_My_Skin
A guy I know was always a little obsessive when it came to women he's in a relationship with. In the most recent reception: he met the girl, quit his good/secure job, and spent most of his money to move across the country with her after 3 weeks of officially dating.
3 days later they break up and he moves in with his parents... No money, no job, almost no car after driving it back across the country again. He couldn't get his old job back due to "burning bridges" when he left. It was like a movie...
JustALittleJelly
Some of this material has been edited for clarity.
All languages have certain words that roll so beautifully off the tongue.
It's no wonder why listening to vocal arias from operas and oratorios–which are typically in languages other than English–can be such a satisfying experience.
Examples coming to mind that are pleasant to the ear include, "Un Bel Di Vedremo" from the Italian opera Madame Butterfly and "Au fond du temple saint"–a duet from the French opera, Les pêcheurs de perles.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor candela1200 asked:
"What is your favorite word in a foreign language?"
People found these words fun to say.
Not Always, But...
"Tokidoki - 'sometimes' in Japanese, just really fun to say lol"
– rogue_rocketeer_
It Flutters
"Papillon. Means butterfly in french and its fun to say."
– kk1289
Der Emergency Vehicle
"Krankenwagen"
"German for ambulance."
– 8thFurno
A Childhood Memory
"When I was a kid, the first Xbox 360 game I ever got was a Spanish copy of Halo 3 (I don't speak Spanish). At the beginning of the campaign, the characters keep saying 'careful' over and over again. Because of this, 'cuidado' has become one of my favorite Spanish words, and the voice they used has become my default voice to say other Spanish words. My other favorite has to be 'resbaloso'. A large, exaggerated r roll and a boisterous tone just makes this one of the most fun words to say in any language."
– AdriftMusic
A Favorite Pasttime
"Winkel. It means 'shop' in Dutch."
– MrRonObvious
These words are not compliments.
Those Darn Kids
"Gowniaki - polish for 'Sh*tling' in reference of annoying kids."
– BmMjO
Referring To Contemptible People
"Pendejo."
– Broccoli_Vivid
Like The F-Bomb
“'Tabarnak!' I love how, instead of being bodily-function based like English swear words, French Canadian sacres are mostly related to Catholicism. This one is my favourite as it’s the rough equivalent of the versatile 'f''k' swear in English, so many uses."
– jerrys153
You may want to sound these out slowly.
Well, We've Tried
"Verschlimmbesserung - German noun for an attempted improvement that only makes things worse."
– JR_0507
The Translation Doesn't Track
"Meerschweinchen, it’s German for Guinea Pigs, I like it because it literally means 'little sea pigs'. Which makes no sense."
– AdvantageBig568
What An Inebriate Would Say
"kalsarikännit - originating in Finland, in which the drinker consumes alcoholic drinks at home, dressed in as little clothing as possible, mainly in underwear with no intention of going out."
– evendronesflyaway
My favorite word or phrase really, is "Oh la, la, c'est cher"–which means, "Oh my, it's expensive," in French.
It was one of the first phrases I learned in middle school when I started taking French as an elective.
When I went home and shared with my mom what I learned, she was so amused by how the alarming phrase sounded. She couldn't stop laughing.
This led to her constantly asking me to repeat it whenever we were in the presence of her friends, and I milked it.
This is one of my treasured memories of my mother.
Movies are one of the greatest things in the world. I honestly believe that. And I think a lot of people will agree.
However, when talking about movies, a lot of people aren't thinking about documentaries.
Documentaries are movies about the real world, where the cameras capture candid moments, experts are consulted on the subject matter, and the end result is the viewers always learn something new.
My favorite is the documentary series Wild Wild Country, which never ceases to entertain me, no matter how many times I rewatch it. I’m not the only one who loves them, of course.
My best friend found her whole worldview had changed after she saw Blackfish for the first time. My brother pulled up his entire GPA after doing a report on Jon Cartwright’s Lighting Up the World, and of course, no health class was complete without a viewing of Supersize Me.
Redditors love documentaries too and were ready to share their favorites.
It all started when Redditor joeduncanhull asked:
“What’s the best documentary you’ve ever seen?”
Every Family Has Its Quirks
"I didn't mention Capturing the Friedmans, but I should have. That was a really good documentary."
"What a freaking twisted family."
