Death is often a mysterious intrigue. Especially when there are obvious questions left unanswered. There are so many historical and famous figures over time, whose death leave the mind wondering? If you're a Dateline aficionado you know there is ALWAYS more to the story. And once time starts to accrue, that lessens the likelihood that answers will be found. And when it's the death of a well know person we all feel like we're a part of the investigation, like we can solve it.
Redditor u/Beardedrugbymonster wanted to discuss the most interesting life endings by asking.... What celebrity death is shrouded in the most mystery?
Poe.
Edgar Allen Poe. Died mysteriously at the age of 40. Went missing when traveling from Virginia to New York city, then was found in a bad state in a bar in Baltimore a week later, filthy, uncharacteristically wearing a really shabby mismatched outfit of someone else's clothes, which was weird as he was very particular about wearing very smart tailored clothes. He was apparently ranting and raving unintelligibly. His personal physician arrived shortly after he was found, and took him to a poor house hospital and had him locked in a barred room, and barred any visitors from seeing him. Poe died mysteriously a few days later, apparently yelling the name 'Reynold' over and over, although his physician was the only person to see him in the days before his death, and his accounts of what happened kept changing, including the dates of Poe's discovery, death and last words. His death certificate also went missing.
His arch nemesis and biggest critic, named Rufus Grisworld, somehow managed to become executor of Poe's estate and money. Griswold basically made it his primary aim in life to destroy Poe's reputation, and wrote a memoir about him funded by Poe's money, and described him as a 'depraved, arrogant drug addled madman.'
Its been suggested Poe was the victim of an election fraud racket, called 'cooping' where people would be 'shanghied' or kidnapped and drugged, forced to wear disguises and vote for a specific presidential candidate. There was an election the day before his reappearence, but Poe was a famous local celebrity, at the time of his death, so it has been suggested he would have been too well known in the area for a cooping to take place.
Poe was slandered by the temperance movement at the time, who claimed that Poe died of alcohol consumption, but his physician said he had smelled no alcohol on him or his clothes, and remained in a delirious raving state for days. Others suggested he had overdosed on opium, but numerous close friends revealed Poe was not a habitual drug user and hadn't used opium for years. hansolosdead
Rudolf.
Rudolf Diesel, inventor of the Diesel engine.
On the evening of 29 September 1913, Diesel boarded the GER steamer SS Dresden in Antwerp on his way to a meeting of the Consolidated Diesel Manufacturing company in London, England. He took dinner on board the ship and then retired to his cabin at about 10 p.m., leaving word to be called the next morning at 6:15 a.m.; but he was never seen alive again. In the morning his cabin was empty and his bed had not been slept in, although his nightshirt was neatly laid out and his watch had been left where it could be seen from the bed. His hat and neatly folded overcoat were discovered beneath the afterdeck railing. pjvincentaz
Agatha.
Not death but the disappearance of Agatha Christie. Danvik03
Soooo she went missing in 1926, before her final Poirot novel was published. Eleven days later her husband tracked her down at the Harrogate Hydro Hotel. She said she'd gotten in a car crash and had amnesia, but that seemed unlikely and she refused to speak about the incident for the rest of her life. The two main theories are that the whole thing was a publicity stunt for her books or she was punishing her husband, who had just decided to leave her for his mistress. A good piece of evidence for the latter is that she checked into Harrogate under said mistress's name! here2makefriendz
Hoffa.
Jimmy Hoffa
I mean, it's not hard to see why someone would want to kill him, but who did it and how? VVillyD
Natalie.
Natalie Wood. Bigleonard
"And why was Christopher Walken on that boat" -Jerry Seinfeld HonkiesInTheYonder
Richey.
I was always curious about the guitarist from Manic Street Preachers, Richey Edwards. He disappeared in 1995 and has never been found. It was speculated he committed suicide in a way where the body would never be found, but I like to think he's out there somewhere. dssonic
Bobby.
Bobby Kennedy is an interesting case. We know exactly who killed him - his assassin, Sirhan Sirhan, did it in front of hundreds of witnesses and was caught red-handed.
What we don't know is why. While Sirhan originally claimed that he killed RFK due to the latter's support of Israel, he has changed his story several times throughout the years, sometimes claiming he was drunk, other times that he had been hypnotized, and even professing to have no recollection of the incident. The last has been cited as the main reason he hasn't been paroled - due to his insistence that he doesn't remember killing RFK, parole boards have felt that he isn't expressing adequate remorse for his crime. KinneySL
George.
