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Bob Hope Lived A Twisted Hidden Life

Bob Hope Lived A Twisted Hidden Life

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People have called Bob Hope the “Entertainer of the 20th Century,” and he was no less than a titan of Old Hollywood. But behind the scenes of Hope’s family-friendly career is a life of rivalry, scandal, and very dirty little secrets. Without further ado, draw back the curtains and let these hidden facts about Bob Hope entertain you…

1. He Had A Completely Different Name

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Bob Hope’s name wasn’t actually Bob Hope; he was born Leslie Townes Hope in London in 1903. Hope may have taken on the name "Bob" as a tribute to the popular racer Bob Burman—but there is a sadder theory. Growing up, children would tease him by calling him "Hope, Leslie" until it sounded like "Hopeless," spurring the name change.

2. His Home Life Was Rough

Hope came from modest beginnings, being the son of a stonemason and a light opera singer in a large family of seven boys. In 1908, the family picked up and moved to the United States for a better life, and Hope helped to support them by taking on a series of odd jobs, including working as a busker. But a life-changing event was just around the corner.

3. He Got Into A Horrific Accident

While making money for his family, Hope worked with one of his brothers as a lineman, clearing trees from power lines. That's when disaster struck. One day, Hope was on a tree when it began falling to the ground with him in it. Although he swung from underneath it, narrowly avoiding a potentially fatal accident, he didn't walk away unscathed...

4. He Got Plastic Surgery

As Hope crashed to the ground, he busted up his moneymaker—his face—and only came to in the hospital. His facial injuries were so bad that the staff refused to give him mirror for three whole weeks. In the end, though, it might have been the best thing to happen to him: After reconstructive surgery, his visage became even more handsome and memorable than before.

5. He Was A Drop-Out

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With his looks set, Hope started to pursue stardom with a obsessive grit. The teenager even dropped out of school, feeling that it would only hold him back, and became a successful vaudeville dancer. With the likes of popular comedian Fatty Arbuckle attending his shows, it wasn't long before Hollywood came knocking...except that wasn't a good thing.

6. He Hated His Own Work

Hope's first appearance on the silver screen was in 1934’s Going Spanish. It couldn't have gone worse. Just about everyone panned the film, including Hope himself. Notorious bank robber John Dillinger was at large when it premiered, and Hope quipped after the film's release, “When they catch Dillinger, they're going to make him sit through it twice.” But Hope was about to make his mark.

7. He Was In An Iconic Series

By the 1940s, Hope's career took off in both film and radio, and he became became a major box office draw with Road to Singapore. Acting alongside Bing Crosby and Dorothy Lamour, Hope went on to make six more “Road to…” films that would cement his place among the Hollywood legends. And just as you'd expect, Hope was downright naughty on set...

8. He Caused A Fight On Set

While on the set of Road to Singapore, Hope might have been having too good a time with it. One day, the actor started a giant soap suds fight with co-stars Bing Crosby and Dorothy Lamour. While this was fun for them, the director was utterly incensed, since it meant the crew had to spend hours redoing their costumes and make-up.

9. He Made A Frenemy

Hope and Crosby always had a friendly rivalry going on together, and liked to joke about it frequently. Hope once famously said, "There's nothing I wouldn't do for Bing, and there's nothing he wouldn't do for me. And that's the way we go through life—doing nothing for each other!’" Yet behind the scenes, the story was much more complicated.

10. He Had A Nemesis

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Hope and Crosby were supposedly as close as brothers—but there was a dark side to their friendship. The two legends often fought, and as their egos grew, so did the conflicts. Not only was Crosby aloof on set, the pair reportedly rarely hung out in private. Apparently, Hope even once confessed that he “simply didn’t like Bing and, at times, detested him.”

Still, that's not even the worst surprise when it comes to Hope.

11. He Had A Secret Wedding

Just before he made it big in Hollywood, Hope headlined with the vaudeville performer Louise Troxell. Soon after, the sparks were flying between them off stage, and the pair married in secret on January 25, 1933. At 30 years old, Hope might have felt he was ready to settle down and start a nice, quiet family. Only, that's not what happened at all.

12. He Was Unfaithful To His Wife

Shortly after Hope and Troxell's wedding, a new girl named Dolores Reade joined their vaudeville troupe. She turned out to be Hope's undoing. A busty Ziegfeld beauty and a heck of an entertainer in her own right, Reade caught the very married Hope's eye the minute she walked in the joint, and they struck up an affair. Spoiler: This is going nowhere good.

13. He Had A Bitter Breakup

Suddenly, Hope and Troxell's marriage was over almost as soon as it began. The couple officially called it quits in November 1934, although very few people had known about their wedding in the first place. Reade and Hope, meanwhile, had been carrying on a public dalliance for months. And it gets even more twisted than that.