– SweetCosmicPope
Camera Work Matters
"The Planet Earth documentaries. Praise to the people behind the camera."
– teethalarm
"Also Blue Planet 2 is f*cking amazing"
– IzaacLUXMRKT
"It was a colossal undertaking. To get a couple moments of the snow leopard took 3 months."
– External_Recipe_3562
"Absolutely unparalleled"
– joeduncanhull
The Athletes Will Celebrate
"Baseball by Ken Burns, not really a fan of baseball the sport, but the history was interesting."
– biggertheboobs
"Icarus was absolutely wild. Started with a pretty interesting premise, and then took a sharp turn and kept getting crazier. If you're even remotely interested in sport, it's worth your time."
– Spartannia
Disney Always Wins
"Kevin Perjurer's deep dive on the Fastpass System at Disney Themeparks. For such a seemlingly dull topic, it's shocking how interesting and surprising the whole thing winds up being."
– Notmiefault
"Totally agree here. That was amazing."
– mynewme
The Artsy Folk Will Celebrate
"Exit Through the Gift Shop"
"Documentary on Street Art. I literally thought Bansky was gas lighting us with this movie. No way could the story of ‘Mr Brainwash’ could be true."
– AwareParking
Higher and Higher
"Free Solo"
– Crocodile-toes-ten
"Anyone who enjoys this film should also check out The Dawn Wall. It's another climbing documentary on El Capitan in Yosemite. But it tells a very different story about two guys who try to become the first people to climb a route that many of the world's best climbers thought impossible."
– MasteringTheFlames
The Musicians Will Celebrates
"Not the best, but a favorite of mine...Dig ! A doc about the Dandy Warhols and BJM...one band's somewhat rise to fame, with the implosion/self-sabotage of the other. Half of it was embellished, and both bands had issues with the final product, but it was highly entertaining. Check it out if you're into music docs."
– Ok_Fact5541
"I would also recommend "We Jam Econo", about the 1980s punk rock band The Minutemen, who were on the cusp of the big time when their singer died in a freak accident."
"The "Jacka*s" theme is from their song "Corona."
– notthesedays
The Arts Save Lives
"Crumb"
"About the cartoonist Robert Crumb and his 2 brothers, and how abuse and mental illness plagued them. Crumb's cartooning got him out of it, but the other 2 brothers had a hard time."
– TooDeeGuy
Epic Animals
"Africa. It’s from the BBC like Planet Earth, Blue Planet."
"Why Africa? Well Africa has really varied environments and the best and most abundant wildlife by a mile. The first episode in particular has 2 awesome things: an epic Giraffe Fight and a Rhino Orgy. The Rhino Orgy is so unexpected. No one knew that Rhinos get together and party late at night. The Rhinos snuggle! And it’s especially poignant because there’s so few of them left."
– watchingsongsDL
The Truth About Vietnam
"Ken Burns’s Vietnam War docuseries was fairly eye-opening for someone like me, who only had the typical US high school history take on that conflict with a handful of fictional films to supplement it."
– Jaebird0388
"I really enjoyed that one, very eye opening indeed"
– Miggel1973
Next Level
"I remember watching the first Paradise Lost documentary so long ago and was just blown away. I know it’s not the first ever true crime doc, but sure felt like it took it to the next level. If I had to choose a favorite, that would probably be it."
– illmattic12345
Look Into Their Minds
"The Architecture of Doom was the first documentary that let me see how people could actually have bought into Nazi propaganda. Not that I agree with it, but it seemed so preposterous that anyone could believe what they were doing was somehow good."
– johnnylongpants1
A Fan Favorite
"Wild Wild Country"
– PalmerEldritch2319
All The Yesses!
"Avengers: age of ultron"
– ReapersEatApples05
"It's amazing how the camera crew caught these robots in their natural environment"
– joeduncanhull
Emotional Ending
"The six part DefunctTV about Jim Henson."
"It's a really engaging and endearing watch about Henson's life. I really appreciate all the behind the scenes footage the team was able to gather."
"The last episode leaves me sobbing every time."
– nocleverusername190
I want to watch all of these!
So many exotic locales in the world to see... and plenty of places NOT to see.
When one travels, we have to be astute.
Do the research.
No harm in skipping where we don't need to be.
Redditor Just_Pizzy wanted everyone to share about the places to avoid when traveling, so they asked:
"What city is extremely overrated in your opinion?"
