Mothers Explain How They'd Feel If The Father Asked For A Paternity Test
In every relationship, there are bound to be some tough conversations, like how to budget and deciding whether to move somewhere new.
But there are other conversations, like getting a paternity test or going through someone's phone, that potentially imply a lack of trust.
Redditor BlueSharker asked:
"Women, would you care if your husband wanted to do a quick, basic, cheap DNA test to make sure the kids are 100% his? And why?"
Healthy Relationship
"I love the wording of a 'quick basic cheap' test, like hey, it's no big deal, this is a totally normal quick little thing healthy strong couples do!"
"Like, Baby, it's no big deal. I just want to test the kids' DNA to make sure I can trust you."
- kaksereciklira
Feeling Insulted
"I just asked my wife this, and she said, 'I will rip your nads off and feed them to you if you want that d**n test.'"
"So yeah, they care."
- exportz
Holy Insinuation, Batman
"Asking for this test either means:"
"1. You think I cheated on you but don't want to actually accuse me directly of it and deal with the fallout of being wrong which is both cowardly and insulting and also didn't work."
"2. You have been spending time on unsavory red pill internet sites and are dumber and more gullible than I thought when I married you and I've now lost all respect for your critical thinking skills."
"3. You don't want to be married or be a father to our kids anymore and are looking or an excuse to leave. Perhaps you are yourself cheating, or you are hiding some other secret or opinion from me and have been for a while."
"None of these scenarios are good. I would 100% be rethinking the whole marriage at this point. What else are you going to blindside me with and when? Probably better to just leave on my own terms than wake up one day and find you gone and all the accounts drained."
- Fantastic_Poet4800
Lack of Trust
"I wouldn't be opposed to the actual request because I have nothing to hide."
"But the fact that he felt the need to ask 100% indicates his lack of trust in the marriage and that is the bigger issue that I would be seriously concerned about."
"That would generally be my same response to any hypothetical requests for my husband to look through my phone. Like superficially, I don't care. It's just memes and pics of our kids. But the inevitable longer form conversation that gets triggered by that is why is the trust gone."
- golemsheppard2
Quiet the Haters
"I’ve offered it to my boyfriend for our one and only child to shut up all the naysayers in his family who were telling him it wasn’t his."
"And he said my offering is even more suspicious than not offering."
"Which, I don't know how the f**k that makes any sense, but whatever dude. The kid is yours. Do it or don’t. I don't care."
- linkxlink
The Terrible Mother-in-Law
"My ex-husband’s mom was really weird about our firstborn not looking like him."
"He and I are very different in looks, where he’s black hair, and tan skin, and I’m strawberry blonde, and very fair."
"The son was born with brown hair and blue eyes."
"He tans a bit but definitely doesn’t look like his dad... because he looks like a darker-haired version of MY dad."
"The crazy s**t was, my ex was cheating on ME for most of the marriage and both kids are absolutely his because I don’t play stupid games."
- Dorkadoodle
Child Support Conspiracy
"My father tried telling everyone I wasn't his kid (I was conceived maybe a week or two before he got caught cheating on my mum)."
"My nan took one look at me and laughed in his face. She eventually convinced him to acknowledge me and pay his child support. I love my nan."
- maybebabyg
Going No Contact
"When my parents’ divorce started getting nasty, my father accused my mother of cheating, and that I was the result of it."
"He asked me over and over again to get a test and sure enough, I’m his biological son. He didn’t believe the result and kept asking me to do more tests."
"Among other reasons, I don’t speak to him anymore."
- Loopnova_
Taking the Estate
"I got my revenge on my dad's family who never believed I was his (my parents were together for 30 years but never married)."
"He passed away without signing his will. At his funeral, his sisters poked at my nose and pulled on my ears, questioning whether I was really their niece."
"So I got a posthumous paternity test done. The entire estate went to me and I didn’t give them a dime."
- qiwizzle
Empathetic Testing
"I would not care. My husband found out late in life that he has a different biological father due to DNA testing and it crushed him. I would understand that the test has more to do with that circumstance than his trust in me."
"That being said, even after going through everything with his dad, he never tested our kids, but I told him multiple times to go for it and I’d be totally fine!"
- CharacterLoquat6950
Accidental Discoveries
"One of my best friend's dads bought her and her two sisters Ancestry.com tests only for her older sister to get a 'Congrats! You have a half-sister!' email after my friend’s results were submitted."
