Women tend to be more compassionate than men. And whenever they see a guy in distress or conflicted about something, women might be inclined to say they understand what they're going through.
While their intention is good, they may not fully understand the gender-specific dilemma of the opposite sex.
Curious to explore examples of this, Redditor Gilvani_SB asked:
"Men, what is something a woman would never understand?"
Men describe an unpleasant experienced involving their toilets.
Deeper Toilet
"I wanted an tall elongated toilet when we remodeled our bathroom."
"She wanted a shorter round bowl."
"Trying to explain the need to wash my family jewels every time I sit on the toilet because it rubs the inside of the bowl was futile."
– makenzie71
Bad Contact
"Having a boner touch the toilet seat."
– MemeHacker101
"Ahh, the Witch's Kiss."
– DaMonkfish
Never Tapped Out
"No matter how many times you shake it you never get it all."
– lat46n2
Men discussed some of their physical challenges.
Cupping For Comfort
"Sometimes i want to hold my balls when I'm relaxing. I'm not going to rub one out right in front you."
– naipmylO
About Size
"Shrinkage."
– Northman67
"I would also like to expand on this. It's not just shrinkage. Guys don't have two sizes: soft and hard. Depending on what kind of underwear we're wearing, the temperature, how we're sitting, time of day, our mood, it can be soft and still look impressive like a shower, or, yes, like sometimes we don't even want to look at it."
"Boners also have 'two modes' so to speak. Regular hard, and maximum overboner. Like it's too powerful for its own good."
"tldr; a man's size is a spectrum. just cause you see him on a bad day, is not indicative of what he's capable of."
– Takanar
Discomfort
"Balls basically just sticky hand to your leg on a hot day. Like a fried egg nailed to the wall."
– SomeYoungOldDude
They're Very Delicate
"How sensitive testicles can be. Sure, you sack-tapped me last weekend and I didn't feel a thing, but when you grazed me 2 seconds ago you hit JUST the right spot, and brought me to the floor. It just happens."
– perpulstuph
Men talk about a stiff situation.
It's A Challenge
"Trying to pee with an erection."
– Klaus_Heisler87
"The harder it gets, the harder it gets."
– PhantomDeuce
Random Surprise
"Especially when younger, random boners."
– DavosLostFingers
Wetting The Bed
"The panic immediately after your first ejaculation. I didn't know what happened, but I knew it was a crime."
– cavemanfitz
These guys proved men do have feelings, even if they never profess to having them.
Some Positivity
"How long compliments stick with us. We remember forever because we rarely get them."
– throwaway224456789
"Bro for real I was extremely skinny in high school and got made fun of because of it and have been on and off working out for YEARS and during my last bout of working out I hit my highest weight ever and one of my friends said I look really good and noticed I've put on weight and that alone has kept me going for months."
– KrispyTrades
Responding To Perceptions
"People being afraid of me because I'm a big guy. I can give off an intimidating aura so if I'm walking behind a woman, she is often looking over her shoulder every now and then. I try to make a show of tying my shoe or slowing down so she gets some more distance. Sometimes I'll cross the road."
"I know why they are afraid of me. And I don't blame them in the slightest. It just hurts sometimes is all."
– ktbh4jc
Talk To Me
"When I take my toddler to the playground without my wife, I too would like to chat with the other adults."
"I feel like I am barely even tolerated, being around their children to make sure mine's OK and having good fun."
"F'king.. we can talk about cooking! Daycares! Just f'king TALK TO ME I AM NOT EVEN WEARING A TRENCH COAT AND YOU DON'T KNOW MY REDDIT NAME!!"
– frugal_masturbater
And there you have it.
For the ladies who've been curious about what it's like having a kickstand between their legs, men covered it all.
But in addition to testicle sensitivity, men can also be emotionally vulnerable. You just never hear some of them opening up about their feelings, because they've been socialized to associate it to weakness.
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Redditor h-gotfred wanted to hear from the over 50 crowd, so they asked:
"To you Redditors aged 50+, what's something you genuinely believe young people haven't realized yet, but could enrich their lives or positively impact their outlook on life?"
There is so much to know about life.
And we have to age to learn it.
So let's chat...
Be Happy
just married love GIFGiphy"Marriage/relationships should be fun, and happy. Life is hard, things get tough. Find someone that makes the tough times easier, not harder."
Inevitable-Mine6466
"Piggybacking off this and saying, even the happiest marriages get into arguments. It's not a reason to leave."
J3sush8sm3
Battles...