George Reeves
The original Superman.
"Committed suicide" but missed his own head a time or two There was a movie about the whole thing staring Ben Affleck. TheVoicesSayHi
Robert.
Robert Johnson. Did he really make a deal with the devil at a crossroads for all that blues talent? He died at 27 possibly making him one of the founding members of Forever 27. Unless of course, he's just one of the first modern examples... ooooo spooky. F_Boas
Harold.
Harold Holt went for a swim never came back also has a swimming centre names after him. daibz
The US navy named a ship after him and sunk it it as part of an exercise in the Pacific. Reading that again that sounds worse than it is. They built and named the ship in 1968 and sank it in 2002. They didn't just name a ship the Harold Holt with the purpose of sinking it. But still a bit questionable. Samopal_Vzor58
Fuller.
Bobby Fuller (famous for the first big recording of I Fought the Law), was called a suicide or an accident, but the autopsy report literally had question marks on it. BZH_JJM
Wasn't it something like, he was found dead in his car, which was then set on fire, so no one could tell definitively what happened? I could be wrong. mooncritter_returns
No, he likely died from inhaling gas fumes, which can cause bleeding. The cops were less than cooperative though, one of them straight up just tossed the gas canister in the garbage. Petunio
Dorothy.
Dorothy Kilgallen. A major voice of the 40s-60s. She held a permanent spot on America's Longest Running Contest show, Who's line? She was an extremely well credited writer, investigator and just an all around badass. She died in 1965 of by a fatal combination of alcohol and barbiturates. Which is just the beginning of why this was strange. Barbiturates were a popular medication in the 50s-60s to aid in sleep. Dorothy had been taking barbiturates for years prior to her death, understood their effects, and definitely knew not to mix them with Alcohol.
But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Dorothy was in the middle of writing a book based on her investigation of the JFK assassination. She notified her friends and family not a week earlier about how she had a found a major find and couldn't wait to share it with them... She never had the chance to tell them and there was speculation that her research had vanished. Dorothy was found dead in the bed of a guest bedroom within her apartment. A bedroom she claimed she would never step in after discovering her husband had an affair in that room a couple years prior, and she definitely wouldn't be found in the bed.
On top of all of this Dorothy had died in the afternoon which is not a time she would have taken her sleep medication and she was found in her day clothes, with a book in her hand. However, yes, however once again, her more than necessary reading glasses were downstairs, so she probably could not read the book she was found to be holding. There's a lot of strange stuff here, especially with her mob connections and connection to the Kennedy family. gingyfangs
Jill.
Jill Dando. A lot of speculation about whether she was assassinated because she knew too much about goings on at the BBC, before the Savile stuff came to light. Reignbeaus
Louis.
Louis Le Prince. Disappeared from a train on his way back to Paris. His body, nor his suitcase, were ever found. His suitcase is thought to have contained plans for the first movie camera which he was weeks away from exhibiting. Many believe that his death was linked to Thomas Edison, who later tried to monopolize the industry with a gangster-like hold that almost killed cinema. Jimiheadphones
Olof.
As a Swedish person I feel obligated to say prime minister Olof Palme. So many suspects, so few clues. Roddoman
Weirdly enough, my mom told me about this case a few years ago. We were discussing something random about my childhood and she mentioned a Swedish friend she and my dad had when we lived in a coastal California town when I was young. Apparently soon after Olof Palme's murder he was essentially extradited back to Sweden to be interrogated for his suspected involvement or knowledge of the crime. She ended the story by laughing about how she has pictures of him holding me when I was a baby (I would have been 2 when Palme was killed). Hilarious, mom. TriChick84
Johnny.
Johnny Gosch - although they are not 100% certain he's dead.. His disappearance has all kinds of theories and later sightings. Case isn't closed yet and it's been almost 37 years now. pm_me_racecars
I remember watching a Netflix documentary on this. When the mom sat on the stand and said 'yes I think I've met my son again and he is a sex slave,' I wanted to strangle her. Your kid came back and you didn't do anything in your power to keep him?
But, I think he's dead. Statistically, kids that age who end up with pedophiles/murderers, are usually dead in a couple of days. blackday44
The 'Did Johnny Visit?' question is argued from time to time in crime fanatic circles. Most people think she lied about it and has at least partly managed to convince herself to believe her own lie. Other people think it was a screwed up prank. A very small number think he actually did come visit her.
