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For the life of me, I can't understand why people think it's appropriate to ask a couple when they're going to have a baby. For one thing, it's intrusive as hell. You might as well just say, When are you guys going to be ditching the condoms? Secondly, you don't know what people may want for themselves. Some couples don't want to have children––some women definitely don't want children––and that's totally okay.

After Redditor sirous38 asked the online community, "What is the question you always avoid answering?" people told us all about the questions they get that irk them the most.


Take this question.

Why are you still single?

justputonsomemusic

To which this person replied...

Because dating in 2021 seems like a nightmare, I've been cheated on enough. Plus, if I don't even like myself how can I expect anyone else to?

Hoffman5982

And this question (the one I just spoke about):

When are you going to have a baby?

granny_yoda

To which this person replied...

I'm the father of a five-year-old and always get "When are you having another?"

I don't know, when they stop dying inside my Mrs? Your guess is as good as mine.

JJY3

And this question...

What are you thinking right now?

Iltruism​

To which this person replied:

Ugh, seriously I hate that question. It feels so invasive. If I wanted to tell you what I was thinking, I would. Otherwise, let me exist with my personal thoughts.

wade8080

How about this one?

I am partially colourblind and everyone I say it to asks me the question, "What colour is this?" After a while, I don't even say that I am colourblind.

sorryhappypinguin

And how about this question?

"How was school today?"

Like bruh, I've been sitting in front of a computer for the past 4 hours.

CameliawithanE

To which this person replied:

It was painful to answer before the pandemic anyway.

cluckclock

This is a big one.

Why don't you talk?

JosJos43

To which this person replied:

That one is like a vicious circle.

If you were building confidence or comfort to say something, that is basically pulled it all away from you just with the question.

Bilbaprophet

Why do people ask this?!

"Ooh you were in the Army, didja ever kill anybody???"

Just stop asking that, please.

Rustyisaboy

And this?

"Why are you so quiet?"

Because I spent my entire childhood either being guilt-tripped, mocked, or outright taken advantage of for having the friggin AUDACITY of having a personality and social needs, and now the only place I can actually articulate myself is with strangers on the internet because I can take the time to think of a response and type it out rather than being put on the spot by people who, in all honesty, probably don't give a s*** about what I think or say either way. At least on the internet, I'm not in the same room when the person reading my responses mentally checks out. That's why.

MRECKS92

Frustrating huh?

It might help if people thought before they spoke. That could save all of us some degree of embarrassment and discomfort.

Have some questions you hear on the regular that you're sick and tired of hearing? Feel free to tell us about them in the comments section below.

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But I’m not the only adult who still feels like a child! I think a lot of us can relate to that. And to be honest, we can be very unprepared for what life throws at us.

U/cracksandcrevices asked: What is an adult problem that nobody prepared you for?

The worst part is the cruel awakening that we actually have to, you know, do stuff on our own.​

Choosing things is hard.

Having to not only make important decisions by myself (I expected that much) but also having to do so in a timely fashion uninhibited by indecision.

Kurenai_zera

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Errands eat up sooo much time.

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How much time you spend just doing stuff.

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WhyImcalledqueen

That’s what delivery is for.

Being sick and having to care for yourself. Like when you were younger your parents would get the medicine, or the medicine cabinet would just be stocked all the time, etc. But here I am with a cold having to build up the energy to go to the supermarket to buy some asprin and throat lozenges all by myself.

Niwawhahatuira

Underwear gnomes are the true pests.

The endless cleaning. I had chores when I was a kid, but I had zero clue how much actual work went into keeping house. I cleaned my house this morning and by midweek it'll be a war zone of pet hair, crumbs, and dust. I don't even have kids wtf it's like the underpants gnomes show up when I'm asleep and mess my house up.

Sn00dlerr

Another sh*tty thing is the crushing loneliness that comes with adulthood. Why didn’t they tell us that we would have no friends after the age of 25?

The only thing I miss about school.

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A lack of community. Growing up you have your elementary school. Each day you see your friends and participate in activities together. Sometimes they move away and sometimes you do, but it largely stays the same through high school and middle school. Flash forward to adulthood and you're just alone. You want to make friends IRL, but have no idea how to go about doing it without seeming creepy, desperate, or god knows what.

This is really hard when you are not overtly religious so you cannot join a religious community. My friend and I talk about this from time to time, it's arguably the hardest thing to deal with in life. It gets worse the longer you live, as you know you are outliving your generation.

Nevek_Green

The reason why I have cats.

You can go days on end without having to speak to a single person, at first it's a dream come true, after about 2 months you start talking to your toaster to pad the silence while waiting for your toast.

Austinape9

I literally haven't spoken to someone beyond saying thank you/no when buying groceries in months. At first it felt kind of freeing and now it's just kinda sad.

Peachesnplumsmf

Ditto on this advice.

The inevitably of your parents dying. My dad just passed away and I'm 25...no one could have prepared me I guess.

Mkg1995

I feel you. Mine passed away back in August when I was 28. There's nothing you can do to prepare for it, and I'm afraid I have no magic words to make it better. Just know you're not alone. I'll never say it gets "better," but it eventually starts to suck less and your hard days get a little less frequent. I'm so, so sorry.

Ginger_pale_1805

​The sad fact is, you have to start fending for yourself with no one to help you. And that’s terrifying.

Saving money is hard for this reason alone.

Basic home maintenance: when to change air filters, smoke alarm batteries, timing of lawn care, how often do you clean the gutters, are you supposed to clean under the stove, what is edging, how do you recycle, how to change locks, etc.

Ctsom

Not to mention the random costs that spring up. Trying to save up money? Good for you. Except your sink just sprung a leak so you need to pay a plumber to fix that. Now you can save money agai... Nope, car needs servicing. Okay, your can definitely save money now.... Wait, that leaky sink sprouted mold so now your bathroom needs to be gutted and redone.

TechyDad

We are all Squidward.

Being absolutely exhausted most of the time. I never thought I'd be the 'I hate everyone' guy. But I am and everyone can f*ck off.

Tuvasbien

We all become Squidward after hitting a certain age.

KvltDrummer

You either die a SpongeBob or live long enough to become a Squidward.

Me? I'm Patrick. F*ck your rat race.

Poopsicle_88

As someone who has lost a parent, I can tell you that sometimes you will never be prepared for certain events in your adult life. Everyone’s experience is different, and sometimes adulthood just means figuring it out for yourself.

You got this, grown-ups of the internet. I believe in you

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