The thing about unspoken and unwritten rules is that sometimes people just flat out don't get the memo.
Reddit is here to change that.
Reddit user lofisky asked:
"What’s an unspoken rule that annoys you when people don’t know about it?"
I'm not here to judge why people might not know these rules or whether their reasoning makes any sense - or even if I agree with everything Reddit had to say.
My job is just to let you know that if you're out here doing these things, Reddit probably thinks you're super annoying.
Do with that information what you will. Hopefully, the thing y'all do is start letting people get OFF the elevator/bus/train/thing before you try to squeeze on.
Seriously.
Getting Off
House Rules Fart GIF by Channel 7Giphy"Let people get off the bus before you get on the bus."
- HealthyInPublic
"Same with elevators/lifts."
- pwnicholson
"It's not just being nice. It's literally physics."
"First you need to vacate the space you want to start occupying."
- peepay
"My local hospital started paying people to direct people on elevator etiquette."
"The person makes you stand behind a line until the elevator is clear. The most amazing part is people still try to go against it. The last time I was there a lady budged in front of my kid who is on crutches."
- jn29
Pool Party?
"I am currently sitting at the pool at a resort."
"There is a group who decided to bring their own, rather large, portable speaker to blast music. Don’t do this."
- lincolnfalcon
"Had this in Ibiza last year at a hotel that already played music at a reasonable volume by the pool."
"Someone turned up with a tinny little speaker playing some mix he made on his little DJ setup in his bedroom at his mum’s miserable house in a crappy town in some horrible part of England."
"Don’t know if he was trying to promote himself out there or something, but we all would’ve preferred him to have just f*cked off though."
- LuxuryMustard
"I was by a pool and this girl next to me kept playing this pop song and trying to lip sync to it for a selfie video, she would then watch it and restart it to try and get a better shot."
"It was driving me nuts so I put 'I'll Go Until My Heart Stops' by 36 Crazyfists on full blast. Naturally she stopped; and then her and her friends looked at me like I was the complete crazy one here."
- samjmpage
Sharing Fairly
"When sharing food with the table, you eat your fair share."
"If there’s 4 people and 4 pieces, you don’t eat one and a half pieces or the whole plate, you eat once piece. That's fair. It's called a 'fair share' for a reason."
- Bellabunsxo
"This goes for everything! Notice how much stuff there is to go around and don't use more than your fair share without asking!"
"If you live in a house with 2 other people, and there's 3 towel hooks in the bathroom, you get to use ONE of them."
"If you share a kitchen cabinet with one roommate, your groceries shouldn't occupy more than half the space."
"If your friend cooked you dinner last night, cook them dinner another night!"
"Notice how much you take and don't take more than you give!"
- T-Flexercise
"Add to this. If its 4 pieces of X and 4 pieces of Y. You eat 1 X and 1 Y."
- theultimateThor
Happiness Hater
Cracking Up Reaction GIFGiphy"Making fun of someone laughter or smile."
"I mean making fun of someone is already bad. But.. someone happiness expression??"
- Redfoxaa
"I remember a few years ago I was living with roommates and I unexpectedly had the day off work and was in my bedroom."
"My 2 roommates had thought I was not home and were gossiping about people and casually mentioned how annoying my laugh was to one another."
"To this day I am super self concours about my laugh and is one of the meanest things someone has ever said about me. Really hurt my feelings and was just such a random thing to gossip about."
- AffectionateDealer3
"My ex-husband used to do this. He'd say I have rabbit teeth and occasionally grab them in what he passed off as a quirky, playful act of endearment."
"I rarely bare my teeth when smiling anyhow because as a child and teenager, prior to wearing a retainer, it was truly not a pretty sight. My teeth are actually quite alright after the correction, I've even received compliments on them, rabbit-ish as my ex claimed they are."
- Even-Sympathy5728
Handicapped Enough
"If someone is using a cane/walker/crutches, please move out of their way, and move your children out of the way."
"I have MS, and have balance issues. I don't walk that slowly with a cane, but can't tell you the number of times I've nearly been knocked down by a child."
"Also, don't harass those with handicapped tags, because we 'don't appear handicapped enough' for your standards."
- NO_Cheeto_in_Chief
"My mom actually breaks down crying after almost every store trip because EVERYONE ignores her. Its like she doesn’t exist."
"No one sees her, they cut her off ALL the f*cking time, they get annoyed because she's not going fast enough, they don't move when she's coming."