In my travels I've been very satisfied.
But tell me where to avoid.
Ouch
"Miami. A city of narcissists and attention wh*res."
_kevx_91
"I swear Miami Beach is the poser capital of the world!"
Cetophile
Value
"Scottsdale, AZ would be a close 2nd."
TWOCHOPPAS
"I’m visiting here right now, and am seriously wondering why I’m here. If I want high end, there are a million ritzy suburbs that do it better. Scottsdale is a ton of neighborhoods that all want to claim the Scottsdale name to increase the real estate values."
"But only 5% of it is actually high end Scottsdale. The whole Phoenix metro area seems like one long expanse of concrete and chain stores. The only reason I can see that Pheonix has so many urban hikes is that the rest of the city is completely unwalkable. What am I missing?"
Seachica
What is This?
"Nothing personal, but Dubai. And I'm not a city designer, but I don't think you call it a 'downtown' when there's a 12-lane highway cutting through a bunch of skyscraper walls and that's it."
GreatNameLOL69
"This city is so stupid. Instead of creating the palm island, they could have dug into the land, it still would have looked amazing, except much easier to build."
"They started from scratch with unlimited money, they could have made an awesome city with Arabic style and culture, something different. Instead they took the worse cities (from the US) as an example, and built something stupid."
Arvi89
But it has Luck...
"Dublin is a complete tourist trap. I am Irish and I see people coming to Ireland expecting the full Irish experience in Dublin, when really all the good stuff is outside the capital spread out all across the country. They head up to Temple Bar for the Irish pub experience and pay 3-4 times more for drinks than anywhere else in the country."
"The city itself is a product of British occupation, same style of city you will find up and down England with Georgian, Victorian and Edwardian architecture along with generic modern design. Look, there are historic places and nice places to eat but nothing out of the ordinary."
"If you want to see the real Ireland go to the countryside, the unique landscapes of the ring of Kerry, the Clare Burren and cliffs of Moher, the Connemara and donegal mountainous areas along with tonnes off historical locations all across the country. If you want an Irish city experience go to Galway instead."
Historical_Line7109
Not the Happy Place
"I don't know if anyone but children and retirees actually like this city, but lawd I hate Orlando."
notafanofwasps
"My best friend moved from Seattle to Orlando for financial reasons. His parents live in Orlando and had to move in with them. A year later they said f**k this and moved back. Drove cross country both times."
SubduedChaos
Orlando isn't that bad. I've had fun.
Bad Queen
"Gold Coast, Queensland. It tries to be Australia's Miami, but really, it's a tacky over-developed sh**hole."
otherpeoplesknees
"It is really bad, I loved every place I went to in Australia but the Gold coast was terrible. Reminded me of the cities in Spain where PPL only go to to get drunk at the beach (Ballermann in Palma, Benidrom, Lloret….)"
trbo91
“trendy”
"Not a fan of the 'trendy' cities like Charlotte or Nashville. A lot of younger people my age are moving there and they act like going to a mediocre brewery and spending $30 on a craft beer and tiny cut of brisket is some type of unique southern cultural experience."
"Not to mention the cities are now barely affordable for the people actually from there and every other block is full of those cookie-cutter gentrified apartments that just look bland as hell. Both cities have some cool parts to them but to me they just aren’t as special as people make them seem."
yinzerthrowaway412
Sounds with Problems
"The worst city I’ve ever been to is Oklahoma City, which is rated appropriately. No complaints on the current rating."
Shut--Up--Bird
"I have traveled to Oklahoma City a good number of times over the past six years, usually for a couple of weeks at any given time."
"Some areas of the city are okay, and I was pleasantly shocked upon the sight of a functioning streetcar service downtown. That being said, parts of OKC and its suburbs are so miserable that I almost convinced myself that Grand Theft Auto had become real life."
wheresaldopa
Off Tune
"Nashville. It’s a bunch of honky tonks and bachelorettes. It’s just a big party town now. I might be salty because I live here and remember old Nashville that was quiet and civilized, where locals could enjoy going downtown and we still had Opryland instead of a giant mall."
iwishiwereonabeach
Bad Falls
"Niagara Falls. Even if it’s poorly rated, that rating is still too high."
vanityfear
"It’s pretty cool to see once though. The area is just meh."
SparklyRoniPony
Go to Wendy's
"Vegas."
