Are we human because we feel pain? Or do we feel pain because we are human?
Believe it or not, human beings can deal with a massive amount of pain. And if you work a job where you're constantly being asked to put yourself in situations that will cause you minor amounts of pain daily, your pain threshold goes up. But sometimes it's just too overwhelming--those stories need to be shared as well.
Here were some of those answers.
Teeth Are Not Triflin'Giphy
Split tooth. Misdiagnosed for six months. Searing, insane pain. "Makes you consider suicide" pain that oxycodone and alcohol couldn't reach.
We found that Neurontin (gabapentin) could address the pain. next time I went to my dentist, I said, "you know, I wish you'd look harder at that tooth."
he was mortified to have missed it. When the tooth (now infected) came out, it was in two pieces with a live nerve root.
Not A Precious Stone
Kidney Stones. Thought I was dying.
I just had my first kidney stone a few weeks ago. I was literally in a ball the floor of my managers office crying and dizzy. I thought the alien from 'Space Balls' was about to jump out of my side. They gave me torodol at the ER and I forgot why I was there. Then the torodol wore off and I chewed percocet every six hours for a few days.
My high school sweetheart got into drugs, left me for her dealer, got pregnant and didn't want the baby because he was born with Down's syndrome so she gave him to me. She died three months later of an overdose. The worst pain is everytime my son asks me about his mom. He's 24 now, I will never tell him his mom was a druggie who didn't want to be burdened by him. It breaks my heart.
He sees my wife as his mom, my wife and I have been together for 20 years and have 3 more kids. So he does have a mom who loves him as if he was her flesh and blood like I do, it just hurts so much that he'll never know his birth mom.
Pain Is No Stranger
Physical pain? Two sources.
The first: I had severe endometriosis, and more than once I wound up in the ER for it. The pain was so bad they thought I was in labor. I found out later I basically was, I just didn't get stuck with a baby after it was over. This was the culmination of decades of severe monthly cramping, and when I finally had a hysterectomy, it was the best. F*cking. Thing. EVER.
The other was Trigeminal Neuralgia. Imagine fighting Muhammad Ali, and how much it must hurt at the moment he punches you in the jaw. Now extend that split second to last days or weeks. That's what it felt like.
We're still not sure what set it off, but I think it was maintained by a minor infection no one could seem to spot and nail. It finally went away, but while it was in full force, the tiniest of breezes could make it feel like there was no light in life, only pain, and I was cursed. It was recurring for years but it's been fine for a while.
Emotional? So many to choose from, but when I was in junior high, literally overnight, all my friends stopped talking to me. Hell, they stopped acknowledging I was even there. I'd be talking to them and it was like I was invisible. I begged and pleaded for them to talk to me, to just f*cking LOOK at me, but none of them ever had a real conversation with me again.
I never knew why, just that it was on orders of one of their mothers. Frankly, I don't want to know. F*ck all of them. (Except Scott. He was in survival mode by joining them, and I don't blame him. Sadly, he was the only one of the group to die young. He deserved better, and the rest can burn in hell.)
An Added Surprise
So picture me 7 playing Skyrim for the first time. I head into Bleakfalls Barrow or whatever its called get into the spider cave bit. As soon as i get jump-scared a huge sting travels from my foot up my leg. Turns out there was a bee in my sock for about 25 mins without me noticing.
It's A Miracle Any Of Us Survived College
'Twas college and Meatfrappe and his roommates decided to go drunken sledding in the middle of the night, and grabbed whatever objects they had lying around that could serve as improvised sleds. This included trays that had been "liberated" from the dining hall, a rubbermaid trash can lid, and Bridgette--an inflatable woman originally purchased as a gag gift that had become the dorm room, um, mascot.
The snow on the hill had been soft during the day, and those sledding pioneers who had come before us had packed it all down and constructed a formidable jump, which by midnight had, along with the rest of the hill, frozen rock solid.
Meatfrappe climbed atop Bridgette, whispered something sweet into her latex ear, and let gravity take over.
Let it be known that an inflatable woman makes an extremely fast and surprisingly stable sled.
As Meatfrappe encountered the jump at an impressive speed, the curvature of his path required an equally impressive centripetal force. The magnitude of this force was, unfortunately, much more than Bridgette's delicate Chinese-vinyl seams could withstand. She loudly popped and rapidly deflated just as Meatfrappe and a now limp Bridgette left the lip of the jump and began a parabolic path like a Ruthian home run.
