It can't be easy to be a hairdresser, stylist, or a barber. Clients can come in demanding the most fabulous hairstyles, and it's your job to tell them what they have sitting on their noggin can't be done up to look like the image of a celebrity they showed you on their phone. Everyone's different, but there's some good general rules to follow.
Reddit user, u/Palludane, wanted the deep dish on your follicles when they asked:
Hairdressers of reddit, what should everyone know about their hair?
Understand Their Position
I just want to know what to do if I want anything besides a trim or a crew cut. The few times I've tried to get something moderately styled, they had no idea what I was talking about, even if I showed them pictures. Honestly, I just have no idea what to really tell them either.
Any advice?
Did you go to a barber and ask this? In my experience barbers tend to just cut hair, not exactly style it. What I have noticed is that there are many people who think a hair stylist and a barber is the same thing. I work in a hair salon and the head hair stylist has done many men's styles before.
Get The Right Tools
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Learn how to properly use a round brush. I'm sick of people getting them stuck because they don't know what to do.
Also product isn't an option, especially when using thermal tools. It's necessary.
Regarding Color...
Don't box dye.
Also professional dye jobs are expensive. Stop expecting to get your 3 ft. Long hair dyed entirely a different color for $50.
Respect The Game. Respect The Price.
You should know that cutting three dimensional shapes into moving structures on three dimensional surfaces, none of which are ever truly symmetrical or the same as others, having had less than 5 minutes to even look at the texture, quantity, arrangement and distribution of said structures is F-CKING COMPLICATED and should be much more respected as a trade than it is.
I got a degree then later went back to hair school and the level of applied technical science is vastly underrated by the general public. Not even touching on the kind of Sherlockian sleuthery required to deduce the hair chemical history and predict accurate outcomes with bespoke mixtures of chemicals to match photographs of unknown origin, print quality, or photographic truth on completely other heads of hair.....
Basically I'm saying be good to your hairdresser and don't stress them out while they work, and appreciate and reward what they do for you and if you are already - stop being cheap.
Get That Coconut All Up In There
Most hair products contain some amount of alcohol. Alcohol will dry your hair and make it weak. If you use hair products that contain alcohol you have to rehydrate your hair. I would recommend coconut oil, almond oil, black seed oil, or cocoa butter.
Curly Q
As a dude with curls that dry out quick and if I don't use pomade or some sort of product my curls get frizzie, what would you suggest? I've always wanted to style my curls but I don't know how. They stick up naturally instead of lying down.
What am I doing wrong?
Figure out your curl pattern type (3a, 4c, etc), don't wash too much, experiment a bit to find your best conditioner (based on your curl type!!) dry with a t shirt not a towel (and scrunch the water out gently!!). I use a curl creme (inexpensive) instead of pomade which cuts down on frizz and encourages curls without....crunch. Also if you can....silk pillowcases. I swear.
No One Likes Snow On Their Shoulders
Wtf do I do for dandruff? I'm tired of this sh-t 😂
Hibiclens aka chlorhexidine 5% soap will do it. Leave it on 5 mins. Keep out of eyes and ears. It is drying. Do it 2x a week.
Purple To Help The Blonde
For Bleach Blondes: to keep orange tones and awful "yellow" colour off your head, use Purple shampoo. Start with regular shampoo, then go in with a purple shampoo, leave in for a couple of minutes, and then rinse and condition.
The purple counter-acts yellow and orange and will go back to a lighter blonde. The longer you leave the purple in, it will go silver and then purple on lighter hair. This can have a cool effect or go badly so use slowly and steadily depending on each brand.
Do not leave in over night, I stupidly fell asleep with it in when I was a teenager and woke up to purple hair. That was fun.
Can't Do It In One Go
was previously a hairdresser and my sister still is.If you are wanting to dye your hair blonde from a really dark colour please do it in stages over a couple of months.like gradually dying your hair a ligher and lighter brown until you are readly for the bleach.
My sister is always complaining to me about people with very dark hair booking 1 appointment for platinum blonde.they alwasy just insist on straight bleaching but bleach on dark hair goes orange.
Instagram Is Not Real Life
Hairdresser of 12+ years here!
