They say love is blind, but there are some things even "love" can't ignore - like the clear message sent when someone invites you on a date and you get there only to realize you're not the only "potential suitor" there and that the date is, in fact, an MLM pitch.
One Reddit user asked:
What did your crush do that absolutely killed your interest?
And fam, that was a real actual response. I just ... I ...
And that wasn't even the worst one! People are just out here snatching defeat from the jaws of victory left and right. We've got abusers, MLM pitches, and someone who lost to a cat. We've got insecurity and control issues on full display.
But people, far and away, the biggest takeaway from all of this is that cleaning up after yourself is seriously important. It's one of the easiest things you can do to help your date not be disgusted by you.
Turns out, people don't like hanging out in a home with literal poo on the floors. Who knew?
Sister Sister
His sister actually approached me and let me know that he was once arrested for locking their other pregnant sister in their basement, went on a drug binge while she desperately tried to get out, and went outside to beat their unsuspecting neighbors van with a golf club. That was a big'ol nope.
Our interactions were quite pleasant so I was interested in getting to know him better. We talked a lot about common interests such as the newest video games coming out for the xbox360 at the time, and our 90's nostalgia. It had never occurred to me to ask
"Hey, you ever just feel like locking your annoying pregnant sister in the basement and snorting a mountain of blow? Also fck vans, am I right?"
It was really cool of her to tell me about all of that, and she actually continued to warn women about him even if some of the girls wouldn't listen and had to experience first hand. She's really out here for her fellow females.
Racism And One Hoodie
Racism. Racism was the dealbreaker.
In tenth grade, I was absolutely pining over a girl in my U.S history class. I'm a very outgoing person, but something about this girl made me extremely nervous and flustered. I nearly had a panic attack when I first said hi to her. Why did I like her? I have no idea.
She was one of those suspiciously quiet girls that would draw anime and only wear one hoodie. I'm serious. She wore ONE hoodie and seemed to not own any other shirts. I don't think she was poor; she had a really nice sketchbook and a new phone. Maybe she just didn't know how to dress, but that wasn't even the dealbreaker for me.
It was about five months into me liking her. Our class was going to the black history month assembly that my school was hosting all throughout the day. During lunch, about 30 minutes before the assembly would have started, I texted her asking if she'd like to sit next to me during it.
She coldly replied something along the lines of, "I don't even want to go to this assembly. Black people are super lazy and just sit around and complain about their situation. they don't even do anything about it."
I never thought I could flip-the-switch on my feelings, but that was the day I stopped liking the one-hoodie-wearing weeb.
Dirty V. Filthy
She invited me over to her place - not as a date thing, but just to hang out as friends. Her house was absolutely filthy and the glass of coke she gave me had a hair in it. She was really cute, had a great personality, and was a genuinely nice person, but as soon as I saw cat sh!t on the floor near the front door, and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry
- Tashii
I am fine with mess and clutter. That stuff just needs tidying up. I cannot handle FILTH. This is absolutely filthy
Annoying
Has a crush on a coworker at my job from when I was about 18ish. He would talk to me on messenger and asked me to hang out sometime, but no plans were ever made. Heard from a mutual friend who also worked there that he told another friend he thought I was annoying....but HE was the one who asked me to hang out and it wasn't like I pushed to make plans??
Oh and I guess he realized I heard about this so he proceeded to overcompensate by being extra nice to me at work. Lost my lady erection instantly.
"Just Checking"
He wanted to look through my phone on our first date to make sure I wasn't talking to anyone else. That was our last date.
- twiride
This shouldn't be on any date, any time, ever. That's a red flag to a controlling abuser. Good dodge.
- mojoista
WARNING: critical levels of insecurity detected. Abort mission immediately.
Gossip Guy
GiphyWe work together and as I got to know him more I learned he talked badly about everyone. Nurses that are amazing he'd belittle, talk about how certain people don't know what they're doing because they asked for an ultrasound IV as they were struggling getting a vein on a heroin addict. The paramedics were worthless, doctors don't know what they're doing, who he thought was hooking up, etc.