"She gets so upset that she's slowly not wanting to go anywhere - she just has a leg injury and is only 53 years old. The injury was already traumatic and people are just so rude!"
- HappyHappyUnbirthday
Honesty
"Being an a-hole isn't 'just being honest' - that's an excuse to be cruel and you know it.”
- LEE-3314
" 'Brutally honest' usually just means brutal."
- nocatpicspls
"My first college roommate once told one of my friends 'You're fat and you can't be upset I said that cause it's the truth.' "
"She did awful things like that regularly to me and my friends. I made sure never to room with her again and she kept giving me apology jolly ranchers through mutual friends."
"Well, she made my very sweet bipolar friend lock himself in his room for 3 days with depression refusing to come out or eat."
"Actions have consequences. After she roomed with 4 other of my friends, they all came forward and apologized because they didn't realize just how awful she really could be at times."
- asad_potatoe
Respect The Circle
episode 8 hug GIFGiphy"If you’re out with a group of friends standing in a circle, make sure to make space for everyone."
"Feeling like you’re not included cause you have to force your way into the circle is the worst feeling ever! Just be courteous & mindful of others."
- LeonardoDeFarto
"Standing on the outskirts of the circle sucks."
- sunsetskye_
"This exact situation causes me so much social anxiety it is crippling. I DETEST approaching groups, even groups of well-known and well-loved friends."
"I was taught to watch out for others, especially to make sure shorter people were included and could get to a position where they can see and hear, and weren't left staring at backs. I wish everyone showed this courtesy."
- TiffyVella
"Feedback"
"I remember my brother was telling a story and my dad interrupted him to say, 'your voice is really nasally. You should try to speak more with your diaphragm and sound less annoying. Alright, continue.' "
"Needless to say my brother didn't finish the story."
"Don't offer 'feedback' that's really just an insult."
- Sunupu
"I've had a teacher in high school, point at me and loudly say, 'Look at how she laughs!' "
"Good thing she's just a substitute teacher as our usual, and far nicer, one is on maternity leave. She's a jerk, trying to be the cool bad b*tch that's brutally honest with 'feedback,' but ends up being plain rude and intolerable. And so much cringe."
- totallynicehedgehog
Shopping Showdowns
"Taking up the entire aisle at the grocery store. Don't take every member of the family and walk side by side."
"Some folks actually make a list, and are trying to get in and out quickly."
- NO_Cheeto_in_Chief
"When you're walking in a shopping centre or down the street and you stop to look at something, step aside. Let other people through, f*ckwits!"
- Green_Prompt_6386
"God this one is true. If you ever believe that humans don’t need more natural predators, walk through Wal-Mart and tell me you haven’t changed your mind."
- Whosagoodboyyyyyy
"To that, I might add, don’t abandon your cart to go get something."
"Now instead of occupying a singular space, a cart is in one part of the isle, and a person is in another part of the isle. 2 or 3 people do this, the isle is twice as clogged, and I have to move their cart to get something because they are not attending to it."
"Also, doing the same at the end of isles. You pull out of an isle to turn to go into another, there is someone’s abandoned cart that all other traffic has to go around."
"Keep yourself to yourself."
- Mermaid_La_Reine
Micro-Manners
Salad Dressing Cooking GIF by Rooster TeethGiphy"Never microwave seafood at work."
"It’s a very strong smell that many people find extremely unpleasant, plus it always seems to carry across the entire building/floor."
- xodanielleelise
"Or eggs."
"Both places I worked at previously, someone microwaved eggs regularly. I like eggs, but the smell they make from the microwave is dreadful."
- idontknowdudess
"I still recall the trash-like stench from a woman who microwaved a bowl of broccoli on our floor twenty years ago."
- anne_jumps
"Cauliflower especially."
"I recently bought one of those cauliflower crust hot pockets and made the mistake of microwaving it (at home, thankfully)."
"The whole house stank for DAYS. Never again- those are for the oven only."
- youstupidcorn
Vacate to occupy
"Let people get off the bus before you get on the bus."
- HealthyInPublic
"Same with elevators/lifts"
- pwnicholson
"Same for trains. It's not hard to understand that if you let people off, you'll have more room!"
"I'll add people that hang out right in front of the door and don't really get out of the way to let people in when there is plenty of room in the rest of the train or bus."
- RamenNoodles620
"This one, I hate when people try to barge their way through"
- lofisky
"It's not just being nice. It's literally physics. First you need to vacate the space you want to start occupying."
- peepay
A bit close there buddy.
Waiting In Line GIFGiphy"How to stand in lines. Riding my ass doesn't make the line move any faster."