Personally, I believe she dreamed it. People grieving loved ones often have incredibly vivid dreams about the people they've lost, so it isn't completely ridiculous to think that a woman who's never gotten the chance to properly mourn the loss of her child might conjure that child in a dream to come assure her that he's safe. And she's just totally unwilling to accept that it WAS just a dream.
You feel bad for her. She lost her child and is actively preventing herself from going through a healthy grieving process. Sustaining herself for decades on nothing more than the overwhelmingly powerful desire for her theories to be true. SoldMySoulForHairDye
JonBenet.
JonBenet Ramsay! When I can't sleep I have a habit of obsessively reading about her case, as if I in all my mediocrity am the one who will finally solve her murder.
Honestly though I dearly hope it's solved one day, I'm dying to know. Medesikaste
Ludwig.
King Ludwig II of Bavaria.
Shortly after he was deposed, his body and the body of his psychiatrist were found in shallow water with their head and shoulders exposed in a Lake Starnberg near the castle where he was residing at the time. The two had gone for a walk and disappeared. Ludwig was known to be fairly athletic and a strong swimmer. There was no water in their lungs. The doctor's body showed signs of trauma to the head and strangulation on the neck. Ludwig's watch had been broken and stopped about a half hour after he was last seen. Ludwig's death was ruled a suicide although there wasn't really a theory as to how he did it and no indication he was suicidal. Ballardinian
Oli.
Oli Herbert's is pretty mysterious.... PM_me_your__guitars
It seems that his wife did it and she's doing a horrible job of hiding it. The bands frontman Phil called the wife a "garbage human being" in an interview and said she was the only wife/spouse not allowed to be on tour with the band and that he tried to get Oli to divorce her for years. It's a shame. ohiolifesucks
Sri.
Bollywood actress Sri Devi. Many suspect foul play based on the circumstances. When they first announced her death they said it was cardiac arrest, then they revealed she was found dead in the bathtub and that she likely drowned. It was very strange because there wasn't that much alcohol found in her system and it would have been very difficult for her to just drown in that size bathtub. She didn't hit her head, or anything like that. Plus the fact that they first announced it was cardiac arrest made it seem like they were covering it up.
Bollywood is such a corrupt business with connections to the underworld. SoniSoni67432
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Comedy is in a very tricky place right now.
There is so much to NOT laugh about in this world.
In truth, many of us have forgotten how to laugh.
And certain jokes that are told, make people afraid to laugh.
So what do we do?
We tell inappropriate jokes apparently.
Let's hear some...
Redditor CrewCreation wanted to hear some "risky" comedy. So they asked:
"What’s the best morbid joke you know?"
***WARNING: THIS ARTICLE CONTAINS SENSITIVE MATERIAL. PROCEED WITH CAUTION!***
I can't think of anything hilarious at the moment. Make us LOL.
Lady
"I have this friend, love him to bits, but his wife has a tendency of just constantly showing everyone pictures of their son at every social event. At the start it was understandable, but now I'm just like 'Lady, it's been two years; they're not going to find him.'"
UnoriginalUse
at 9am...
"Not the most morbid but I love Anthony Jeselnik’s story about his neighbor who has Alzheimer’s. 'One of my next door neighbors is a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s. And every single morning at 9am he knocks on my door and asks me if I have seen his wife.'"
"'Which means that every single morning at 9am I have to explain to a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s that his wife has been dead for quite some time. Now I’ve thought about moving. I have thought about just not answering my door in the morning. But to be honest, it’s worth it… just to see the smile on his face.”
dreagan021
Comedy?
"Why can't orphans play baseball? They don't know where home is."
GW2RNGR
"Why can't orphans play tennis? They get confused when they hear love."
JayDub506
People who make comedy are evil. LOL.
The Darkness
"Dark humor is like food; not everyone gets it."
storm_the_castle
God Laughs?
"A Holocaust survivor dies and goes to heaven, where she meets God. To break the tension she tells God a joke about the Holocaust, but God doesn’t laugh. The lady shrugs and says 'I guess you had to be there.'"
“'I guess you had to be there' is a common expression used when someone doesn’t laugh at a joke. It means that the comedy may not translate without the context of the situation."