14. He Claimed He Was A Bigamist

See, while Hope and Troxell got divorced in November 1934, there was a snag: Hope claimed he married his new flame Dolores Reade months before that date, in February. So, according to Hope's own testimony, America's most beloved and wholesome entertainer was a big ol' bigamist. Hold onto your hats, though: There's one more stop on this crazy train.

15. He Had A Fake Marriage

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In the end, Hope and Reade would stay together for a whopping 69 years. Except there is one jaw-dropping problem. In the end, Hope may never have married Dolores Reade. Records show the comedian lied through his teeth about their February union, and there are zero photos and no marriage certificate anywhere in evidence.

Most damning of all, Hope had a performance in New York the night he claimed he married Reade in Pennsylvania. Jesus. What else was this man hiding? Answer: A LOT.

16. His Life Looked Perfect…

Oh, don't get me wrong. Hope's life still looked ideal. After enough drama to last a lifetime, he settled right into his marriage with Reade, fake or not. The pair both had strong faiths, and they adopted a brood of four children to complete their picture-perfect life. Seriously, it was like The Brady Bunch up in here. Until, that is, you looked closer.

17. He Had A Harem

The public knew Hope as a stand-up family man, but industry insiders knew him much differently. Surprise, surprise: The man who hoodwinked two women into marriage wasn't so faithful. Actually, he wasn't faithful at all. As one insider wrote, whenever the superstar went to a hotel, "outside his room were three, four, five young, beautiful girls, waiting to be picked by him to come in."

Hope was flirting with disaster...and disaster flirted right back.

18. He Had A Secret Rendezvous Spot

In 1949, Hope began an affair with the up-and-coming actress Barbara Payton, even setting her up with a Hollywood apartment so he could come and go from her bed at all hours of the night. But Payton, like many a starlet before her, was starved for attention and kept demanding more gifts and more favors from the veteran actor. Cue ominous music.

19. His Mistress Betrayed Him

Fed up with his plaything, Hope eventually broke things off with Payton, though he made sure to pay her off to keep her quiet. Her reaction was the definition of "spiteful." Unable to seal her lips, the actress signed up for a 1956 tell-all interview in Confidential magazine, spilling the beans about her affair with Hope. And that wasn't the only confession she made...

20. He Was Tabloid Fodder

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Payton was out for blood in her interview, and she painted a grim portrait of the sunny comedian. According to the starlet, Hope wasn't an American everyman, but instead "a mean-spirited individual with the ability to respond with a ruthless vengeance when sufficiently provoked.” Unfortunately for Payton, Hope's response was nothing short of chilling.

21. He Knew How To Be Cruel

Although Hope must have been beside himself when Payton's interview came out, he hadn't survived so long in Hollywood without picking up a few tricks for dealing with attention-seekers, and he knew just what to do. He ignored her. Without Hope commenting, poor Barbara's splashy confessions made barely a ripple in Tinseltown, and his secrets remained safe a while longer.

22. He Had Another “Mrs. Hope”

By the 1950s, Hope was getting more than a little sloppy about his extramarital affairs. At the beginning of the decade, he'd started a dalliance with his co-star Marilyn Maxwell, and the pair were all but shouting their lust from the rooftops. People would see them checking into cheap motels together, and industry insiders saw her around so much, they took to calling her "Mrs. Bob Hope."

23. He Served His Country

Throughout his career, Hope was heavily involved with the United Service Organizations, entertaining the brave men and women in uniform from WWII all the way through to the 1990s. Hope's support of the troops was so outsized that the US Congress made him an “Honorary Veteran.” But even here, he was one tough customer.

24. He Didn’t Like Cry Babies

Hope wanted to ensure that he only brought laughter and joy to the men and women serving. In fact, when touring with other performers for USO, Hope made one bizarre rule. He demanded that no one cry in front of the troops, particularly when they visited them in hospital. Except one day, a miracle forced him to break his own rule.

25. He Performed A Miracle

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While Hope was visiting injured men in the hospital, he passed by the bed of a wounded soldier who had been in a months-long coma. Suddenly, with Hope standing by his bedside, the man awoke and exclaimed, “Hey, Bob Hope! When did you get here?” The actor teared up and had to leave the hospital room so the soldier couldn’t see him bawling his eyes out.

26. He Was Demanding

Hope didn’t get to the top of the Hollywood pecking order by being a nice guy, and he made brutal demands. The actor required all of his comedy writers to submit 20 jokes a day, five days a week, to his home. If they failed to bring the goods for two consecutive weeks, Hope would fire them without a second glance. Ouch.

