People Explain How They'd Honestly Respond If Their Partner Asked For An Open Relationship

People Explain How They'd Honestly Respond If Their Partner Asked For An Open Relationship
Photo by freestocks on Unsplash

Open relationships are a minefield.

Lesson number one: always be on the same page.

There is nothing wrong with being open in love, but know you're doing it for the right reasons.

If not, there could be consequences.

One Redditor wanted to hear about the reactions people had broaching the topic, so they asked:

"What would you say if your partner asked you to open the relationship?"

I'm not adverse to an open relationship, but I'd like to start just the two of us and then we'll see.

Up Front

"This is something I screen for and discuss upfront. It's not for me, but I would not want to stifle someone who feels an open relationship is good for them. I know we would not be happy together."


14 Years In...

"I've been married for 14 years now. We're both very happy and we regularly talk about our desires for the future. I think I know and understand her fully. If she dropped a bomb like this on me it would be the first sign our interests are misaligned beyond repair. And I'd probably never fully trust anyone ever again."


Red Flags

"From my experience. 9/10 times if the relationship started monogamous and this conversation pop up they already have someone in mind and want the go ahead to go after them and if it fails they’ll cry about wanting to close it back up. If it was something on the table as a possibility at the beginning of the relationship, sure. If it wasn’t then no."



"Was dating a girl a few months and we went on a road trip for the weekend. Great time, etc. On the way back she spent a solid hour talking about how she couldn't settle down with any single guy, always wanted side pieces, stuff like that. I just listened, we weren't super far into the relationship but I thought it was going well."

"Anyway, I started talking to other girls since I didn't feel priority and slept with an old FWB. 'Gf' came over and saw a used condom in the trash and went apesh*t. I recalled the conversation about her wanting to date multiple guys, and explained I didn't feel like we were exclusive due to that. Breaks up with me, lol."


Tell Me

suspicious GIFGiphy

"I’d want to know who my partner met that made them consider this as an option."


Options are always going to be there. Might as well ask now.


I Have No Idea Reaction GIF by MTV Movie & TV AwardsGiphy

"My ex husband asked me to do this. I was upset and uncomfortable but he kept asking so finally I relented. Then I had way more people interested in me than him and he got super bu**hurt super fast."


So Poly

"Not a chance. If they want to f**k around I'll sever ties with them faster than the flash."


"Yep. Friend of mine did that. His gf at the time said she wanted to have an open relationship. He gave her one chance to stop and never bring it up again. She pushed it and he immediately broke up with her and kicked her out within 10 minutes. Litterally pushed her a** out the freaking door. (he was paying the rent and bills and his name was on the lease)."

"Ran into her a few months ago. Their breakup was about 5 years ago now, she said it was the stupidest thing she ever did. She sure as s**t doesn't identify as 'poly' now, apparently she wound up on the other end of things when her new bf suggested their relationship be open, and within a week he brought another woman home."



"Absolutely not. We’ve agreed we’re for each other and he knows I’m monogamous (as I know he is). Even the thought of him meeting someone else that makes him go 'I wanna see what it’s like to be with her,' makes me angry. Our relationship would be over at that point."

"I’m a jealous person by nature. Now that doesn’t mean I can’t handle myself if he has friends who are women. But the jealousy will always loom in the back of my mind. This is why I know the poly lifestyle is not for me."



"Wanting an open relationship tells me I'm not enough for them. The very suggestion would make me question our relationship then and there. Maybe I'm just insecure, but I'd probably struggle to see them the same way and likely end up breaking things off."


"Completely agree. And I’d be deeply, deeply hurt by the suggestion. We have been together 15 years, married for 8, and suddenly he wants a radical change in the most basic nature of our relationship? I’d be heartbroken."


Ugly Thoughts

No Way Bird GIFGiphy

"I’d say no. Then I would constantly be thinking about the fact that they wanted to sleep with other people while they were in a relationship with me (or maybe they already acted on those desires), and the ugly thoughts would lead to me ending the relationship."


This is never an easy topic. Be sure to speak openly and honestly while considering all the possible ramifications.

Do you have any relevant experiences to share? Let us kow in the comments below.

An embarrassed child
Jelleke Vanooteghem/Unsplash

When you were younger, your protected perspective on life and the world was probably significantly different compared to now.

Before life experience informed your decisions, younger you most likely had higher aspirations to achieve a specific goal or swore off doing something you found objectionable.

But here you are, as an adult, doing the exact opposite of what you had intended.

Keep reading...Show less
Paper heart ripped in two
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

Finding love is something that nearly everyone hopes for at some point in their life.

For some, love practically finds them. They hardly need any time searching for the true love.

Others might have to work a little harder and be a little more patient. They never give up the hope that their one true love is out there, somewhere.

Then there are those for whom the search simply isn't worth it and have found themselves resigned to the fact that they may never find someone.

Whether or not that's how they want their life to be.

Keep reading...Show less
Two men at computers taking notes
Photo by Scott Graham on Unsplash

A resume is so much more than just a simple list of your work experience.

Indeed, your resume is the first step in getting your foot in the door to your dream job, highlighting not only your past experience but your skill set, as well as things about you that will make recruiters want to get to know you more.

On the flip side, sometimes there are things on your resume that will automatically send you to the reject pile.

Of course, this is bound to include common, careless mistakes such as spelling and grammar errors or missing vital information, such as a phone number or email.

However, no two hiring managers will have the same set of red flags they look for on a resume. This can make finding a format that will please everyone something of a fool's errand.

Keep reading...Show less
person holding black smartphone taking photo of man in black shirt
Photo by Timek Life on Unsplash

In a world that keeps moving forward, many things change. People who seemed heroic fall from grace, inventions that were once useful are forgotten, and basic human rights are either ignored or taken for granted.

One way we've seen this happen is by thinking about all the people and things that were once highly respected that are now basically seen as a joke.

Keep reading...Show less