1. Adjust your expectations. Whatever you're looking at as inspo on Insta probably was done by a celeb stylist who charged $800+ for a day-long session. It's also probably edited and 'shopped for likes. This is a huge problem in the industry because a client just sees the before and after and assumes it's done in one 2-hour regular hair appointment. Transparency is important!!
2. We really do love what we do and want you to be happy. If you're not happy, just let us know so we can fix it. It is much better, for the most part, to see the same stylist to fix it. They know your hair history already and can make the most informed decisions. Stylist-hopping means each person is starting from scratch and you will keep paying more and more money for a re-do that is less likely to succeed
3. Old people can grow mold behind their ears. Hygiene is important!
4.Professional retail products are totally worth the price -- but if you can't afford it, Sally's is your next best bet.
We're Like Doctors. For Your Hair. Just Be Honest.
When your stylist asks you what you have put on your hair, BE HONEST. We ask because we want to protect the integrity of your hair not because we want to gripe at you.
Also, black to Blonde in one appointment is not going to happen. EVER. And it's going to be expensive.
Edit: hairstylist 17 years.
Seriously. Honesty.
I really hope someone sees this and has an answer
Hairdressers, how do I politely say I don't want to talk while getting my hair cut?? It's seriously my main stressor when it comes to getting a hair cut to the point where I just won't get one for a long time just to avoid the small talk I need to endure. How do I politely say that I want to just read a magazine or something???
Just say it! "I hope you don't mind, but is it alright if we skip the chat? I'd like to take this time to relax/read/enjoy the quiet." Of course you'll need to tell them what you want, but after that, it should be fine. Some stylists are also more quiet and reserved but feel compelled to talk, as that's the norm (ie, me). It could be a very welcome change for them!
Hey Curly! Here's A Checklist!
PEOPLE WITH CURLY HAIR
- Water Is you friend. Drink. Put in you hair. It is your FIRST AND PRIMARY MOISTURIZER.
- Other products as Cream, Leave-ins are Oils are moisturizer/sealers for the water that's already in your hair so it doesn't dry and break. I use the LCO Method. Water - Leave in to seal water - Cream to seal Leave In and Oil to Seal the Cream. But it could be as simple as Water and Oils.
- GOOGLE PROTECTIVE STYLES. Start to learn how to braid your hair.
- Use a Satin Scarf/pillowcase when you sleep. It's a f-cking life saver.
- Stretching your hair is a good method to avoid single strand knots because you are stretching your curl patterns and we all know, more curls = more knots.
- DEEP CONDITIONERS ARE IMPORTANT.
- Detangle is a hard process and annoying but it is important to be gentle with your hair at this moment so don't do it when they are dry and don't do it when you are tired !
- FOCUS on your ENDS when you apply products. They are the oldest part of your hair and you want to treat them good.
- CUT YOUR ENDS. DEAD ENDS ARE DEAD AND THEY WILL JUST BREAK YOUR HAIR MORE JUST SNIP SNIP THEM.
- DRINK WATER, USE WATER, BE WATER
- SHOW YOUR CROWN AND BE PROUD OF IT. (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)
Monitor The Product
I've certainly heard about not washing every day, but what if you use a styling product? Seems like if you're going several days just water rinsing and adding more product, things would get funky.
Are you a guy/ do you have short hair?
If your product is water-based (water being the first ingredient) it'll come out with just water.
If it's oil based, that's another story.
A Rapid-Fire List...
So my wife is a stylist and I'm going to list the things she rages about when people f-ck up their hair.
- Box color was invented by an evil wizard who only wants to f-ck up your hair.
- If you have dark hair and want to go light, it's going to take a while. To look good it's going to take several visits. Roots apparently are different. If you get your hair blond, taking care of the roots can be done in one visit.
- Sit f-cking still. You are only f-cking up your hair.
...And A Few More For The Road
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Hairdresser: a couple things,
1. Don't wash your hair every day. Super important. If you can go 3-5 days that's ideal. It takes time for your scalp to adjust and every scalp is different, but for most people you need to allow the natural oils that your head produces to travel down the hair. It really helps keep your hair healthier longer.
2. Product DOES matter, things like sulfates and parabens completely strip your hair, making the cuticle more exposed and therefore more frizzy and damaged.
