Simple pieces of advice are the easiest to miss, and sometimes they're the most that need teaching. Thankfully, Reddit user RapidActionBattalion posed the following question, and received many great responses and answers for readers to ponder:
"What life skills are rarely taught but extremely useful?"
Who Will Stand For You When No One Else Does?
Being your own confidence boost when nobody else is there for you. odkaSoakedTaffy
A New iPhone Every Year?
The ability to care for equipment and maintain the condition of literally anything. Too many things are seen as
I can just get another one 'disposable' nowadays when really if people just cared a little more about upkeep we would be so much more sustainable. McSleep
First aid. Viowar
No, Really, First Aid
Seriously, this. When I was in EMS some of the DIY first aid I'd roll up on was mind-bogglingly dumb. I remember one incident where a woman had essentially burned her entire left hand in a fryer. Her husband had read some click-baity first aid hack post that said that toothpaste was good for alleviating minor burns, so they slathered f***ing TOOTHPASTE all over her raw oozing burns. Don't do that.
Also worth mentioning would be the dozens of overdoses where people had just sloshed beer/water/ice all over the patient's face/body/groin, tourniquets on minor finger wounds, CPR on someone screaming at them to stop... just take the damn class, most Fire Departments and libraries offer them for free. ur_tears_r_tasty
Look At Your Finances
I worked in banking for 6 years. I can safely say that 90% of my job was teaching people about budgeting. Small things I picked up: If you are acquiring monthly maintenance fees, you should probably switch to a Credit Union with less requirements (some of them only need you to have "E-statements" and not a minimum balance or direct deposit), major banks steal money from day laborers and people in the service industry because they don't have direct deposit or the required minimum balance, it's a simple fix.
2. If you are constantly getting over-draft fees, you might be living a lifestyle that your income doesn't support (I understand unemployment, trying to acclimate after a jail stint, or other things are absolutely unavoidable and you have to eat s*** until you get back on top) But most people I dealt with, were spending $500 at a night club after getting a $900 paycheck and they wonder why they're living paycheck to paycheck and will never be able to own a home or get a new car.
3. WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING you buy throughout the day. EVERYTHING, it'll put it into perspective when you look at it at the end of the week. These days it's super easy to just swipe your card and not think about it until you get a "low balance" notice (I'm guilty of this myself). But seeing a physical document in front of you with the amount of $4-$5 coffee's, $10-$15 lunches, it'll kill you. I could go on but this is a safe place to start. TheIgnoredWriter
Hit All The Bases
Never climb higher than you're willing to fall.
Hold the door open for people.
Say excuse me, sorry, and I love you when the time is right
Taste your food before salting/seasoning it.
Don't masturbate in public. Doc-in-a-box
-Why eat slowly? callmeziplock
When we eat quickly, we surpass our full signal. Think about, say, Thanksgiving. Recall the moment you stop eating for a second and take in a deep breath and sigh. That sigh is a signal that you are full--stop eating! We typically ignore that and refill our plate.
When you eat slowly, your body will be more attuned to when it has had enough. That way, you are less likely to over-consume and you will keep your weight at a more steady level. Doc-in-a-box
What's The Stitch?
Basic sewing (how to sew a button back on, mend a tear, and hem pants). It's amazing that people throw away perfectly good quality clothing because a button fell off or there's a tiny rip in the seam. This especially extends the life of dress pants, which are pricey and not fun to shop for. TooFondly
Pay Attention To Your Fellow Driver
Road etiquette. The rules and laws are taught but there are some courtesies that if taught, would make driving a lot better for everyone. Eg, thank you wave, the fast lane policy, how to merge properly etc. iwantyoursext
Let's Bring It Down
--Conflict deescalation. Not only does this help you at work, at home, but it also just improves the quality of life. My dad has no idea what this means and neither did I until I was about 25 years old. It changed my life in terms of my relationship with my dad, it prevents fights with my wife and has been the reason I credit never, ever having an argument within our household in the last 11 years. It has helped me make very good money in my career. 37tr3n5k
Ever Thought About Where Your Food Comes From?
Cooking. I grew up in a culture where it was a badge of honor to learn how to cook at an early age. And even though I don't hunt for my food or raise my own livestock now, my family did and taught me how to appreciate where your food comes from and how it comes to your plate. I now host kick-ass dinner parties and cook-outs as an adult. BioFuD
Empathy Is Power
Just simply being considerate of others in general.... seems as if its a lost art nowadays... KingofSpades99
Don't Take It Too Far
Knowing how to tell a joke, when it is appropriate, and when to stop. opus_4_vp
Ask: Are You Really Enjoying This?