Meatfrappe, knowing that his flaccid sledding partner would provide no cushioning whatsoever, attempted to maneuver into a position that might minimize the violence of the impending impact, but his efforts were futile. He landed kneecap-first, exploding his patella into a multitude of fragments--a most unpleasant feeling.
You Don't Know Better Than A Doctor.
My step mom was an RN so she had that attitude she could doctor and cure any illness the family had so my brother and I ended up with strep throat for over a month. It got so bad the only thing that could help me from nearly crying when i swallowed was a cough drop but even it caused excruciating pain. I think I lost maybe 15 pounds that month because I just couldn't eat or drink anything more than jello and lukewarm water
Backs Are So Complicated
I thought 5 years of gallstones was bad. Until I strained my back go-karting. No accident or anything, just drove fast for too long in an ill fitting seat.
Result? 1 displaced disc and 1 torn disc. The tear leaked some matter that pressed on my nerves around the L5/S1 disc. The pain was utterly excruciating. Full on 11/10 for hours. I passed out from the pain on the toilet at 2am, had a huge drop in blood pressure and heart rate. Wife thought I'd done an Elvis as apparently I did a sort of death rattle... (She was wrong)
I was given gas and air, which helped, but also made me feel like time was altering speed as I was talking. Weird stuff.
From Bad To Worse
Oh, I've got this one. It's the stuff of nightmares.
Imagine getting a haircut, and getting a staph infection from the electric shavers on the back of your neck, at the base of your hairline.
Now imagine a day later, that staph infection is a baseball-sized, infected abscess that has to be operated on.
Now imagine when the nurse is cleaning/dressing this wound every couple of hours, dunking a bunch of gauze in saline, and packing it into this massive infected hole. Just feeling the air of somebody walking past is enough to make your eyes roll back in your head, and they are packing it with saline-soaked gauze.
Now imagine instead of saline, they accidentally used alcohol.
Now you can imagine the adrenaline dump that can cause a normal person to actually rip the metal arms off a hospital bed.
My cousin, uncle and I went fishing. We caught some small fish and started packing to go home. My uncle gave me the fishing rods to put them into his car. As I was putting them in, I moved my hand rather quickly downwards the rod.
For a moment, I was lost, as if I had lost consciousness. When I recollected my self, I was still standing. Confused, I looked over to my hand and the f*cking hook was deep in my finger (like 1,5 centimetres deep).
My cousin quickly called my uncle and he told me to sit down and stay calm. Alright, it didn't hurt at all at this point. Then, my uncle started to pull the hook out. It hurt like LITERAL HELL. Mostly due to the way the hook was shaped, it's not meant to let things go that easily. I almost passed out due to the pain (it was like when you stand up quickly and your brain loses oxygen and everything becomes blurry, hard to see the edges of your vision).
Goo Goo Gout
Gout, The very first flare up I had was misdiagnosed as Cellulitis a painful and potentially life threatening bacterial infection, spent 2 days in excruciating pain while they filled me full of I.V. antibiotics. While laying on a cot in the Hospital hallway a passing Doctor stopped looked at my foot pressed on my toe causing me to nearly pass out from the pain and asked "did that hurt?" I said yes, he said I think you have gout, one blood test later confirms it and I'm prescribed meds. 3 days later still in horrible pain go to the local walk in clinic where I am informed I was given the wrong medication, it was for preventing a Gout flare up, if taken during a flare up it makes it worse.
Finally given the right medication pain starts to go away in a few hours. Flare ups still occur and have landed me in the ER on a number of occasions. Every injury since when the Doctor asks what my pain is I have to say "well I have gout so this is like a 2 or 3 compared to the worse pain I've ever felt." And those injuries have included broken bones and a hand that was crushed bad enough I was off work for 4 months and almost a year later still doesn't work right.
You'll Shudder In Pain
Having my toenail ripped off. Accidentally.
My horse trod on my toe - no big deal, happens all the time if you have horses and I was wearing solid leather riding boots. But it must have done something to the nail, because later that day I was playing with friends, barefoot, and a friend accidentally stood on my toe and the action of putting down her heel ripped the nail clean off. It was absolute agony.
