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Growing up, I was pretty positive that my dad was a lunatic who was triggered by lights and ceiling fans. Then I started paying the electric bill ; hey turns out that particular bit of "lunacy" might just be genetic. So is the one that makes you really excited about a good air fryer.


He always told me I would get it when I was older. He was right - crispy fried pork chunks whenever I want them IS awesome. We DO have food at home. It can be better than what we would get at a drive-through.

I just have to do it myself. Bummer.

One Reddit user asked:

What is the single most "you'll understand it when you're older" thing?

... looks like I'm not the only one out here "growing up." Other Reddit users are out here coming to all kinds of adult realizations, and honestly they aren't all thrilled about it, either.

King Triton Was Right ... Until He Was Wrong

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King Triton, Ariel's dad was right. She was just a child and she was not "in love" with the random prince she saw for all of 30 seconds.

- foundingflounders

Honestly, this is a great example of what's wrong with parent-child interactions. When we were kids, we did agree with Ariel. We were persuaded by her emotions and saw her desires as our own.

As adults, we have a fully developed brain (hopefully) and more life experience, and therefore we aren't convinced by the ephemeral, but intense emotions, that kids/teenagers have.

But rather than validating Ariel's feelings, interests, and desires, Triton's basically like: "You're wrong for feeling that way, and also I'm going to destroy your room."

Which actually happens. Parents actually do that and are then surprised when the kid turns to the only validating adult in the room, who just might be a soul-stealing witch.

I really like revisiting media as an adult, not only to see how my sympathies have changed, but also to make sure that I'm not the adult who is perpetuating the conflict by not listening. Because as an adult, I expect better from myself.

- panickedwordsmith

Always Be Friends

Friendships fading away

I remember my dad telling me all kinds of cool stories about things him and his friends did in the past. I even asked him "why aren't you still friends with these people?"

He really did basically say "it's complicated, you'll understand when you're older."

Even back then I remember thinking "that's crazy, me and my friends will always be friends."

Sitting here now in my early 30's and it really hits home.

- Slowjams

Boring Is Best

The quiet, boring, simple, times are the best. Everyone's fed, happy, healthy, chill, napping... these are the good times.

- plotthick

So true. Boring = safe. You can't be bored when in survival mode.

- Mountain_Truth_5215

When my old roommate's 7-yo would say she was bored he'd reply with something similar. And I would add, "There are no sabertooth cats lurking in the bushes."

- racestark

After losing a parent, I deeply wished I had a time machine to take me back to when my family was all happy, quiet, bored, asleep under one roof together. I often remind myself that even when things are bad, at some point later I will probably look back and say "those were the good times".

- Mikebdesign

Family Is Expensive

Money.

There was a reason that you didn't get those shoes, the PS5, a new shiny car, etc. Maintaining a home and keeping the family fed is f*cking expensive.

- diegojones4

My mom was a single mom. My dad didn't pay child support.

I grew up knowing I could never ask for anything. We never ate out. My grandmother made my clothes.

One time my mom said she couldn't afford to keep me and I would have to go live with my grandmother. I was 12. That was a horrible feeling.

I am very good with money as an adult. I know what it is like to have nothing.

- Jamiepappasatlanta

I don't know how my family afforded to have kids.

They definitely made less than like 25k/yr, sometimes WAY less or almost nothing, yet they paid for groceries and utilities and a mortgage and we still got to have presents for the holidays and stuff although there were times when we got groceries from the food bank.

I can barely afford to take care of one person and I make more than they did when I was a kid. They even indulged my expensive obsessions whenever they could and we grew up on that expensive vegetarian health food.

How????? No WAY I could take care of a family on that salary.

- Sapiencia6

Time Flies

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Time...wasting time, and how time flies.

It's mid Dec & I'm saying to myself 'what the heck-it's been 9 months of lockdown & I can't believe this year is almost over!'

As you age it seems to go faster & faster. When I was younger I felt like time just dragged on some days.