"Obviously, she called her dad like 'What the f**k is this,' and he had them retest the results twice."
"He had to be the one to break the news to my friend. He absolutely had no clue before this happened, and he broke down crying and told her that she was still his daughter regardless."
"We were 24 at the time, and I genuinely can’t imagine how it must’ve felt to be either of them receiving that news."
"Her mom even tried to deny it at first before finally coming clean."
- ElysianReverie21
Grocery Store Antics
"'Here's a picture of my kid' … 'and here is the DNA test proving it!'
"'Can I leave now, officer? He just likes to scream kidnap for fun…'"
"Sigh. I love taking them to the grocery store with me."
- drewbreeeezy
Dad Jokes Galore
"I recently discovered that none of our three children are mine biologically."
"I feel so stupid, I should have known something was up when they all existed before I met my wife."
"All kidding aside, as a stepdad, I do find it genuinely tragic when dudes completely abandon kids and withdraw all love because it's not theirs, not their problem. I understand complex emotions surrounding the marital betrayal, but I can't imagine just peacing out on a kid whose fault it categorically isn't."
- Overthinks_Questions
What's the Point?
"Our kid looks so similar to my husband that her face unlocks his phone."
"Sure, do the test."
- noopibean
Not the Mother
"As a child, I overheard my Mom say to my Dad, referring to me: 'She is nothing like me. Are you sure you didn't cheat on me?'"
"I really never had much in common with my Mom, and at that age, I didn't know anything about how babies are made, so I thought she was serious and lived with that doubt for a few years."
- MsMaggieMcGill
While some people were able to make jokes or could otherwise point out why paternity testing had been helpful in their own lives, most were concerned about the lack of trust asking for a test implied.
Bride Left Fuming After Bridesmaid Turns Her Wedding Day Into One Big Pregnancy Announcement
There are unspoken boundaries you just don't cross as a bridesmaid—like stealing the bride's spotlight to make an announcement about yourself.
But one bridesmaid went there.
Redditor "hipposarelife" became resentful after one of her best friends upstaged her wedding—that was two years in the making—with news of her pregnancy.
The original poster then asked users if she was the "a$$hole" for being upset.
"I got married two weekends ago. I asked my three best friends Anna, Kelly and Laura to be my bridesmaids 2 years before the wedding and found them very helpful when planning."
What is it about Laura?
"For the morning of my wedding I hired a fancy penthouse apartment for myself and the bridesmaids to get ready. We had champagne and as we were pouring it out, Laura said none for her."
"Now Laura is the biggest party animal of us all so naturally we questioned why she wasn't drinking. Laura then told us she was pregnant."
The OP felt threatened by Laura's good news encroaching on the main event.
"Of course I was happy for her but obviously the focus was then on Laura and her pregnancy and not us getting ready for my wedding, something I had been planning for 2 years."
"Anyway. We all got ready and headed to the venue. The photographer kept us outside the venue for a short while so he could do posed photos with myself and the bridesmaids."
As the photographer arranged for the obligatory group shot, Laura decided to break convention with a personal pose.
"I was holding my bouquet, Anna and Kelly were holding theirs but Laura placed hers on the floor and was standing with her hands cradling her stomach as if to emphasize her bump (which wasn't noticeable as she's barely 12 weeks)."
"The photographer asked her to pick her flowers up so all of us were holding our bouquets and Laura refused and said 'oh it's ok I'd prefer to stand like this' and carried on cradling her stomach."
"So now those photos just look weird."
"The rest of the day went smoothly until it came to the speeches. As Laura was my oldest friend naturally I asked her to say a few words."
The speech was promising, until it wasn't.
"She stood up and said some nice words, then ended her speech with 'and I'm so excited to announce that as Bride's best friend, I'd like her to be an honorary aunt to my baby who is due summer 2020!.'"
"With her being an old family friend of course my family were over the moon and again the attention was on her and her pregnancy and not me and my husband."
These are the things that ruin friendships.
"I felt so upset on my wedding day and haven't really spoke to Laura much since."
"She has since sent me a text saying I'm acting like a spoiled brat and the world doesn't revolve around me."
The OP asked if she was "not the a$$hole" (NTA) for being upset and distancing herself from Laura.
Redditors were happy to respond.
