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Men Share The Last Time They Cried And Why... Because Emotions Are For Everyone

"It's only allergies!" Nope. Nope it's not, it's crying, and that's totally okay. 

Why is the act of expressing emotion seen as something so shameful? Emotions are wired into our brains, they are a part of our physiology a way of processing the world and reflecting how it effects us. This "no-cry" sentiment is especially strong in men, who are often nurtured to think that crying is somehow wrong. As a way of busting this myth, these Redditors share their stories of crying out loud and proud... because there's no reason you should have to get dust in your eye that often. 

If you would like to read more, check out the source at the bottom of this page. 

I cried upon realizing I'm a kissless virgin who's never had any sort of intimate contact or any sort of actual relationship with a girl in years. Along with the fact that I'm sinking all my time and energy into a job that might not even be worth all that effort. I never really bothered to reflect on how I've been living my life for the last few months (letting my health deteriorate as well) until a random elderly lady in the street struck up a conversation with me, and asked why I looked so aloof and if everything was okay. Something snapped inside of me at that point and I broke down crying in front of her.

These last few weeks I've been on sick leave from work, and finally found the courage to make an appointment with a shrink to try and learn more about myself and how to avoid getting myself into this situation again.

Cremebrulee321

When my dad ran over a baboon in a safari park. I still tear up thinking about it. 

Slicy_McGimpFag

Two years ago, I received a call from my dad that my mom had an aneurism while on vacation, was not expected to live, and I needed to get on a plane right away. It shook me to the core to hear my dad so confused and hurt, he was a lost child.

I cried in the terminal waiting for the plane.

presidium

Watching a video of a old guy being congratulated in an auditorium for saving a lot of people during WW2. Then, the speaker tells the audience to get up if they were saved by the old guy. A lot of people get up, and the old man gets really emotional. So did I.

hank_moo_d

My wife passed away from cancer last year, it's been about six months now. I still cry once in a while about that. I also cried when my three year old son needed to have his tonsils and adenoids removed, even with such a low risk surgery, after everything I had been through recently with losing my wife, it hit me hard.

[deleted]

The last time I cried was 2 years ago. In 11th grade, after a math exam. I was the best student in math in the entire school. The whole class got a 100, while I got a 79. All of them, that's right, every single one blatantly cheated in front of the teacher. They stole the questions and offered to give me the answers too, but I turned it down, thinking the teacher would deduct points from those who cheated. Sure enough, he did not. When I talked to him, he refused to acknowledge any kind of cheating and said that he wasn't going to change my score. I excused myself to the bathroom where I lost it and cried out of rage. 

theschizophreniac

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The night after my dad remarried the second time.

Some backstory, he and my mum split up when I was too young to remember, and my dad remarried when I was about 4 years old to a woman who didn't treat me or my siblings that well, and her kids weren't much better. So for about 10 years that whole situation was happening and was generally pretty horrible and emotionally taxing, then he finally splits up with her. 

But it never really felt like closure to me, more like I was kind of in the wake of it all. 

So about 4 years ago he starts seeing this new lady, she came out of a bad marriage as well so they both took it slow, and about 2 weeks ago they got married. And then it kind of all hit me that the whole fiasco with the step family I used to have was over and it wasn't going to happen again and that overtook me and I ended up crying in the middle of the night.

EverLastingAss

I cried during Interstellar, when Cooper was watching the tapes of Murph while she's growing up.

WhitePartyHat

When my dog died. I had her since I was 8, and she passed away when I was 22.

She was a staple in my life: I fed her, played with her, brushed her when she needed it, bathed her, and took care of her when she had her first litter. She passed in her sleep which is some comfort, but it was way too sudden.

Robertjordanforever

I had a nervous breakdown when it became apparent to me that I couldn't handle my depression and such on my own. It was a really bad week. A roommate spent the week sleeping in the hallway outside my door because she was convinced that my drinking was out of hand as a result, and she was going to have to roll me over on my side to prevent me from choking on puke.

pizzapede

The last time I cried was Friday. I came home from working up north to find my wife had moved out and taken our daughter.

jcsharp

Yesterday I found out that my grandpa who I haven't seen in 8 years (she moved to a different state) is on regular oxygen tanks due to smoking. I completely broke down over the phone as he lectured me about never smoking, "Don't do it, its not worth it. It might sound like something that won't effect you, but it will." I'm in year 12 this year and I'm probably not going to get to see him again in person due to school.

wolfboy51

Last night, because I am not happy with where I am in life.

