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Honest People Share The Most Difficult Conversation They've Ever Had

We need to talk...

Life is all about love and hard truths. There is no way around it, being hurt, feeling pain and having to do difficult, soul crushing things is inevitable. We all dread those moments in life when you have to look someone in the eye and have one of "those" conversations. But through pain will come triumph or... more pain. It's a toss up... it's why we have vodka.

Redditor u/paytie wanted to discuss some hard truths by asking... What's the worst conversation you've ever had to have?

Thank God for whiskey. 

I had to call my older brother and tell him that our younger brother had died. I then had to call my younger brother's best friend, girlfriend, and a few of his other friends and tell them the news.

That was a long night. hopebirmingham

It's not all that bad! 

I thought this one was going to be... I got caught smoking herb off campus by my VP. Dad had to pick me up. Most angry I've ever seen him. As part of my punishment he decided that I had to call all my relatives and tell them. I was most nervous about my grandmother because she lived close enough to visit and tell her in person. On the way there I was so nervous that I was reflex gagging. This is the only time and reason why I know I don't have actual anxiety issues. Anyway I sheepishly told her and her response was awesome. She said "well do you feel bad about it?" I nodded. "Then I guess that's it. The reason your dad dragged you over here was so you would feel bad." She gave me a hug and whispered to me. "Your dad sold drugs when he was your age. He doesn't want you to make the same mistakes. But honestly sweetie it's not as terrible as you feel." Rumplestiltman

I'm so sorry...

I ran over a dog once in high school. I went up to the house to tell the owners and after telling the woman who answered the door she told me it was her husband's dog and he had Alzheimer's and it was his best friend then invited me inside to tell the husband. I stayed there until the cops arrived as this woman told me every story she ever had about her family and the dog. To make matters worse, a girl I was dating at the time was in the passenger seat crying the entire time. expresidentmasks

Help our Vets! 

Was homeless and had a homeless vet for a friend. We would hang out watch each others belongings etc. helped one another out. Would go in half on motels and food when we had money from panhandling or from just doing odd jobs that day or what change we could scrounge up here and there.

One day we were sitting down talking at this corner store, he pulled out a gun said he couldn't handle living life like this anymore and how he served for this country and no one cares etc. and when he got back no one would hire him and how he lost his family, his wife, his kid, not from death they just left him he said he couldn't take it anymore and shot himself bled out and died in my arms. I tried getting the gun away and such but couldn't.

A week later I was at his funeral, only a couple people showed up and one of his sons showed up. I talked to his son told him what happened and handed him his dad's dog tags and a letter he wrote months before he ended his life and told me to hand it to his family if something ever happened and they happen to show up. I held on to it for months didn't think I would really had to hand it to anyone. dunnonymore881

It's like a movie.

"Your step-dad finally got a heart transplant, but it had been too long, his body was too weak, it didn't take. He's gone." I remember this scene unfolding like I was standing outside of my body, watching it happen to someone else, until I crumbled into my mother's arms. CreampuffOfLove

I'm empty. 

Breaking up with my girlfriend of 4 years, not because my feelings were gone but because I noticed her feelings were diminishing and I couldn't give her the freedom she wanted.

Edit: Just wanted to clarify, although I do appreciate all the kind words, the decision was not 100% because I only wanted her to be happier, but also because of self preservation. I could no longer stay in a relationship I knew was not equal, and I knew it was going to end badly for me eventually. So if you think of me as a selfless person I'd have to disappoint you. CannedCancanMan

Life changes in an instant.

My ex and I were still friends when she got into a car accident that gave her a significant amount of brain damage. Mentally, she was reduced to a 5 year old.

My first conversation with her after the accident was the worst conversation I've ever had.

It looked like her. Sounded like her. But... it wasn't. It was like some weird soap opera nightmare. I knew things changed the second she looked at me. It's like she was looking at the mailman or something. I was just a stranger again. Retro_Mutagen

I can't imagine... 

When I had to call my husband at work and tell him we lost the baby. I was almost 39 weeks pregnant. I heard his heart shatter over the phone. bookluvr83

Just tears...

My good friend got a call one day when we were hanging out, his brother overdosed and had passed away. I drove him home and he couldn't work up the courage to tell his mom, every time he tried he would either gag or start crying so hard he couldn't talk, so I sat her down and told her. I ended up spending the night with my friend to make sure he would be ok and that he wasn't alone (his girlfriend was on vacation). Honestly breaking the news to his mom that one of her son's had passed away due to an overdose was the hardest thing to do, i just hugged her and her son as they cried for probably close to an hour until his mom's boyfriend could get there. His brother was also one of my really good friends I was able to hold back the tears until after I got home from the memorial service. thatbluegti

Chat it out! 

When I was 16 I lost a friend of mine to meningitis and it destroyed me. The councilor in my school decided it would be good to ask me to go over every detail of when he died so we could 'chat it out' and it brought back all of the pain. MrC99

No tears left to cry... 