"In this case the Holocaust survivor is saying it, meaning that during the Holocaust God was nowhere to be found. It’s not really a joke about the Holocaust, but the absurdity of belief in a benevolent God. Hilarious right?"
semimillennial
Oh Baby
"How many dead babies does it take to fix a light bulb? More than 3 cause my garage is still dark."
sirnibs3
I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Because I don't know what it says about us as people if we laugh. Oye.
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Life can change in an instant.
It can always change for the better.
Just ask any lottery winner.
Sadly, life can also take a turn for the worst and leave people shattered beyond repair.
Watching someone's life fall apart in a short amount of time is difficult.
You have to wonder if there really is such a thing as karma, bad luck, or Voodoo.
Redditor OkImagination5852 wanted to hear about the times we've been witness to personal disaster. They asked:
"People who witness a person's life crumble in a single day, what happened?"
I have lived through a lot of bad days. But thankfully they've been one disaster at a time days. So I guess I'm lucky.
Horror
"A friend of a friend had his entire family killed overnight. He was from my college and was home visiting his family. His parents, siblings, and extended family were all there together. One night, while they were all asleep, his father got up, took out a gun, and went on a shooting spree. He then killed himself."
"Everyone except this guy died on the spot. When my friend visited him at the hospital, the guy was still in shock. He had no idea why his father did that. This was more than a decade ago, and I have no idea how he's doing now."
DeadOnDeparture98
The IRS Called
"Knew a guy who had a nice house, wife, 3 kids. Machine shop in his garage, Snap On tool truck, sign out front, great mechanic. Never incorporated, didn't pay taxes on his business, cash only. Took nice vacations, bought a boat, then a camper. Five years later, the IRS came. I don't know what they estimated he owed but they seized everything. He lives alone in a trailer now."
Nobody_Wins_13
2 at Once
"My mom’s dad and dad’s mom both died on the same day. Completely unrelated. We were pretty messed up for awhile. It was 2010. Mom's dad had emphysema (lifetime smoker) and was pretty sick for a few weeks. I was in college at the time and came home to be with him, because we knew he was about to pass. Dad's mom was in the nursing home, as she had had a stroke and also had dementia (she often thought I was my dad, she thought we were in the 70s, etc.)."
"She took a turn for the worst, and so my dad left the hospice my grandpa was at and went to be with her. The towns they were in were about an hour apart, so I stayed behind with my mom to comfort her when her dad passed. A few hours go by, and he passes peacefully (huge thanks to the hospice workers for their respect and grace during this time)."
"Within an hour or so of his passing, we get a call from my dad saying that his mother had passed as well. It was a terribly dark day in our family, and the next couple years for me in college were pretty much a blur. Thankfully, things got better in time and we are all doing well now."
She lost everything...
"Her husband left her after previously persuading her to remortgage their house to save his business and he's already made her take multiple credit cards out in her name. She lost everything. He did it the week after their youngest turned 18 so he wouldn't have to pay child support. He'd obviously been planning for years."
Ieatclowns
a black sheep...
"My cousin was in a motorcycle accident with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend died. She broke her back. When she was in the hospital she learned she was pregnant. It's been 16 years and we're still trying our best, she took an all too familiar path of drugs, burning bridges and more pregnancies."
"At this point she's fairly stable and clean as far as I know but a bit of a black sheep. Her mother has custody of all one of her kids. She has her youngest and seems to be doing good by her, but who knows. It's been hard on everyone, especially her mother and her brother."
Paradigm6790
Well this is the stuff of nightmares. I'm grateful for every moment I have alive.
Several lawsuits are filed...
"Here is multiple lives ruined in an instant. A friend was over at some other people house, drugs were involved. They had been playing with a gun. My friend points the gun at a girl, pulls the trigger and shoots her in the head. Girl dies, friend gets locked up until he turns 18. Parents at the house get arrested because they knew what the kids were doing. Friends mom goes into a depression and ends up getting evicted from her house. Several lawsuits are filed."
sentondan
Gone Forever
"It was me... got in a car accident and suffered a traumatic spinal and brain injury that I had no chance of surviving... a 7 vertebrae spinal fusion, yrs of physical and mental therapy... 18 yrs later and the pieces, though many forever gone, are finally coming back together."
2boneskuLL
A Bad Night
"He trashed his fathers vacation house with an axe before setting it on fire, stabbed the neighbor nearly to death, stole their car and then crashed it into a cop car so bad the cops were injured. He also got his girl pregnant, so once he is out of prison they're gonna start a family."