Mike_Tythun

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My parents recently told me I had to give up my dog.

My father told me that, because my Mother no longer wanted to deal with the hair and dog smell, I had to give my dog of 15 years, to a person who lived two cities over.

I was trying to maintain a poker face when I was being told, but even at 23 year old, I started to choke up and had to go into the other room.

I sat cross-legged, hugging my dog in my lap, and cried harder then I ever have in my life. It didn't help that she was trying to lick my face to cheer me up...

squeeeeenis

When my daughter tried to hurt herself.

cosmotravella

Last night. My Dad died 6 weeks ago.

Luminaries55

I cried last week. I've had to take the last two weeks off from work to spend in the hospital with my father who had a heart attack then heart surgery, I moved recently for work and my young daughter asked me to move back because she misses me too much, and the second time I was supposed to fly home my grandfather died less than 12 hours before my flight. So now I'm taking another week off of work. What a month.

Logisticsbitches

Fast 7, the feels were too high for any mortal.

420NoScopeFedoraTip

The hug of the Mannis in GoT, got me a little teary.

TheDampGod

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April 9, 2015. Yeah, it's been a while. My former girlfriend just came back from New York the previous day and I found out she fell in love with another guy she met on the subway there. She told me she didn't love me anymore and that I "loved" her too much.

We were together for about a year and were going to celebrate our anniversary on the 10th, the following day. I broke down and couldn't contain the pain. It was all I could do, just scream silently and question where everything went wrong. I knew for a fact I wasn't a bad boyfriend, and showed her the affection she deserved. She was my best friend, a partner I could see myself growing old with, screaming at kids to get off our lawn. Maybe I did love her too much, but I thought maybe at least her and I could work stuff out. She didn't want to.

The kicker here is, she wrote a love letter about the guy and what they did while she was there. The letter was published in an online magazine she writes for. It was beautiful, but so painful.

epiawestastic

I'm not afraid to say it... the birth of my son.

Why? Happy tears.

duplicatehelix

In February when my grandpa died. He was very reserved and quiet, and so am I, so growing up we never talked much and I suppose the interest of getting to know each other faded. So I didn't cry because I missed him. I cried because I didn't feel much when he died, and he was my grandpa. I felt like it was a telltale sign that confirmed my suspicions of not being able to connect with people, and that this was only the beginning. It spooked me. So I cried.

Flamment

I get misty eyed whenever there is a pet loss picture or any sad pet story. I love my dog.

straydog1980

Two weeks ago when my depression was pretty bad and I was getting over a girl while listening to Fake Plastic Trees by Radiohead. Yeah, don't do that.

ashymatina

My deaf 5 year old son recently had a cochlear implant put in. We were warned by the surgeon not to expect much, as his inner ears were so malformed that conversation may be impossible, even in the best case. The implant went in on the side that was the least developed, leaving the better ear intact.

He spoke for the first time last weekend, and has spoken again since. They activate the implants next week.

dexx4d

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Yesterday. My best friend died two weeks ago. Now I cry EVERYDAY!

Duckfloss

I'm on my way home from my last day in the military. Shedding a tear as I write this.

chromopila

I suffer from depression and a few other fun brain things, and last year it got pretty extreme. There are times when I just break down on the way home from work or have to hide out in the bathroom for a few minutes to collect myself.

Codoro

Les Miserables. It was playing in Sydney 3 weeks ago. The part where the priest says Jean Val Jean, that he has claimed his soul for god, or something similar to that.

And then again when he died. I swear, ninjas cutting up onions all over the place.

HazelnutPraline

Saturday night. I was incredibly drunk and I don't know why I cried and nobody else does either.

lohnjocke


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Last night. Wife is bedridden from multiple sclerosis. I was picking her up to transfer her to her wheelchair to take her back to the bathroom and I forgot to lock the damned wheelchair wheels and it shot out of the way and I dropped her to the floor. She's about 240, so transferring her is tough - picking her up off the floor by myself is REALLY tough. I'm trying hard to get stronger, but that's still a hell of a lift. So I got out the hoyer lift, got her up in that and started to head back to the bathroom. And the whole damned thing tipped over (as they're prone to do), dumping her on the floor AGAIN.

