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Transfer Students Share The Real Reason They Noped Out Of A College

Transfer Students Share The Real Reason They Noped Out Of A College

Transfer Students Share The Real Reason They Noped Out Of A College

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College is rough and expensive, and definitely not for everyone. Skills and connections can lead to a career in different ways than a degree, and sometimes the stress and debt are too much, despite the social education and experiences college can provide.

askClint asked, Redditers who switched or left a college/university, what made you finally say "nope, I'm out"?

Submissions have been edited for clarity, context, and profanity.

Gotta keep those grades up, which ain't easy.

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An academic suspension was the catalyst.

Taking time off between high school and college can be really beneficial.

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I had a professor suggest it. She told me some kids go to college right after high school because they think that's just what they're supposed to do. Some kids need a bit of time after high school before they are ready.

I dropped my next semester and started working. A couple years later I went back and ultimately finished my degree.

There are benefits to having a degree beyond its ability to land you a specific job. But majoring in what you love is no guarantee anymore.

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The moment I realized that as an English major who doesn't want to be a teacher, I'd be in the same position regardless of whether or not I graduated but in one scenario I'm in thousands of dollars of debt.

Learning a trade is essential for the today's and tomorrow's economy, and can save you tons of money. Who knows where it will lead you?

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Was a student-athlete (track/cross country) my first year. Less than two weeks before my second year started coach informed me he was cutting me from the team to make room for his daughter who ended up dropping out of every race and almost every workout. It drove me crazy and I decided to take a break from school for a few years. Ended up doing a three-month dental assisting school with an internship and I don't have any student loan debt. It all worked out for the better.

Being miserable is never worth it.

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Realized that crying on the way to school is a sign that I should find a different one.

Not all jobs require a degree; if you have the skills and connections, use them.

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I left because I had the connections I needed to get a job and the commute was driving me insane, quite literally.

Follow your instincts, just make sure you have a backup plan in place.

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I was driving there one day, and decided I didn't want to go to school anymore.

You don't need to drown in debt to get a quality degree.

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I realized the school wasn't worth me graduating with 100k in debt. Switched to a state school and now debt free :)

That a teacher would knowingly ruin a student's scholarship is really sad.

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Had a GPA based scholarship to a pretty good college. 4th semester in I was taking a freshman-level statistics class. I basically slept through every class, while acing all of her tests. Not surprisingly, she didn't like me. Long story short, at the end of the semester she tells me I am going to fail for not turning in any homework assignments. That was a lie. I did all of the homework. I tore my dorm up looking for some of the graded homework papers she handed back to me. Only found a couple because it was an intro class and I didn't think much about keeping them. Showed them to her, but of course, she didn't see it as proof she was lying about the rest, only that she "must have forgotten to write these ones in as completed" in her grade book. Got a perfect on her final and passed with a C. But that grade kicked me out of my scholarship.

Tldr: Teacher lied about my grade, took away my scholarship.

Edit: Wow, I guess I should update you guys on what ended up happening. I tried convincing her that the homework should not have mattered so much since I aced every test. She didn't care. I went to my counselor. He said without more proof, they couldn't punish her. I tried the head of the business department, got denied there, too. Should also mention that she was a terrible teacher and would have never switched from middle school teacher to college professor, had she not been the dean's wife.

I never completed my degree. Without my scholarship(among other personal things) I had to find a full-time job.

Colleges not accepting credit happens often, and it's all about the money.

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Went on my year abroad to Barcelona, aced all my exams. Came back, did exams at my local uni. Turns out the Barcelona uni forgot to put through my grades from there and I had 9 zeros on my report card. Was already mentally unstable and suffered on top of that from Erasmus-homesickness - as we like to call it. Just had a complete breakdown and didn't leave my house for 3 years.

Finally started taking control of my life by losing weight and found the courage to find a job. Been working this job 2.5 years and became against all odds one of the best agents there, gave me the confidence and courage to finish the last 5 classes and next year my thesis and I will have my diploma and have been maintaining a healthy BMI for over 3 years. Reconnected with a bunch of my friends from uni and doing Hella well for myself all things considered.

This is the downside to pay-for-play college - it's not always about being smart.

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Classes spent more time on the stupid people than on the other 95% people. We were still spending most of the time on stuff we've learned in the first two weeks when we were two months into the course.

Spider infestation? Nope, I'm out.

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The dorm rooms in my first university were absolutely infested with giant spiders that crawled over me as I was in bed.

Sometimes our desired majors turn out to be really boring, and it takes a toll.

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Was going to get 4 year in computer science mostly because it pays and I was alright at it. After about a year every assignment was just so stressful and boring and I would just hate everything about. I never enjoyed it at all and kept telling myself I just needed to finish because I started it and it'll be over until I realized once I finish that's when it begins. Didn't wanna do something I hate for the rest of my life so I quit and now work with plants and am using some of the computer science skills to make a website I'll hopefully be able to make most of my money off eventually so I can continue doing whatever I want.