3. Always always used a heat protectant if you're putting any heat on your head. This really makes a difference, long term heat use is incredibly damaging. From the moment your hair grows out of your head, it will only get more damaged.
4. Trim your damn hair! As I said above, you can take the absolute best care of your hair, and hair that is 3-4 years old or older is always going to need a trim. It's [exposure] to you just living your life is damage enough for it to warrant a trim. Don't wait because you want it longgg, it will break off and that's not going to help you in the long run.
5. Men: WASH AND CONDITION your beards! It's hair, it collects dirt and oil just like our scalp but it's also on your face. Condition helps the coarseness of the beard hair feel much softer, you can use any products on it you use on your scalp, unless you have very sensitive skin, then I would use something recommended for beards specifically!
Are you a hairdresser with helpful information about our hair? Share it with us!
When we're intoxicated, or even the slightest bit tipsy from having a little too much to drink, our immediate perspective on things is hazy.
But there's nothing like a bit of alarming news or a jarring incident to snap us out of the fog and focus on the moment.
Sometimes alcohol isn't always to blame for our impairment.
It can be a state of mind, like a perpetual numbness from being complacent in life, and all it takes is one shocking moment to rattle us back to our senses.
Curious to hear from strangers online about this type of scenario, Redditor Known_Challenge_7150 asked:
"What’s one thing that sobered you up real quick?"
These individuals were witness to shocking events that sobered them up right quick.
Bleeding Out
"Got out of a taxi and found a naked man profusely bleeding from his head crawling up the driveway in my condo. Called him an ambulance completely forgot I was absolutely wasted until 45 minutes later when I'd helped him translate and in to an amublance and stepped in my front door."
"Later a few days later learned he'd slipped in the tub and literally crawled out for help. Poor dude. He was fine but I genuinely thought he was going to die there."
– DongLaiCha
Tragic News
"At a bachelor party and we got a phone call that the groom’s father had suddenly passed."
– accountnameredacted
Bottom Of The Barrel
"I went to visit my parents back in July. I was homeless and deep into fentanyl addiction so I lost a lot of weight. My folks could see it. They knew something was up. Anyway, I spent the night and I was getting ready to leave in the morning and I looked at myself in the mirror for a good long time. I finally had enough and told them everything. They took me to detox, from there I went to rehab. Graduated in August and been living with them ever since then. I have 160 days clean and sober."
– Crotch-Monster
A reality check can be enough for some people to snap out of it.
Like Father, Like Son
"Was driving a drunk friend home, he had been on a bender again and was smart enough to call me for a lift rather than try and drive. As I helped in to his house his mother came down the stairs and said 'your as drunk as your father' and went back upstairs. I haven't seen him drunk since then, he still drinks but the thought of turning into his dad scared him out of hard drinking."
– psycospaz
Busted
"Flashing blue lights."
– FiddleOfGold
"This sobered me up just thinking about it."
– redmaple_syrup
Losing Sight
"Woke up to no sight in one eye. I had cataract surgery so just thought one of the lenses had slipped and it was an easy fix. Eye doc says nope, you had a stroke. I loved soy sauce, teriyaki sauce and salty food, which caused high blood pressure, which caused retina damage. Over six months was able to get most of my eyesight back with medication, and all back within a year. Trying to navigate life with one eye was very sobering. Started taking HBP much more seriously."
– MissHibernia
Quitting The Bottle
"Looked up someone I went to highschool with who was an awesome guy. Found out he had been dead for 3 years from alcoholism, at age 33. I made an overnight change. I hadn't started drinking that night yet, 10 months ago. Haven't touched it again since."
– omgtater
These disturbing moments were enough for Redditors to immediately come to their senses.
Unplanned House Guests
"Me and a buddy Woke up in someone’s living room, realized neither one of us knew the people, they were just nice and let 2 drunk guys sleep on their living room floor. We didn’t even say goodbye."
– Oneinsevenbillion75
Serious Health Warning
"Elevated liver enzymes."
"And the knowledge that this sh** was gonna kill me and I just couldn't orphan my family over it."
"So I opted for recovery, instead."
"Clean and sober since June 5, 2009."