She wasn't hurt, and I finally got her transferred safely and back to the bathroom.

Then I sat in the other room and cried a little out of rage and frustration at our situation, MS in general, and my own weakness/stupidity. 

kwip

When my best friend left the country. It's gonna be years till I see him again.

MrSuperSaiyan

A week ago when the doctors told us my wife had 6-12 months to live. And I had to talk to my 3 kids about it.

Stage 4 colon cancer. 

NotDavidHasselhoff

My childhood friend died in a motorcycle accident just days before our high school graduation. The school held a vigil the night he died and his entire family showed up to say a few words. When his grandpa went up to talk I began to cry like a baby because no grandfather should have to do something like that. His birthday would have been a few weeks ago.

Diet_Iced_Tea

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People Reveal The Weirdest Thing About Themselves

Reddit user Isitjustmedownhere asked: 'Give an example; how weird are you really?'

Let's get one thing straight: no one is normal. We're all weird in our own ways, and that is actually normal.

Of course, that doesn't mean we don't all have that one strange trait or quirk that outweighs all the other weirdness we possess.

For me, it's the fact that I'm almost 30 years old, and I still have an imaginary friend. Her name is Sarah, she has red hair and green eyes, and I strongly believe that, since I lived in India when I created her and there were no actual people with red hair around, she was based on Daphne Blake from Scooby-Doo.

I also didn't know the name Sarah when I created her, so that came later. I know she's not really there, hence the term 'imaginary friend,' but she's kind of always been around. We all have conversations in our heads; mine are with Sarah. She keeps me on task and efficient.

My mom thinks I'm crazy that I still have an imaginary friend, and writing about her like this makes me think I may actually be crazy, but I don't mind. As I said, we're all weird, and we all have that one trait that outweighs all the other weirdness.

Redditors know this all too well and are eager to share their weird traits.

It all started when Redditor Isitjustmedownhere asked:

"Give an example; how weird are you really?"

Monsters Under My Bed

"My bed doesn't touch any wall."

"Edit: I guess i should clarify im not rich."

– Practical_Eye_3600

"Gosh the monsters can get you from any angle then."

– bikergirlr7

"At first I thought this was a flex on how big your bedroom is, but then I realized you're just a psycho 😁"

– zenOFiniquity8

Can You See Why?

"I bought one of those super-powerful fans to dry a basement carpet. Afterwards, I realized that it can point straight up and that it would be amazing to use on myself post-shower. Now I squeegee my body with my hands, step out of the shower and get blasted by a wide jet of room-temp air. I barely use my towel at all. Wife thinks I'm weird."

– KingBooRadley

Remember

"In 1990 when I was 8 years old and bored on a field trip, I saw a black Oldsmobile Cutlass driving down the street on a hot day to where you could see that mirage like distortion from the heat on the road. I took a “snapshot” by blinking my eyes and told myself “I wonder how long I can remember this image” ….well."

– AquamarineCheetah

"Even before smartphones, I always take "snapshots" by blinking my eyes hoping I'll remember every detail so I can draw it when I get home. Unfortunately, I may have taken so much snapshots that I can no longer remember every detail I want to draw."

"Makes me think my "memory is full.""

– Reasonable-Pirate902

Same, Same

"I have eaten the same lunch every day for the past 4 years and I'm not bored yet."

– OhhGoood

"How f**king big was this lunch when you started?"

– notmyrealnam3

Not Sure Who Was Weirder

"Had a line cook that worked for us for 6 months never said much. My sous chef once told him with no context, "Baw wit da baw daw bang daw bang diggy diggy." The guy smiled, left, and never came back."

– Frostygrunt

Imagination

"I pace around my house for hours listening to music imagining that I have done all the things I simply lack the brain capacity to do, or in some really bizarre scenarios, I can really get immersed in these imaginations sometimes I don't know if this is some form of schizophrenia or what."

– RandomSharinganUser

"I do the same exact thing, sometimes for hours. When I was young it would be a ridiculous amount of time and many years later it’s sort of trickled off into almost nothing (almost). It’s weird but I just thought it’s how my brain processes sh*t."