27. He Mixed Business And Pleasure

Hope cheated so much, some of his affairs can't really be called affairs; they were more like long-term relationships. While hosting the 1961 Miss World competition, Hope crowned Rosemarie Frankland as the winner and then quickly took her on as his mistress. They were together for 30 years, and many considered Frankland “the great love of his life.”

28. He Was A Strategic Lover

So how did Bob Hope manage to keep his dirty laundry out of the public eye? He actually had an ingenious answer. Hope paid his publicists with more than just cash, and he carried on a (you guessed it) affair with his PR maestro Ursula Halloran. In turn, Halloran made sure not a word of his nighttime activities got published. Yet these violent delights have violent ends.

29. He May Have Been Cursed

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30. He Was Almost Mauled To Death

While filming their sequel Road to Utopia, Hope and Crosby were meant to have a scene with a tame bear. It went wrong right from the start. The bear was supposed to lay down next to Hope, but instead it sniffed and growled at him. Both stars refused to return to set with the animal, despite the trainer's protestations that it was safe. Sadly, they were right to worry: The next day, the bear tore off its trainer’s arm.

31. His Wife Knew All His Secrets

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It’s hard to imagine that Hope could carry on all of these affairs without his family knowing. Well, as it turns out, they did know. In a 1978 interview, a reporter asked his wife Dolores Reade if she believed Hope was 100% “true-blue.” Reade answered, “I doubt it. I think he’s perfectly human and average and all that.” Not so sure about "average," Dolores.

32. He Suffered A Huge Shock

Hope and Bing Crosby worked together for decades in the “Road to…” film franchise, but their friendship came to a tragic end. In 1977, the two were planning to join forces again on yet another “Road to…” film when Crosby passed away unexpectedly. Despite their possibly prickly relationship, Hope was so distraught at the loss of his friend that he couldn’t sleep for days.

33. He Was Witty

Having toured extensively with USO, Hope was no stranger to danger, and had stepped into active combat zones armed with nothing but his wit. At the height of the tensions between the Soviet Union and the United States, Hope set off to the Motherland. Upon returning, he quipped about his great vacation, “We had a very successful trip to Russia. We made it back.”

34. He Was A Sugar Daddy

Hope may have had scores of lovers, but he almost never forgot about his paramours. Indeed, he even continued to support his first (possibly only) wife Louise Troxell even while he was with Dolores Reade. The entertainer sent his ex a tidy sum of money for the rest of her life, which is a deal I definitely wouldn't turn down.

35. He Was Addicted To Intimacy

Long after most men would have retired to their rocking chair in an assisted living community, Hope was still chasing down women. Get this: The actor kicked off yet another affair when he was in his 80s. This time he skipped out on the chorus girls and picked up with one of his writers, Sandy Vinger. But it seems like Hope had lost his touch…

36. His Ex Got Revenge

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Not surprisingly, Hope’s affair with Vinger didn’t last too long—he was, after all, a husband, a father of four, and super freaking old. But it did not end happily. After their split, Vinger sued Hope for breach of contract, claiming that the geriatric actor had agreed to support her for the rest of his life; they settled out of court. Talk about going out with a bang.

37. He Had The Longest Happily Ever After

With a 69-year union, Hope’s marriage to Dolores Reade lasted longer than anyone could have possibly expected—and longer than anyone in Hollywood could match. While most Tinseltown marriages end as tabloid fodder in just a few years (or days), Hope and Reade held the record for the longest Hollywood marriage of all time until recently.

38. There Was One Thing He Never Got

Believe it or not, Bob Hope never won an Oscar. In fact, the "Entertainer of the 20th Century" never got so much as an nomination, even after he had hosted the Academy Awards a ridiculous 19 times. One of those times, Hope hit back at his Hollywood “friends” with a real zinger. “We’re all here to celebrate Oscar,” he said, “or as he’s known at my house, The Fugitive!”

39. He Was Funny In Every Language

Despite never clinching that competitive Academy Award, Hope was still famous…maybe too famous. The actor once commented that the only place where he could stroll around incognito was in the People’s Republic China. But even then, someone recognized him from one of his films before the Chinese Revolution. I want to feel bad...but I don't.

40. He Almost Ran For President

Bob Hope was so popular, people often suggested he should run for president. Yet even though First Lady Nancy Reagan referred to him as America’s “favorite clown,” he was never interested. As Hope once quipped, “I thought about it. But my wife said she wouldn't want to move into a smaller house.” But that didn't mean Hope kept out of the Oval Office entirely...

41. He Advised The White House

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In 1948, a seemingly unpopular Harry S. Truman was facing re-election, and he'd only got the job in the first place after Franklin D. Roosevelt's passing. To Truman’s shock, he actually won the vote, and received some sage advice from Bob Hope in the process. In a one-word congratulatory telegram, Hope told the president to “Unpack.”