Oof, No Thanks
Dual ear infections and one with severe pressure on my ear drum.. I could only lay on my face and cry for 4 days.. My father almost punched the doctor in the face when he was swabbing my ears with those over sized q tips.. I was screaming in pain, my whole body was trembling. My dad knew this and couldn't take seeing.the doc causing this pain to me.. They doc was a nice man and my dad apologized after.. But that's the worst pain I've ever had in 30 years of life.
I wrote on another question about pulmonary embolisms that I had.
When you have those you get this really bad sharp pains around your chest area. This on top of bearly being able to breathe sucked. They weren't able to drug me until I got to the ICU, it took maybe 40 minutes to an hour get me there, pain the whole way.
Other than that, I got a paper cut the other day.
Nerves Are A Kicker
My cluster headaches. The pain feels deadly. "I can't possibly be in this much pain and not die soon" pain. I am in awe of the level of pain humans can endure and still live because of this condition. I didn't know it was possible. It is so absolutely visceral and debilitating. The kicker is that they disappear for years at a time so I almost forget that I am afflicted with them until they kick in for a month, out of nowhere, every day around bed time. Easily the worst pain I have endured and will again and I have been stung by a Man o' War jellyfish. The fact that they are clinically called "Cluster Headaches" makes explaining their severity to non-sufferers infuriating.
Take Care Of Yourselves, Folks
Rupturing ovarian cysts. It's such an instant, blinding, sickening pain that my brain literally had no idea how to process it. Do you scream, nope that doesn't describe it. Cry? Nope still not right. Wish for death? Yep, going for that one. The second time I had one was in the middle of the night, right as my boyfriend was coming home from work. I don't know how I did it, but I managed to crawl out of the bathroom, in the dark, all "the ring" like and just grabbed him. I couldn't even gasp out words, just mouth open silent scream. Scared the bejesus out of him.
Some years ago, I had to advise a college friend to stop chasing the girl he was interested in at the time. She'd already turned him down. Explicitly. At least two or three times.
He wouldn't take no for an answer and didn't see anything wrong with his behavior.
Perhaps he'd seen too many movies where the guy eventually breaks through the girl's defenses and essentially coerces her into going out with him?
Sadly, this is behavior that is tolerated and yes, normalized in our society.
People were keen to share other observations after Redditor EnoughSandwich_7057 asked the online community,
"What's toxic behavior that's considered socially acceptable?"
"Trying to make people..."
"Trying to make people drink/smoke or drink/smoke more when they have firmly declined the offer."
This is a big one that can have disastrous consequences. I am thankful I got a bunch of terrible nights out drinking out of my system by my early twenties.
Being drunk to the point that you're incoherent is horrible.
"I hate the whole prank thing..."
"I hate the whole prank thing, especially when it's done for likes. Scaring or humiliating people for attention just means you are a bad person."
I don't watch any of those videos and I don't understand what people see in them.
"Overworking yourself and then collectively judging others who don't do the same."
I had a coworker like that once, and she was a (minor) reason why I ended up leaving one job, but still a reason nonetheless.
"Taking your work with you..."
"Taking your work with you on vacation. I mean if you enjoy working then that's your thing, but I get sick of people like going through paperwork and having meetings while on vacation. Like dude, stop."
"Looking down on someone..."
"Looking down on someone because of their job."
When people say things like, "If fast food workers deserve $15 an hour..." that says a lot.
"Deliberately misunderstanding what someone is saying so as to make it easier to argue with them."
"People tend to give drunk people..."
"People tend to give drunk people misbehaving a pass if they regularly do it, 'Oh don't mind Tom, he's just drunk.' That just reinforces that toxic behavior."
You can say that again. How many times have you run into bad behavior like this while out and about, perhaps in a bar? It's not fun.
"The fact that we reward..."
"The fact that we reward customers for being wrong. The number of times my old manager would be so exhausted from arguing over the cost of a carton of milk with a customer that she would just give it to them is appalling."
"It reinforces this mentality because even if the customer KNOWS they're wrong they don't care because they will still win."
Annnnd this is why I don't miss retail. I'm fine where I am.
"Verbally abusing minimum wage employees who don't make the rules. If I could change the laws tomorrow I'd encourage businesses to ban pieces of garbage like these who can't operate in public."
