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Getting hung up on someone can ruin your life. This is all amplified if that person you're crushing hard on doesn't reciprocate those feelings. What starts as a crush can become time consuming, self-esteem shattering, and a real blow to your overall mental state. How can you move past it?


Reddit user, u/Cptsanderz, wanted to know how you got over someone when they asked:

What was one thing that allowed you to get over a crush very quickly?

Don't Wait. Confront.

In high school I had been crushing on this one guy for years. Finally I'd had enough. I walk up to him, pull him from his circle of friends, and straight up tell him "I like you. I've liked you for years. I know you don't like me. So please tell me you don't like me, laugh, and walk away."

And he did.

Suddenly I was free

MemberMurphysLaw

Find Out They're Not Who They Say They Are

My crush, whom I had never talked to before walked by and sneered at my clothes, saying I looked like I shopped at a thrift store. I just blinked and said that I did, in fact, shop at thrift stores.

The next week however, I was working as a cashier and saw him come into my line with his mom and an EBT card to pay for groceries. He froze when he saw me and turned bright red. I didn't say anything to him about it but I just had the biggest sh-t-eating grin on my face as I scanned and bagged his stuff.

He never bothered me again after that, but I sure lost my lady boner for his poser a--.

WalterLubbers

Just Cut Them Completely Out

Complete separation.

No contact.

No social media stalking.

Even then it took awhile.

Fhiggins

This is key.

I was able to really make the decision to do it after I realized that "we" were not nearly as important to her as "we" were to me. That didn't make her wrong, per se, but making that realization and putting down my phone was it - Switch flipped, time to move on.

Aesop_Rocks

Think Through, "What Do They Really Want?"

She tried recruiting me for an MLM

estrilda

That'll do the trick.

If the relationship between you is worth little enough that they'd throw you under the bus for money, then screw them. They aren't worth it.

Mornington-Crescent

Discover They Don't Really Know Anything About Anything

She insisted that the Roman Empire started the industrial revolution, and that the Jews "kinda deserved what they got because they didn't fight back". I was studying to become a historian in college at the time (btw choose another major) and felt pretty good about not calling her back for another date.

tehmike1987

Understand Their Problems Aren't Your Problems

We were very into each other, but he had this weird thing where he wouldn't allow himself to be happy, and clearly loved the attention being the misunderstood/serious/brooding guy.

He wanted me to wait for him "for a few years" so he could decide if he actually wanted to be with me or not, but didn't want me to date anyone else. I got sick of that sh-t real quick.

delfinity

Realize They're A Fresh Faced 23-Year Old?

Had my period, he noticed I was under the weather and asked what was wrong. I told him I was having bad cramps and he stuck his fingers in his ears saying "oh wow ew ew ew ew".

He was 23.

yeahsure0811

My 10 year old brother wouldn't do that

PowerMan2206

Know In Your Heart That Life Finds A Way

A rumor went around school that he cut out the pockets of his jeans so he could masturbate during reading class.

The rumors turned out to be true.

hellosaturn

Ask, "Do I Really Like Them?"

Getting to know them.

I find that when I have a "crush" on someone it's really not them I have a crush on, but how I imagine them to be. My imagination will be he reason why I will forever seek and never find satisfaction.

autmnleighhh

...Or That'll Do it...

Went on one date with him.

Turns out he had a fiancée that was pregnant.

That killed any feelings for him.

Iamranran

H/T: Reddit

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