It completely turned me off. He's in his early 40's and into gossip more than my teenage daughter.
Trash My Ride
He picked me up for our first date and his car was disgusting. Not talking a few trash items, the entire backseat and floorboard was completely covered in piled up trash, even up front. I had to step on empty McDonald's bags, old soda bottles, wrappers etc to even get in.
And all he said was, just move it around with your feet. No sorry or anything. Made me feel like trash too. Like dang, couldn't even clean up a little?
He probably did clean up. The passenger seat was likely completely piled up before. Probably thought he did a big thing. Yuck.
Locked Up
Our first date together started with him removing the steering wheel from his car & locking it in his trunk (when we got to dinner). Then we spent 3 hours of him talking about himself the. entire. time.
- roxemmy
Baby Mama Drama
She asked me if I was good with kids because she was pregnant with her ex and that's she's not good with kids (it was the first date)
Explosive
Proceeded to take an explosive sht and intentionally left the door open while talking to me, 10 mins after we hooked up for the first time.
I can not stress how absolutely explosive this sht was.
Cat Lady
She detested cats and insisted that I give up my furry buddy before she'd move in with me.
It wasn't that she was allergic to cats. She issued the ultimatum because - according to her - my cat "received too much of my time and affection, and she wasn't going to 'compete'."
Lmao imagine laying awake at night knowing you lost to a cat.
We Got A Bada$$ Over Here
GiphyWe were teenagers, he lived in a different province, and we used to chat on skype. He wanted me to think he was a "bada$$" or something and would always talk about his drug use. He ended up faking a heroin overdose when we were on chat together.
I was hysterically crying and freaking out thinking I was watching someone dying and was trying to figure out how to call 911 in another province when he "snapped out of it" and told me he was actually okay. I didn't talk to him much after that.
- Shelvis
Stealing From The Homeless
Stole from a homeless person.
We were walking together downtown and she saw a bucket of coins in front of a pharmacy. She just scooped it all up and kept walking. Guy comes out as she's 20 feet away or so and yells at her, she keeps moving. I stood there and just gave him a $20 and didn't hang out with her anymore. We were 14 and 15.
- setzRFD
DGAF
When I realized that she just wasn't that into me!
Spent a couple of weeks chatting with her just on Whatsapp/social media (due to lockdown) and she'd engage just enough for me to message her back each time but felt like I was always having to carry the conversation.
Had a Zoom chat with another female friend a few days later and it was actually friendly and enjoyable, which made it all the more stark that trying to talk to my crush has been like trying to talk to a brick-wall the past couple of weeks.
Conclusion: it's hard to stay attracted to someone who DGAF
MLM
Huge crush on a fellow uni student. I was invited over for what I expected to be a platonic study date (but hey, any time spent is better than just being alone, or so I thought). Got there and found another student from class also. Ok, study group?
Turns out her mom and her set us up for a full press MLM pitch. Video, literature, the works. I stayed a bit not to be rude, excused myself shortly, and only talked to her in class just in passing from then on. Huge let down.
That is probably the most insane thing I could imagine. You know damn well she's not keeping friends after that.
- Valley_G
A Universally Hated Being
Turned out to be the person eating everyone else's food from the break room fridge.
- tunaforthursdaytunaforthursday
When this happened at my work the manager said everyone start putting your names on your lunch. But the person stealing knows it's not theirs in the first place. Now they just have the satisfaction of knowing who's lunch they're stealing.
- sjaana
Never had anyone take my food from the fridge, but if they did....then it is war they have chosen
Red Flag
Said "I don't care what people say about you, I think you're great!" And when I inquired as to what, pray tell, everyone else was saying about me, he spewed a bunch of fake comments designed to make me assuage his insecurities.
"They say you think I'm ugly, you're just playing me, you aren't looking for anything serious..."
I don't mind if people have insecurities, but the fact that he brought them up in a weird, deceitful way just fishing for the compliments was a huge red flag and an immediate turn-off.
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Redditor JackHasSmellySocks wanted to hear about the times we've had a change or heart or lust, so they asked:
"What did your crush do that completely ruined your infatuation for them?"