"At first it seemed innocuous enough because you asked about her not drinking, but she spent the rest of the day deliberately drawing attention to her pregnancy and that's rude af."
"You have every right to be upset and she owes you an apology, most specifically for using her toast to make an announcement to your entire wedding reception." – knifewrenchhh
"Yeah, she essentially used your wedding photos as her pregnancy photoshoot... NTA for sure." – snoozin_sarandon
"I would have had the other bridesmaids change their pose so they're all doing the same thing. F**k that attention seeking brat, I don't care if you're excited the condom broke, let your friend have her day, ffs." – booksblanketsandtea
"OP's situation is as bad as someone proposing to their significant other at a wedding, or the bride's mother wearing a wedding dress."
"Any one of these is an outrageous and insanely rude usurpation of someone else's wedding that they paid for, not you. Your wedding is supposed to be about the bride and groom, or brides, or grooms. If someone else wants the spotlight to be on them, they can pay for it. Holy crap."
"I'm especially shocked that Laura refused to stand the way OP asked for when she wasn't paying for the photos. Now she's stuck with photos that look weird - which she paid hundreds or even thousands of dollars for - because someone else was conceited." – HellKat1988
"Talk about stealing the spotlight. It seems to me that she had ample time to say something prior to YOUR wedding day."
"Then once she has hijacked the mood she doubles and triples down on it. Extremely rude." – toddfredd
Photoshop can work wonders.
"Shop it so she's cradling a large vase of flowers!" – buickgnx88
"Oh my god, you could make a whole photoshop series with her cradling ridiculous things. PLEASE do this." – jokeyhaha
"Please put in a bouquet, but instead of a flower make it a tiny 12 week old fetus on each stem." – saltysanford
But the photographer could have intervened.
"I think either that the photographer or the OP should have said something."
"Like it sucks that it progressed the way it did, but if I were in OP's shoes, I'd shut that s**t down."
"'That's nice that you prefer standing that way, but we're doing my wedding pictures right now and I don't need you baby bumping without a baby bump. How about we do a couple shots at the end for you, and you can use those if you want to announce it after my wedding is over.'"
"You teach people how to treat you. And yes, the photographer should have also pushed back. Laura didn't pay for those pictures, OP did." – StrangerOnTheReddit
"Am I off base to think that the photographer should've made more of an effort to intervene?"
"I mean, I know conflict resolution isn't in the official job description, but I feel like wrangling the wedding party and setting up a good shot is, and someone really skilled & experienced at the job might have been able to speak up in the client's best interest without making a scene." – LittleDogTurpie
This is something you wouldn't wish on your worst enemy, but worth considering before creating a lasting memory for someone else's wedding photo.
"As someone who has had several miscarriages, to document the pregnancy in such a permanent way could be painful for the friend and others in the long run."
"During my first pregnancy I wouldn't have thought it would end in miscarriage, but I wouldn't have used my friend's wedding day for my glory either." – elainemarieseinfeld
"That's what I was thinking! 12 weeks is still early. I miscarried at 12 weeks."
"Luckily our family/best friends were the only ones who knew so we didn't have to tell a bunch of people. I cant imagine having those pictures to remind me of it, plus having to tell all those people!"
"You KNOW somebody who didn't hear about the miscarriage would ask her about the baby in a few months and that would be awful to have to explain." – JustLetMeGetAName
"I could not agree more! I've lost four all within the first 10 weeks. I could not imagine taking pictures cradling my stomach that early, or at someone else's wedding."
"Now I was nine months pregnant as a bridesmaid in my brother in law's wedding. The photographer took several shots centered on my big stomach which made me very uncomfortable."
"Thankfully the bride thought it was funny, but the one picture with my brother in law holding a cup to my stomach trying to listen to the baby was just too weird." – Stevi100183
This family understood the proper way of making sure both occasions were equally celebrated.
"So going to second the NTA. We found out we were expecting our first (and my family's first) child a few days before my brother's wedding."
"The only way he and his bride figured this out was because my wife wasn't drinking (something she is very skilled at). It was during the reception that they asked and we quietly confirmed. A quick private congratulations from them and then all the attention was back on them."
"We didn't say a word to anyone, particularly my family, that day. Of course, the next day, once the newlyweds had left for their honeymoon, we shared with my family. And everyone was over the moon. And easy to feel this way about both the new marriage and the child to come."
