Best Not Argue With History

If you have a problem and you completely lose your head over it, you now have two problems.

Rust_Dawg

Marie Antionette would like to have a word

SeijoVangelta

Speak Your Mind

I went to a speaker that gave the two greatest pieces of advice on empathy ever: "100% of frustrations are caused by unmet expectations" and "Don't expect people to read your mind. Don't expect them to remember every detail about you and what you want. Don't drop hints and expect them to interpret exactly what you are expecting. All of your interactions with that person will be set up to fail. Any relationship, romantic, personal, or business, is at its best when both parties just say what they want."

emmittthenervend

Might Be Best To Get Out Of The Way

Regarding mean/nasty people:

Sometimes you're just collateral damage in someone's war with themselves.

Follow Through Is Key

"An apology without change is just an admission of guilt" -my good friend A.R.

killshotcaller

Don't Just Think. Listen.

That listening to someone while you are planning out what to say next is not truly listening.

Once I took this to heart and adapted it into my daily life, two things surprised me: 1) How many people haven't learned this skill, and 1) how many people just need to be listened to.

eerieevey

The World Owes You Nothing

Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you're a good person is like expecting a bull not to attack you because you're a vegetarian.

666callme

It Shouldn't Be A Point Of Pride

Don't let your pain define you.

A lot of people tend to wear their pain as a badge of honour, and that the world now owes them. Its not a healthy way to live.

Mortuan

You Could Never Be Who You're Meant To Be

"A ship in harbor is safe — but that is not what ships are built for." — John A. Shedd

belatnos

Smooth seas don't make good sailors

Hazomg

Why Hurt Both Of Us?

There's this person at work who everyone hates because's she's super loud and just all around annoying. I was working with her the other day along with a couple other people. and she was doing her typical annoying things. and a coworker said "I don't know how she doesn't bother you just watching her boss you around drives me crazy" or something to that effect. I said something like "well it does bother me I just don't let it show because that would end up making things worse for both me and her."

he kind of looked at me like he never thought of it that way before.kind of tilted his head like a confused puppy then went on a delivery.

joshychrist

It's Not Up To Us

If you think we can choose who we love, you are more naive than I thought.

rwv2055

It's Not Always Broken

Read this on a similar thread but, "Every object only has so many uses before it's broke."

You can take this at its surface or look at it from a deeper perspective.

69cansofravoli

Never Going To Talk About The Good Stuff

Also that no one is [going] to gossip about other people's virtues.

cakelover_ways

Figure The Balance Out

You shouldn't strive for perfection, you should strive for balance.

That changes how I looked at a lot of things. And being the kind of perfectionist that could not start doing anything because I knew it could not be done perfectly this really helped me turn my life around.

cakelover_ways

Interesting How That Works Out, Huh?

The harder would work, the luckier you seem to get.

BigRhys2040

Simple, But Gets The Point Across

"you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink."

my mom always told me this, people can give you all the help in the world but at the end of the day its up to you the make the change, the only person who fix you, is you. Hardest pill I've ever had to swallow

urbanlulu

Doesn't Matter How Hard It Gets...

Whatever you do, do it with pride.

Even if your pay is sh-t, take pride in your job. It reflects who you are as a person.

praveenfoo1995

Um...Yeah. Checks Out.

"Don't pee on my back then tell me I'm sweaty".

My then girlfriend now wife.

lorenzovc

It's All A Mental Trick

When you have work you need to do, be it chores or a school assignment, put on shoes. Not slippers or house shoes, your actual everyday going places shoes.

I don't know why this helps so much, but it does. I had a friend in college with ADHD and this was something that always helped him get into the right mindset to get work done. This nugget of wisdom has gotten me through many research papers and more loads of laundry than I care to admit.

Chanalia

"No One's Gonna Draw A Map For You."

Never choose to live someone else's life in hopes to live yours later. Life is too short and later may not leave you the strength to do it. - My grandfather at 84

Edit..thanks for the upvotes, he lived a good life, loved his kids, grandkids, and great grandkids, but there were things he always said he was going to do later that never happened. He passed away about 10 years ago, 8 months after the conversation I had when he shared this.

the_gr8_media_geek

Dad Speaks Truth

My dad once looked at me sadly when I was a kid and said mostly to himself, "Every year you get older, the pedestal you put me on gets a little shorter."

He knew we have to grow up and that one day, I wouldn't be able to view him as a perfect, unflawed super hero anymore.

EveyStuff