People Break Down The Most Messed Up Thing A Teacher Has Ever Done To Them
Teachers are supposed to be kind individuals, instructing a class of (most of the time) open-minded students how to learn and grow and critically think. In an ideal world this would be the case for all educators, but as any person who's been through the education system can tell you, a good teacher is not always a guarantee.
Reddit user, u/throwaaawayx0, wanted to hear about the worst of your class life when they asked:
[Serious] What really messed up thing did a teacher do to you?
Letting Preconceptions Get In The Way
I'll go first, its a story which I only remembered some years ago.
I come from an immigrant family (Iraqi).
I was always an extremely shy and introverted kid, never talking much.
So one day the teacher starts talking about antisemitsm and he says how I am Iraqi which means I HATE Jews and I would love it if they all just died, some people looked at me, for example a buddy who sat next to me asking me if thats true.
I said that thats not true and that I respect everbody regardless of religion, sex, sexual orientation or whatever and I was really confused, it was not a joke because he didn't laugh and even if it were a joke its not a funny joke and at that age many people will get brainwashed since they believe everything a teacher says.
In the end nobody except the people in class knew about what happened but I thats now probably 7 years ago and if I had said something to the principal (which I wish I did) the teacher would've probably gotten suspended.
Sad that people like that are teachers.
Keep Your Hands To Yourself
In high school, we were having some sort of drill/lockdown. Don't remember what the situation was exactly. Some students were laughing and talking during the it and the (substitute) teacher was getting clearly frustrated. She told them to quiet down repeatedly, which being high schoolers they didn't liste, until she was yelling at them to be quiet. I responded to her saying, "you're being louder than they are." Not trying to be rude, but for real she was.
She didn't like that, so she smacked me. After the drill, she called in a counselor, about the students. She probably shouldn't have done that, because it was just brought up how she was being loud and then continued to hit a student. Never saw her again.
When I was in seventh grade, I was having issues with anxiety and depression, and I went to my guidance counselor. I was visibly crying and she told me to stop blubbering like a 5 year old.
When Your Dad Steps In To Have Your Back
Seventh grade. I was a shy, awkward teenage girl who didn't wear makeup, do her hair, and was going through a gangly growth spurt. I came in one day wearing shorts, in California mind you so it's hot six months of the year. My science teacher Mrs. Sylvia, a frumpy old bag of a woman who never smiled, made me stand up and humiliated me in front of the class for wearing "short shorts", which they were not, and claimed 'my ass was hanging out of them.' They just hung on me awkwardly because my parents hadn't bought me new clothes yet because we couldn't afford any at the time.
I was mortified to the point of being in tears and told my dad. Well, she messed with the bull there. He called a meeting with the principal and her without me there and tore her a new one. Said how dare she humiliate students like that, especially the way she dressed, which was in spandex workout shorts every day. The principal tried to calm him down saying, "Er, ah, let's not talk about personal appearances!" My dad said, "To hell we're not! She talked about my daughter's appearance so it's all fair game!" He called her an old burnout and told the principal his school was full of them, which was true. He told me that day that as a parent, you have to have your child's back, because no one else will, especially not teachers or administration. It's a lesson I have taken to heart.
A Little Sensitive
My music teacher for an extra curricular(so not even my actual band teacher) once yelled at me for like 5 minutes after I said "Ow" softly while he was talking. I had accidentally hit my back on the wall. He went so far as to insinuate that I did it for the attention! It was so unfair and humiliating, i started crying. After that day, I never went back. Jokes on him though. I saw him about 3 years later, in a university music hallway that I was attending at the time. He waved, I didn't.
Singling Out A Specific Type Of Student
I was in first grade, with another girl and I being the only kids of color in either of the first grade classes. One of the other kids got lice and my teacher (horrible woman) decided to ONLY bring out me and this other girl to the hallway and aggressively check our heads...as if to suggest we were dirty and the cause of the lice. I went home and innocently told my mom, because me being 6 I hadn't realized what happened.
My mom lost it.
She threatened to sue the school district and demanded the teacher have disciplinary action. Nothing ever happened to the teacher unfortunately, my mom only got a hefty apology from the principal and my teacher just never bothered me again. To this day, my mom still gets pissed talking about it and hates that teacher.
