People Explain Which Parenting 'Trends' They Just Can't Get Behind
John-Mark Smith on Unsplash

Kids pick up the behaviors exhibited by the adults around them, but the same can also be said of parents who look to others for tips on how to raise their children.

Social media is hugely responsible for trending activities that can easily influence a first-time parent looking for guidance.

But everyone's parenting experience is different depending on the individual child and the surrounding environment.

Exploring why some of these common child-rearing practices are not for everyone, Redditor Sam_21000 asked:

"What parenting 'trend' you strongly disagree with?"

The following parental trends were not viewed favorably.

Temper Tantrum On Display

"Posting videos of your autistic kid having a meltdown or just as a prop for likes."

– antifashkenazi

Limited Communication

"My neighbour’s daughter is a 'crunchy mom' wannabe influencer. Daughter will not allow adjectives to be used when speaking with her toddler or baby. They are supposed to discover descriptive words through exploration of their environment. I’m sort of unclear on how they are supposed to discover words that are never spoken, like colours or size or shape."

– kittens_in_the_wall

Following Others' Lead

"disciplining children based on what other parents are doing. What works for 1 kid won’t work for others."

– Background_Neck8739

Discipline Effectiveness

"Boy was that a hard lesson when my kids were younger. What worked for one most definitely did not work for the other. One found it torturous to be separated from the action (time out in bedroom), while the other would be like, 'WAHOOO!!! alone time!'"

– 2boredtocare


"My father in law made sure his daughters (my sisters in law) never had to experience a single consequence or reaction for their mistakes. They are adults in their late 20s now and both cannot handle the slightest gust of wind. They are very immature and developmentally arrested. One of them has never worked or paid a bill, and this is not a rich family."

– allthebacon_and_eggs

Running Wild

"Letting your kids scream and jump around the restaurant while pretending it’s not going on."

– Cloudy_mood

Some people found these child-rearing tactics psychologically damaging.

Too Much Visibility

"Posting the child's entire life on social media. It's one thing to include a family picture with everyone. But putting a child's entire life online, without their consent, isn't good."

"Especially when it's about what they've done wrong. Public internet shaming is one of the worst things one can do to a child, because who knows whether that will follow that poor kid around for years. When the cyber-bullying is coming from inside their own house, nowhere is safe. (And that's not even getting to the people who "prank" their kids and make them miserable for the views.)"

– Funandgeeky

Being Influencers

"Family youtube channels are the worst. It's just child exploitation."

– Golden_Phi

Encouraging Competition

"Idk if this is a trend or not, but it's very common. Comparing your child to others. It doesn't matter if they're siblings, friends, etc. That f**ks up their self-esteem and turns everything into a competition."

– Amino_Blank

Gossipy Family

"As a teenager, I absolutely hate how family members will spill private secrets and constantly complain and make jokes about you on the telephone or when families gather. Also responding to you in a very snotty attitude. I think that's a big reason I am insecure and have social anxiety."


Destroying Property

"Destruction of a child's property. I recognize that most videos of Generic Angry Parent smashing a child's gaming console (or whatever) are staged."

"But not all of them are. And most real incidents are never recorded."

"If your child requires discipline, you give them a timeout, ground them, temporarily revoke their privileges, assign them extra chores or whatever. But you NEVER destroy their possessions."

"Their property may not mean much to you. But it means a lot to them. Destroying it because you don't know how to manage your temper is wrong in every possible way. If you do that then you're a bad parent and I judge you for it."

– OhYeahThrowItAway

Parents have differing views on play time.

Zero Interaction

"My sister in law preoccupies her kid, and has since birth with a tablet. he is now 12 and has no friends and zero interpersonal skills. He takes his iPad to dinner, to grandmas, to church and never talks to anyone."

"it's very sad to see."

– groverwood

Strict Supervision

"My wife and I are basically neighborhood pariahs because we allow our children to ride their bikes around our quiet, low crime suburban town. I've had a parent flat out tell me he won't allow his son to come over without him because I might do something crazy like let them shoot hoops on the basketball net out front without standing there watching them."

"Children need a little bit of freedom. You can't be expected to make grown up decisions when you never had the opportunity to make child decisions."

– NotTheRealWillSmith

Keeping A Short Leash

"Extremely strict rules in general. I had a childhood friend that came over after school once and he said he had to be home by 6. Didn't think much of it so we lost track of time playing games. He lived about a 10 minute walk up the street and he noticed it was 5:52, then started freaking out. 'My dad's gonna kill me if I'm late!' I tried saying he wouldn't care about 2 mins. The next day in school my friend said he wasn't allowed over my house anymore, and I never hung out with him again, all over this kid being 2 mins late getting home."

– The_Blackest_Man

Tight Schedule

"Over scheduling activities. When I was teaching, I remember my kindergartners telling me they had no time to play because every day consisted of non-stop structured sports, dance and such."

– Kitchen-Witching

"Putting your kids in as many programs as possible. Assuming that it's your job to help them find their 'thing' so they can be happy and successful in life. I think it just makes kids over busy, stressed, unable to explore freely in down time, not know what to do with stillness."

– revmo31

Absolutely No Falling

"Making your child terrified to fail. I gave up on so many things because I repeatedly got called 'f'kin’ idiot' if I wasn’t instantly an expert."

– ItsPaulKerseysCar

There is no definitive guidebook to successful parenting.

However, watching other families and tracking their online activity might not be the best resource in determining what is the right way to raise your kids.

It stands to reason that built-in common sense and parental instincts should not be ignored in favor of what's trending in a family/parenting group on a social media page.

Cut yourself some slack, first-time parents. You got this.

Want to "know" more?

Sign up for the Knowable newsletter here.

Never miss another big, odd, funny or heartbreaking moment again.

People Describe The Worst Thing They've Ever Done Without Any Regrets
Bastian Pudill on Unsplash
We've all committed our share of wrongs in life that we are apologetic for.
Keep reading... Show less
People Confess Which Pieces Of Life Advice Can F**k Right Off
Daniel Herron on Unsplash

When a person sees someone they care about going through a struggle or crisis, their instinct is to uplift them with positive advice.

Keep reading... Show less

Kids start going to school from the age of five, and for the most part, they spend more time at school than at home. Because of that, teachers can become very important figures in the lives of their students.

Some students don't have the best home lives. Some keep it to themselves, but others confide in their teachers.

Curious about various situations, Redditor Delicious_Mastodon83 asked:

"teachers of reddit what is the saddest thing you found out about a student?"
Keep reading... Show less
People Divulge What Depression Really Feels Like To Them
Photo by Warren Wong on Unsplash

TRIGGER WARNING: This article contains sensitive content about depression and mental health.

As the stigma around mental health lessens (however slowly), people are more forthcoming about the problems they are facing. One of the most common mental health issues is depression.

Depression can affect many different types of people. Factors such as gender, race, nationality, and even age have no bearing on whether someone suffers from depression or not.

According to the World Health Organization (WHO), globally, " estimated 3.8% of the population affected, including 5.0% among adults and 5.7% among adults older than 60 years..."

Depression displays in certain patterns, such as mood changes, physical difficulties, and social isolation. However, depression manifests differently in different people and feels different to different people.

Reddit users divulged what depression felt like to them when Redditor iodineseaspray asked:

"What does depression feel like to you?"

Some of this is sure to sound familiar.

Keep reading... Show less