"I'm here to do a job..."
"Toxic workplace behavior needs to be top of the list. I'm here to do a job and go home, not be harassed because you don't like some aspect of my personality. Managers who let this slide should be held personally liable."
When you stop and think about it, you realize we live in an imperfect society. It's astounding that some people just tolerate bad behavior and, in many cases, don't even see anything wrong with it.
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Parents make mistakes. We want to believe that parents are doing there very best to raise their kids, but sometimes they do more harm than good.
Research into childhood trauma didn't actually begin until the 1970s, so we don't have as much knowledge about our mental health as adults as we might like.
However, a study that followed 1,420 from 1992 to 2015 found conclusive results about childhood trauma:
"'It is a myth to believe that childhood trauma is a rare experience that only affects few,' the researchers say."
"Rather, their population sample suggests, 'it is a normative experience—it affects the majority of children at some point.'"
"A surprising 60 percent of those in the study were exposed to at least one trauma by age 16. Over 30 percent were exposed to multiple traumatic events."
Not all of the things our parents do that were not so helpful technically classify as trauma, but it definitely has an effect on us as we get older.
Redditor Gooncookies asked:
"What could your parents have done better when raising you?"
Here's some of the ways that these Redditor's parents could have done better.
Rules to maintain purity.
"Would've been nice if my dad hadn't convinced me I had to behave in certain ways to maintain my innocence and purity."
"Catholic? I can relate."
"Nope. He's an atheist. He's actually extremely upset that I practice my (non Christian) religion. He just has some really weird ideas about having female children. Like, if I wore spaghetti straps when I was a child he'd say it was like he was living in a brothel."
Becoming afraid of failure.
"Encourage me to do more. I was never pushed to do anything. I mean, I get why some athletes are like 'my parents pushed me too hard where I hated it.' But I was never encouraged to go out for it try anything new. I played little league baseball and decided I thought it was a good idea to try and be a pitcher. I told my mom, but got the response along the lines of 'That's a hard position, and the whole game kind of rides on you, and if you mess up, everyone is going to blame you.' As a 37 year old I now see how that kind of stuff screwed my self esteem up and why I'm so afraid of failure as an adult."
"Same here. Also when I wanted to try anything new my mom was like 'But that's too hard for you, are you really sure you wanna do this? I don't think that you want nor can.' What's even worse than just forbidding, in this way the kid won't 'protest doing it' and get too low self esteem to do it."
"I'm really happy now that I overcame this after I moved out. I started doing all those things I wanted to do as a kid and I freaking love it (but kinda hate the fact that I haven't started earlier)."
"But even if I have a good relationship to my mom I hide a lot of things I do from her, since she still does the same and tries to convince me that I actually don't wanna do what ever I planned."
"But dear mom, sometimes you just need to try new things. if it wont work out who cares!? Even got a tattoo with 'What if I fall? Honey what if you fly?' to remind me if I should ever forget. (And no, my mum doesn't know about it)."
We're allowed to feel our emotions.
"Allow me to express my emotions, treat me like an actually person, actually interact with me instead of just ignoring me and them just telling me to kill myself."
"Wow. I'm so sorry. I think a lot of parents forget that their children are actually human beings."
"Its okay. I'm trying to work through some of that trauma, its easier said than done."
Interest is nice.
"They could have shown more of an interest in my mental health and education."
"I didn't get help for my anxiety until after college and it's so frustrating to hear my parents acknowledge I was an anxious child yet nothing was done. I can look back and see how many things could have gone better for me."
"I had diagnosed ADHD and my mom thought that the meds made my brother and I zombies and decided she wanted us to just be kids. My parents never looked into any kind of non-medication help for my ADHD."
"I'll always wonder what school would've been like if I had the tools to properly manage it."
"I got an MFA, but I feel my entire life has been a whole lot of masking."
I also have comorbid sleep/circadian rhythm disorder which they also never did anything about. Going to the doctor for anything, physical or mental, was not prioritized. But, my parents definitely weren't well off financially, so I imagine that that was the biggest contributor."
Kids deserve autonomy.
"Taught me to question adults and trust myself."
"They thought they were doing the best thing by teaching my sister and I 'All adults are always right and you obey them no matter what,' but it made me a dysfunctional employee and vulnerable to abusive relationships."