I went to school without wearing a bra. I was 13 and completely flat-chested, but I guess the barest hint of nipple through my shirt enraged my teacher.
She made me stand up in class and asked me if I thought it was appropriate to come to school dressed like I was while pointing at my chest, then asked if I was "showing off" before ordering me to the principal. Nasty, bitter old woman.
Unequal Grading System
My english teacher in 8th grade hated me. So when she saw I had got full marks in a test, she grabbed my test sheet and scanned it with full attention to find any minor mistake. She found a spelling error and deducted a mark. A friend of mine had a spelling error in the same test but he had only half a mark deducted for the same.
Adding Awful Fuel On The Terrible Fire
I had a math teacher in 8th grade pick on me a lot as well as (what felt like) single me out due to failing the class. I am adhd and depressed, I was struggling after the death of my mother 2 years prior and the subsequent abusive stepmother I gained shortly after.
He once asked me if I was planning on marrying a rich husband instead of having a career because I would need to if I kept up my bad grades and lack of attention during class. On occasion he would also humiliate me by reading or describing the doodles and jokes/stories I would write during class instead of paying attention. He really made me feel worthless.
A Serious Lack Of Ego
My teacher told me to go to the principal's office because I didn't want to take off my jacket.
Same teacher, he just wrote to my mom because I was cleaning my desk before the start of his class. In his words, I was being disrespectful because I wasn't looking at him when he greet us. After that he said that if I don't hurry up [cleaning my desk] he will call the principal.
4th grade my teacher would always open the windows when they had the grass cut. Now there's me a inferior gene'd child with bad allergies and asthma. I would always ask her to close the window because I was having trouble breathing and she never would. At a certain point I just stopped asking for her to close the windows. (Context this school had recess before lunch, why idk. Hindsight it's pretty stupid but w.e.)
So one day, like always the windows were open and they cut the grass later in the day. This meant, come recess they were still cutting the grass. Fast forward an hour to lil me on a stretcher, on oxygen after getting a breathing treatment being put into an ambulance due to an acute asthma attack. This Reddit, is how I ended up getting home schooled.
When I was in third grade, if you didn't have your homework done the teacher would throw you a pity party.
She would make you stand up and then have the entire class chant "1, 2, 3, awwwwww"
Then she would put your name, and the assignment, in what she called the F-Tablet. She claimed that if you had a single assignment in the F-Tablet at the end of the year she would fail you.
You would also lose recess privileges.
Trying To Have Your Back
A little more light hearted than the other stories.
In third grade I was making a presentation in front of class. In the far back of the class I saw the substitute teacher pointing at her crotch and mouthing something under her breath. I was really confused.
At the end of the presentation I just HAD to know what the heck she was doing.
"Mrs. Smith, what's the matter?"
"YOUR ZIPPER IS UNZIPPED!"
I looked down, my underwear was clearly showing, everyone started to point and laugh.
Nearly 20 years later and I still triple check to make sure that I zipped my pants.
Endangering Students For Fun
When I was in sixth grade, we walked across the street for ice cream as a class. I lost my shoe in the middle of a busy street and the cars were already coming both ways, but my teacher made me run out and get it.
Same teacher would fail me on assignments for no reason. I don't know what I ever did for my existence to piss her off
Let Them Use The Bathroom!
Whacked me with a yard stick after I asked for the nth time to please use the bathroom. Then screamed at me when I pissed myself. Mrs. Peacock was my personal Snape in first grade.
A Hateful Vendetta
My 5th grade teacher would intentionally fail everything I did because my mom pissed her off.
Also, I flunked a math course the year I was supposed to graduate and I had to go to another town for summer school. The summer school gives me all of these packets that I'm supposed to complete. But they come back wrong. So my sister lets me use a computer program (like a calculator that teaches you how to actually do the work) to complete the work. Still wrong. I have a neighbor help me. Still wrong. I have a really old friend who was going to college for engineering help me. Still wrong. As it turns out, someone at this school did all of the answers BY HAND, and got them all wrong and they just assumed it was right this whole time. So they just passed me, which was the good part. The months of hard work, frustration and stress was sh-tty though.