I don't know if it's a thing, I just noticed it one day when eating a snickers bar. Teenage me read some terrible diet advice about how "French woman are all skinny because they cut all their food into tiny bites and then chew each bite 30 times!!!" So I attempted it by using a knife to cut tiny slivers off my snickers lol. That first bite of a sweet treat is incredible because it's all new on your palette. So are the next few when you're doing small bites. But if you keep eating eventually there's no more newness, I guess? It's like the difference between chugging a soda or sipping it slowly. One you don't enjoy or really taste. The other you can but after a certain point your body will be like "man that was tasty but eh. I'm good now"
It's super subtle and about the same as that signal your body gives you when you're full. Easy as hell to push past and miss it but if you're paying attention it's there. Quicily
4, 7, 8 Rule
How to control your breathing.
Most people will encounter some type of situation in their lives that causes them to panic, whether it's fear, anxiety, physical pain etcetera.
If you can keep yourself calm, you can handle almost any situation. Vociferous_Logophile
Which One Is The Salad Fork?
Dining etiquette. It's sort of strange eating with a buddies' parents and they all eat "nicer" than you do. iBeany
Hold That Eye Contact
How to hold a conversation.
I keep hearing that you just need to ask questions. But that isn't a conversation. That's an interrogation. I wish I'd been taught to hold up my own side of a conversation. mpole
It's Not Personal
How to handle criticism. People take things personally and get upset when often it's just a procedural correction or a minor error. Listen and learn without assuming someone is 'out to get you' or 'being an a**hole' just because they need something done differently. butthatisjustme
Below, Not Above
Living below your means. Being low income is bad enough. Being low income and in debt is torture. Living at home, having housemates, shopping secondhand, not eating out are all things you have to stick to until your situation improves. pecklepuff
Elevator Pitch, Go!
Public speaking is pretty important. You never know when you might need to pitch an idea to someone that could make the next 30 years of your life very comfortable. FrontDeskGuy95
You'd Be Surprised What You Can Do
People should learn rudimentary handyman skills -- how to change a tire or a lightbulb, how to work with various simple tools, how to identify a tripped breaker, how to use a crowbar, etc. f***ing amazing how many people can't do this or act like it's witchcraft. cubs_070816
And Finally, Knowing You Have A Choice...
Choosing your perspective, as opposed to letting every little thing affect your mood.
To put it another way, you can choose happiness instead of waiting for it. Delica
Sometimes you just don't have any money and you have to make it work. I learned how to make the most out of bargains at the grocery store and know how to make food that is hearty and will last more than a day or two. Beans and rice are your friends, by the way. You'd be surprised by how many delicious meals you can make with just these two basic ingredients.
Being poor requires you to be creative.
Penny pinching is an art, as we were so deftly reminded after Redditor naranja_cheese asked the online community,
"What is the most penny pinching you've ever done?"
"I used to steal..."
"I used to steal half-used rolls of tp when I was a janitor. Lived off white rice and Worcestershire sauce for months. Got a job as a cook & always saved a few scraps while plating people's food so I would have something to eat without paying for a meal. Also worked at a butcher shop& would take home bones to roast and make a stew with. I can share hundreds of things like this."
"I worked part-time..."
"I worked part-time in school, but was pretty broke. I wasn't being paid until the following day, and I needed soy sauce for my extra super tasty stir fry. I literally had negative funds in my account. So I went to the grocery store, grabbed a sushi tray, threw a ton of packets of soy sauce in my pocket (they don't charge you for these), wandered a bit, pretended I changed my mind, and left."
"While at the grocery store..."
"While at the grocery store, putting back that pack of chicken breast that cost $2.98 for the other pack of chicken breast that cost $2.95."
"Things were insanely tight..."
"Used to make my own laundry detergent during a time when we had relocated and our prior home had not sold so we had rent on top of a mortgage for 18 months. Things were insanely tight in those days, to say the least."
I definitely know what this is like.
"I took some cedar boards..."
"I had no money for Christmas gifts. I only had enough to pay rent. I took some cedar boards in the backyard, cut them, burnt them a little black as I had no money to finish them. Then I passed them off as cutting boards."
"One Friday night..."