Dumbing_It_Down
"dangerous"
"Pregnant friend found out husband (43) was having an affair with young woman (19) who was a volunteer at their ecolodge. Friend had 'dangerous' pregnancy and had to spend a lot of time in bed. This betrayal destroyed their marriage, split the little town where they lived and caused two employees to quit because witnessing the affair going on was just too painful."
"She had a beautiful baby girl (to go with her other two girls, lol) and after the breakup was clinically depressed. Worked hard and got a divorce (she had a great lawyer); got the business back on track; beat her depression and now is planning a great vacation trip with her girls."
"Meantime, Dad has generous visitation but just 'hasn't gotten around to' buying a car seat so he can pick up the baby and for a long time asked my friend, 'Can you drop the girls off at my Mom's?'"
NoBSforGma
Lost it All...
"Recently, I know of a guy that had borrowed all his family’s life savings for the most part to participate in the whole game stop stock thing happening… he lost every penny of his money (credit card advances), and his parents retirement, and every other dime he could get… it makes me sick to even think of it."
Bangbangsmashsmash
Well those are A LOT of bad days. Good luck to all of you.
If you or someone you know is struggling, you can contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
To find help outside the United States, the International Association for Suicide Prevention has resources available at https://www.iasp.info/resources/Crisis_Centres/
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Those who are wealthy have the luxury of acquiring the best of the best–whether it's dinner at a Michelin-starred restaurant or status-identifying clothing from Chanel or Yves Saint Laurent.
But even the rich have their limits when it comes to frivolous spending before casting judgment on friends or colleagues.
Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor Sasquatchfl asked:
"Rich people of Reddit, what's the craziest/most unethical thing you've seen people in your circle spend money on?"
Expensive experiences were a priority over prized possessions.
Live Sushi
"An ex worked for Dell in the late 90s/early 2000s. He was pretty high up and there were lots of partiers in his work circle. Went to a party hosted by one of the dellionaires and there was a body sushi girl. I don’t know what was paid to her, but it was one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever seen."
– 5hrs4hrs3hrs2hrs1mor
Pissing Contest
"Paid a group of homeless guys to only use the bathroom on a competitors business. Eventually bought that place for a massive discount."
– Haboobalub
Let's Work Out
"My mother woke up one morning and said she felt she was way too fat and she wanted to get a treadmill. The treadmill wouldn’t be a problem, but then she saw where it would be and didn’t like the lighting. Fast forward 2 months later there’s a 40k outdoor gym built and connected to the house. She hasn’t used it once."
– Herrera5449_
Taking A Leap
"Travelled with a bunch of ex 'friends' all fairly wealthy."
"First trip to SE Asia together and as an ex-local I was a de-facto tour guide (despite not being there in over a decade)"
"They somehow found and offered a bunch of kids diving off cliffs to jump for spare change."
"They increasingly challenged each other to land their coins as close to the cliff base and small surrounding rocks for the kids to dive for."
– Satakans
It's about the finer things in life.
Expensive Party Gag
"A 3k ouija board from Gwen Paltrow's store. I didn't even know it was a thing until the dude brought it out. I really wanted to cut it up and see what it was made from. Looked nice don't get me wrong but the thing is basically a party gag. For 3 grand, it better summon a demon that's all I'm saying."
– con_this
Slow Burn
"$600 USD for a candle."
– Jeffranks
It's not always about the things you acquire.
Minor Inconvenience
"I know a guy who went to get a new drivers license and had to pay ~$100k in back parking tickets, then joked about it after."
"Apparently he couldn't get a permit to park in front of his house, so he just did anyway, and accepted like a $200 fine everyday."
– melodyze
For A Successful Election
"Not me, but I know a guy who crowd funded (read: threw a bunch of money into, then solicited more at a flea market) $80,000 toward his friend's DA election campaign. The guy won. So far, this has paid back at least $120K in avoided legal fees. I know some rich people. Most of them are more boring than you think. Hell, most of them drive Hondas, Toyotas, and Nissans."
– KP_Wrath
The Lance Corporal
"I was stationed with a Lance Corporal who was wealthy beyond means after selling some of his patents. He owned and piloted four helicopters. Lived in a palatial waterfront house in Jacksonville, NC."
"The cheapest one cost 400K. That's the one he trained on. The most expensive was about 1.2 million. That's 1.2 million 1981 dollars. The two he's got now are about 5 million each."
