They say love is blind, but there are some things even "love" can't ignore - like the clear message sent when someone invites you on a date and you get there only to realize you're not the only "potential suitor" there and that the date is, in fact, an MLM pitch.
One Reddit user asked:
What did your crush do that absolutely killed your interest?
And fam, that was a real actual response. I just ... I ...
And that wasn't even the worst one! People are just out here snatching defeat from the jaws of victory left and right. We've got abusers, MLM pitches, and someone who lost to a cat. We've got insecurity and control issues on full display.
But people, far and away, the biggest takeaway from all of this is that cleaning up after yourself is seriously important. It's one of the easiest things you can do to help your date not be disgusted by you.
Turns out, people don't like hanging out in a home with literal poo on the floors. Who knew?
Sister Sister
His sister actually approached me and let me know that he was once arrested for locking their other pregnant sister in their basement, went on a drug binge while she desperately tried to get out, and went outside to beat their unsuspecting neighbors van with a golf club. That was a big'ol nope.
Our interactions were quite pleasant so I was interested in getting to know him better. We talked a lot about common interests such as the newest video games coming out for the xbox360 at the time, and our 90's nostalgia. It had never occurred to me to ask
"Hey, you ever just feel like locking your annoying pregnant sister in the basement and snorting a mountain of blow? Also fck vans, am I right?"
It was really cool of her to tell me about all of that, and she actually continued to warn women about him even if some of the girls wouldn't listen and had to experience first hand. She's really out here for her fellow females.
Racism And One Hoodie
Racism. Racism was the dealbreaker.
In tenth grade, I was absolutely pining over a girl in my U.S history class. I'm a very outgoing person, but something about this girl made me extremely nervous and flustered. I nearly had a panic attack when I first said hi to her. Why did I like her? I have no idea.
She was one of those suspiciously quiet girls that would draw anime and only wear one hoodie. I'm serious. She wore ONE hoodie and seemed to not own any other shirts. I don't think she was poor; she had a really nice sketchbook and a new phone. Maybe she just didn't know how to dress, but that wasn't even the dealbreaker for me.
It was about five months into me liking her. Our class was going to the black history month assembly that my school was hosting all throughout the day. During lunch, about 30 minutes before the assembly would have started, I texted her asking if she'd like to sit next to me during it.
She coldly replied something along the lines of, "I don't even want to go to this assembly. Black people are super lazy and just sit around and complain about their situation. they don't even do anything about it."
I never thought I could flip-the-switch on my feelings, but that was the day I stopped liking the one-hoodie-wearing weeb.
Dirty V. Filthy
She invited me over to her place - not as a date thing, but just to hang out as friends. Her house was absolutely filthy and the glass of coke she gave me had a hair in it. She was really cute, had a great personality, and was a genuinely nice person, but as soon as I saw cat sh!t on the floor near the front door, and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry
- Tashii
I am fine with mess and clutter. That stuff just needs tidying up. I cannot handle FILTH. This is absolutely filthy
Annoying
Has a crush on a coworker at my job from when I was about 18ish. He would talk to me on messenger and asked me to hang out sometime, but no plans were ever made. Heard from a mutual friend who also worked there that he told another friend he thought I was annoying....but HE was the one who asked me to hang out and it wasn't like I pushed to make plans??
Oh and I guess he realized I heard about this so he proceeded to overcompensate by being extra nice to me at work. Lost my lady erection instantly.
"Just Checking"
He wanted to look through my phone on our first date to make sure I wasn't talking to anyone else. That was our last date.
- twiride
This shouldn't be on any date, any time, ever. That's a red flag to a controlling abuser. Good dodge.
- mojoista
WARNING: critical levels of insecurity detected. Abort mission immediately.
Gossip Guy
GiphyWe work together and as I got to know him more I learned he talked badly about everyone. Nurses that are amazing he'd belittle, talk about how certain people don't know what they're doing because they asked for an ultrasound IV as they were struggling getting a vein on a heroin addict. The paramedics were worthless, doctors don't know what they're doing, who he thought was hooking up, etc.
It completely turned me off. He's in his early 40's and into gossip more than my teenage daughter.
Trash My Ride
He picked me up for our first date and his car was disgusting. Not talking a few trash items, the entire backseat and floorboard was completely covered in piled up trash, even up front. I had to step on empty McDonald's bags, old soda bottles, wrappers etc to even get in.
And all he said was, just move it around with your feet. No sorry or anything. Made me feel like trash too. Like dang, couldn't even clean up a little?
He probably did clean up. The passenger seat was likely completely piled up before. Probably thought he did a big thing. Yuck.
Locked Up
Our first date together started with him removing the steering wheel from his car & locking it in his trunk (when we got to dinner). Then we spent 3 hours of him talking about himself the. entire. time.
- roxemmy
Baby Mama Drama
She asked me if I was good with kids because she was pregnant with her ex and that's she's not good with kids (it was the first date)
Explosive
Proceeded to take an explosive sht and intentionally left the door open while talking to me, 10 mins after we hooked up for the first time.