"The good news is it can be unlearned. But I hope this new generation will teach our kids to assert themselves respectfully instead of blind obedience."
Why keep up the charade?
"My parents are great people who did a good job raising me, but there was one weird thing they did that still kind of annoys to this day (and I'm 44.)"
"Once I got old enough to figure out that things like Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny weren't real they still wouldn't admit it for some reason; I think it was more my mom and my dad just went along with her. But even when I became a teenager and all my siblings were teenagers it's like they still thought it was funny and cute to keep pretending that Santa Claus was real. I don't know why."
"They missed the point of that sort of thing. It's a rite of passage for children to eventually get old enough to figure out that this sort of thing isn't real and for the parents to let them in on it. I was denied that and it still bugs me for some reason."
"I could imagine that being infuriating at 14-15 years old. At that age you're wanting to be seen as more of an adult and I can imagine them not acknowledging Santa as a way of not welcoming me into adulthood/making me feel like a little kid."
Yea that's weird. When I got older and looked back I realized that my folks never flat out said Santa was real. My mom would say something like, 'He's only real if you believe in him,' so she never technically lied to me. Maybe it stems from that, they don't want to admit they lied to you?"
"That could be, but I think it was more a matter of my parents (again, my mom especially) thinking that doing the whole Santa Claus thing on Christmas morning, and Easter Bunny thing on Easter was fun and something that she just didn't want to let go of when my sisters and I got older."
Healthy criticism is necessary sometimes.
"They lacked discipline and parental authority which led us to treat them like our friends, disrespect them. We also couldn't be academically successful because they didn't help us develop a healthy studying habit."
"Kids like it when a parent tells them what to do (I mean, parenting is about teaching a kid what to do, if you just leave it like that, it won't learn anything), help them when they can't get through it, never give negative criticism, but constructive criticism when they fail and appreciate them when they succeed."
"Negative criticism: this type only tells them what is wrong. e.g. 'you can't do this,' 'you are doing this badly.'"
"Constructive criticism: this type gives them an insight into what should they do, you can add what is lacking if necessary. e.g. '[...] is not good behaviour, please do [...] next time, then you would succeed,' 'it looks ok (if it is badly done, then don't say this), but if you do [...] it'd be better / [...] is the correct way.'"
Whatever the situation was with your parents or caretakers, there are ways to heal from this trauma.
Psychology Today says we need to process our emotions, especially if we were taught not to when we were children.
It's important that we break these generational curses.
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Breaking up is something that never gets easier.
That kind of thinking, however, does little to keep us from feeling dejected for days on end.
Curious to hear from heartbroken strangers on the internet, Redditor whitecheeks-24 asked:
What's your sad love story?
Death never comes at the right time.
A Difficult Decision
"The love of my life and soulmate who I was married to for 20 years and together for 24 passed away about 8 months ago. I feel alone and empty inside. I have nobody to love or to love me. My life is an empty waste of space now."
"I took her off of life support because I know that's what she wanted and I had to respect her wishes but I sometimes wish I was a little more greedy. I just want my doll face back."
"I am so sorry. I had to do the same thing with my love, married 40 years. It's been 28 months and I'm sinking deeper into despair. We had so many plans, did everything together, and I am honestly lost without him. I send you warmest regards."
The Shy Admirer
"I was a shy teenager, in love with a cute neighbor. His sister and my mom were friends. He died in a car accident. Nobody knew how I felt about him. I overheard his sister tell my mom that he was in love with me. We never got to share our feelings with each other."
"I think a guy I found on match.com died but I have no way of knowing. We had only been dating for 2 or 3 months and we were taking things slow. Then he got sick..tumors in his back and he needed surgery. We still hung out but he was in a lot of pain."
"At the time I was frustrated because I felt he was pushing me away. I just adored him and he was sending mixed messages. Now looking back.. I'm thinking he was just trying to survive. He went in for surgery and I never heard from him again. I didn't know his family and he didn't have social media."
"My mom would check the obituaries in the paper for me and I just always wondered. I hope he didn't know how to end things and just felt this was easier. It's been 5 years and I have a family of my own now but Michael..I hope you're okay."
It's hard for these Redditors to accept the fact their love was never meant to be.