Sorry students, we're out of business.

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Mine closed.

Tuition + room and board + textbooks + more - it's crazy.

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The thousands of dollars I had to pay on top of the student loans. Universities prey on high school students, man. Also, never go straight to a private University. Get your basics in a community college first. If I had, the private University wouldn't have even been offering tuition anymore and I would have dodged a bullet.

Sorry kids, you need to sit there and sweat.

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The "no shorts in class" rule.

Doesn't every student deserve to pursue their dreams, regardless of their parents' finances?

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Wanted to go to grad school for psychology and become a therapist. But my family's financial situation was quite poor and I don't have very responsible parents. I could only afford one class per semester and I just felt like it wasn't the right moment. So I decided to postpone college, it was too depressing for me to watch my family fall apart and I couldn't just leave them I was worried my family's problems would worsen if I left.

You can always count on revisionist history to be racist - it's not acceptable coming from a teacher.

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I had a history teacher refuse to grade my assignment on "why we no longer have Christopher Columbus Day".

I said it was due to the Native American movement back in the seventies which literally went to the UN and started Indigenous Peoples Day.

He said "nope, no one was paying attention back then" which is straight up bullsh_t.

So I talked to people who wrote on such subjects and ended up talking to the people that were involved, the actual people who started the holiday which is replacing Columbus day... they told me I was correct and my teacher was full of sh_t.

I sent him their emails, and he still wouldn't admit his mistake. He was willfully and deliberately committing historical revisionism and destroying the achievements of people who are still alive or barely in the ground.

After years of having racist teachers making up excuses to refuse to grade my work, I had enough.

There must be more to this story, and it certainly justifies noping out.

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My roommate tried to kill me.

People Explain What They Bought With Their First-Ever Paycheck

Reddit user MisterChiTown92 asked: 'What did you buy with your first ever work paycheck?'

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Working a first job is an important part of growing up.

Whether it's working a paper route (do kids even do this anymore?) or working at a video rental store (do those even exist anymore?) first-ever part-time jobs establish important life values and lessons to the youth.

Also, there's nothing that validates accomplishment at a young age more than being able to buy something with their hard-earned money.

Curious to hear examples of this, Redditor MisterChiTown92 asked:

"What did you buy with your first ever work paycheck?"

These generous Redditors found value in paying it forward.

Dinner's On Me

"It was 1976, I was making a whopping $2.50/hour at age 16 (20 cents higher than minimum wage, and it was an office job so I wasn't on my feet all day)....my family didn't have a lot of money (which is why I started working while in the 11th grade), so with my first paycheck I took my Mom and brothers out to dinner at Big Boy. I remember being all proud to say 'Get whatever you want, even the combo meal and a milkshake, it's on me."'

– Ouisch

Dinner Miscalculation

"I took my mom out to a fancy French restaurant. I had no idea how much it was going to cost, then plus tip, I didn’t even have enough! So she had to help me pay the rest. My mom still joke about that from time to time when we go out with the family."

"That was almost 25 yrs ago, damn time flew by."

– jonwtc

Gift For Mom

"I bought my mother a beautiful shawl. I never saw her wear it but it was in with her things when she died nearly 50 years later."

– WakingOwl1

These Redditors got to reward themselves with the things they enjoy most.

Creating Memories

"About twenty bucks of my first paper route earnings, for the pizza buffet and soft drinks, and some arcade games, with my best friend."

"While the shape I've been in has varied over the years, I've kept that stamina I built up hauling around damn near my weight in newsprint. For long endurance rides, hikes with a loaded-up pack, and running."

– ArmsForPeace84

Brand New Kicks

"I was 14 and got a job as a bus boy at a local BBQ joint. With my first check, I went and bought myself a pair of blue/brown Airwalk shoes. I remember how cool it felt to be able to buy something for myself and not have to ask my parents."

– johnnybmagic

Scoring Big Time

"A Playstation 2. Excellent buy, kept it for a over decade before buying an Xbox One."

– Birdo-the-Besto

"It was an Xbox 360 for me. Loved that console."

– HabeLinkin

"Still have a modded PS2. Had a hard drive with games on it too. It still turns on last I checked, I wonder if the hard drive still works..."

–DubaU

A Timeless Treasure

"My family owned a construction business, and my father had me on site for as long as I could remember. I don't remember the first thing I ever bought with what he paid me, but I remember the first thing I set out to buy and had to work for weeks to get the money for. It was a Lego castle set. $49. I'm almost 50 now, and I still have it."