"One Friday night in college, my two buddies and I had a grand total of $3 to our names. I bought a box of Mac 'n Cheese, a can(!) of escargot, and three Lil' Debbie Star Crunches. We had a full meal with starch, protein, and dessert."
"I lived on pasta..."
"When I was at university my entire budget was less than £40 a week. I lived on pasta and stolen sauce packets from the Students Union. The cafeteria ladies would always take pity on me at closing time and give me free burgers."
"I lost my job..."
"I lost my job and lived in a $1400/month apartment where electricity (which included heat) and internet were ludicrously expensive. $400-450 a month in the winter because the building was an old mill with huge windows and no insulation. Fortunately, gas and water were free."
"I only turned on my lights when I had to, turned off the heat entirely, and heated my apartment by boiling a huge pot of water on the gas stove 24 hours a day and going to the business center to use the free DSL connection to apply for jobs. I ate rice with frozen vegetables and spices for three months."
"It sucked, but I got by."
Hopefully things are much better now.
"If I ate fast food..."
"If I ate fast food or takeout food, I would ask for extra sauce packets or garnishes that they give out for free. I would stock up on them, use them when I cook instead of buying the stuff from the store. For example, a $1 box of pasta, a clove of garlic, and 2-3 ramekins of parm cheese, half ramekin of chili flakes, and a pinch of Italian herbs I got from a pizza place makes a quick meal."
"My local mall..."
"My local mall used to do paid surveys, you'd watch a video or try some new soda or whatever and they'd give you a couple of dollars. Then I'd use that to buy a meal."
Sometimes you've just gotta do what you've gotta do. It's not easy.
Have some stories of your own? Feel free to tell us about them in the comments below!
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Now, this isn't going to be a long, "Let's all pile on how bad the internet is and only think about the good ol' days when the rocks were soft and we could only communicate using cans with string."
People old enough to remember life pre-Internet, what are some less obvious things you miss about that time?
Many habits we used to possess were made completely irrelevant thanks to the internet. Not that we didn't enjoy doing them, we just started asking ourselves, "What's the point?"
Completely Devoid Of Technological Interference
"Leaving home and just being gone for the day. No cell phones. If there were cameras, it was really different. You used them to take pictures of things or had people take pictures of you. But there was no social media to preoccupy your mind. It was just doing something. And whoever you were with, was who you were with."
No One Needs 24 Hours Of Nonsense
"News only being on at 6pm. That was it. Now we have 6 hours of local news and 24 hours of cable news. Not being bombarded all day with "news." And when you saw "Breaking News" on the screen you knew something serious went down."
You Mean We Actually Have To Go?
"It used to be a lot harder to bail on things. You'd have to call the person at home and tell them yourself, or at least leave a message if you wanted to be risky. Typically if you were gonna bail you'd give at least 24 hours notice. Nowadays people can let you know they're bailing last second since you're always reachable."
"RSVPing mattered. If you said you were going to be there, you made sure to be there. None of this facebook invites that everyone blows off without any form of social repercussions. If you said you were going to go and didn't go, you were the a--hole and everyone knew it."
You can get almost anything on the internet. Almost. Still no sign of real working Lightsabers anywhere out there, but the internet has eliminated many of our purchasing practices.
Just In Time For The Holidays!
"The Sears catalog. That was how I found out about all the cool new toys."
"Catalogs in general, for me. Before the internet made mindless browsing of stuff you didn't need ~really~ easy to do, we still liked doing this without having to drive to the mall. The solution? Sign your mom up for those cool seed catalogs, those not safe to browse at the office gag gift catalogs and then everything in between. That stuff was really nice to have when you grew up somewhere that was not even cable ready."
1 Good Song Out Of 15
"When you bought new music you just had to hope it was good. The single might be popular but otherwise unless someone had it you just bought it and hoped for the best."
"There was so much excitement to going to a cd store to buy an album that you only knew one song of or the band/artist name and just listening to that entire cd over and over again picking out which tracks were your favorite while still learning every lyric to all the songs on the album.
Building a cd collection was also fun."
Talk About The "Immediate Gratification" Generation, Huh?
"The instant win bottle caps / candy / chocolate bar wrappers where you could turn them back into the store and immediately get a free one. Now it's just codes you have to register on their website so they can get your info, i don't even bother anymore."
Finally, there's these activities, to difficult to explain to anyone who wasn't there. How do you get someone to understand that not having a supercomputer in your pocket at all hours of the day radically changed your life?