I'm easily turned off, so my list could be long.
Listen
Listen GIF by The Maury ShowGiphy"Not listening whenever I would share a hobby of mine but insisting me into listening to theirs."
GuzzDoritos
"Currently dealing with this with my partner."
bobsandgobs
Terrifying
"We had been going out for a few weeks and on the way home from a party, we went to get McDonalds and he paid for me. I have an allergy and they got my order wrong. I asked and it wasn't a problem, they made me a new burger and told me to keep the incorrect one as they couldn't resell it."
"I offered it to him, he didn't want it so I said I would just bring it home to give to my housemate so it wouldn't go to waste. He was completely fine with this. Then a homeless guy came in and started asking at the tables for change. I offered him the burger and he took it."
"My date went crazy at me for giving away the burger that he had paid for (even though he was okay with me giving it to my housemate?) and followed the homeless man, shouting at him to give it back. Then got the guy kicked out of the restaurant."
"It was terrifying. He went from easy-going and charming to furious in a split second. Then when he sat down again, he acted like everything was normal and asked me if I wanted to go home with him! It was a side of him I hadn't seen before. I'm glad he showed his true colors early."
CalmDream0
Tears
"This girl I had a crush on early on in high school told me that she recently broke up with her last BF because his dad passed away suddenly, and, as she put it, 'wouldn’t stop being depressed and a f**king crybaby about it.' I didn’t talk to her much again after she said that."
FuzzMcBeefy84
Evil
"Participated in the murder of a homeless man. He and a group of his feckless friends cornered a homeless man and bludgeoned him to death, apparently for no reason at all. And they were caught almost immediately, because there were a couple of witnesses out of sight and a camera."
bearded_dragon_34
Creep
Elementary School What GIF by ABC NetworkGiphy"Tried to pour vodka into my drink when I wasn't looking."
Fylak
"Same thing happened to me! Too bad the guy was an idiot and didn't get very far after that."
ArcticFox46
Well that is a Dateline episode waiting to happen.
Gross
Bye Bye Goodbye GIF by Mickey MouseGiphy"Told me that the reason she hung around me was to get close to my very tall best friend. They dated for three weeks before he dumped her."
Eel_OBrian
On top of that...
"Ohhh. This post made me remember a really hurtful one. When I was 17 at my first year at uni I made friends with a girl in my year, it wasn't like instant crush but she was funny and I grew to like her. One day we were going home after classes together (turns out we lived pretty close to each other) chatting and joking."
"And at one moment she says: 'I really like talking to you just about anything, I would have jumped you right now if you weren't so ugly.' I was a really awkward teenager: severely underweight, skin problems and some other complexes. On top of that very introverted - so it outright killed my remained self-esteem."
"Thing is that she actually didn't realized effect of her words, it was like a passing comment to her and wasn't said with malicious intent. That fact actually made these words even more hurtful."
Haoross
'Everyone does it'
"We went somewhere and she and her friends pulled into all three handicapped parking spaces. There were plenty of other spots, but these were the closest. None of them were handicapped in any way. 'Everyone does it,' she said. No, no they do not."
ctdca
"If 'everyone does it,' then those spaces wouldn't have been open in the first place."
Princess_Moon_Butt
"Growing up with two disabled parents, I unfortunately can confirm there are a lot more people like her than you would think. There isn't always a disabled person needing that parking spot, but when you're disabled, there's always an a**hole who beat you to it."
softcockrock
It worked out OK
"She mentioned her last name. I recognized it. Haha. It's probably a good thing. Found out her grandmother was my grandfather's older sister. It worked out ok. We were on a double date sorta deal with her friend and my friend. We found that out pretty early in the night. We literally laughed our a**es off for 15 minutes, making jokes and traded dates. I ended up dating her friend for about 4 years."
New-Sir-4662
Trash
Mr Potato Head Litter GIF by City of Greenville, NCGiphy"He littered. Just opened his car door and dropped out a McDonalds bag on the ground. That killed it right there."