I can not stress how absolutely explosive this sht was.
Cat Lady
She detested cats and insisted that I give up my furry buddy before she'd move in with me.
It wasn't that she was allergic to cats. She issued the ultimatum because - according to her - my cat "received too much of my time and affection, and she wasn't going to 'compete'."
Lmao imagine laying awake at night knowing you lost to a cat.
We Got A Bada$$ Over Here
GiphyWe were teenagers, he lived in a different province, and we used to chat on skype. He wanted me to think he was a "bada$$" or something and would always talk about his drug use. He ended up faking a heroin overdose when we were on chat together.
I was hysterically crying and freaking out thinking I was watching someone dying and was trying to figure out how to call 911 in another province when he "snapped out of it" and told me he was actually okay. I didn't talk to him much after that.
- Shelvis
Stealing From The Homeless
Stole from a homeless person.
We were walking together downtown and she saw a bucket of coins in front of a pharmacy. She just scooped it all up and kept walking. Guy comes out as she's 20 feet away or so and yells at her, she keeps moving. I stood there and just gave him a $20 and didn't hang out with her anymore. We were 14 and 15.
- setzRFD
DGAF
When I realized that she just wasn't that into me!
Spent a couple of weeks chatting with her just on Whatsapp/social media (due to lockdown) and she'd engage just enough for me to message her back each time but felt like I was always having to carry the conversation.
Had a Zoom chat with another female friend a few days later and it was actually friendly and enjoyable, which made it all the more stark that trying to talk to my crush has been like trying to talk to a brick-wall the past couple of weeks.
Conclusion: it's hard to stay attracted to someone who DGAF
MLM
Huge crush on a fellow uni student. I was invited over for what I expected to be a platonic study date (but hey, any time spent is better than just being alone, or so I thought). Got there and found another student from class also. Ok, study group?
Turns out her mom and her set us up for a full press MLM pitch. Video, literature, the works. I stayed a bit not to be rude, excused myself shortly, and only talked to her in class just in passing from then on. Huge let down.
That is probably the most insane thing I could imagine. You know damn well she's not keeping friends after that.
- Valley_G
A Universally Hated Being
Turned out to be the person eating everyone else's food from the break room fridge.
- tunaforthursdaytunaforthursday
When this happened at my work the manager said everyone start putting your names on your lunch. But the person stealing knows it's not theirs in the first place. Now they just have the satisfaction of knowing who's lunch they're stealing.
- sjaana
Never had anyone take my food from the fridge, but if they did....then it is war they have chosen
Red Flag
Said "I don't care what people say about you, I think you're great!" And when I inquired as to what, pray tell, everyone else was saying about me, he spewed a bunch of fake comments designed to make me assuage his insecurities.
"They say you think I'm ugly, you're just playing me, you aren't looking for anything serious..."
I don't mind if people have insecurities, but the fact that he brought them up in a weird, deceitful way just fishing for the compliments was a huge red flag and an immediate turn-off.
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Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.
Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?
But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.
It would be so great to be sure there is something else.
But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.
Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:
"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"
Sensations
Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."
PeachesnPain
Recovery
"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."
"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."
"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."
good_golly99
Take Me Back
"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."
"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."
rayrayrayray
Free
The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."
TooReDTooHigh
This is why I hate surgery.
You just never know.
Shocked
Giphy"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."
Admirable_Buyer6528
The SOB
"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."
"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”
1-cupcake-at-a-time
Colors
"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"
Hannah_LL7
"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"
huntokarrr
The Fog
"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."
"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."
Fluffy-Hotel-5184
Through the Walls
"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."
"She's quite alive and well today."
Hot-Refrigerator6583
Well let's all be happy to be alive.
It seems to be all we have.
Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.
The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.
Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.
Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:
"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"
Redditors didn't see these coming.
Shiver Me Timbers
"I’m always cold now!"
– Telrom_1
"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."
– r7ndom
"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."
– mr_remy
Drawing Concern
"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."
– dee-fondy
"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"
"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."
– LizardofDeath
Unleashing Insults
"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”
"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."
– alanamablamaspama
Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight
"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."
– KeltarCentauri
"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."
– KatMagic1977
"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."
– Jaew96
These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.
Shopping
"I can buy clothes in any store I want."
– WaySavvyD
"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."
– ganache98012
No More Symptoms
"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."
– colleennicole93
Expanding Capabilities
"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."
– Ramblonius
People Change Their Tune
"How much nicer people are to you."
"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"
– LiZZygsu
"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"
"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"
– awholedamngarden
It's gonna take some getting used to.
Bones Everywhere
"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."
– Princess-Pancake-97
"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."
– bekastrange
Knee Pillow
"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."
– snic2030
"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."
– Strongbad23
More Mobility
"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."
"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."
– dma1965
People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.
But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.
That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.