Seriously. Messed. Up.
I had a restraining order against a family member, and the school knew and alerted all my teachers before events and open house. My art teacher decided she knew better than the court, and not only let him into a school event, but showed said family member all of my artwork and portfolio and divulged personal information about me. She somehow didn't get fired!
Probably Shouldn't Be Allowed Around Kids
Made fun of a disability in front of the whole class multiple times.
I have a prosthetic right leg. He would make fun of it all the time, impersonate me, ask me to "walk better", and then some. Even changed lyrics in a song the class was singing to joke about it one time. 4 years of that.
In addition, he'd intentionally try to make things awkward with people dating, etc... I had dated a girl briefly in the class and for the next 2 years he would keep making jokes and trying to make everything more awkward than it needed to be, and did it to tons of others as well.
People Share The Hardest Things To Understand About American Culture
Though it's often used as the butt of jokes, there's still a lot to appreciate in the United States, whether you live there or are visiting.
But there are also a lot of things that leave onlookers infinitely perplexed about what it's actually like to live in the United States and why they do things like that.
Redditor DadIsMadAtMe asked:
"What’s the hardest thing for you to comprehend about the American culture?"
"School mascots. Where I live, we just have teams and just play matches against people."
"In America, it’s all like, 'GO, EASTTOWN EAGLES!!! OOGACHACKA!' and there would be some person in a cheapo eagle suit spinning a basketball on his fingers or something. You would have a full dramatic cheerleader dance-off before your match, we just shake hands and stare hard at each other."
No Child Left Behind
"Canadian here on spring break in Florida."
"I can't get over the baseline... I don't know how to say it, the baseline education level? There are smart people, but there are also completely uneducated people. Like, the divide is massive."
Little-To-No Paid Time Off
"Having two weeks vacation or no PTO (Personal Time Off) for most."
"In my current country, you have to take two weeks of mandatory leave in a row. Including public holidays, I get about seven weeks of vacation per year."
Financial Debt Culture
"How casual debt is, how easy it is to take loans and credit cards out in other people's names without their knowledge, and how casual it is to rack up huge amounts of debt."
Where's the Poutine?
"Americans love french fries, cheese, and gravy, but poutine never took off south of the border. Always found that odd."
"The zero-tolerance rule... Who came up with that s**t? The victim is the one who is f**ked. Either he gets bullied or he gets a penalty for defending himself."
"A lot of people follow and worship politicians like they’re gods with flags and all that s**t. In the UK, it’s universally acknowledged that we hate all politicians pretty much equally."
"Having to tip almost everywhere. It definitely makes sense at some places, but feel like we have to tip at the most random of places these days."
"I speak as a Latin American, just setting that down on the table."
"I don’t get why people think that using something from my culture or showing interest in Latin culture is 'cultural appropriation.' I’ve even spoken to a lot of people in my culture about this thing and we all think it’s alright."
"Your healthcare system, it's so complicated and expensive. And people going bankrupt because they get sick, what bulls**ttery is this?"
The Stereotypical American Eagle
"American here, fun fact! That stereotypical screech you commonly hear associated with the bald eagle is actually a red-tailed hawk. Bald eagles do not make that sound. They make more of a weird (way less cool) chirping sound."
"I was too old when I learned this for the first time."
Plus Tax... What?
"Why don't they include tax in the total price of something? Just include it and make life easier. I don't want to have to do maths every time I go there and buy something."
Not In That Exact Order
"You are allowed to drive a car at 16, own guns, and sign up for the military at 18. But alcohol, behold the devil's liquid!, is only for 21+. The math ain't mathin'."
Money Money Money Money
"Legal bribery, what the h**l."
"Also, why do you have to do your taxes? If the Government, in the end, knows if what you paid was what you actually owed, why not just tell you."
People looking in on the United States definitely had some questions about the people who live there and the systems they have to observe. But the big secret is that many Americans are asking the same exact questions.
People Confess Which Things They Swore They'd Never Do As A Kid But Ended Up Doing Anyway
When you were younger, your protected perspective on life and the world was probably significantly different compared to now.
Before life experience informed your decisions, younger you most likely had higher aspirations to achieve a specific goal or swore off doing something you found objectionable.