Keeping It In Front Of You
"I miss having an attention span of more than three seconds"
"It's so weird. I can only vaguely remember what it feels like to not have a smartphone and to be alone and think.
Wondering what my friends are doing and if they'd like to do something on the weekend. We'd have to talk during lunch break at school and plan it...
Trying to find the answer to a math problem... Having to figure it out by re-reading the problem and explanations 5 times."
There Used To Be A Time When You Couldn't Play Everything
"Not being overwhelmed by choice.
Don't get me wrong, having nearly every form of media downloadable is great, but back in the day, i rented a video game and i played that video game as much as i could.
Now, its hard to give it more than 2 seconds before i try one of the 20,000 games i have access to.
New game plus used to be cool. Now, I'm happy if just beat the game"
Floundering. Just A Little.
"My formative years were the 1980s. I remember like yesterday going to study in Paris my junior year of college. I got off the plane with no cell phone, no internet, a Let's Go Paris book, and just a hostel address written on a piece of paper I'd stuck in a French dictionary. I did not know a single person in all of France.
I had $500 of cash stuck in a money belt. The belt was tight and sweaty but that money had to last me for at least a month until I could find a part-time job with my lousy French. My "credit card" was my father's credit card numbers written down on a piece of paper. He told me I could only use it to buy a plane ticket home in an emergency.
I remember standing in the airport and having this powerful emotion of being 21 years old, scared sh-tless, but in absolutely completely control of my own destiny. There was absolutely nobody who could come rushing to my aid if I needed it. I was 100% on my own.
I'm actually very thankful for that experience. I found the hostel. I found a job. I made friends. I learned French. I made it all on my own which was just a big boost in life confidence.
I have no doubt if I'd had a cell phone I would've called my parents on Day 2, told them it was too hard, and been on the next plane home. But I had no other choice but to succeed."
We can never go back. Not really, anyway. The only way is to keep going forward, be aware of the effect the internet has on us, and do our best to not let it take away the things that really matter in our lives.
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Look, unless you enjoy cooking, no one likes spending time in the kitchen longer than they have to in order to whip up something mediocre to eat.
Ordering food or, for the time being, enjoying a socially distanced lunch at an establishment is convenient, but it can take a toll on your wallet.
So what options are there?
Fortunately, there are plenty of them that do not involve nuking a frozen entree.
"What's your go-to under 5 minute meal?"
These dinner selections are super sufficient.
A Loaded Course
"Two hotdogs and a side of judgement from my fiancé"
In Case You Didn't Know
"Quesadilla. super quick and easy to make and there's a ton of ingredients that you can add without much effort that will make it even better."
"Ramen and an egg, but not the traditional way."
- "Boil roughly half an inch of water (we want just enough water to boil the noodles, with very little water left over when it's done boiling)."
- "Smash up the ramen noodles, while still in the package (optional but cooks MUCH faster)."
- "Open the package and remove the seasoning."
- "Dump the noodles in."
- "While boiling, crack an egg and whisk in a small bowl."
- "Noodles should be done and almost all the water should be gone, if not strain out some.
- Remove from the heat."
- "Slowly pour in the egg while mixing very quickly, try not to let the egg touch the pan."
- "Mix as much of the seasoning packet as you like (I prefer 1/2 - 3/4 because I usually add a salty component at the end.)"
- "Add to bowl and top with some chives, thinly sliced, ripped up ham/salami and/or parsley. Leftover bacon or pancetta are fantastic crunchy components to dial up the texture."
"Easy, fast and checks so many of the 'munchie' boxes for me."
Don't Underestimate Soups
"Tomato soup and add tortellini. I like the spinach ones from Trader Joe's and Progreso creamy tomato with basil. It's bomb and it really makes a decent meal."
For people in a rush, these tasty snacks would suffice.
Goes Well With Veggies And Cheese
"Hummus is such an underrated food. It goes well with a lot of veggies and breads and chips or heck even cheese. All the time I hear hummus being listed as one of those weird, gross foods when its actually an amazing snack, or a meal if done correctly. It's not really unhealthy, either, especially if eaten with veggies (celery and carrots go great with hummus)."
Ready In Seconds
"All I do is get a paper towel, and put 5 Oreos on it."
"Then go back and get the whole package."
Peanut Butter Fantasies
"Peanut butter sandwich."
"If I'm feeling extra froggy I'll add nutella to the peanut butter and honey sandwich and put it in the microwave for 30 seconds. Goes down about as well as a popeye's biscuit though."
"It's like cheating the system. You eat sweets and call it healthy."
