No one deserves to be bullied. The following open letter written by RJ Peete is a touching example of a right way to show support to victims of bullying.
Rodney RJ Peete, his twin sister Ryan Peete and his mother actress, author, activist and philanthropist Holly Robinson Peete are authors of Same But Different: Teen Life on the Autism Express.
Dear Andrew Farrell,
My name is RJ Peete. We have a lot in common. Im 18 and I have autism. You are 19 and you have autism, too. I have a lot of anxiety sometimes in public, and it can be terrible for me.
Last night at a concert, I had a really tough time processing something I could not do, and I was overwhelmed by the crowd around me. I kinda lost it... I panicked, cried, yelled and banged my fists. I was not in control. Everyone was staring at me. I felt isolated. I embarrassed myself and my family. It was a really rough night. We pushed through it, like my mom always says, but it was bad moment.
So, I couldnt sleep last night, and I saw a video that 50 Cent posted making fun of you because you were different. He has, like, 8 million followers. Everyone saw it.
I thought, What if during my meltdown last night, I was caught on video and it got posted by someone or a famous rapper? Then everyone would have seen me at my worst. I get a tight chest when I just think about it.
I wanted to tell you I was sorry that you had to go through that. And you were at work. I just got my first job and if that happened to me at work, it would have been even worse.
A few years ago, this same rapper made a bad remark about autism on Twitter, and my mom wrote a letter to him. I was kind of embarrassed, because he was one of my favorite rappers then. 50 apologized later, but now it happened again only worse.
I wonder if 50 Cent knows how hard it is to have autism and be a teenager. How my brain doesnt always work with me. How I can feel uncomfortable in my body. How frustrating it is to be misunderstood. Called stupid, retarded. How hard it is to get people to give us jobs. To stand up for yourself. How last night was so hard on me and my brother and sister. I feel so bad about it today.
My mom said, Its over, son, lets move on. But for you, millions of people saw him making fun of you when you were just trying to work, not bothering anyone. It might be harder for you to just move on.
So, I just wanted to tell you to stay positive, Andrew, and make sure you remember that we may be different, but we are still the same and even if we are not as cool as a famous rapper, we are still dope in our own way. Like Kendrick Lamar says, We gon be alright!
Peace,
RJ
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Expeditions
"Andrée's Arctic balloon expedition"
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Thanks John
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Toilet time can be knowledge time.
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Doggerland
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Hitting the Keys
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The Big Questions
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Lives (and chores) can be put on serious hold when you find a juicy enough topic to research!
Well, what rabbit holes have you gotten lost in? Let us know in the comments below.
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Living through peril is unimaginable. I've been luckier than most.
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Ay Dios mio, Dios mio!
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" remember the sound it made as it broke everywhere. My mother took her sweater off as she screamed and covered both my sister's and my head from looking, but it was too late. I remember looking at my sister with tears in her eyes, and I was too shocked to react or comprehend what I had just seen happened. A lot of people immediately surrounded the place, and the driver came out of his car and held his head with his hands after seeing the lady on the pavement."
"I didn't look at the lady anymore. I remember hearing people screaming in shock. My mother told my dad later as she cried. I remember hearing her wake up screaming for weeks after this saying: ay Dios mio, Dios mio! Still makes my heart race when I think about it."
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I Quit
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No_Confusion4720
Images
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GrowlyBear2
Everyday
Sad Rabbit GIF by Muffin & NutsGiphy"When I was 16 I was in a car wreck with my best friend since 3rd grade. I pulled him from the car with a broken shoulder while he was bloody, lifeless, limp. He died within the hour, not long after the ambulance got us. It’s been 18 years and I still think about it every single day."
oil_can_guster
I couldn't imagine living with that.
I also couldn't move...
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"I'd seen a lot of accidents prior to that, but something about it being my own blood hit different."
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Sweet_Force1478
Bad Dreams
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Confused Wile E Coyote GIF by Looney TunesGiphy"A family of four that had burned in a plane crash. I used to do a woodland search and rescue, and we saw a lot of wild crap, but I still have dreams about what I saw when we went to look for a missing plane."
JalenTargaryen
Goodness life is dark sometimes.
Do you have any similar experiences? Let us know in the comments below.