But here you are, as an adult, doing the exact opposite of what you had intended.
Curious to hear from strangers online about their developmental growth, Redditor 1234kyou_ asked:
"What did you swear in your childhood you would never do, but ended up doing anyways?"
Some hobbies that delighted us as kids never really go away as these Redditors have experienced.
The "Bird Creep"
"Birdwatching. I used to think it was the lamest way someone could spend their time when I was a kid. How could anyone just sit around and look at birds? What are you, some kind of bird creep? ... 20 years later and I'm obsessed with birds. Love hearing their songs and seeing all the beautiful colors."
"Give up drawing."
"I actually broke my own heart when I recently found a school project we did back when I was a kid. We had to write a letter for our future selves and mine starts with: 'Hey, did you become an artist already? I really hope you did not become a boring adult with a boring job who gave up on his dreams and passions.'"
"Well, sorry little me, but I kinda did."
Tending To One's Garden
"Gardening. We had a large garden. We raised and preserved what we grew. It was me and my sister's job to care for this garden. This was back when whipping your child was acceptable punishment. I was whipped sooo many times, because I hated that I had to grew and preserved vegetables I did not like. I hated it! Swore I'd never have a garden. Never do THAT to my kids. Then I had kids. A switch flipped in my head. I had to have a garden! I never made my kids take care of it. Gardening was my 'me' time. But being little kids, they wanted to be with mom and 'help' with the garden. I 'gave' them an area and they were allowed to grow whatever they wanted. If it was a fruit or vegetables , they had to eat it. As a result, they both love gardening and neither are picky eaters."
When it comes to keeping it in the family, it's not always the goal.
"I have become my father."
"I have become my mom.... even the voice is similar."
"I've taken on a lot more of my dad's cynicism than I would like, but mostly I have my mom's wonder and carefreeness."
"But my dad is rich and mom is poor."
"He does not share the wealth he just shares 'you should've done X like this'. But his advice is the level of 'tear down the sign punch them in the face and say you're looking at your new employee'. I've also never heard a single dad joke from him."
"When I was touring houses to buy before the pandemic, my mother's spirit must have possessed me because I opened my mouth and her voice said 'i don't know, i don't think I could live in a house without both a coat closet and a linen closet.'"
Adulting is hard.
The Financial Hole
"Get into debt I can't pay off."
"I said I wouldn’t curse unless a nuke was dropped on my house. That was a f'king lie."
Can't Wait, Don't Hate
"Have sex before marriage. Thank f'k I never made good on that one since I'm 41 and have never been married."
I'm a pretty fussy eater. Always have been.
I grew up in a Japanese family where regularly eating natto was a thing.
Natto is a Japanese dish made from Bacillus subtilis-fermented soybeans. It's known to have magical health benefits but the smell is overwhelmingly powerful, and the nutty taste leaves little to be desired.
Many people not used to eating exotic foods can't stand the flavor and slimy, sticky texture–let alone the pungent aroma.
I swore as a child that would be the one food I would never eat again after having a bad experience.
And yet, here I am as an adult, eating it for breakfast 2-3 times a week after truly understanding the health benefits.
Natto–which is rich in protein, vitamins, and minerals– helps maintain healthy cholesterol levels, reduces blood pressure, and can prevent heart disease. Some studies have suggested it can prevent certain cancers.
Once I trained myself to get used to flavor and smell, I actually crave it now.
It's definitely an acquired taste, but it's crazy to know that we are all capable of liking or appreciating something previously thought of as repulsive once we set our mind to it.
Finding love is something that nearly everyone hopes for at some point in their life.
For some, love practically finds them. They hardly need any time searching for the true love.
Others might have to work a little harder and be a little more patient. They never give up the hope that their one true love is out there, somewhere.
Then there are those for whom the search simply isn't worth it and have found themselves resigned to the fact that they may never find someone.
Whether or not that's how they want their life to be.
"Have you given up on love, if so why?"
Fear Of Getting Hurt
"To me the price I have to pay if I want to be in a relationship is I have to be vulnerable."
"And at some level I just don’t want to get hurt that bad again."
"I accept this, and have family, friends, work, hobbies, and things to look forward to."