"And my wife and I were seen as respectful for waiting to share the news. And my brother and wife were more than happy for us as the pregnancy progressed." – tpodr
Can the ladies come back from this and one day look back and laugh?
"Hey, but those photos of her cradling what are essentially trapped farts in her abdomen will be hilarious once things have cooled off a bit." – avocado_toast
There are times and places for things, and we could all do better by staying in our respective lanes.
Guy Seeks Advice After His Wife Claims She Has Postpartum Depression And Needs To Take A Month-Long Vacation Away From Her Newborn Baby
Pregnancy is supposed to be a new adventure for a growing family.
Though it can be exhausting and even scary at times, bringing a new baby home is meant to be a joyous occasion.
For women struggling with various forms of depression and anxiety, however, becoming a brand new mom can feel insurmountable. It can become difficult for her loved ones around her to cope, as well.
When a couple came home with their eight-year-old sons and newborn baby girl, the husband thought they had everything worked out. He had paid time off from work, which he would use to help his wife take care of the home and the new baby.
He soon discovered, however, that he was doing all the work in the home, while his wife didn't bond with the baby. He attempted to discuss the situation with her, as well as various ways to fix it, all to very little avail.
Finally, his wife discussed with him something she wanted to do, which enraged her husband.
The husband, Reddit user "throw27373," wrote into the "Am I the A$hole" subReddit, no longer knowing if he did the right thing.
You can read the full account here:
AITA for telling my wife she doesn’t have post-partum depression? : AmItheAsshole from AmItheAsshole
Most Redditers who replied were sympathetic to the situation, some even echoing the thoughts of divorce.
Most attributed the wife's behavior to a probable case of Postpartum Depression or Postpartum Psychosis, and encouraged the husband to assist his wife in going to her OB-GYN or a mental health professional as soon as possible.
"OP definitely needs to get her to a doctor to get started on meds. Also, just in case OP isn't aware, your wife is only 6 weeks out of childbirth."
"She WILL have follow up appointments with her OB to make sure she is healing correctly and getting back to normal. These appointments are crucial because the doctor will ask her very specifically about her moods and mental state."
"If you can, PLEASE go to these appointments with her and encourage her to be honest." - jujubeeee23
"She wants to abandon her month and half old baby to go party for a month. If that's not serious enough to warrant therapy then what is?!" - Im_Ashe_Man
"I'm exactly like this when my depression gets bad. At times I don't have the wherewithal to even phone in my prescriptions, which makes it even worse."
"I was bad just before my meds changed in November, and my friends wanted me to organise an online draw for a secret Santa and I just couldn't do it. I can't explain why simple things suddenly become insurmountable, but they do." - DoubtfulChilli
"PPD isn't just being sad. It can cause psychosis."
"You literally aren't thinking straight. You aren't able to make decisions the way you used to."
"This isn't just her being a spiteful bitch. PPD is a well documented issue that happens to a lot of women (and some men) who have had children."
"Take it seriously. You can't WILL away PPD by 'wanting to get better'."
"At some point, people in her life need to step in to make decisions. Have you talked to your pediatrician? To the OBGYN who delivered the baby?" - mowotlarx
Very few people commented on the question of whether the husband was the a$hole, because there were more serious issues at hand, regarding the sons, the new baby girl and the condition of the mother.
Though the appearance of depression and other symptoms after a baby is born can be frustrating and even disheartening, they are very real causes for concern. Treating these symptoms not only will help the mother now, but will improve on her relationship with her child and the well-being of the family in the long-run.
Mom Who Was Told By Doctors She Could Never Have Kids Defies The Odds By Giving Birth To 10 Children
A miracle-making mom who was once told by doctors that she could never had children has proved them wrong - by giving birth to 10 kids.
Emma Gale was diagnosed with polycystic ovaries aged 18, with doctors delivering the "mortifying" news to her and husband Spencer that they were unlikely ever to have kids.
Emma Page / SWNS
But just two years later Emma, who had started to look into fostering or adopting with her hubby, fell so ill that she "couldn't even stand up."
After rushing to hospital, it was revealed that Emma was two months pregnant - to the astonishment of both her and her husband.
SWNS
The proud mom, now 42, went on to have a whopping TEN successful pregnancies, giving her one of the biggest broods in Britain.
Now the walls of the couple's five-bedroom house in Whitstable, Kent, England, are adorned with over 100 family photos showing their army of kids - the eldest of whom is 20, with the youngest aged just one.
