Who hasn't had those haunting moments when it feels like life itself is trying to drive you crazy? Didn't I already do this? Didn't we have this conversation? Am I dreaming? All valid questions. It maybe that we are all a wee bit psychic. Deja vú is creepy yet fascinating part of life. it's almost visceral.
Redditor u/ShopliftedTacos wanted to discuss the moments when it feels like life is trying to play a trick on us by asking..... What is the strongest feeling of déjà vu you've experienced?
Cash Out....
GiphyI swear I saw that cash me outside girl on TV before she was on Dr. Phil.
I thought it was a re-run and was telling people I'd already seen it. Reddit
From Canada with Love....
Just wanted to say that in my culture deja vu is you catching up with your spirit. It's a reminder that you are where you are meant to be. I'm First Nations from Canada. It helped me a lot recently. I found my Father deceased. I blamed myself a little because I had to go in for night shift and he assured me he would be okay. I found him deceased when I came home from work. Over the next month, I had deja vu several times. My Uncle's (his brothers) told me never to blame myself. He had been sick with diabetes for years. Wackydetective
"I knew"
Déjà vu is a common symptom of temporal lobe epilepsy (TLE) which I've suffered from my whole life. The intensity of a TLE déjà vu episode is almost always so very specific down to most minute detail. I used to think I had ESP as a kid before I was diagnosed because of "I knew" I'd seen that moment before. I've had several intense moments of déjà vu before a seizure.
The most intense was shortly after having a partial temporal lobectomy. This was 15 years ago now. I was out with my girlfriend at the local Blockbuster. We were looking at the new release wall around the L-K section. I looked at my girlfriend as she quietly read the the back of the case for Kingdom Of Heaven. She looked up, smiled at me then scratched her nose as the light above her flickered.
Her hair fell down a bit and covered one eye. A couple argued about what kid's movie to get for their kids birthday party. In my mind I knew I had witnessed this exact moment in it's entirety. I had a seizure not long after. Eeknock
The "Original" Version.
When I was a little kid (maybe 4-5), I used to look through my family's photo albums quite frequently (this was pre-internet when people still had photo albums.) There were photos of my brother and myself as babies, old family photos before we were born, etc.
I remember seeing a particular photo of me hiding behind an easel and smiling as someone is taking a picture of me. It was something I thought I had actively stored in my head and must have been taken before I was able to really form memories.
But the weird thing is, like a year later, I was running away from my dad who was trying to take a picture of me and hid behind the easel without thinking about it. When he got the photos developed shortly after, I was looking through the photos and I saw that very same photo of myself hiding behind the easel as I thought I saw when I was 4 or 5.
And I looked for the first "original version" but I couldn't find it anywhere and this had to be the only one.
I swear I thought I was able to see the future after that but learned it must have been déjà vu later on. Can think of like 5 other strong occurrences of it when I was a little kid. YarmNemble
rarities....
GiphyI sometimes have rare moments where something happens and I get a split second feeling that I had dreamed that action occurring the night before. comrade_batman
To the Graveyard....
Was around 15 riding bikes home with some friends. We crossed the train tracks and headed towards the graveyard but before we got to the graveyard I told everyone to peddle as fast as they could because a blue dump truck was about to come around the corner speeding like crazy. As soon as we entered the graveyard a blue speeding dump truck came passing by. We all freaked the hell out. mmushymouf
I get confused and disoriented.....
I experience feelings of deja vu relatively often. I don't really remember my dreams, but sometimes something happens and it feels like exactly this has happened to me before in a dream. Usually it's something small and I ignore it, but once in a while the feeling is so strong I get confused and disoriented. Like over the summer I remember I was hiking with a group of people and we had stopped for a break.
One of the women was talking to us about the route we where taking, where we should next stop etc, I remember hearing the conversations if the people around me, and the trees and sounds. It kinda feels like something hitting you square in the chest, I was SURE that I had seen this before. Smothi
Reply.... Again?
I just had one the other day. Usually when I get the Deja Vu feeling, I can tell. Not with this one. I was reading through an email my coworker had gotten. I could have *sworn* that I'd read it the previous week because I recognized it. It was from the same person and everything. When I said "Wait, is this the same email he sent you last week and you just haven't replied yet?" she looked at me like I had two heads and told me that it had only come in that morning. squilliam_z_fancyson
You Mentioned.