"So while I wouldn’t say I have given up on love, I’m not looking for it and would be very wary of any new situation."- hdhdhdhdzjursx
"Gotta be honest, pretty much have."
"The last person I loved romantically found just about every way to put me down and reject me, all the while pulling me back in repeatedly."
"It was not worth it."
"I'm going solo but still kind of hoping for Miracle."
"I like me."- ATXDefenseAttorney
Don't Have The Energy
"Yes, because I'm tired."
"Tired of going out to find someone to love, tired of getting to know a new person and being comfortable enough to fall in love, tired of learning new things about this new person and whether we are compatible, tired of meeting each other's families and getting to know a whole new bunch of people..."
"Being single may be lonely, but I won't be exhausted."- Avelevanstar
"Not sure if I've given up, but I am getting real tired."
"Having to get to know new people, putting my heart out there without knowing if I'll succeed this time, so tiring."
"I'm learning more about myself in therapy, and I've seen ladies' heads turn when I speak, I've been told I have a nice voice, but chasing a lady is so much work for so little payoff."
"Never had a girlfriend before too, and I'm hitting 40 soon."
"Each new lady is a learning experience but it's also incredibly draining."
"Sometimes I just wanna curl up on my bed and ignore the whole world."- Blim004
It's Given Up On Them
"I haven't given up on love, but I doubt I will ever love again."
"After 53 years and so many attempts that ended in tears, I don't think I will ever have that chance again for a variety of reasons."
"I spend times just trying to come to terms that I will die alone someday."- kalwayne3573
For Their own Self-Care
"Need to repair myself so the next guy doesn’t have to do it for me."- Beginning-Match592
Lack Of Reciprocation
"Given up on love as I am the only one loving, the others just need me."
"When they're done, they push me away."- gameygamer15
Traumatized By Past Mistakes
"Ever fallen in love with someone you shouldn't have fallen in love?"
"So that's why, though I hope time will heal me or sth."- guess_I_feed
"I was in a 10-year abusive relationship."
"Unfortunately I didn’t realize until very late and then I ended it."
"It’s too much of a risk to meet someone again as these type of people are very manipulative and you don’t realize the cruelty they are capable of until you are trauma bonded."
"It’s not easier being single but it’s a lot less heartache."
"I thank my lucky stars every day that I got out."- corickle
"My last four love interests either cheated or 'found a girlfriend'."
"It's left me believing I'm just not a person who can be romantically loved."- Owlmystery
Happy Being Alone
"I’m not capable of giving someone my all and I enjoy my time alone more than anything."
"Two failed marriages later, we chillin."- HDTempo
Life Is Good The Way It Is
"I had a big love."
"It didn't work out."
"Now I live a truly beautiful life alone and I wouldn't trade it for the world."
"I just spent the weekend with my friend, her toddler, new puppy and failing marriage and when I got home I nearly cried with the feeling of gratitude for my peaceful life."- spice-pop
"On romantic love, yes."
"I have so many social aversions and require so much space that I'm neither capable or interested to nurture such a relationship."
"I'm happier and more functional on my own."- USAIsAUcountry
Literally Don't Know What They're Missing
"Never been loved before, can't miss what I haven't experienced."- Allnutsz
"I wasn't socialized from the ages 12-22 and have severe social anxiety."
"It's hard to meet people when you're terrified of them."- owe-me
The true romantics should never give up the hope that their soulmate is out there, somewhere.
That being said, being without a partner is nothing to be ashamed of.
As the only person in control of your own happiness, is you and you alone.
Hiring Managers Explain Which Mistakes Make Them Want To Throw Away Someone's Resume
A resume is so much more than just a simple list of your work experience.
Indeed, your resume is the first step in getting your foot in the door to your dream job, highlighting not only your past experience but your skill set, as well as things about you that will make recruiters want to get to know you more.
On the flip side, sometimes there are things on your resume that will automatically send you to the reject pile.
Of course, this is bound to include common, careless mistakes such as spelling and grammar errors or missing vital information, such as a phone number or email.
However, no two hiring managers will have the same set of red flags they look for on a resume. This can make finding a format that will please everyone something of a fool's errand.