– Far_Meal8674
The Joyride
"Grew up in a rural area. The little town hosted dances at the hockey arena, everyone (adults and kids) went and they overserved everyone, regardless of age. I was maybe 16 or 17 and was absolutely sh*tfaced, and jumped in the back of someone's truck with about 8 other people to go back to someone's cottage for after dance drinking. The driver (still don't know who it was) started racing one of his buddies and we whipped around small dirt roads, flying around blind corners on the wrong side of the road, going god knows how fast. It was basically a disaster waiting to happen. It was crazy scary and I was sober and thankful to be alive when we finally arrived."
– foxfood9116
The human psyche is a fascinating thing, isn't it?
How we can automatically focus on something urgent at a crucial time, even after getting buzzed from drinking too much alcohol.
But as we're in the thick of the holidays, it's a good reminder to drink responsibly and stay off the roads if you drive to your celebratory destination.
Cheers. Stay safe. And happy holidays.
We've all complained or vented about something in our lives which, in the grand scheme of things, wasn't exactly a problem, or is very easily solved.
Then there are those who complain about things that others almost hope will happen to them at some point in their lives.
These are known as "first world problems", as they are problems that pretty much only the world's one percent faces.
From having to fly business class instead of first class, or being served Roederer instead of Dom Pérignon, these complaints are often met with amusement, bewilderment, or even anger.
Redditor jennimackenzie was curious to hear the most absurd "first world problems" anyone ever complained about, leading them to ask:
"What’s the most ridiculous 'first world problem' you’ve seen people get worked up over?"
"Tale As Old As Time..."
"I once knew a mom who was legitimately devastated, to the point of tears/grief, because a doctor predicted her 8 year old daughter's final height to be around 5'2","
"Which wasn't tall enough to get cast as Belle at Disney World."
"That was the child's (and her mother's) only dream in life, apparently."
"Didn't appreciate my suggestion that she could be Minnie or Mickey."
"Lol!"
"Only a face character would do!"- TravelLovingMom
"Must Be Funny, In A Rich Man's World..."
"My boss from about a decade ago was this insanely rich dude who always went to the bank to get fresh and crisp currency."
"He'd call the bank in advance to make sure they had some on hand."
"I think he was a germaphobe."
"He had a trash can that he'd throw $1 and $5 bills in that he thought was 'dirty' and regularly just donated it vs spending it."
"I asked him why he did this and he said it was too much trouble and asked if I wanted it."
"I said f*ck yeah dumped it into my bag and when I got home it was close to $400 in singles and fives.
"Another time, he wanted to upgrade all the computers in his studio, so we went to a store and bought 10 PCs."
"They all had $150 mail in rebates and he wasn't bothered to go through the trouble of mailing them in."
"3 weeks later I received $1500 after spending a whole afternoon filling out all those goddamn forms."- azninvasion2000
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Who Wore It Better?
"When I was about 19 years old, I was at my boyfriends family BBQ."
"I was wearing this pretty floral sundress."
"His cousins girlfriend showed up in the same dress and she was SO mad that she went and changed."
"I will never understand being upset when someone is wearing the same thing as you.'
"Did you really think that your shirt you bought off the rack is going to be unique to you?"
"No."- mertsey627
Seeing Red! Or Blue In This Case...
"The blue of the balloons wasn't quite the same as the bridesmaid's sashes."
"Years ago my wife and I attended a wedding."
"It was very low key."
"The dinner was in the dining hall at the university where the couple met, cinder block walls and all."
"It was a Baptist wedding - no booze and very serious."
"The dark blue balloons attempting to liven up the hall were a slightly darker shade of blue than the sashes on the bridesmaid's dresses."
"The bride lost here sh*t and absolutely raved for nearly an hour."
"I can't remember how they finally managed to talk her down."- mechant_papa
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See You In Court!
"Rich neighbors who end up in expensive court battles because they disagree about where a tree can be planted or whether the color of a fence fits in with the street’s 'amenity'."
'These disputes get really heated and rack up huge lawyers’ bills."
"The most pathetic part is after the judgement when they are arguing about who should pay the other party’s costs."
"Lots of affidavits filed citing the 'emotional distress' they had to endure, or painting themselves as brave warriors who were forced to take a stand to fight for 'justice'."