- call-me-mama-t

The thing that is the worst about getting older is seeing your parents and other loved ones age and eventually pass away. When you're a kid (even a high school age kid) you assume these people will just be around forever and things will always stay the same as they were.

It makes it easier to be disrespectful and generally take them for granted. I'm now 35, and this year was the first where I started noticing physical limitations with my dad especially and that was hard. They're minor for now, but it's only going to get worse.

The biggest blow to me is realizing I likely have less than 20 years left with my parents. Losing that constant source of love and support will be hard to take. They've been a rock my entire life.

- 830_L

To add to this, when you're a kid everyone who is already old just continues to be old. It's like nothing really changes.

As you start seeing middle age folk transition into the elderly it's a real dose of reality.

- keepiteddiemurphy

Take The Chicken Out

Why it's so annoying when you forget to take the chicken out of the freezer

- steviebergwijn

The first time that this clicked for me I had to text my dad and say my bad.

- chefhj

My husband literally came home yesterday to me yelling at the frozen chicken I was trying to cut up.. we put it back in the fridge to thaw and ordered pizza hahaha

- kehbechet

And so you order take out, leave it to defrost in the refrigerator and then the next day you end up either not wanting to cook or forgetting it's there.

We have a joke now that we pay $30 a chicken breast bc of how much we end up not cooking. Ugh.

- furrypizzahunter

He Was Exhausted

When I was a kid my dad and I had a tradition every week of going to the video store and renting a movie or two to watch together. It was one of my favorite things to do, but I remember I used to get really upset at him because every single time we'd actually start to watch the movie he would fall asleep.

It wasn't until I was older that I realized that the reason he would fall asleep was that he was exhausted from working two very physically demanding jobs to try and give me the best life he possibly could.

On top of that, even though he was tired he still made an effort to try and start a little tradition with me and spend time with me. Those memories of me having to nudge my dad awake are so great in my eyes, because they made me realize what a caring and hardworking man he was and still is.

- -eDgAR-

You Can Still Fail

It is possible to do everything right and still fail. Don't let it consume you. Pick up the pieces and move on.

I had to learn this after a project that I was on for 3 years was sabotaged and sh*tcanned. I did some amazing work, and poured my life into that project... in the end I had nothing to show for it.

It put me in a real slump for a few years. I'm still trying to pull myself out of it without becoming a cynical and jaded a-hole.

- distrucktocon

Thank you for saying this. My unit was closed after 20 years and it has been a struggle. I try to focus on the people helped, things learned. And to find something else that gives me the same thrill. Or maybe comparable thrill.

- skuhlens

Too Sweet?

I used to drink lemonade every time I went out. At some point I switched and for years now I've drank not much other than water.

A few weeks ago I randomly decided I wanted some lemonade with my dinner, and I almost couldn't drink it. It was like pure sugar. Incredible how your taste can change over time.

- justcurious247_

When adults said something was "too sweet," I literally couldn't comprehend that phrase. It was an oxymoron to me. Sweet = Good. How can something be too good???

Now I completely understand.

- peanutsandfck

It's Not About You

What parents sacrifice just so you can do something fun.

Last night my husband and I sat in a line of cars for an hour and a half so our kids could see this cheesy drive thru light display in my town with Santa and other characters. 0/10 not worth it for us but the kids loved it and it was worth it to see them be able to do a fun Christmas activity during a pandemic.

It made me think of how much my parents had to endure taking my brother and I to theme parks and stuff as a kid just to see us happy. I appreciate it infinitely more now.

- allsfairinwar

When I was pregnant I went to visit my hometown and my friends threw a baby shower for me. I also had a few birthday presents from people for my birthday the month before.

When I was packing to go home, there wasn't room for the baby stuff + the stuff for me, so I took home all the baby stuff and left my presents behind. My Granny said she could bring them up to me at a later date.

I remember sitting there looking at my suitcase with nothing for me being like "oh, so this is how it's going to be."

- riotlady

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