– Kolkeia

If Only

"Even as an adult I still think that if you are in a car that goes over a cliff; and right as you are about to hit the ground if you jump up you can avoid the damage and will land safely. I know I'm wrong. You shut up. I'm not crying."

– ShotCompetition2593

Pet Food

"As a kid I would snack on my dog's Milkbones."

– drummerskillit

"Haha, I have a clear memory of myself doing this as well. I was around 3 y/o. Needless to say no one was supervising me."

– Isitjustmedownhere

"When I was younger, one of my responsibilities was to feed the pet fish every day. Instead, I would hide under the futon in the spare bedroom and eat the fish food."

– -GateKeep-

My Favorite Subject

"I'm autistic and have always had a thing for insects. My neurotypical best friend and I used to hang out at this local bar to talk to girls, back in the late 90s. One time he claimed that my tendency to circle conversations back to insects was hurting my game. The next time we went to that bar (with a few other friends), he turned and said sternly "No talking about bugs. Or space, or statistics or other bullsh*t but mainly no bugs." I felt like he was losing his mind over nothing."

"It was summer, the bar had its windows open. Our group hit it off with a group of young ladies, We were all chatting and having a good time. I was talking to one of these girls, my buddy was behind her facing away from me talking to a few other people."

"A cloudless sulphur flies in and lands on little thing that holds coasters."

"Cue Jordan Peele sweating gif."

"The girl notices my tension, and asks if I am looking at the leaf. "Actually, that's a lepidoptera called..." I looked at the back of my friend's head, he wasn't looking, "I mean a butterfly..." I poked it and it spread its wings the girl says "oh that's a BUG?!" and I still remember my friend turning around slowly to look at me with chastisement. The ONE thing he told me not to do."

"I was 21, and was completely not aware that I already had a rep for being an oddball. It got worse from there."

– Phormicidae

*Teeth Chatter*

"I bite ice cream sometimes."

RedditbOiiiiiiiiii

"That's how I am with popsicles. My wife shudders every single time."

monobarreller

Never Speak Of This

"I put ice in my milk."

– GTFOakaFOD

"You should keep that kind of thing to yourself. Even when asked."

– We-R-Doomed

"There's some disturbing sh*t in this thread, but this one takes the cake."

– RatonaMuffin

More Than Super Hearing

"I can hear the television while it's on mute."

– Tira13e

"What does it say to you, child?"

– Mama_Skip

Yikes!

"I put mustard on my omelettes."

– Deleted User

"Oh."

– NotCrustOr-filling

Evened Up

"Whenever I say a word and feel like I used a half of my mouth more than the other half, I have to even it out by saying the word again using the other half of my mouth more. If I don't do it correctly, that can go on forever until I feel it's ok."

"I do it silently so I don't creep people out."

– LesPaltaX

"That sounds like a symptom of OCD (I have it myself). Some people with OCD feel like certain actions have to be balanced (like counting or making sure physical movements are even). You should find a therapist who specializes in OCD, because they can help you."

– MoonlightKayla

I totally have the same need for things to be balanced! Guess I'm weird and a little OCD!

Close up face of a woman in bed, staring into the camera
Photo by Jen Theodore

Experiencing death is a fascinating and frightening idea.

Who doesn't want to know what is waiting for us on the other side?

But so many of us want to know and then come back and live a little longer.

It would be so great to be sure there is something else.

But the whole dying part is not that great, so we'll have to rely on other people's accounts.

Redditor AlaskaStiletto wanted to hear from everyone who has returned to life, so they asked:

"Redditors who have 'died' and come back to life, what did you see?"

Sensations

Happy Good Vibes GIF by Major League SoccerGiphy

"My dad's heart stopped when he had a heart attack and he had to be brought back to life. He kept the paper copy of the heart monitor which shows he flatlined. He said he felt an overwhelming sensation of peace, like nothing he had felt before."

PeachesnPain

Recovery

"I had surgical complications in 2010 that caused a great deal of blood loss. As a result, I had extremely low blood pressure and could barely stay awake. I remember feeling like I was surrounded by loved ones who had passed. They were in a circle around me and I knew they were there to guide me onwards. I told them I was not ready to go because my kids needed me and I came back."

"My nurse later said she was afraid she’d find me dead every time she came into the room."