WackyShirley
The Larry
"Turns out she had absolutely no filter. She took pride in 'saying what was on her mind,' which was kind of cute at first, until I realized that she literally meant it, every thought in her head spewed out of her mouth no matter who could hear it. Not a day went by where she didn't get into an argument with someone over some insensitive or insulting comment that she made. She was the female embodiment of Larry David in Curb Your Enthusiasm."
raxtich
These are all valid reasons to drop someone if we're being honest.
Has this ever happened to you over something small? Let us know in the comments below.
Curious to hear from those who've eventually become wise to the ways of a parent or other adult figure, Redditor i_cant_have_dairy asked:
"What's something you were told as a child by adults, that you now realize is complete bullsh*t?"
Parents hoping to prevent a bad habit had interesting things to impart.
Advancing Bone Degeneration
"Cracking your fingers make you get arthritis."
– Haik11
Stroking Fear
"If you keep masturbating, you'll go blind."
– K333N4N
Interesting things were said in school but not everything stuck.
The Threat That Didn't Land
"HS teachers: 'That stuff won't fly in college" College: ✈️✈️✈️✈️'
– Comfortable_Wish_930
An Easy Pass For Today
"I got this BS all through school. 'I'll let this slide, but don't think you'll get away it next year...' "You can do this now, but don't think it'll happen in Middle School...' 'Don't expect to get away with this in High School...' 'Yeah, we'll let this go in High School, but if you think you'll get that sort of accomodation in college/the real world...(evil laugh)'. "
"Eventually, I caught on that it was more dependent on the teacher's attitude rather than anything else. Small example, in high school I couldn't remember the name of a town on a test, but I could remember everything else, even drew the diagram the teacher had the board in the margin, just to prove I had paid attention that day. Still got marked wrong. In college, similar brain fart, couldn't recall a place name, but I put as much description as I could otherwise. Professor gave me half credit."
– GrandSpecter
The Wrong Impression
"DARE activities in primary school gave the impression that grownups would always be giving away narcotics for free. lol"
– MiguelinaKnudsen
College Myth
"That a degree would open all the doors and knowing about politics, history and general stuff would make me an interesting person and that socializing was a waste of time. Nowadays I work for a big4 but I have the personality of a boiled potato. And they have the nerves to ask why I don't have a girlfriend or more friends at 27. Teach your kids social skills. Studying is not everything."
– davidmt1995
Certain behaviors get fact-checked.
The Thing About Respect
"That you gotta have respect for you elders.... Don't get me wrong you gotta have respect for everyone but I'm only gonna give what you give me. If you are a butthole ima be a butthole."
– Ok_Win7358
There Are No Stupid Questions...Maybe
“No harm in asking', boy did that get me in trouble…"
– khamelean
Combating Bullies
"Re: bullies."
'Just ignore them and they'll go away.'
"No it doesn't. It just makes them laugh so they do it more."
– j-c-s-roberts
Getting Old But Never Wiser
"That adults know what they are doing."
"31 and I feel like a chicken with his head cut off."
– Brontolope11
You Are Not What You Eat
"That you can't be full unless you eat bread. Carbs actually make you hungrier. Protein fills you up."
"Also: if you drink coffee, you'll grow a tail. Don't ask me where I'm from."
– Senishte1992
I was a very rambunctious and obnoxious kid, so maybe I deserved the tactic my mother resorted to using to get me to be on my best behavior.
Whenever I acted out, my mother used to convince me she would call the "mountain people" to come back and retrieve me back to the community from where she claimed to have initially found and adopted me.
One time, when I was incredulous and stood my ground after being a pain, my mother told me the mountain people were going to take me back.
So she called them up by using our rotary-dial telephone and faked a whole conversation with them about how unruly I've been and that it was time for me to return.
She sent me to my room to start packing–which I did. Unbeknownst to me, she rang the doorbell to indicate they had arrived to take me away.
When that happened, I profusely apologized to her and promised to behave so she could send them away.
That was the last time she used that effective tactic and the last time I think I was at my worst in terms of my rebellious behavior.
We laugh about it now but back then, I was terrified.
But I can't discredit her for her creative discipline.
