Why can't people (men in particular) think before they speak? It really is simple to understand the words falling out of your mouth. Syntax of one of life's greatest gifts and forethought... so please utilize them gents.Redditor u/chiefmeef wanted to hear from all the ladies. We need to get some men a little more woke to the words falling out of their mouths by asking.... Women of reddit, what is something that men say or do that is very hurtful to you without them realizing it is?
When I got flashed by a creep on a late night deserted commute, and my male friend couldn't understand why it was screwed up, since he wouldn't mind being flashed by a woman. nvyetka
"You're a little show off, aren't you?"
I'm a huge fan of astronomy and one time this guy overheard me saying it, and said "Really? What's the planet with the most moons?" At the time, Jupiter had the most moons and I said it was Jupiter. He claimed that I was wrong and wanted me to google it so we could be sure. Of course I was right, and he said "You're a little show off, aren't you?" and left. I just didn't understand why he had to question my statement. Still don't. spaceyteacup
Was it the ADHD?!
I just recently noticed how my boyfriend interrupts me whenever I'm talking after every 20-30 seconds. I thought this was due to his ADHD, but then I noticed he will literally listen to any of his male roommates talk endlessly without his constant interjection.
The thing is, I don't think he does it purposely or maliciously, he apologizes and asks me to continue after his interruption but I'm tired of repeating myself and losing my train of thought. Or pretending to forget what I was talking about just so I don't have to go through the whole process again. LovelyLittleJay
"my husband's tools"
I am very handy and love DIY, my husband couldn't care less about home improvement projects, landscaping, etc. So, most of the tools and equipment we own were purchased and are used by me. I hate it when men will assume I don't know how to use "my husband's tools" or that he should be the one fixing things. Like my tiny woman brain can't handle power tools or basic plumbing. imtkimtk
"You're so cute when you get angry"
"You're so cute when you get angry"
I had people tell me that a few times, including lovers and family members. Always men, for some reason. I am a very tiny woman that looks 10 years younger than my actual age and this always gets to me. I only very rarely get really angry, and when I do it's because something feels deeply, fundamentally wrong.
I'm not cute, I'm angry. I'm devastated and you're not listening, nor taking my feelings, nor the unacceptable situation, nor logic in account.
Whenever someone tells me that, I could cry for the injustice of it all. None of those who said it understood why I hated it. Now I usually fake to be unaffected and reply something like "Ok, we'll talk later when your brain works again" and leave. But I can never really forgive them for it. MMXXfan
When men feel like they have to "test" women when they mention that they have interests that are typically considered masculine. I'm a huge (American) football fan and have been playing for almost a decade now but sometimes when I tell men about it, they're all like:"Oh really? Name all of the [insert team name here]'s previous coaches" or something like that. CichaelMlifford
How's the Job?
Many of my male friends or acquaintances (and even my dad) like to talk to my husband about how his job is going, but rarely ask me about mine. I make nearly the same pay check and have a fairly interesting job that I've worked hard to get, but I think they think I'd rather talk about my social life, family, or hobbies before anything else. Its sad to not be questioned about something I spend all day doing. tootmyfloot
"Are you on your period?" when i'm angry and then not listen to a word i'm saying. seriesly
Talk 2 Me....
I grew up in the South and, even though I'm a man, I've witnessed this one numerous times and heard the gripes about it. If a woman is alone when making major purchases like cars or homes they'll get some version of the "is your husband around to talk too?" Just very dismissive of a woman's ability to make decisions on her own. ElSatchmo
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