– Spodson

Naughty Pleasures

"lol I bought a candy g-string so I could eat it off of my girlfriend while she was wearing it, and a black cowboy hat with spikes on it from Hot Topic hahaha"

dirtydickmf

Some recalled having to prioritize taking care of business over indulgences.

The Necessities

"gasoline and insurance to continue to be able to go to work."

– TurpitudeSnuggery

"I remember getting my first paycheck being so proud of it and my stepfather goes wow you don't have enough for gas. How are you getting to work for the next two weeks? Made me realize I needed to work more."

"I should also put in here that this was my first on the books paycheck. Made it feel a little different."

– truelydorky

Saving Up For Wheels

"Used to mow lawns and do odd jobs for cash when I was a kid. When I got my first 'real' paycheck that I had to cash at a bank, I saved every penny for several months until I bought my first car at age 16."

"Had zero expenses back then, which made it easy to save money. Fun memory."

– YupHio

Building A Wardrobe

"Clothes."

"I had to start working at the age of 12 because my parents could no longer afford to buy clothes for me."

– Opposite-Purpose365

I worked at a video game store in the mall when I was 15.

I was miserable being stuck behind a counter in a tiny corner store with hardly any adequate air circulation. Working with a personality-clashing co-worker didn't help things either.

But when I got my first paycheck, I remember thinking it was a major milestone and reward for enduring the unpleasant work conditions.

I used my first-ever earnings on a denim jacket from the Gap at the mall where I worked. I wore that stone-washed jacket with pride at school for years.

What was your most prized purchase from your first paycheck?

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Weddings are built up to be magical events heralding a happily ever after for the newly minted spouses.

But like any major life event, a lot can go wrong.

Weather, illness, natural disasters, relationship drama, family squabbles... you name it and someone, somewhere has seen it at a wedding.

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Growing up we used a can opener, toaster and hand mixer that my Mother received as wedding gifts. She was married in 1966 and those small appliances were still working well into the 1990s.

When Mum sold her house and downsized, she decided to get new small appliances that matched. The old but still functioning ones were avocado green, stainless and harvest gold.

Since then I've gone through countless electric can openers, toasters and hand mixers and none worked as well or as long as those ones from the 1960s.

The ones with moving parts don't have the same power as the old ones and the toasters all lose heating coils in just a few years.

My complaints about small appliances are mirrored by many.

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Double standards are an unfortunate part of society.

A double standard is when two or more individuals or sets of people are treated differently when they should be treated the same.

A good example is the difference in the way my brother and I are treated when we cook. I'm big on baking and have a natural talent for it. Whenever I bake anything, even something complicated, like cheesecake, I'm given minimal praise, if any at all. This is because I'm a woman, and in my family culture, women are expected to be able to bake.

My brother isn't as good a baker as me and rarely does it, but when he does, he is praised for subpar brownies because he's a man and it's amazing he can even cook as well as he does.

I'm not the only one who has experience with this.

Redditors have identified many double standards in society and are eager to share.

It all started when Redditor Extreme-Minute-4746 asked:

"What double standards make you angry?"

Civil Service

"As a federal government employee, why do I have to follow all kinds of ethics rules, but politicians and judges don’t?"

– mittychix

"F**k, right? I have to spend six weeks reviewing documentation and hearing out dozens of random companies to award a £100k contract but the minister who runs my department can give his mate's company a multi-million£ contract to run ferries without even getting quotes - DESPITE THAT COMPANY NOT HAVING AND FERRIES AND THE PORT IN QUESTION NOT HAVING CAPACITY FOR THEM."

"I left the civil service after that one."

– Disco_is_Death

"This. Yeah I could get in trouble for accepting a gift over $50 (like I have that much influence anyway) but politicians and judges get lobbied millions..it's infuriating."

– gtbeam3r

"Yes. And they get to keep their jobs for being completely dysfunctional, but if I pulled a fraction that garbage, I’d be fired."

– TrekJaneway

R-E-S-P-E-C-T

"That some people expect you to respect their no, whilst they will most definitely not respect yours."

– IvyBloodroot

"On that note, respecting someone as an authority is often equated to respecting someone as an individual."

"Eg. Teachers who say if you don't respect me (as a superior), I won't respect you (as a person), when they're really not the same thing."

– Paperonia

The Bullied

"School bullying."

"The kid getting picked on has essentially no power. Go to a teacher? Get labeled a snitch and tattle tale. Don't do anything? You're just made an easier target. The moment they fight back, they're the ones who end up dealing with detention, suspension, expulsion, etc. You have more power as a bully in the schools than the victim."

– FriskeCrisps

"It's because bullied people are usually rule followers, and the school wants the problem dealt with as quickly as possible. Best way to do that is to expect the rule follower to follow rules, rather than the rule breaker to suddenly change their ways."