Calm-Associate-214
"I used to go there every summer for tech conferences. I always use the analogy that Vegas is a lot like KFC. It’s gross, greasy, and messy, and you wonder what possessed you to go there in the first place. 6 months later, for some inexplicable reason, you get the urge to go again. You remember what it was like the last time, but somehow you’re still drawn to it."
Ikarian
So many places in the world... NOT to go!
What destinations should we strike from our bucket list? Let us know in the comments below.
Why are men, particularly straight men, so adverse to trying new life things that go against their norm?
Like things women do.
Do men have a beauty regime?
You should.
Do you have regular mental health checks?
You should.
Do you and your friends talk about your feelings?
You REALLY should.
Men can learn so much from the daily aspects of a woman's life.
Redditor st_new34 wanted to hear about all the things men can learn from women, so they asked:
"What's a women's thing men should absolutely start doing?"
I'm interested in this list.
Aren't most things unisex now?
Smooth Surface
"As a former cook and current welder; hand lotioning."
meatlazer720
"My dad refused to use hand lotion for a while and he kept getting big cracks in his knuckles. The cold would destroy his skin. He would only put lotion on when it was basically bleeding, by which point it can’t really do much help."
PM_CACTUS_PICS
Get Checked
"Getting checked out by a specialist. There’s a reason colon cancer has a higher mortality rate among men when it’s actually one of the most preventable cancers. The thought of having a colonoscopy done makes them squirm."
Color_Wasted
"In the US you can also arrange for a Cologuard screening, where you literally just mail in your poop and get tested for certain colon cancers. It shouldn't replace regularly scheduled colonoscopies, but it can be done between them."
Puzzleworth
"Problem with cologuard is screening is 100% covered. If it the cologuard positive, you have to get a diagnostic colonoscopy which is subject to deductibles and copays. If you go with a screening colonoscopy in the first place you pay nothing."
skidoo1033
Basics
"Sewing. Sewing is awesome. I learned basic sewing to make some bow ties for my wedding and it's an extremely rewarding skill that allows you to repair clothes, save money, and it's superb meditation."
DeepStatic
"Not only repairing clothes, but basic tailoring. I learned how to do it on YouTube and it’s a game changer as a guy with broad shoulders that make every shirt fit like a trash bag."
TheFunkyMonk
Work Comfort
"Putting a blanket on your lap while you work. It's life changing."
13inchmushroommaker
"A few days ago my wife brought a whole a** double duvet into the living room because it’s winter now. I thought she was mad but it’s cozy as s**t, I’ve got the dog under here."
magicalmysteryharold
"In my house we have an assortment of couch blankets. You really need more than one because you'll want to have one on the couch while the other is in the wash."
sleepydorian
Snazzy
"Complimenting each other."
DEADINSIDE1880
"I do this with my co workers. 'Looking sharp today Phil' is all it takes to make a day."
cognitiveglitch
I love a good compliment.
Stretch
"Yoga, especially as you get older, wish I had started sooner."
needsmoreprotein
Pampered
"My husband never really did pedicures before we met and the fist time I did one for him he was in love with it. I used a scraper to get the dead skin off his heels (he calls them hooves haha) and he was horrified how much came off. He’ll even inspect my work now and say 'this toenail is a little jagged do want me to look a mess??' He likes being pampered and I’m happy to do it for him!"
Effective-Ad7068
Feels so Good
"I was trying on jeans for work the other day and I found this magical material that stretches but looks like denim. I was gushing over them and my wife laughed and said a lot of women’s jeans use that material and a lot of hers are the same. Men should discover these jeans!"
"Edit: A lot of responses are about the inferior quality. Fair enough but I work retail and am constantly squatting to fill shelves etc so I’ll take comfort over durability any day. Especially when I’ve got a bit of an a** on me, customers don’t need to be walking around the corner and catching a plumber’s crack unexpectedly!"
corny16
Feel It
"I work in a kitchen full of men and it's quite sad to listen to them tell each other that they can't cry. Or that they are not supposed to do so. I don't know who came up with this but I fight that 'concept' every chance I get. As a result, most of them feel safe to share their emotions with me. Even crying."
sem-fe
LOUDER!!
"Make noise during sex. Not even dirty talk, any words of encouragement would be enough."
jennicarrz
Well, that is a lot to process.
Men... take notes and start breaking some of these 'norms.'
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