"It took months, and blood transfusions, but I recovered."

good_golly99

Take Me Back

"Overwhelming peace and happiness. A bright airy and floating feeling. I live a very stressful life. Imagine finding out the person you have had a crush on reveals they have the same feelings for you and then you win the lotto later that day - that was the feeling I had."

"I never feared death afterward and am relieved when I hear of people dying after suffering from an illness."

rayrayrayray

Free

The Light Minnie GIF by (G)I-DLEGiphy

"I had a heart surgery with near-death experience, for me at least (well the possibility that those effects are caused by morphine is also there) I just saw black and nothing else but it was warm and I had such inner peace, its weird as I sometimes still think about it and wish this feeling of being so light and free again."

TooReDTooHigh

This is why I hate surgery.

You just never know.

Shocked

Giphy

"More of a near-death experience. I was electrocuted. I felt like I was in a deep hole looking straight up in the sky. My life flashed before me. Felt sad for my family, but I had a deep sense of peace."

Admirable_Buyer6528

The SOB

"Nursing in the ICU, we’ve had people try to die on us many times during the years, some successfully. One guy stood out to me. His heart stopped. We called a code, are working on him, and suddenly he comes to. We hadn’t vented him yet, so he was able to talk, and he started screaming, 'Don’t let them take me, don’t let them take me, they are coming,' he was scared and yelling."

"Then he yelled a little more, as we tried to calm him down, he screamed, 'No, No,' and gestured towards the end of the bed, and died again. We didn’t get him back. It was seriously creepy. We called his son to tell him the news, and the son said basically, 'Good, he was an SOB.'”

1-cupcake-at-a-time

Colors

"My sister died and said it was extremely peaceful. She said it was very loud like a train station and lots of talking and she was stuck in this area that was like a curtain with lots of beautiful colors (colors that you don’t see in real life according to her) a man told her 'He was sorry, but she had to go back as it wasn’t her time.'"

Hannah_LL7

"I had a really similar experience except I was in an endless garden with flowers that were colors I had never seen before. It was quiet and peaceful and a woman in a dress looked at me, shook her head, and just said 'Not yet.' As I was coming back, it was extremely loud, like everyone in the world was trying to talk all at once. It was all very disorienting but it changed my perspective on life!"

huntokarrr

The Fog

"I was in a gray fog with a girl who looked a lot like a young version of my grandmother (who was still alive) but dressed like a pioneer in the 1800s she didn't say anything but kept pulling me towards an opening in the wall. I kept refusing to go because I was so tired."

"I finally got tired of her nagging and went and that's when I came to. I had bled out during a c-section and my heart could not beat without blood. They had to deliver the baby and sew up the bleeders. refill me with blood before they could restart my heart so, like, at least 12 minutes gone."

Fluffy-Hotel-5184

Through the Walls

"My spouse was dead for a couple of minutes one miserable night. She maintains that she saw nothing, but only heard people talking about her like through a wall. The only thing she remembers for absolute certain was begging an ER nurse that she didn't want to die."

"She's quite alive and well today."

Hot-Refrigerator6583

Well let's all be happy to be alive.

It seems to be all we have.

Man's waist line
Santhosh Vaithiyanathan/Unsplash

Trying to lose weight is a struggle understood by many people regardless of size.

The goal of reaching a healthy weight may seem unattainable, but with diet and exercise, it can pay off through persistence and discipline.

Seeing the pounds gradually drop off can also be a great motivator and incentivize people to stay the course.

Those who've achieved their respective weight goals shared their experiences when Redditor apprenti8455 asked:

"People who lost a lot of weight, what surprises you the most now?"

Redditors didn't see these coming.

Shiver Me Timbers

"I’m always cold now!"

– Telrom_1

"I had a coworker lose over 130 pounds five or six years ago. I’ve never seen him without a jacket on since."

– r7ndom

"140 lbs lost here starting just before COVID, I feel like that little old lady that's always cold, damn this top comment was on point lmao."

– mr_remy

Drawing Concern

"I lost 100 pounds over a year and a half but since I’m old(70’s) it seems few people comment on it because (I think) they think I’m wasting away from some terminal illness."