"Also lots of pompous litigants insisting that the judge refer to them by their 'Dr' title."
"An absolutely insane dumpster fire of entitled rich people problems."- ElectrocRaisin
It's Always People With Money Who Don't Want To Pay!
"I work in a public library."
"People will get so so mad if they have to be put on a wait list for a book."
"A popular book that just came out."
"Ok our services are not only free but so are the books."
"You’re welcome, a**holes."- Switchbladekitten
A Warm Butt Is A Happy Butt!
"My own."
"We have a bidet toilet seat (Fabulous! Everyone should have one!) and not only does it wash your bum and blow dry it, but the seat's heated!"
"It's shocking how much a heated toilet seat makes the whole process more agreeable."
"Except: We had a power outage and I went to use the toilet and the seat was cold!"
"Unacceptable!"
"This shall not stand!"
"I was really upset because it didn't feel good."
"Then I stopped and thought: This is the most first-world problem anyone's ever had."
"I was really pissed because my heiny was tepid."
"I got over it."- DeathGrover
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Holy Matrimony!
"Weddings are a gold mine for this question."
"People get so hyped up over their 'most important day of their life'."
"They'll destroy friendships, go into debt, and have crazy expectations."
"It's not always the couple who go crazy, either."
"Sometimes, it's the parents or another family member who feels entitled to control the wedding."
"It's just a party."
"Be considerate of guests, have plenty of food and drinks, and enjoy it."- magicrowantree
When Fast Food Isn't Fast Enough...
"Having to pull off to the side to wait for a drive-thru order to be brought out to you because your food isn't ready and there's a line building up behind you."- demanbmore
In Case You Don't Think Customer Service Employees Are Undervalued...
"I was working the return desk at a Target next to a military base so I have so many stories."
"One of my favorites was a lady who had her baby shower before revealing the gender and was livid that she had received floral newborn diapers when she’s having a boy."
"It was a huge box of super expensive, all organic diapers, that we didn’t carry and therefore could not return."
"I cannot accurately express her fury and disgust."
"How dare either suggest her boy could wear feminine diapers."
"I suggested she donate them if she didn’t want to use them and she instead threw away the entire box."
"When she left we pulled it out and threw it in our donate bin."
"There have also been multiple times where mom’s order massive toys and when we bring them out to the car they get furious that they aren’t wrapped."
"We don’t offer wrapping services."
"Here’s the thing, if you don’t want your kids to see the toys you got them for Christmas or their bit to day DON'T BRING THE CHILD WHEN YOU PICK IT UP."
'I’ve had multiple women scream and curse me out that I had ruined their kids Christmas by bringing the toys they ordered out to the car like they requested."- clever-mermaid-mae
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Happiest Place On Earth!
"I used to work for Disney."
"That in itself should tell you everything."
"However for fun I'll give you two specific stories one form our tech department and one from my wife who worked bookings."
"I specifically worked for their call center to help with technical issues with magic band and the website."
"Suddenly got worse huh?"
"A right of passage call everyone has at least one story of is the 'Dome call'."
"Basically there is a subset of Disney Guest (TM) that believes if it rains at Walt Disney world there is someone that will push a button to encapsulate the whole of Disney property in a dome to keep out the rain."
"I'm not kidding."
"If this button is not pushed they call our tech department to angrily ask why."
"My wife worked booking."
"Pretty much everything including Bibbidi Bobbidi boutique and Pirate's league."
"These two things did roughly the same thing difference being price and theme."
"BBB was expensive did more and was focused on princesses, pirates league did a bit less and focused on mermaids and pirates."
"Lady called up my wife, and got pissed about BBB being booked up (It goes FAAAAST)."
"Karen: 'Im going to give the phone to my daughter and I want you to tell her how you are ruining her vacation by not letting her do BBB'."
"Wife proceeds to explain how pirate's league is so much cooler and how she can be a mermaid or pirate and basically gets the kid to start demanding to their parents about how they want to be a mermaid instead of a princess."- trollsong
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The horror!
Being booked into a junior suite at Disney World instead of an executive suite!
It's almost as bad as having no money for groceries, or no food to feed you children...
Said absolutely no one.