42. He Had An Obsessive Hobby

Hope was famously golf-crazy, and he might be the only Hollywood actor who can say that he beat Tiger Woods in a round of golf. Still, Woods had a significant handicap: He was a toddler. Hope and the soon-to-be-legendary golfer made an appearance together on The Mike Douglas Show in 1978, when Woods was just two years old.

43. He Had A Bromance

Although they had a famous and legendary friendship, Bing Crosby and Bob Hope had rather humble beginnings. Hope only met Crosby by chance in 1932 when he was emceeing a show where Crosby performing. Still, the pair ended up hitting it off, and were each excited by the other's comedy chops. And thus began a beautiful bromance.

44. He Looked Like Charlie Chaplin

When Hope was still a young boy, he idolized the comedy legend Charlie Chaplin, like just about everybody else his age. But unlike everybody else, Hope tried to be Chaplin—literally. During his youth in Ohio, Hope entered a Chaplin look-a-like contest and came out with the top prize. It might have been a good omen, but Hope's next move wasn't.

45. He Had A Hidden Talent

It might surprise you to know that the reedy Bob Hope had a very rough hobby: Boxing. When he was a teenager, he decided to enter the ring under the professional boxing name "Packy East." Weighing in at an astonishing 24-karats of future Oscar gold, Hope racked up three wins and one loss. Not bad for a man who spent more of his life loving than fighting.

46. He Was A Doctor

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Hope might have been a clown and a high school dropout, but no one can call him uneducated. Over the course of his career, Hope racked up more than 2,000 honors and awards. As if being one of only two honorary veterans of the Armed Services wasn’t enough, Hope received his praise from academia as well, and had 54 honorary doctorates.

47. He Came Back To Life

In 1998, with Hope well into his 90s, a strange thing happened. A newspaper accidentally released a pre-written obituary for the comedian, leading the US House of Representatives to announce Hope's death while he was, in fact, still alive. Certain congressmen—some of whom Hope had entertained while touring with USO—took the news hard. Thankfully, it was only minutes before the paper corrected the error.

48. He Had The Last Laugh

Despite falling trees, questionable marriages, a flurry of affairs, and a few close calls, Hope’s life was full of…hope. Entertaining audiences was Hope’s single focus, and he accomplished that with his wicked sense of humor. In his own words, “I have seen what a laugh can do. It can transform almost unbearable tears into something bearable, even hopeful.”

49. He Saw A Century

Just think about how much happens in a century. Computers are invented, phones become mobile, air travel turns to space flight, and the list goes on. Well, Bob Hope would have witnessed it all. He lived to be exactly 100 years old, passing less than a month after his centennial on July 27, 2003. And you can bet your bottom dollar he was full of wit and great one-liners right to the end.

50. His Humor Survived As Long As He Did

At the very end, Hope still had a joie de vivre that no one could beat. While lying on his deathbed, his wife asked him where he wanted them to bury him when he was gone. Hope had his zinger all lined up, and joked in response, “Surprise me.”

51. He Had A Special Offer

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For a comedic wit like Bob Hope, late night talk shows provided the perfect opportunity to try out new material and promote upcoming films. To that end, NBC—Hope’s parent network—gave Hope an open invitation to walk onto the set of The Tonight Show with Johnny Carson any time he wanted. This ended up backfiring in the most awkward way possible.

52. He Was Johnny Carson's Most Hated Guest

Hope took up the NBC invitation in a big way, walking on the set again and again...and again. Even worse, Hope would often show up with stale, scripted gags, unwilling to engage in any of the show's signature banter. Eventually, the inimitable Johnny Carson got so fed up, he called Hope his least favorite Tonight Show guest. Ouch. And it only got worse as Hope got older…

53. He Infuriated Johnny Carson

Hope appeared on The Tonight Show well into the 1980s, and well into his decline. The aging actor had difficulty hearing Carson’s questions, forcing the quick-witted host to stick to dreaded pre-written notes from Hope’s team. Carson's reply was so disturbing, it's impossible to forget. After one particularly bad show, Carson snapped to his writers, “If I ever end up like that, guys, I want you to shoot me.”

54. He Seduced A Wholesome Star

Of all Hope's affairs, the most scandalous might have been his naughty acts with a famous "good girl" screen siren: None other than the wholesome Doris Day. According to Hope, the two had a fiery affair while touring together to raise funds for charity in 1949. But before the two stars had time to catch feelings, it ended abruptly...

55. His Wife Lashed Out

When Hope and Day returned to California from their charity efforts, the lovers got a nasty surprise. Dolores Reade—Hope’s wife, remember her?—was waiting at the airport to give her husband a nice, big, and pointed welcome home hug. Day interpreted the gesture as a shot across the bow and backed off, squelching the dalliance.

People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


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"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



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"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
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Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.