People Who Knowingly Slept With Someone In A Relationship Explain Why They Did It
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Don't have sex with people attached to someone already.

There is no good excuse.

There is no reason that makes it worth it.

Most of the time the "reasons" are lies.

RedditorVirtual_Welder_4525wanted to hear from those willing to spill a little tea about some bedmates. They asked:

"People who knowingly have slept with someone who was in a relationship, why did you do it?"

Why do we do it? I still don't know what I was thinking.

Hot. Not.

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"I was young and it made me feel hot/desired . It was dumb."

miau121212

Liar

"She told me that she was in an open relationship but turned out that she was lying."

ipg9

"Yeah, I had the same thing happen. Girl told me she was in an open relationship, I slept with her, then she told her boyfriend about it. So the next day I get a call from her boyfriend, threatening to kick my @ss."

"Story does have a happy ending though. I had text history of our conversation leading up to the hookup, as well as her texting me about how good it was after I had left. I sent him screenshots, showing proof of her saying she was in an open relationship. He dumped her and apologized for believing her."

Zappiticas

Come to your senses...

"I was freshly 18 working a restaurant gig and the attractive shift manger took an interest. Hooked up at work a few times on overnight shifts. One day his gf came in to eat and I realized they weren’t as on and off as he said. Wish I could stay I stopped there, but it happened once or twice more before both of us came to our senses. I think he was 27? Ended up getting my number and sending me inappropriate texts for the next three months after I quit that job. I still feel slimy."

silverpawsMN

23...

"I was 23 when it started and it went on for years and I felt like literal scum afterward every single time, but the sex was good, and I hated myself, so I figured it was the best I could do and I deserved to feel like crap. I justified it because I wasn't the only one he was cheating on his wife with, he had two or three other girls in rotation. I was just dumb and selfish and self sabotaging."

idontcare4205

Gross

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"'You were gone! He was here!'", Shadynasty."

Johnny5isalive38

Humans will just do it anywhere. Just like pigs.

Like A...

"I was young and a virgin. She was gorgeous and sweet. She spun me a story about how bad her relationship was and I was hooked."

seemsmildbutdeadly

4+ Years

"I was 20/21 and had finally gotten out of an abusive household and was barely financially stable and not at all mentally stable. He was A LOT older than I was (his son was older than I was by a couple of years) but he did generally treat me pretty well."

"It went on for 4+ years. We were far from an ideal couple, even had he not been married, but overall it was a positive thing in my life at a time when I really needed it, and it became a safety net. It ended years ago and I feel deeply ashamed of it and my actions."

"But I've grown enough to know that I'm not that same person anymore and I'd never repeat it. I did learn that a poly relationship definitely suits me better than a monogamous relationship - but it can and should be done ethically and morally."

Mendel247

Her wife found out...

"I was in love but also young and selfish and could easily ignore that she was married/she was AGGRESSIVE in pursuing me for years (flying across states to see me, tracking me down at restaurants I would frequent, telling me she loved me and her marriage was in shambles, texting me from new numbers every time I told her to leave me alone). We started the stereotypical long-distance emotional affair that went into sexting/sexy pics. Her wife found out."

Femmeforever

No Excuses

"I was young and drunk, with low self esteem and a crippling need for validation. She came onto me and I found it hard to say no. I justified it to myself as I knew their relationship was on the rocks anyway. I figured, well it's basically over. They just aren't formally broken up. They did split up a few months later. I'm not excusing it, I knew it was wrong."

user262

Typical...

"Didn't know any better. Horny stupid teens do stupid horny things. Wouldn't happen nowadays."

AuthCentDegenerate2

Oh the things we do for a hot roll in the hay. Be better people.

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