"Fairness ends up on the chopping block."

– darsynia

Services Cliff

"I'm 41 years old and have Cerebral Palsy. If I try to find anything related to the disease - how to deal with it, any kind of ongoing care - it is virtually impossible because all the care is just for children with CP. It's like once you turn 18 the world just doesn't care anymore."

– Zechnophobe

"I’m autistic and in the same boat. “How to deal with a child who…” I'M ASKING FOR ME."

– aroaceautistic

A Two-Way Street

"People who are obsessed with the idea of kids being respectful towards adults, but don't treat kids with respect in turn."

"Edit for example: I went to a very old-fashioned school where the rule was that when an adult entered the room, even in the library and break/lunch, every student in the room had to immediately fall silent - mid sentence, mid word, didn't matter - and stand up until we were given permission to sit back down again. If we didn't, we were chewed out and sometimes even given detentions. The argument was that it trained us into respect, but I was also brought up to believe it's rude to interrupt, and it felt like the teachers were constantly interrupting us."

– MerylSquirrel

"My father in law is like that. He’s “kids should be seen and not heard” type of old school."

"But then he wonders why the children in the family all steer clear of him and why they disregard most things he says."

– Macintosh0211

Doctor, Doctor

"This might be a bit controversial, but I’ve come across a couple of doctors who demand special treatment away from work but preach and practice treating all their patients equally."

– kimchi-pancake

"They charge you a fee or cancel if you’re 5 minutes late but have no problem leaving you waiting for hours. I’ve waited an hour in the lobby and another in the actual examination room."

– SadComfort8692

"Same! i can understand if it’s out of their control but i could hear her, clear as day, giggling with her coworkers about her weekend. i waited 20 in the lobby and 20 in the exam room. i love a good gab but, for f**k’s sake, do it later! if i yapped outside for 20 minutes, it would be a $50 fee and another 4 month long wait to be seen again."

"I suddenly had a $50 i-can-hear-you-nattering-through-the-wall fee. she laughed but it’s been collecting interest ever since…"

– manyfeetball

Alcohol Is Alcohol

"Beer drinkers act like they aren’t alcoholics because they don’t drink hard liquor. Ok sir you just drank 25 beers and then looked at me sideways for drinking a g&t at the family reunion."

– Brainfog_shishkabob

"Same goes for the “sophisticated” wine drinkers..."

"Stop judging me for enjoying a drink on the terrace a few times a year, when you empty 1-2 bottles each evening..."

– 2Madam_Mimmm

"That’s definitely the way it is. I’ve got a snotty alcoholic family member, that THINKS she’s sophisticated, because she drinks high dollar wine, out of very expensive glasses."

"Yeah, pissing yourself and passing out, in front of the mailbox, are definitely the traits of a sophisticated person."

– sweathogbrooklyn

Mr. Mom

"Fathers taking care of their kids."

"I take my kids to doctor appointments, dentist appointments, take them to school, and pick them up. I do all that stuff."

"Every single f**king time, it's, “Dad’s babysitting today?” Or some stupid comment like that. No, I’m not babysitting. I’m being a f**king parent!"

"I hate the double standard that dads can’t do stuff like that with their kids."

"I can’t take my daughter to the park without being questioned or looked at funny either."

"People need to give dads more respect. A lot of us bust our a**es too. I work hard. I take care of my kids, I play with my kids. I clean the house. I do laundry. I don’t stop. I don’t rest, I don’t relax."

– moms-sphaghetti

"Give us changing tables in the men's room!"

– Da1UHideFrom

"Nothing bugs me more than when a place only has changing tables in the women's bathroom."

"It's 2023, I take my son to the aquarium by myself sometimes... Looking at you London SeaLife centre 🤨"

– AstonVanilla

Household Split

"The laundry is always a wierd one. My wife is a much better cook than me. And she hates me cooking when she's in the house. So to compensate I do all the laundry, including ironing before someone mentions it, and all the washing of dishes."

"But even at work, this doesn't seem to be understood as possible. I complained my washing machine had broken and the comment was 'Oh no, what's wife's name going to do?'"

"To which the answer was 'Wonder why I haven't done the washing this week.'"

"But it's infuriating."

– RelativeStranger

Justice Is Bought

"The American justice system. You can afford the best and many more lawyers when you have money."

– TooAfraidToAsk814

"Justice is blind, but the b*tch sure can smell money."

– burgher89

Worship

"I am supposed to respect people's religion, but people aren't supposed to respect my non-religion."

"Particularly when their religion instructs them to not respect my non-religion."

– GeebusNZ

"It kinda makes my head spin that there are people who I get along well with who, per their religion, think I deserve to be tortured in agony for all eternity."

Daztur

Yup, me and my non-religious self have personal experience with that last one!