"Not everything that you disagree with deserves an argument. Pick your battles and let trivial things slide."
hail2theKingbabee
"To echo this: Not everyone you disagree with is 'wrong.' They are simply operating with different information. You can disagree with someone on an issue and still value the person. Don't let one issue define your entire relationship with another person."
A_Socratic_Argument
The End
"If you die, your employer will have your job posted before you are buried. Remember that when making work/life choices."
Justin9314
"I started my career at corporate headquarters for a large insurance company. I was doing GREAT, but I just didn’t like the industry. I applied for a job at a major university and someone took a chance on me and gave me the position (transitioning from for-profit to non-profit is notoriously hard)."
"I made less money over the course of my career certainly but I wasn’t on poverty wages by any means. But I remember about 5 years in, one of my old VPs was in town and we got together. His comment was 'We miss you, but you look so much happier, the psychic income is showing.' Insightful guy."
Reynyan
The Truth
"2 things I will be eternally grateful to my grandfather for instilling in me..."
"Failure is not an end state unless it is where you choose to stop. He loved to quote that line by Churchill whenever something didn't work out for me, Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm."
"Honesty is the most powerful tool you can use to define yourself. Admit your mistake, frankly and honestly. The truth always comes out in the end no matter how big or small and it doesn't get better with age. You can give back something you steal, and you can help those you hurt but once they brand you a liar, it's all you will ever be."
iskandar-
Be Quiet
Golden Girls Rose GIF by TV LandGiphy"Unless you don't mind hearing EEEEEEEEEEEE like all the time day and night, use hearing protection in loud situations. Tinnitus is a bi*ch."
revnhoj
Take care of your ears.
One of life's greatest lessons!!!
Live by the Moon
bart simpson maggie GIFGiphy"Wear sunscreen."
nilecrane
"I just had a quick look at my 50-year-old upper chest, frequently exposed to the sun in my youth, and compared it to my 50-year-old belly, which has always been clothed and covered (I have never liked two-piece swimsuits). What a difference!"
HootieRocker59
Passions
"Take a genuine interest in what other people have to say, ask them follow-up questions about their passions in life. Don’t just talk about yourself, or wait for your turn to talk. That’s how you have a conversation, and build a relationship."
MayIServeYouWell
"Sometimes you gotta be careful with that. Pay attention if the other person is doing that too, it's important for you to share about your life. It can be kind of lonely when you know so much about your friends, but they don't know about you."
jacarelunar
Practice makes Perfect
"Every skill takes determined practice to master. I see my young friends/relatives try and give up on so many things because 'they weren't very good at it.' If you keep doing that, you'll never be very good at anything."
EarhornJonesI
"I love cooking - and find it easy and relaxing. I have hit a point where I can make several dishes that I can honestly say are far superior to what I could get at a restaurant. I love delighting my family and friends with what I cook."
"But the truth is - I've prepared thousands of dishes. I've practiced for 40+ years. I have f**ked up every single type of food there is at least once. I've burnt things. I've undercooked chicken. I failed to emulsify things that should have been emulsified. I forgot to set the timer. I've added too much salt. I chopped when I should have torn. I did all of the wrong things at some point. And because of all of these things, I can walk into any kitchen and make something delicious."
NewSummerOrange
63
"I’d say invest in your health by regularly exercising. My wife got me into running when we were in our twenties, and it has been a big part of our lives ever since (I’m 63). Nothing crazy, no marathons, we don’t time ourselves or follow a strict training plan, we just pick a route, go at our own pace, and have fun. We still go 3-4 miles, 3-4x per week."
"I also started working out at the gym 3x a week with free weights in my 30s, and have been doing it ever since. I’m no Schwarzenegger, believe me, but I can still work around the house, move furniture, shovel snow and have fun tossing a ball around with the kids without injuring or exhausting myself. Between aerobic fitness and weights, I’ve been able to stay remarkably healthy my entire adult life, knock on wood. It’s also been great for my mental health and managing stress."
"You don’t have to go nuts and set unreasonably strict requirements for exercise goals or diet that a normal person can’t possibly maintain - just do the best you can, make exercising a few times per week a habit, eat a reasonable diet (avoid fried stuff, eat fruit and veggies, lay off the sweets), and 40 years later you’ll really thank yourself, believe me!"
lanky_planky
Plan Ahead
Make It Rain Money GIF by yvngswagGiphy"Debt can really ruin your life. If you want to take on a lot of it, make sure you have a good plan and run it by a lot of smart people first."
vanityklaw
Debt. Everyone should learn about avoiding debt as early as possible.
This whole list should be taught in Universities.