I have bouts of déjà vu on a regular basis. The strongest one was at work. My supervisor started to talk to me about a delivery. I said "I know, you already told me earlier" I even told him details about the delivery. He looked confused then told me I couldn't have known that as I haven't been in the office, nor did he leave the office since receiving the email about this delivery. I remembered him talking about earlier in the day but he even showed me the email which was only sent about 2 minutes before I entered the office. The_Crig
My BF was saying....
Probably the time I was reading a book and talking to my boyfriend. When I got to the exact line that started it and knew the beginning of the argument was happening and I was outside my head watching it happen. Snickerdoodleydoo
"How do you know when someone is really in an open relationship, and not a cheater pretending to be in one?"
When In Doubt, Don't...
"If you're feeling off about it, don't do it."- Massive-Ad7628
Bad Feeling I Anticipate Problems GIF by America's Got TalentGiphyConfirmation Needed From Both
"When the partner openly knows and acknowledges it."- EngineeringVirgin
"I was seeing a man who was married."
"He assured me that their relationship was open, that he had full permission to do whatever, and that if it would make me comfortable he would give me his wife’s number and she and I could chat."
"We saw each other for about four years."
"I went to pick him up at his house a couple times and his wife would say 'have a nice date!'."
"That’s the way to do it."
"Everything on the table."
"If there’s some sneakiness, something that makes you feel it’s not quite right, you need to listen to that feeling."- theyarnllama
"Ask to meet their partner."
"If they’re really open, it shouldn’t be a problem."- bloomautomatic
Threes Company Reaction GIF by moodmanGiphyAn Oldie But A Goodie...
"Ask them to pinky swear."- Still_kinda_hungry
Give Your Intentions A Second Thought As Well
"Agh."
"Ok so I’m in an open relationship with my partner and he hooked up with this girl, and we called her to go get a drink with us and she was like 'I knew he had a girlfriend, but I didn’t know you knew'.”
"After that I def didn’t want to hang out with her because she thought she was facilitating him cheating on me."
"Not cool."
"Intentions matter."- Physical_Witness_922
Ask And Answer
"In my experience, ask literally anything about what type of poly or open they are."
"Also anyone who isn't willing to get/show a recent std test isn't worth the risk."- Midori8751
just ask leslie jones GIF by Saturday Night LiveGiphyInstructional Videos
"My SO and I just make videos explaining the situation and ground rules."
"That way, our potential partner know what they are dealing with."- TagtheCat
Doesn't Hurt To Check...
"I slept with a woman who was in an open marriage."
"Her husband called to check on her and ask if she was ok."
"She said she was fine and that was the extent of the call. I think that’s a pretty good indicator."- Fit-Concern-81
It's All About The Reaction
"When they introduce you to their SO as their lover and the SO is fine with it."
"Open relationships rarely sneak around on each other."- welltriedsoul·
“'So like…. You know your husbands screwing Ashley right….??'”
“'Yeah I know'.”- AkKik-Maujaq
It Must Be A Mutual Decision
"In my experience, one of my ex's said we were in an open relationship, however I didn't know that."
"So yeah, that's a cheater."
"I briefly dated someone that was in an open relationship (the couple were long distance)."
"I spoke on the phone with the girlfriend before any sex happened so we could all be on the same page regarding boundaries and intentions, what protection will be used, testing, etc."
"It really wasn't awkward, and I appreciated knowing that everyone was aligned."- korova_chew
Cartoons Button GIF by NickelodeonGiphyIf They Say No, That's A Problem
"Ask them if you can talk to their partner."- vivi2626
Don't Ask, Don't Tell... Don't Date!
"I've been poly for closing in on 2 decades."
"I used to run a large poly meetup in a huge metro area."
"I've seen it all, personally talked to several thousand+ poly folks over the years, etc."
"I REFUSE to engage with anyone in a DADT policy at all at this point."
"HARD F*CKING PASS, the vast majority of the time its cheating."
"And when its not I swear 95% of the time is because the couple with the DADT policy hasn't done any work around opening up their relationship and there are a LOT of problems involved."
"And I want nothing to do with that huge nightmare of a cluster f*ck anymore."
"Here's my perspective and where it comes from."
"The amount of cheating I've seen is beyond staggering."
"A huge percentage of the women I know have run into TONS of men that are cheating and try to use poly, dadt, etc as a guise to do it."
"I have zero reason to put that much trust in someone I just met. It's the same reason I ask for proof of STI testing."
"I can't understand people with the attitude of 'if you can't trust them why are you with them' the whole point is you don't know them that well why would you trust them?"
"This is one step in establishing some trust."
"The ethical part of ENM is a big big deal to me, and I refuse to be complicit in cheating and be put in an unethical situation."
