For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health... those are promises that are called upon and put to the test pretty quickly after I do.
People really should sit down and process those words and the meaning behind them before the big day.
Money can often be a burden, especially in relationships.
It's not everything but everybody should be on the same page about it.
It's especially important to be clear when one partner has been living a type vastly different from the other.
Does money define part of the ever after?
RedditorBugsRattywanted to discuss want happens after certain types if "I Dos." They asked:
"Redditors who have married someone of a significantly greater or lesser socioeconomic level, how did you meet and how is it going?"
I've had a few rich significant others. It can be uncomfortable. I didn't learn soon enough to speak about the uncomfortable.
Lucky
marriage love GIFGiphy"Just got engaged to the woman of my dreams, her mom was homeless and she’s been working minimum wage jobs since she was 16. Hopefully things turn out well, she’s sweet and kind and I honestly think I’m the lucky one." ~ Responsible-Laugh590
The Practice Girl
"My husband grew up very wealthy and very socially awkward. When he was 20, his mom had him take out the new maid so he could 'practice' on her. The mom did not expect him to propose. She was not amused. She cut him off until they had their second kid. This was like forty years ago. We’re still happily married." ~ HolaEverybody
Life is good...
"My wife's family is very wealthy and I grew up a poor country boy. They've been very welcoming and nothing but amazing. We met at a park a few years ago. She has a higher earning potential than I do because of her education, but I'm the breadwinner of the family right now. Life is good, we have everything we need and most things we want (excluding super expensive things)." ~ chewroxurface
'favela'
"I was born in the 'favela' (Brazilian name for ghetto), always lived there and I met this woman at a mansion party that I went because my brother was a friend of one of the organizers, I've been studying hard as f**k for my whole life and now I work at a pretty big corp (got accepted two weeks ago), while she's the daughter of a plastic surgeon and lived at a very rich neighborhood here in São Paulo, we met, dated and we're engaged now."
"The funny part is that her family loves me, her father is a very nice man and her mom is pretty much an angel, all of them treat me really well. The weird part is that my family doesn't like her exactly for the fact that she came from a rich family, I already got into an argument with my mom because of this, my brother is the only one who really supports us." ~ Regular-Attorney-310
When at Sonic
Sonic The Hedgehog GIFGiphy"I was making around 90k a year and she was a car hop at Sonic. We met through my sister n law at the time. We were married for 18 years, and the divorce." ~ No_Ordinary_3824
So far a mixed bag. You win some, you lose some. Ah sweet romance...
No regrets
Happy I Love You GIF by Minnie MouseGiphy"Over 30 years after meeting and later marrying my beloved deep south redneck wife, no regrets! It's going well, and we've been able to forge a strong partnership. My elitist, aristocratic Japanese mom's inheritance helped not just us but those we care about." ~ MyAnvsIsBleeding
10 years this January...
"Not the biggest difference, but my girlfriend is definitely on a higher level than me. When we met (at a mutual friend’s birthday party) I was unemployed, she was a software engineer leading a team of people from all over the world, writing the kind of code that entire countries use to keep track of their economies. I was still living with my parents at 25, she was able to support herself in her own flat in the centre of town, no roommates."
"I got s**t GCSEs and never pursued higher education, she’s got the kind of degrees that give you letters after your name. We’ll have been together for 10 years this January - I do minimum wage restaurant work, she makes four times as much as me writing code from home and developing cool apps. I’m saving up for an engagement ring. :3." ~ SpookyVoidCat
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"I grew up in public housing, lived on welfare and food stamps for a time, and attended college on scholarship. I met my husband in college when we had a class together and, later, when we met again during a protest of the first Gulf war. He was handsome, funny, and bold. I had no idea he was from a wealthy family until we were already engaged."
"We separated this summer after 26 years together but, in truth, our marriage had been over for several years. A health scare and slow drift into extremist politics changed him into a different person, the pandemic accelerated it until he was unrecognizable. Our son no longer speaks to him and his mother and brother are baffled by his behavior. We had 2 good decades together and raised a beautiful child, I'm just sad it ended like this." ~ HaupiaGoddess
Made it Work
"My wife grew up wealthy. Her dad is a doctor and exec of a local hospital, her mom is a professor. Both of my parents worked in a factory. My mom was a secretary and dad an electrician. I was the first in my family to go to college and got a computer science degree."
"I learned to budget well, lived within my means, and bought my first house at 23. I sold it a few years later and put myself through grad school where I met my wife. We have 2 beautiful daughters and a nice house. She’s a stay at home mom now and we live off my income. It’s going great." ~ HitNRun_
Mom's Tale
Mothers Day Smile GIF by CrestGiphy"Not my story... But my mother was a single parent of two working 60 hours a week to provide for me and my sister."
"When I was around 5 , she met my step dad who was making 100k as a railroad engineer. They soon moved in together and my mom was able to spend more time with me and my sister. I'm now 18, they've been married for almost 4 years and together for 13." ~ BladeWolf26
Here we are 11 years later...
"Not extreme, because I'm not wealthy or anything. But I definitely had a very different upbringing and opportunities (college degree, stable home, professional license...) We met because she was a server where I ate every Thursday. We clicked so one day I gave her my number and she called. Here we are 11 years later. It still gets interesting. Since being with her I've had more interactions with the police and legal system than I know."
