It's okay for the littlest things to set you off. Odds are, it's the littlest things that get the biggest reaction because of how often they happen to you. Repeated minor gaffes can be a nightmare moreso than one big tragedy. Stubbing your toe is the worst, sure, but have you ever once tried to catch a fork slipping out of your grip and you missed it, causing it to scatter further away from you? Because it turns out hell is real and it's that exact moment...
Let's take a look!
Reddit user, u/WhatsTheMatterMcFly, wanted to know, from the big to the small, that "one" little thing:
What petty thing turns you into a raging, snarling beast?
They Can't Read Your Mind
GiphyIf I'm about to do something and someone asks me to do it.
Saying "I was JUST about to do the dishes!" just makes you look bad and now your nice deed has turned into something you do just because someone asked you to.
This Feels Like More Of A Kid Problem
When you tell someone to stop but they keep on doing it with that stupid smirk plastered to their face
Either Finish It Or Throw It Away
When some take something from the fridge, pantry etc. Then they finish it and put the empty container back! Why?
Or take a bottle off juice or pop outta the fridge and leave a tiny mouthful in the bottom and put it back. At least leave a glassfull or drink the lot.
Just Look Away
When someone stares at me when im eating stuff
My roommate does this if I have any sort of food. Literally comes and sits right next to me and stares in the hopes that I'll be nice and offer some. If I look at him he'll start looking around like he wasn't staring at me at all. Even has the audacity to get in my bed because he doesn't think his is as comfortable.
Still a good boy though, even though he doesn't pay rent.
Pay Attention While You're Driving
How hard is it to use a godd-mn blinker?
And if you're braking BEFORE you put your turn signal on then you're doing it wrong.
Its not just for cars. Its for pedestrians, cyclists, skateboarders and ebikes.
Everyone wants to know what you're doing. Dont wait til the last moment.
See somebody waiting to turn in front of you on the street you're turning on? Put your signal on so they can turn! Dont wait til you're right in front of the intersection when they could have gone.
I hate everyone.
Gotta Fill That Space
Waiting in a line, trying to put a little more space between me and the person behind me while the line isn't moving, and the person behind me taking that as invitation to step closer.
Did I Say You Could Use My Pen?
Taking my stuff without my permission
Disrespecting my property really p-sses me off. Recently I had my phone plugged into the speakers playing music, and my new housemate picks it up to look at the playlist. I say "Don't touch my phone", and his reaction was not to put it down, but to ask "Why?"
Don't ask why. I don't have to justify it. This is not a debate or negotiation. It's mine and I have absolute authority over it.
Ensnared Fury
GiphyCatching my headphones on something.
Zero to white hot SEETHING rage in a matter of seconds.
Do The Job
People who don't do their work and expect me to do theirs and mine. Bonus points if said person is old (both in age and service time) and acts as if you're disrespecting them for saying DO YOUR F-CKING JOB.
God, I have that guy at my job...He spends so much energy avoiding work, if he dedicated that to his actual job he'd be doing just fine. Some people just think they're getting one over on everybody by slacking off.
Redditor Deviant55 wanted to talk about physical intimacy in relationships, so they asked:
"How important is sex to you in a relationship? Could you be with someone you love even if sex was off the table indefinitely?"
I learned how much sex matters in my last relationship.
Once I wasn't interested, it kind of killed everything.
Forever
GIF by moodmanGiphy"When my wife of 30+ years became too ill for sex to be even remotely interesting for her, I certainly did not end the relationship. I loved her and I took care of her until she died. No other course even occurred to me."
fvillion
Frustration
"When I met my wife we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. This lasted a few years. I was in my mid-twenties when we married. She developed a chronic medical issue. I’ve gone twenty years being sexually frustrated. There are stages and phases to this."
"What I came to realize is that I love my wife. Yes, sex is important in our relationship. But I would rather have her in my life with no sex than have sex without her."
"The thing is, I love her. She can’t help her situation. I can’t help it. One deals with it. Marriage is more than sex. It is building a life and memories, raising a family, and loving each other regardless of the challenges life throws our way. But sex is very important. It helps keep the closeness and the emotional bond. But it isn’t the only thing that does that."