- FrenchJabroni
"Living in various parts of the world I’ve learned that personal bubble size in lines varies a lot depending on where you are."
- SuperMadCow
"Since covid times this is now literally a written rule and people still don't get it."
- Craw__
"Hoping on the top comment to agree. Need some personal space please"
- SeaAd4548
"My mother gave me the greatest piece of advice to deal with line-neck-breathers."
"Just take a step back. They'll move."
- ThatLousyGamer
Walk with a purpose
"Not taking up the entire sidewalk when people are walking the opposite direction towards you."
- togeko_
"Or if you’re in a group move to single file when someone is approaching from the opposite direction"
- likespeopleandbooks
"I stop when they close in on me — since I'm a disabled, elderly woman — and brace myself. I've only been knocked down once, by a somewhat drunk individual, and he was shamed to a ludicrous extent by the passersby who helped me. love Granny"
- Poldark_Lite
"Also, look the direction you are intending to go. When people don't know where you are trying to walk, they instinctively briefly glance at your eyes to see what direction you are heading. Learned this in NYC. Crowd group think is a marvelous thing. Like a school of fish."
- 8Blackbart8
"Door!"
looking episode 12 GIFGiphy"Don't stand in a doorway."
- famously
"That’s actually annoying, like of all the places you can be"
- lofisky
"Don’t lay in a doorway either. Yes, I’m talking to you pupper."
- momvetty
"I cannot tell you the amount of times i’ve opened the door into someone because they have decided to stop and text(?) or generally f*ck around on the other side. Then of course look at me like i’m the monster for using a doorway properly."
- FeralXhild
"Don't obstruct any bottleneck, whether it's a door, a narrow point on a sidewalk, or wherever."
- BubbhaJebus
Bout that time... *yawn*
"When you see party hosts starting to clean up, hint at being tired etc., don’t continue the drinks/conversations. Quickly get ready to leave and offer to help clean up"
- WrongNeedleworker579
"Sometimes when I have friends over, my adhd kicks into gear and makes me want to get up and clear the table a bit. Just to move around and because the clutter is messing with my head."
"For most people this is a sign of wanting to wrap the evening up and get the company going. But that’s not my intention, I just can’t sit still anymore. So I make it a habit of mentioning 'I am not trying to kick you out, I’m just gonna get this out of the way. Want another drink? I’m going to the kitchen anyway'."
- Ietsmetdingen
"Also in general when the party is over ask the host how can you help clean up instead of just saying bye and leaving"
- TinyNuggins1
"i once had to tell a friend years ago to get out of my house because they simply wouldn't leave."
"i had two friends over for a mini game night, one was staying the night and the other wasn't. i told my friend who wasn't sleeping over, for a solid hour and half that i was tired, that it was getting late and he should get going and he just refused to listen. i even cleaned up my kitchen, put everything away, took all the empties out, the whole nine, and he was still sitting there not leaving."
"It was about 12:45am and he's still not leaving. so i say once again that i'm exhausted and it's time for him to go and he needs to leave. instead, he tells me to just go to bed and that he'll let himself out and proceeds to suggest putting a movie on and just chilling out. i snapped and said in a very sharp tone 'absolutely not! i am not putting on a movie and staying up for another two hours because you want to chill. i want to go to bed and set the house alarm. you need to leave now! and stop telling me to go to bed, i cant until you fucking leave! i need to set the alarm, what are you not getting!?'."
"After me snapping, it still took him a solid 15 minutes to finally leave. i never invited him over to my house again after that, and lucky for me we stopped being friends within the last year so i'll never have to deal with that again."
- urbanlulu
Public DJ's
Lets Be Heroes Ko GIF by Cartoon NetworkGiphy"On a train or bus and you're playing music?
Use. Your. Headphones."
- Sentinowl
"kids in my high school walk around with speakers playing loud music from inside their backpacks actin like they're in a movie or some sh*t"
- leoscoven
"This drives me nuts! At work in the break room I just want to quietly chill on my phone, not listen to the bizarre telenovela one coworker watches, listen to another coworker’s heavy metal, and another coworker’s anime. Like how can they even enjoy what they’re watching or listening to with everyone else’s noise going on?"
- Low-Stick6746
"And the gym."
- bikesandtacos
If its yellow, still flush.