"Hiring managers of Reddit: What makes you immediately throw out a résumé?"
Not In It For The Long Run
"I once received an application from a man in his 60s."
"Solid CV, lots of experience."
"In his cover letter he wrote 'I'm applying because the Job Centre asked me to'."
"Please note that I intend to retire in 6 months time'."
"We had a good laugh, then sent him a very polite rejection letter and wished him a great retirement."-BeerPoweredNonsenseSeason 1 Lol GIF by NBCGiphy
Make Sure They Actually Get The Right Document...
"One time I had someone upload how to upload their resume from Dropbox instead of their resume."- rabidwhale
Always Proof Read!
"I'll usually still interview unless there is no relevant experience, but I've seen some atrocious resumes."
"I've seen people use crutch words like 'uh' in writing for a job description."
"I've also seen a sentence 4 lines long with zero punctuation."
"The same resume will have 'attention to detail' as a skill set."
"I've interviewed for one of those resumes, and the applicant said 'I dunno" to about 80% of my questions, and it turned out he didn't even know what job he applied for'."
"It's not that I'm overly picky, but if someone can't spend the 20 minutes or less that it takes to proof read their resume, are they going to put a lot of effort into their job?"
"Maybe, but it's hard to know."- ChristyM4ck
"'Very meticulous and attentive to detials'."- papparmaneRead Book Club GIFGiphy
Make Sure It's Legible
"The only time I have ever had to throw out a resume was because someone possibly had it in a bag with their lunch and the paper was soaking wet and dissolving as I tried to unfold it."
"It was just unacceptable to process."
"The application was left in a drop box so I don’t know if it was a prank or an actual applicant."- 416unknown
Unprofessional Email Address
"Back in 98 I asked a new group of hires at GIECO to write their email addresses on a list that was passed around."
"Remember email was kinda new back then.. "
"One young female employee's email address included 'mybaldc**tchie'."- catjugglinpimp
"An email address like DankMeister420@."- Kibitznikthe messengers aol GIFGiphy
Never Send Someone In Your Place
"It’s been a long time but I used to do hiring for a cinema."
"Staff were often young, for many it was a first job, making popcorn and selling tickets type of gig."
"I would not pursue anything where parents came in with a CV for their teenager or if parents were contacting me on behalf of their teen."
"Big red flag."
"Either their kid didn’t want he job in the first place or they’re incapable of taking initiative and it doesn’t bode well for how they’d be as an employee."- FigJamAndCitrus
"Having your parents submit your resume while you stand silently beside them."- krim2182
It's Pure, Dumb Luck!
"I remember a meme or maybe a tv skit from a while back."
"The hiring manager had a huge pile of resumes on his desk."
"Someone asked how he was going to sift through them all."
"He took 2/3rds of the pile, threw them in the trash, and remarked 'I don't hire unlucky people'."
"Lol."- SpecialSpite7115Im Out Breaking News GIF by Homes.comGiphy
All About The Formatting
"This doesn’t matter 100% of the time but bad formatting."
"If it’s hard to read I probably won’t read it."- Far-Gain-3081
Depends On The Job
"If it's a professional position, significant spelling errors will make me pass on a resume."
"If it's a warehouse job or something, I'm less concerned."- staffsargent
Don't Treat It Like A Text Message!
"Former hiring manager here."
"I tossed MULTIPLE resumes that used text message abbreviations throughout the resume and cover letter and one that included emojis."
"While you can do pretty much anything from your phone, it doesn’t mean you should."- spectacularuhohtext texting GIF by Fifth HarmonyGiphy
Choose Your References Wisely
"Not me, but a friend who checks resumes/CVs had a belter."
"Candidate had a conviction and his reference was his friend 'Baz'."- LexiRae24
Make Sure You Have The Relevant Skills
"I know it’s pretty specific but If your looking for a scheduling job make sure you know how to use Excel and clearly state it on your resume."
"It will probably get thrown out otherwise."- LoyalPlanets
As stated before, no two hiring departments will have exactly the same prerequisites and red flags, so no matter how hard you work, your resume is never going to please everyone.
That being said, multiple misspellings and a cheeky e-mail address are a surefire guarantee of not pleasing anyone.