"If cheating was rare it would be a different situation, but f**k it's common."
"I've verified 100% of my partners are in ethical situations, and none of them had a problem with it."
"I've had a number of their partners thank me for actually checking."
"I'll accept a few options for verification, a phone call, voice chat, a brief text exchange while my date is present, a prerecorded voice / video message, or showing me snippets of a conversation where being poly is discussed / confirmed and there is a long-standing chat history with said person."
"Most of the time I had already met or seen their partner, so I already knew it was ethical."- f*cklifehard
Schitts Creek No GIF by CBCGiphyMany couples have said that their communication and commitment has greatly improved after opening their relationships.
When one half of a couple seeing other people causes pain and unhappiness, however, it seems clear that that relationship is not open in a healthy way.
Particularly if only one person is truly benefitting from it.
Redditor leilavanora wanted to hear about the people who left this world too soon, so they asked:
"How did the kid from your school die?"
So many people gone before their time!
Gruesome
Episode One Armchair GIF by PBSGiphy"Fell off a jet ski and then got hit by it when the driver turned around. Drowned."
lindseys10
"Jet skis are insanely dangerous. If you read up on jet ski deaths they are awful much more gruesome too."
anightclubfordogs
Family Issues
"There was a boy from a family of alcoholics, whose parents divorced, he lived with a mom who was a very heavy drinker and a stepdad. Stepdad had a son who spent quite some time in mental facilities and rehab because he f**ked up his brain with drug use. The son eventually came home to live with his father and my classmate. One time the classmate accidentally saw his stepbrother sniffing glue from a bag."
"Stepbrother got mad, poured kerosene on him, and lit him up. When his mother saw her child was burning she jumped out the window and ran away while his younger siblings were trying to put out the fire. Unfortunately, once they managed to he was already dead."
Healthy-Gain-6586
April
"End-stage renal disease. She was doing good for a couple of years and waiting for a transplant while getting regular dialysis but ended up passing away in 11th grade."
whiteoff44
"That's sad. Plug for Organ donation awareness: April is National Donate Life month. Every day, 17 people die in the US waiting for an organ transplant. If you aren't an organ donor already, sign up at https://www.organdonor.gov/sign-up"
jackruby83
It was devastating
"He froze to death in his sleep after passing out in the snow. It was a school trip with his class and they had some beers but probably some of the first few times they tried alcohol. It was devastating. They were moving from one house to another and he had said he needed a break in between but everyone forgot or just thought he was in another house."
"It sounds like an obvious mistake but it's not necessarily that cold even if it's snow, especially after a drink. To lie down and chill on a snow pile with a good jacket is no problem but if you pass out and forget well damn."
Fit-Childhood879
WTF
Shock What GIF by Paramount+Giphy"In middle school, my neighbor accidentally shot and killed his best friend while hunting. Years later he was beheaded by the Taliban along with two English men. Unbearably sad."
Suspicious-War-8839
Guns and hunting. That is just constant danger.
No Violence
No Way Do Not Want GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy"Wrestling team bully with anger management issues punched an elderly man in a road rage incident and the elderly man shot him dead and was acquitted as it was deemed self-defense."
evolution9673
So Fragile
"He was playing football and randomly passed out. Never woke up again."
Aints*itAngel
"Happened on the soccer pitch next to ours when I was playing 5-a-side with my work buddies. The kid who looked late teens fell down hard and didn't come back up again. They tried CPR and the defibrillator from the office before the paramedics showed up."
"We just stood there speechless watching it go down. And while it looked super bad, they took him away on a stretcher still working on him so I didn't actually find out he died until a week later when we were back for our usual slot and they held a silence."
"Never even found out the kid's name but I still think about it sometimes. Life can so be fragile."
ianjm
Wired
"An electrician screwed up rewiring her family’s house so a live wire was touching a metal pipe connected to the bath. Her mum was wearing rubber work boots when she filled the bath so wasn’t electrocuted but she must have accidentally brushed against the tap or gone to add some more water while submerged and was killed instantly. We lived in a very small town where everyone knew each other so it really rocked our community. She was in the grade above me so would have been around 10-11."
TimedDelivery
Be Safe
Driving Time Lapse GIF by YevbelGiphy"Like 5 of them died of drunk driving accidents, three of them at one time, Little redneck school in the middle of nowhere apparently people seem to think drinking and driving is the only way to have fun."
Maleficent-Touch-67
Life is fleeting and fragile.
Appreciate every second, kids.