"shouldn’t have to be said but flush the toilet after using it :)"
- NoDesigner44
"And wipe the seat if you piss all over it"
- jackjams18
"I've lived on a well, in placed I paid for water, and places where I didn't worry about any of it. My opinion on a single pee changes depending, but always flush the poo poo, and make sure that shit is gone. Double flush if you gotta, hell triple flush... but if that doesn't work, you're carrying it out by hand."
- ImBeingArchAgain
"and stay for a second to make sure that it fully flushes."
- youcancallmet
Clean It Like You Mean It
"cleaning tools before you give them back to who you're borrowing them from"
- stomachdropper
"At least wipe them down with a half-ass rag to at least create the illusion that you even remotely took care of the possession they let you borrow. Even worse is when somebody returns something BROKEN."
- dashberlin1991
"broken is another thing, it's understandable when it happens cause accidents happen and it's something I take into consideration when lending tools out, warranty is a thing and usually replacing a tool isn't a hassle when broken but atleast let me know don't let me find out myself"
- stomachdropper
"Yeah, the problem is when they do not return you your tools back."
- kusashinra
So yeah, the whole point of unspoken rules is that you shouldn't have to speak them... but this is a written article so it doesn't really count, right?
Yeah, that's my way of saying I hope y'all learned something today.
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ChristmasKid88
On the Disk
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EatA**FromBack
"I worked for a doctor who did these in-house and other procedures, and it 100% made me not trust medical facilities, cleanliness, and sterilization procedures. Had about twenty patients all come down with the same gut infection, 'coincidentally,' the same patients who came in for endoscopy procedures the same day."
dimlylit_
Saved
"Saving a younger friend from drowning, he panicked and almost took me out."
loztriforce
"Had that happen with a younger cousin when we were kids. His brother and I went to save him, he climbed on both of us and pushed us under. Lifeguard didn’t even see us until he pulled younger cousin out of the water, then we popped up gasping for air."
coffeejunki
Shucked
"16-year-old farm kid me, stepdad told me to go pick up a load of corn seed for planting. I had gone with him many times before, and driven the truck (full ton dually diesel) and hauled light stuff with it. Nobody told me how different it is to haul 10,000 lbs of seed on a big flatbed trailer on gravel. I had a lot of common sense and was driving slowly and carefully."
"Still… 10,000+ lbs pushed me down a gravel hill skidding, praying to god I stopped before the stop sign at the T intersection to a busy highway. I came to a grinding halt JUST as the front of the truck crossed the plane where the gravel turned to asphalt. A semi was coming from one direction and regular cars from the other. I shudder thinking about what if on that one. Don’t let untrained kids tow potentially deadly, heavy trailers, with zero training."
datnetcoder
Finding Tracks
College Sports Sport GIF by Sealed With A GIFGiphy"Was backwoods camping in Yellowstone and if I hadn’t considered for 30 seconds if I REALLY needed to get up and go to the bathroom in the middle of the night, I would have walked out of my tent headfirst into a brown bear, which I heard before leaving and found tracks of next to my tent in the morning. Spookiest moment of my life in hindsight."
danvo5
Bears are a no go for me.
Camping is an even bigger HECK NO!!
Several Strikes
Reassuring Jimmy Fallon GIF by The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy FallonGiphy"Twice. 1. Woke up to my apartment on fire."
"2. Hit head-on by a drunk driver on a small bus, just after everyone got off bus exploded."
lizard_king0000
Oh Barb
"Lmao okay, so I was getting my teeth cleaned, and I got nitrous oxide because I have so many exposed roots. Well, my hygienist at the time was this lovely lady from Minnesota. Kinda flaky, but super sweet, and talked about her family all the time. So I'm in the chair and she hooks up my mask, and away we go. I actually fell asleep! Except not so much."
"Turns out Barb had forgotten to turn the oxygen on and had been feeding me straight nitrous. She only noticed because I started gasping for air while unconscious. So that's how I almost died at the dentist. I never saw Barb again, but I tell you, that was the best nap of my life!"
CharismaticAlbino
Climb Up
"I was snorkeling. I had my other stuff stored on a rock by the water, about 3 meters high. When I got out, I decided to climb straight up. Almost at the top, the rock I was hoisting myself up on came off and I fell back first onto the coral. If a friendly wave hadn’t come in, I would have broken my back, at least."
Yugan-Dali
Blood Loss
"I was diagnosed with a rare fatal blood disorder from birth, doctors projected I’d live till about 6 and then die from massive blood loss. As this was the mid-90s, they tested the idea of using stem cells from my sibling's umbilical cord; administering the first successful stem cell transplant from a sibling donor and I’m still here to tell the tale!"
Material_Cry1697
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