"If you say you are cold she will give you the shirt shirts she's wearing damn nudity laws. She'll make ramen to take to people she saw sleeping in the laundry room. She's also the person that will come back from redbox and say 'The police will be here soon. Girl got in my face so I kicked her a**.' Our perception of life are very different; but we are better together." ~ diegojones4
Thanks Cupid
"I was a nanny and in grad school to be a teacher, and he was working in finance making half a million a year. We met on OkCupid and hit it off from there. I grew up lower middle class with blue collar parents, and he grew up in different countries with a prominent ob-gyn father and SAHM."
"Every one in his family is wildly successful while my parents are probably the most successful out of their families of black sheep. My sister jokes that I’m a fancy witch now and maybe I am. But I am still a thrifty person at heart; husband likes that I’m scandalized by the costs of things and try to find better deals and don’t want things just because they’re expensive."
"For example, I drive a Subaru while he drives an Audi because the idea of a $900/month car payment is offensive to me. We could afford it, but I’ll take my Subaru. I also donate more to charities than he does because it’s ridiculous we have so much money. He thinks it’s all very normal, but it’s not for me!" ~ katiejim
26+
"I was in fast food as a lowly peon watching my marriage crumble (first husband was a serial cheater). He (second husband) was a college student nearly eight years younger than me. We met on the internet back in the days of the BBS (ya know, in the early days, back when rampaging hordes of compuserve and AOL floppies roamed the earth)."
"We struck up a friendship while my soon to be ex husband was out on a date on our anniversary, and about two months later started dating after I left my first husband. Been together 26 years now, married for 23." ~ Pagan_Chick
From the Middle...
"Idk if this counts but my dad came from a middle class family and my mom was the daughter of two factory workers (working class). They met at a country fair while they were both in high school. My mom was the first person in her family to even try to go to college. My dad has a Bachelor's in Mechanical Engineering. He works full time and makes triple what my mom does working in a store part time."
"They love each other so much it's honestly inspiring but my father has expressed some sadness around the pressure he feels as the almost sole provider for the family. My mom, on the other hand, is sad she didn't complete school and get a degree. They make it work but it's rough on both of them. I can see how something like this could break up a marriage though seeing as they just celebrated their 25th anniversary I think they're doing ok." ~ ShadowCast2550
Legit
"My ex-wife and I fit this very well. I'd rather keep the specifics to myself, but everything that I had heard about how it could go wrong did go wrong for us. Not saying it's not possible, but there's a legit reason people are warned not to do this." ~ Locklin13
"Similarly, my cousin dated the same guy all through college and for a while after. They had a beautiful life together and our family all adored him. But his family thought she couldn't be anything but a gold digger because she came from a poor family. She walked away shortly after they got engaged because she just couldn't live the rest of her life with in-laws looking at her like that." ~ nothingweasel
'unlimited funds'
"We met through a mutual friend while I was finishing up my BA in my late twenties. I'm not exactly poor but I certainly am compared to the outrageous wealth that she comes from. Overall it's great but I still find her hang-ups about money to be extremely strange. For example, we rent even though she has a trust with 'unlimited funds' for purchasing a home because she isn't ready to buy."
"It wouldn't be my home but I would rather pay her rent than a landlord. People who come from old money seem to have strange psychology around money. Her aunt isn't leaving her cousins any of the family money because she feels the family inheritance ruined her life. Truly bizarre." ~ howdidthishappen777
Toxic Boomer
"My wife grew up showing horses and I grew up mowing the infield of a local dirt racetrack so I could pay our electric bill. 28 years later, we are happier than we ever have been. We raised a daughter, moved across the country, and now enjoy taking a shower together every day. It prolly helped she decided to kick her toxic Boomer parents to the curb, though. I encourage her frequently to reach out, especially when we make infrequent trips back to our birthplace. Her choice. They really are unredeemable a**holes, though." ~ BBaggins75
Struggles...
"I grew up moving from home to home with a drug addict father and a mother who had to work 2+ jobs to keep a roof over her 3 children’s heads. my husbands family definitely struggled when he was a kid cause he’s the oldest, but now they make upwards of $150k a year and live in a nice house with nice food and things and present parents. We didn’t endure the same traumas and sometimes it’s difficult to understand each other’s struggles, but we’ve been married almost 6 months now and everything’s going great!" ~ straightupgong
In the Bay Area...
"I grew up in the Bay Area, so my dad made good money and invested well with stocks. Money pretty much wasn't ever an issue. My wife's family always struggled with money though I'm not sure if say it was poverty (she finds Malcolm in the Middle very relatable, haha). We met at church, been married about five and a half years. I'd say it's going pretty great. :) " ~ The_GREAT_Gremlin
Fairytales...
idk how to tag this cary elwes GIFGiphy"Yes. We met online, lived in different countries and it’s a fairy tale for 7 years now. Sounds cheesy and cliche but it’s true." ~ No_Prune1433
It feels like money isn't always the obstacle. If you're going to be together forever, you make it work or you don't. For richer or poorer be damned.
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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.