QuietusNoctis
I Love Her
"It is complicated. I am in a near-sexless marriage. The wife needs antidepressants to function. And it kills her libido. So usually it is four to six times a year. My libido rages. And yeah, it sucks. I dream of more sex."
"But I love the chick. She loves me to the moon and back. I’m not willing to sacrifice her love so I can try dating again. Divorce rates these days? And I found a woman who more than tolerates me, she loves me. I’ll stay. And not to be crude but yeah I masturbate. A lot. She doesn’t begrudge me that. Occasionally she even encourages it."
"She went off her meds for a while. And man did we do it. But she was a mess. I need her healthy more than I need a shag. We travel together. We enjoy each other’s company. We actually like each other. I could claim that it is hell, but I choose to see all of the good I am blessed with."
painthawg_goose
Heartless
"Quite important. But I think it depends on where you are in the relationship. I've been married for 10 years. I have kids. If my wife suddenly couldn't have sex with me for some reason -- illness or injury or something -- I'm not divorcing her over it. That's heartless."
"Now, if she just decided we weren't ever having sex again because she didn't feel like it, that'd be different. Or if I was just starting to date someone and they told me they'd never have sex, I probably just wouldn't keep pursuing the relationship. Plenty of people out there who will."
Arkhangelzk
Necessity
"It depends on the circumstances. I LOVE doing it with my man but I love his heart and soul more. If we had to stop having sex for medical reasons or something I’d definitely stay with him and stay faithful. If I was single, I think it’s unlikely I’d start a new relationship knowing it would be sex free."
Fit_Technology8240
Heart and soul is just as necessary and hot and sweaty.
At least a lot of people recognize that.
Percentages
Giphy"Sex life is 10% of a relationship when it’s good and 90% of a relationship when it’s bad."
jakovichontwitch
"The other way I've heard it put is that sex is like the bathroom in your house. It's not the only reason you bought the house, but if it's not working it's a big problem."
molten_dragon
Age Related
"50-year-old here married for 27 years. It’s not important. It was important when we were younger but honestly, if sex wasn’t possible I would still love my wife and really nothing about our day would really change."
Kantforall
"I’ve been reading these comments and wishing that everyone’s age was flared on their post because I sense that there are a lot of under-60-year-olds. I am older than my wife but she is starting menopause and I can see the writing on the wall. Not super thrilled but I love her completely and understand. The real intimacy is in how we still (and will always) want to sleep touching each other and waking up next to each other."
caffeinated-hijinx
Kiss Me
"I honestly considered this before. I absolutely adored this guy. It was like a child relationship; we'd kiss and cuddle and hold hands and things, but he wouldn't have sex with me, nor would he commit properly. Any time we came close to sex, he'd go soft or back off."
"I couldn't understand it, wondered if I could keep doing that. My sex drive was wild. Why kiss and the rest but not sex?"
"Then one day he told me he was in love with me and asked me out properly. I said yes there and then, had a wonderful day with him, but when I went home, I was left questioning if I could possibly live without sex. I decided that yeah, I loved him but it would be tough."
"We had sex the next day. So yes, I think I probably could."
Adventurous_Train_48
Touchy/affectionate...
"It's very important. I'm a very affectionate and physical person and touch/caresses and anything physical is one of my love languages. I couldn't function with someone who is the opposite of me or who's uncomfortable with how I am. I already was in a relationship with someone who wasn't that touchy/affectionate and it created frustration for both of us."
Borboleta77
Don't Look at Me
"I am in a sexless relationship. He has erectile dysfunction and I really don't like sex in general. I'm really uncomfortable naked or even vulnerable. I'm shy around him despite the relationship being 10 years nearly, I'm even shy around my family and friends. Everything about sex makes me feel so embarrassed, and I feel nothing but negative feelings when I used to be sexually active. Not through choice of partner, I just hate that sort of attention."
NucularOrchid
Definitive!
Shake Handshake GIF by OriginalsGiphy"10/10. Sexual incompatibility is a deal breaker!"
oeeiae
Sex is important but not everything.
Until it is everything if it becomes an issue.
Good luck couples. Open and honest communication is key.