I had to talk to an older coworker who was incompetent, but thought he was the crap. The guy would do stuff like travel to gas fields near places he wanted to visit, and bring his wife with him.... to the gas fields, who was not an employee of the company or have any sort of safety certifications. He thought all of this was ok. I explained to him how he needs to take the job seriously, and that he was a idiot and all the customers keep writing to me how he doesn't know what he was doing. Yea I made an old indian guy cry, but I stand by it. He was a moron. ooo-ooo-oooyea

The aftermath...

Answering the paramedics questions after my gf tried to kill herself while I was in the house. muchvape2000

Trauma effects us all... 

I have only loved one woman. She ended up leaving me to deal with her own psychological issues, which I understood, but I was heartbroken. Months later, she reached out and told me she was planning a suicide. My life became about helping her maintain balance. I helped make appointments for her, I was emotional support at any hour, I skipped classes to sit and talk with her on the phone, and I did it without hesitation. She was lost and she needed someone. I was her someone. Eventually, when she was out of the woods, we parted ways again.

Years later, she contacted me looking for bizarrely specific information. I asked why. She explained that she was collecting evidence. Days after she left me, she was assaulted with excessive violence outside her apartment by a man I knew. I had bought him a beer when she introduced us. I shook his hand. She hadn't told anyone the specifics of that evening, and because she trusted me, she vented.

It's been about three years since we had that conversation. I haven't dated anyone since. I haven't had sex in five years. It haunts me. I try and let it go, but it has shaped me now. I've gotten to the point where I've all but accepted that I'm psychologically incapable of having another romantic relationship because of the horrific way that my first and only one ended. And even after all of that, she still has a vastly worse experience to overcome.

That was, without any competition, the worst conversation I have ever had. CognitiveParallax


2 both with my mom:

My freshman year of college I wasn't mature enough yet to handle my alcohol responsibly. I woke up the morning after Halloween in a hospital with my mom in front of me. I had turned unconscious while a cop was giving my friend who was driving me home a DUI. By the BAC levels, I should either be dead or have severe brain damage right now. Somehow I have neither. Do you know what it's like to talk to your mom about how she and your sisters were distraught because they honestly thought they had lost a member of their family, aka you?

Years later I was getting a master's at UGA. I withdrew, drove home, sat my mom on the couch in the morning and told her I needed help. Like real help. We committed myself to a hospital over the weekend to keep me safe while we set up appointments with a psychiatrist and psychologist the help figure things out. Do you know what it's like to sit the person who raised you down and tell them that the thoughts of killing yourself have become so heavy you don't trust yourself to be alone anymore? Sirnacane

The heart is fragile. 

I had to tell my 8 year old daughter that my aunt had passed. She was the most beautiful person on this Earth and her Smile would light up the entire house when she was around. She took her life, and I have never had the heart to tell my daughter that she did, she thinks that she had a heart attack, and that is why she wants to become a cardiologist to find a cure to prevent them. sol22516

Nobody's perfect... 

I had to tell my baby sister how our parents aren't good parents, at best they are ehhh. They had kids way too young and honestly didn't know how to raise them. That our grandparents are better parents than our parents. That she should love them but don't have high expectations of them. They gotten better over the years but not much. venomstrike123

Thank you for your service.

When I had to call my mom and tell her I had orders to Iraq. OrdinaryItem

Bless you Johnnie!! 

I was on a flight from LA to Tokyo. I believe it's around a 13 hour flight but I could be wrong. I sat next to this Christian missionary couple. I'm an atheist but I don't go around preaching what I believe, These two did though. It wasn't even a friendly debate, it was just them telling me what I ought to believe in and how to encourage that belief in others. I ended up opening one of my duty-free bottles of Johnnie Walker which was supposed to go to my grandpa whom I was on my way to visit in India. I ended up downing at least half of it on the flight just to knock out and keep the idiots at bay. EricTheAckAcktor

Stay cool mom and dad...

When I was like 14, my parents checked the internet history on our Shared desktop and found a bunch of gay porn. I'm not gay, it definitely wasn't me looking at it, but no matter how much I told them that, they wouldn't buy it. Luckily they were very supportive of my lifestyle and that it's not bad to be gay or anything like that. So they showed me the Website and I immediately knew what happened. This was ten years ago and at the time the flash game website was huge. My little brother was on there all the time but he accidentally spelled add** which was the gay porn site. TikisFury

Grandma misses you too... 

A little late and probably gonna get buried but when my 4 year old daughter and I showed up on the scene of the accident my mom was involved in. She was supposed to be life flighted to the nearest trauma hospital but after landing the helicopter they came and told me she didn't make it. Having to call both of her parents (she was an only child), my brother who was stationed 12 hours away, and my fiancé at the time to come get my daughter and I because the officers wouldn't let me drive. I really think the worst of it all was telling my 4 year old that grandma was gone. She really didn't understand and still to this day, 3 years later, tells me she misses her. kdbk10


People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley


"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt


"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."


"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."


Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."


"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip


"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User


– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"


Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."



"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."


Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."



The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."


This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.



"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."



"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”



"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"


"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"


The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."


Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."


Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.


"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.