"Had a floating landing pad out back moored to his dock and another landing pad in the back yard. Kept two helicopters and a Rolls inside his custom-built hangar at Norfolk International Airport."
"He drove a pair of Rolls-Royces. He also toyed with a 900K Miami-Vice type speedboat. He also housed and transported his squad to Camp Lejeune and back in a custom mini-bus."
– ApplicationConnect55
The dude was very giving and lived a very clean life. He'd fly us to Norfolk, pickup the car and we'd do our shopping and eating. Hop in a chopper and return home. He'd fly his fire team down to Miami on weekends. He kept a Limo there and wore a chauffer's outfit and did all the driving.
He bought a full-service and licensed pub in Northern Ireland. He lives there with his wife. Does a lot of charity work there. We still keep in touch."
– ApplicationConnect55
When there's plenty of money going around, there's no need to worry about a single thing.
That peace of mind is a luxury in itself.
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When marriages or relationships fall apart, infidelity is not always the cause.
Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Liam_Tang asked:
"People who've divorced, aside from adultery, what were the irreconcilable differences that ended the marriage?"

You think you know a person when you walk down the aisle.
These Redditors were in for a rude awakening.
Pet Neglect
"My wife divorced her ex for many reasons, but the final straw was when she went out of town for a few days, and when she got back he had not fed or given water to the dog. The dog lived a long and happy life after that."
– StrangeCrimes
Obsessed With A Crush
"Not me, but I had an old coworker that divorced his wife for spending their entire savings on candy crush and games of the same type."
– Hexis40
Compatibility Musts
"ITT: Intimacy (sex/romance), beliefs (religion/spirituality/politics), kids, and I haven’t seen it yet but it’s coming: finances."
"The big four. You REALLY need to discuss these things in detail BEFORE getting married."
– rabbiskittles
Physical violence is a legit reason for people to peace out of a relationship.
The Flattening
"She threatened to hit me with a hammer."
– michaelrohansmith
Hitting The Bottle
"She became an abusive alcoholic. It was sad but I had to get out."
– diegojones4
Emotional pain is too damaging to recover from.
Truth Hurts
"She told me as we stood in front of the judge ending our 7 year marriage, 'I never loved you, I just wanted kids.'"
– Pinch_Dogs
Can't Fix Angry
"She was beautiful/smart but an angry angry person. I thought I could be sweet to her and 'fix' that. Heh. She kicked the crap out of me emotionally. Wife II has been a walk in the roses for 32 years now :)"
– lowlandr
A change of heart is worthless if comes too late.
"We Could've Had A Nice Marriage
"He could not understand that my wants and needs were as important as his wants and needs. We tried to make it work for 7 years. During that time, for things that were really important to me, I tried explaining logically, asking nicely, begging, crying, yelling, passive aggressiveness... cycled back through all of these options multiple times."
"(If I knew something was important to him, I would do that. For example, he was really into sports, so I went to all his events, even though that is not at all my thing.) When I finally threw up my hands and told him it was time to get a divorce, he suddenly panicked and said 'What can I do? Do you want me to do half the chores? I'll do it! Do you want me to get a job? I'll do it! Do you want me to buy you presents for your birthday? I'll do it!'"
"So, in other words, he could have been doing that all along, but just couldn't be bothered. That made me so angry. We could have had a nice marriage that we both enjoyed, but no, by the time he saw the light, that ship had sailed."
"We are both happily remarried now (to different people) and I joke that his new wife owes me a thank you note. It was his experience with me that taught him to listen to her and take her needs seriously."
– Bluebird-True
"What Can I Do?"
"My ex was exactly like this. I didn't marry him but when I told him let's break up, he went all like, what can I do? Let's get engaged, let's look at houses, etc. Basically all the pre-marriage topics that we should be discussing about after being together for 7 years."
"I got so angry and straight up told him it's too late... I don't need you anymore."
– gudetarako
As much as a couple wants to stay together, unforeseen circumstances can eventually tear people apart.
Very few people can maintain healthy long-distance relationships.
When a new job opportunity takes a significant other away, would you begrudge them for wanting a better position to earn more money? Or is it better for them to reluctantly turn down the opportunity so they could stay with you? Do either scenarios breed resentment?
These were questions I've often asked myself with past relationships, and my answers varied depending on the person I was with.
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