Long Distance Fizzle
"I had to leave my first boyfriend behind because I moved out of state and didn't even get to say goodbye because I didn't know we were moving when I left. We left to see my aunt who had been traveling and was diagnosis with brain cancer in another state, she was too sick to travel home so they rented a house and stayed there essentially until she passed away."
"My mom liked the area better than my hometown tho so we ended up staying, our stuff was shipped to us so I never got to say goodbye to my boyfriend in person."
"We kept in contact for a couple years but being 16 and 18, it wasn't easy for me to just pack up and head back to move in somewhere with him. We both knew we weren't ready for that so we tried our best to keep the long distance romance going."
"Eventually he messaged me one day and told me that he can't do it anymore and he didn't want to hear from me again because he couldn't handle it."
"When I was in my early 20s, I've had a love at first sight experience. It completely broke me. He actually was into me too, but not in love like I was."
"I had never had a boyfriend before and I got so excited, I came in like a wrecking ball to cite a great poet. Long story short, I scared him off, he broke up, I couldn't get him out of my head and couldn't imagine a world without him, so I tried to kill myself."
"Though let me reassure you all, it's been years and I'm over him (as long as I don't see him IRL, I just know that I'd fall back in the spiral), I even had a long-term relationship after him."
Tough Reality Check
"I got left out of a 5 year relationship. I got injured, lost my job, and had to go take care of my dying mom. I was not in a good way. I come back from the ER and she calls our entire relationship off because I was not 'passionate' any longer. Right."
"My entire life fell apart. Lost the house we had gone in on. Lost the dog we had gotten together. And I lost my girl. She was my bestfriend, my first love."
"Huge reality check but at least I'm only 22. I'm glad I saw her true colors when things went bad. Easy to stand by someone when times are good. Saddest part is I would take her back in an instant. I lost a piece of my soul with her."
Some of the biggest heartbreaks come when someone shows their true colors.
"FOUND OUT MY BOYFRIEND WAS MARRIED WITH KIDS ON THE INTERNET. I was happy and in love for two years. One day while doing my research for a client work, I come across a research paper. The research paper matched what I was looking for, scrolling through it, I realized the owner had some names as my boyfriend."
"But this time he acknowledges his wife and two children for being patient with him as he was busy doing the thesis. I got curious, I took a screenshot and sent him a picture and asked if it's his paper."
"Also, I asked if it's true that he has two kids and a wife and he why didn't tell me. He answered 'DOES IT MATTER '. That was the end of my relationship. Never talked about it, never told any soul what happened."
"I finally got with my best friend and soul mate. He knows more about me then anyone and knows what I've been put thru my whole life. When we first got together he promised he would never do anything to me that others have."
"One year later he cheated, lied and and broke my spirit. Something i never thought was possible with me, yet he accomplished it. It's been a year since i left him and he still tries to get back into my life. The sad part is I know he doesn't love me and I can't stop loving him."
"After four years of supporting my lover through his depression and alcoholism, he announced tonight that he is leaving me. I'm pretty depressed."
A Devious Scheme
"Wife moves our small family across the country for a promotion at her company. When we arrive and settle into our house, she leaves me for her boss."
"The move was a scheme for her boss to leave his wife and kids, and for her to leave me, while being able to be close to all their children. So I unknowingly left my career, family and friends behind to move to a state where I don't know anyone so she could be with her new guy."
Unexpected tragedy will always be, to me, the saddest break up story.
A co-worker of mine used to date a young man who was a patron at the store where we both worked.
Their budding romance was new and exciting and absolutely adorable to watch.
He told me he planned to propose to her before he went away on a family vacation, but sadly, my friend never got the proposal. The guy drowned in a horrible boating accident during his trip.
Although my friend is now happily married with two kids, I wonder if she still thinks about him.
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On the outside, so many professions and careers look glamorous, financially enticing, and fun.
Often we sit back in our own lives and wallow in our dead-end jobs with that "wish I could do that for a living mentality!"
But if you look a little closer or, much like Dorothy Gale in OZ, just wait for a Toto to push the curtain back, you'll see that a lot more is going on behind the scenes.
And the shenanigans we don't see, make all that fun... evaporate.
So many careers and high power industries are built on a foundation of lies, backstabbing, and stress. And not in that fun "Dynasty" way.
That quiet, dead-end gig may not be so bad after all.
Redditor MethodicallyDeep wanted hear all the tea about certain careers, by asking:
What is a secret in your industry that should be talked about?