Start your day without all the hassle of a fancy breakfast.
Put It In A Bowl
"Oatmeal or cereal."
"Cereal is definitely underrated as a meal outside of the breakfast dynamic."
"A very simple recipe my grandma prepared for me when i was a kid."
"It's basically scrambled eggs...but before adding the egg she would cook sweetcorn (from a can) with a little bit of butter, add the eggs and then when the eggs were almost ready, add small cubes of cheese and cook for a minute or until the cheese start to melt (she was using fontal, but any swiss or white cheddar will do). Just a little black pepper and salt."
"Takes 5 minutes to do but it's absolutely delicious, fill you up, not so unhealthy and I feel my late grandma with me."
'I tried variations with chives or spring onions, paprika or other stuff. Still good but nothing as good as a simple "uova strapazzate con mais e formaggio.'"
I consider yogurt a healthy snack/lunch option.
I like having a bowl of non-fat plain Greek yogurt with raspberries, blueberries, sprinkled with granola and drizzled with honey.
It's packed with nutrients and gives me a nice boost of energy.
Yogurt also makes for a perfect chip dip. I sprinkle some onion soup mix and stir in the mixture. Who knew quick and easy food prep could be so delicious?
We all like to assume that a big old scar has an amazing, hardcore story behind it: maybe a valiant fight or some life threatening-escape.
But despite what Hollywood would have us think, that is so rarely the case.
Usually, some kind of bizarre accident leaves us with the biggest scar of our life. There's no action movie story behind it, just a careful mixture of foolishness and bad luck.
Clearly not put off by some gruesome anecdotes, Redditor fluffybear45 asked:
"People with scars, how did you get them?"
For many, it was the wild antics of childhood that left them slightly maimed. With many years now separating the Redditor from the event, these were pretty hilarious.
Out of Nowhere!
"I was playing on a swing and then my leg got stuck in barbed wire." -- Soviet_God-Emperor
"I feel like we missed a couple steps here, or your local park had some serious issues." -- Henfrid
"Yo that went from 0 to 100 real fast" -- IHaveButt
"2nd grade, defective slip-n-slide." -- AdmiralAkbar1
"I'm pretty sure the general design of the slip'n'slide was defective. Those stakes weren't covered originally, so you had to be straight down the middle of the slide or else....." -- Q-burt
"Could you refer to this incident in a gravely voice while staring into the middle distance, pausing only to shudder and sip your scotch?" -- CaptValentine
That's Why You Need an Axe Yard
"My dad hit me with an axe (bladed side) in the face. Stupid 10 yo me just had to look over his shoulder while he was hammering in herrings for our tent."
Others talked about freak accidents that came not from the stupidity of childhood, but the bad luck of mistakes made as an adult.
Bad Conditions for Practice
"Dad gave me a folding knife for Christmas"
"I read online that you could flick it open with one hand"
"So I practiced it, after my hands were greasy from eating a burger"
Take Your Pick
"Multiple long scars on my back are from falling onto a old soviet steel welcome mat ( i dont know how to describe it in english but its meant to wipe dirt of your shoes with triangle shaped steel beams."
"Medium sized one on my forearm is from a barbed wire fence, another one next to it is from a motorcycle accident and one on the base on my thumb is from a cars hood slipping and cutting me."
One Heck Of a Fall
" 'This one is from a skateboard, this one was a truck accident, and this one was a fire hydrant.' "
" 'Oh really? I bet each one has a very unique story.' "
" 'Not really, I skateboarded off of a truck into a fire hydrant.' "
Last, some people talked about the medical procedures that left them with the big gash. These stories had some ninth grade words and not nearly as much stupidity.
"A rare auto immune disorder called pyoderma gangrenosum twice... Don't google If you don't like gore... I had to have daily wound care and high doses of medical steroids"
"My intestines telescoped on themselves 8" scar on my belly." -- Anom8675309
"I never wanted to see the words 'intestines' and 'telescoped' together. Ouch." -- LadySygerrik
"I was born 2 months premature. I wasn't born with an esophagus so drs. cut my stomach open and used parts of my colon or intestines and created a new one for me. I have a huge scar on my neck and my stomach is one big scar. Also had a stomach feeding tube for quite a bit and heart surgery at 2 days old."
"I love science. I wouldn't have experienced life if it hadn't been for advances in medical science."
So if you've been sitting on an embarrassing backstory for one of your scars, feel free to share. You're hardly alone.
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