SWNS
Emma works at the local Tesco supermarket to support the family, often getting home from her shift at 1:30 in the morning - giving her only a few hours of respite before an especially hectic school run begins.
All the children apart from 20-year-old Oliver - who works in Michelin-starred restaurants in France and Ibiza - still live with their parents.
One-year-old Isaac, Eli, two, Noah, four, Sidney, five, Teddy, eight, Freddie 13, Daisy, 14, Charlie, 17, and Emily, 19, are all crammed into the family home.
Emma Page / SWNS
But while life for the Gales can be hectic, they say they "wouldn't change it for the world."
Emma said:
"We always mix up names. Especially when they are being hooligans."
Although the couple insist they have no favorites, Spencer has a "special bond" with Sidney and Isaac, as he delivered them himself at home, with the help of a midwife over the phone.
The couple say they work hard as a team to provide for the children - with Spencer working seven days a week at the Harbor Garage and Emma up to four night shifts during the week.
Emma Page / SWNS
Emma added:
"Because we have ten children, people automatically assume we get benefits - but we don't."
Spencer, 47, said:
"What is nice is our own work ethics have reflected on our children. Oliver works an awful lot of hours; he works all the overtime he can possibly get."
"Emily is full-time at Canterbury Christ Church in Medway and works a lot of hours. I think it is nice for us as parents and is really reflective of us."
Emma Page / SWNS
After Isaac's birth - and a warning from doctors - Emma and Spencer have decided not to have more children.
She said:
"I was told I could hemorrhage or get blood clots. But I have always been lucky and I have never had any complications."
The couple admit money is very tight, so they work extra hard to make sure their children do not go without - and saved £100 (~$130) a week to cover the expensive festive season.
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Emma said:
"Don't get me wrong, they aren't spoiled children and don't have anything during the year, except for birthdays and Christmas."
"We make sure they do their club. They don't get pocket money, but if they want to go out with friends we try to give them some - everything has to be scheduled so we know what we are budgeting for."
Emma does just one big grocery shop a month and doesn't "beat around the bush" when it comes to cooking.
She added:
"They don't have a choice - they all have the same, and it is easier for me."
SWNS
Despite admitting there is some tension in the house, everyone sticks together and supports each other.
The mom said:
"There is always going to be some sibling rivalry - but they are all pretty good and pull together when they need to."
"Five years ago, my dad had a massive brain aneurysm and it was quite tricky. I had to be at the hospital for six months everyday and they all just pulled together."
The family do not go out on many trips together but, when they do, Emma likes everyone to look the part.
She said:
"Two years ago, Spencer's dad got remarried so all the children dressed the same. I think it is really special when you have a big family to dress all of them the same."
Emma Page / SWNS
The family's French bulldog, Buster, and cat, Jess, add to the mayhem, but the pair are adamant that they prefer the mayhem to a quiet house.
In the future they hope to build a log cabin and a conservatory in the garden to give the kids more space as they get older.
But, for now, Isaac sleeps in his parents' room, five of the younger boys share, while Emily, Charlie and Daisy each have their own bedroom.
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Emma said:
"We don't ever regret having ten children, but we just hate people who judge us."
Husband Spencer added:
"I wouldn't change it for the world. At the end of the day, it was our choice to have this many children and we are very lucky to have them."
Gay Dads Left $34k In Debt After Surrogate Demands More Money, Then Refuses To Hand Over Twin Daughters
When someone acts as a surrogate for a couple, it's generally seen as a wonderful thing.
It's a very difficult and selfless act that can help someone complete their family.
It's also filled with a lot of controversy, as the situation can be abused if you aren't protected.
This arrangement benefits the rich over others, as paying for options for becoming a parent is an expensive process and they have the resources to do so. But for people on the bubble, surrogacy, in vitro fertilization, fertility treatments and even adoption can use most of their available resources in their quest to have children.
In many countries, it's also possible for the surrogate to back out and fight the parents for custody, even when both the egg and sperm are implanted.
Without proper legal protection, there may be nothing the other party can do about it.
from LGBTnews
Steven and Marc Winchester-Horscraft found out about this the hard way.
After a previous successful surrogacy that gave them their son, they wanted to complete their family. The couple said they got to know and befriend their surrogates before they tried to get pregnant, even inviting their second surrogate and her boyfriend to their wedding.