– dee-fondy

"Congrats on the weight loss! It’s honestly a real accomplishment 🙂"

"Working in oncology, I can never comment on someone’s weight loss unless I specifically know it was on purpose, regardless of their age. I think it kind of ruffles feathers at times, but like I don’t want to congratulate someone for having cancer or something. It’s a weird place to be in."

– LizardofDeath

Unleashing Insults

"I remember when I lost the first big chunk of weight (around 50 lbs) it was like it gave some people license to talk sh*t about the 'old' me. Old coworkers, friends, made a lot of not just negative, but harsh comments about what I used to look like. One person I met after the big loss saw a picture of me prior and said, 'Wow, we wouldn’t even be friends!'”

"It wasn’t extremely common, but I was a little alarmed by some of the attention. My weight has been up and down since then, but every time I gain a little it gets me a little down thinking about those things people said."

– alanamablamaspama

Not Everything Goes After Losing Weight

"The loose skin is a bit unexpected."

– KeltarCentauri

"I haven’t experienced it myself, but surgery to remove skin takes a long time to recover. Longer than bariatric surgery and usually isn’t covered by insurance unless you have both."

– KatMagic1977

"It definitely does take a long time to recover. My Dad dropped a little over 200 pounds a few years back and decided to go through with skin removal surgery to deal with the excess. His procedure was extensive, as in he had skin taken from just about every part of his body excluding his head, and he went through hell for weeks in recovery, and he was bedridden for a lot of it."

– Jaew96

These Redditors shared their pleasantly surprising experiences.

Shopping

"I can buy clothes in any store I want."

– WaySavvyD

"When I lost weight I was dying to go find cute, smaller clothes and I really struggled. As someone who had always been restricted to one or two stores that catered to plus-sized clothing, a full mall of shops with items in my size was daunting. Too many options and not enough knowledge of brands that were good vs cheap. I usually went home pretty frustrated."

– ganache98012

No More Symptoms

"Lost about 80 pounds in the past year and a half, biggest thing that I’ve noticed that I haven’t seen mentioned on here yet is my acid reflux and heartburn are basically gone. I used to be popping tums every couple hours and now they just sit in the medicine cabinet collecting dust."

– colleennicole93

Expanding Capabilities

"I'm all for not judging people by their appearance and I recognise that there are unhealthy, unachievable beauty standards, but one thing that is undeniable is that I can just do stuff now. Just stamina and flexibility alone are worth it, appearance is tertiary at best."

– Ramblonius

People Change Their Tune

"How much nicer people are to you."

"My feet weren't 'wide' they were 'fat.'"

– LiZZygsu

"Have to agree. Lost 220 lbs, people make eye contact and hold open doors and stuff"

"And on the foot thing, I also lost a full shoe size numerically and also wear regular width now 😅"

– awholedamngarden

It's gonna take some getting used to.

Bones Everywhere

"Having bones. Collarbones, wrist bones, knee bones, hip bones, ribs. I have so many bones sticking out everywhere and it’s weird as hell."

– Princess-Pancake-97

"I noticed the shadow of my ribs the other day and it threw me, there’s a whole skeleton in here."

– bekastrange

Knee Pillow

"Right?! And they’re so … pointy! Now I get why people sleep with pillows between their legs - the knee bones laying on top of each other (side sleeper here) is weird and jarring."

– snic2030

"I lost only 40 pounds within the last year or so. I’m struggling to relate to most of these comments as I feel like I just 'slimmed down' rather than dropped a ton. But wow, the pillow between the knees at night. YES! I can relate to this. I think a lot of my weight was in my thighs. I never needed to do this up until recently."

– Strongbad23

More Mobility

"I’ve lost 100 lbs since 2020. It’s a collection of little things that surprise me. For at least 10 years I couldn’t put on socks, or tie my shoes. I couldn’t bend over and pick something up. I couldn’t climb a ladder to fix something. Simple things like that I can do now that fascinate me."

"Edit: Some additional little things are sitting in a chair with arms, sitting in a booth in a restaurant, being able to shop in a normal store AND not needing to buy the biggest size there, being able to easily wipe my butt, and looking down and being able to see my penis."

– dma1965

People making significant changes, whether for mental or physical health, can surely find a newfound perspective on life.

But they can also discover different issues they never saw coming.

That being said, overcoming any challenge in life is laudable, especially if it leads to gaining confidence and ditching insecurities.