I swear if every single person was forced to work in the hospitality industry for at least one month in their life, y'all would be beside yourselves. The amount of craziness and laziness could keep you eating at home for every meal until death.
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"Casino dealers really do want the players to win. We don't work for the house. We get paid crap hourly rates and rely on tips. Unless the player is super nice they only to tip if they win so we really do want you to win." ~ thedevilsgame
Not the Good Stuff...
"That you can take a gallon of paint and give it a different label, price point, and warranty depending on the store it is sold in." ~ big_d_usernametaken
"My professor told me the same thing. He was a job coach and erased the due dates on food products with I believe acetone or some product in nail polish remover."
"Would slap a new date on it, and the food would get shipped to poorer neighborhoods. That crap blew my mind." ~ Additional_Bar_2013
"Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That if everyone being charged with a crime insisted on it going to trial, no plea bargaining, the system would crash." ~ mikenyle
"When I was a juror, the judge also commented before everything started that trial by jury is the only thing causing people to plea bargain and "getting the system moving."
"Many trials sit in limbo for years, and it's only the threat of "Oh crap, I may actually go to jail."
"That really negotiations start. That's exactly what happened in my case - jurors got selected, and that afternoon (after being 2 years in the system), the defendant pleads out." ~ zealeus
"Safety. It's not really about your health and well being. It's about saving the company money from medical expenses, lost time, lawyer costs, etc. Very rarely does your company actually give 2 craps about you, no matter how much they preach safety, they just don't want to pay if you get hurt/killed." ~ WhenThePiecesFit
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"TV/screenwriter here. If you're established and well connected, it's very easy to coast and be a TV writer for YEARS and do very little actual writing. Most of TV writing is just talking in a room with other writers spitballing."
"This is why there's so many old, unfunny dudes still "writing" on TV shows. They're hired by their friends and in TV, a lot writers don't actually do much "pen to paper" writing. Plus everything gets rewritten to death." ~ GardenChic
So much mess. Someone hire me to write for TV. Why are you just giving away jobs to unqualified people? Life is so unfair. This list makes me mad. Let's continue...
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"I work in the print industry, we print cheques for companies and there is so little security involved in hiring, or keeping the materials secure, or running the actual work, or shipping the work to customers. I'm shocked we haven't had a problem with stolen cheques." ~ Jeff_Cunningham
"Advertising. I keep reading that advertising is leading people to be more woke, or multicultural. Companies don't lead, they follow. They do lots of research and know where the future markets are."
"I worked for a very conservative global brand. 5 years before gay marriage became legal, they told us it would happen and we needed to start targeting the LBGTQ community." ~ leftside72
"Visa agent and I've seen people be refused because the manager didn't like their face." ~ Ok_Albatross9395
"Omg this happened to my sister. She couldn't start her semester in time because she kept being refused a visa even though she fulfilled all conditions."
"Finally my parents found a "connection" in embassy to see what's going on; turns out someone just didn't like her when she came to give her papers the first time. I never knew if I can fully believe that story." ~ animal7239
So much typing...
"I'm a writer, among other things. I used to ghostwrite. You'd be amazed how many popular books are partly or fully ghostwritten. I specialised in taking people's crappy first drafts and rewriting them so they were actually good. Not "good" according to people's taste, which is subjective."
"But objectively better in the sense of being properly spelled, not having gaping plot holes, making sure characters were consistent. By the time I was done there was often very little left of the draft the "writer" had created, but there was a marketable product."
"Pisses me off no end when I see all the bull the publishing industry comes out with about how writers submitting a manuscript must make sure it's perfect because only excellence will get you anywhere."
"I don't know how they can say that and still sleep at night, knowing full well that they're hiring people like me to do large-scale rewrites (or to take a half-baked plot and create a draft from scratch)." ~ iwillckingbiteyou
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"I work in payroll. The number of payroll reports I see where people are conned out of their overtime is saddening."
"Also, taxes paid by a business shouldn't actively dissuade them from paying employees less. The system shouldn't be based on paying a percentage of employee salary in taxes (FICA, Workers Comp), in other words." ~ ThongofSekhmet
I think some investigations need to be launched. I always knew payroll departments were running a scam. Too many people are being ripped off. Time to expose some people.
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