When they finally got pregnant, they were overjoyed to find out it was twins. This increased the pregnancy costs the surrogate billed them for, but they were happy to pay the £17,000 ($22,280) requested to cover her costs. It is illegal in many countries to pay a surrogate for their services, however the parents can be contracted to cover the costs associated with the pregnancy for their surrogate.
However, the babies were born at 28 weeks, and had to spend time in the NICU.
"Having our girls in NICU was only the very beginning of our long, excruciating nightmare."
@PinkNews Surrogacy is an amazing thing usually, the women who do it to give anyone, straight or gay, a family of t… https://t.co/Xe8nRdXekC— Jay2day (@Jay2day) 1578397874
"It's super easy to donate. The story is heart breaking. How cruel people can be." - Motorcyclegrrl
This story is absolutely horrible, here's the link to their GoFundMe page to help them: https://t.co/6P21Xamvkp https://t.co/oEKvVemOgr— SNCF hate account (@SNCF hate account) 1578410505
"This story is horrendous.
"These poor men. Their poor babies. Donated!!! Thank you for sharing their story."
"The community works so hard to form families of biological origin. Surrogacy, IVF, trans-implantation of eggs, oh man. So much science."
"And to have something so selfish happen to them. OVER MONEY."
"I just can't even..."
"I know there's 2 sides to every story so I'm sure there's more to it.... But god damn... Stop hurting people for profit." - TrixieGears
As the little girls fought for their lives, the surrogate's boyfriend tried to get more money from the couple. He asked for another £3,000 (almost $4,000 USD) which the couple didn't have after already paying the £17,000 ($22,280) the surrogate already asked for.
"Before our surrogate was discharged she wanted the remainder of her pregnancy expenses to be paid, which we paid with out any fuss... nearly 17k in total."
After turning him down, the surrogate texted the couple to say they would not list Steven, the biological father, on the birth certificate, nor would she sign over parental rights.
According to Steven:
"A couple of days later I receive a text saying because we have not paid the extra money, our surrogate will not be putting me (the biological father) on the birth certificate and she will not sign a parental order (a form needed to remove surrogates parental responsibility giving it to the couple the babies were conceived for)."
The couple didn't have extra money for a lawyer at that moment, as they put all their money into the final expenses the surrogate asked them to pay.
So they took out loans to get legal advice.
#Gay #fathers left in £43,000 debt after #surrogate refused to hand over their #newborn #twin #daughters. - This i… https://t.co/8ntXo9GndR— Susan Larson ♀️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️ (@Susan Larson ♀️🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️) 1578416851
As legal proceedings began, the surrogate also put a ban on the couple seeing the children.
She claimed her boyfriend was the father of the girls. Eventually, a DNA test proved she was lying and the couple now has custody of the twins.
But not without great cost.
Currently, the couple is sitting in debt of £26,000 ($34,000 USD) after all the legal fees. This is a lot, both in terms of money, and just the story itself.
It has brought up the question online about the ethics of surrogates.
Gay fathers in £43K debt after surrogate refused to hand over twins https://t.co/uio50Xb7eU < should have adopted t… https://t.co/kdIe4X1PpQ— Tackleberry (@Tackleberry) 1578386019
@laurajanejenny @PinkNews It wasn't that she couldn't hand over the babies, it was a matter of wanting more money f… https://t.co/L7YhWwzPPl— Agent007 (@Agent007) 1578415342
@Femail Her twin daughters.— Megan Wills (@Megan Wills) 1578387745
The couple started a GoFundMe to try and cover some of the legal costs.
Steven wrote:
"We are both nurses and have spent our working lives caring for others. I guess I am just hoping for some help from others in order to get us out of this awful situation. Due to our surrogates actions we have not been able to enjoy the time we have had with our girls. Both having to try and work as much as we possibly can to break even and get us out of this downward spiral."
At time of writing, they have about £6,400 raised of the £26,000 they are asking for.
They understand that they are asking for a lot, when it comes to this donation, but they aren't expecting it to fully fund.
"I understand that the amount we are hoping for is most likely unrealistic, but we would be eternally [grateful] for any help at all."
If you're looking at fertility options for any reason, the book Your Future Family: The Essential Guide to Assisted Reproduction (What You Need to Know About Surrogacy, Egg Donation, and Sperm Donation) is available here.