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A first date is an interesting beast. You know almost nothing about this person. You don't know where it's going to end up.

And sometimes, you really don't want to know. It's enough to feel uncomfortable on a first date, but when it escalates to unsafe? You run. You get out of there, keep running, and never look back.

You may find you literally dodged a bullet.


u/ArrowEye675 asked Reddit:

What was the creepiest thing someone said on the first date?

Here were some of those answers.


Ummm Danger Is A Big Deal

He's just talking on the phone and inserts: "It's not like I want to rape you or anything..."

He tried to contact me for a face to face date. I don't respond. He shows up to my office on a campus, starts raging and gets security called on him and escorted off.

Allgood24

I'm Not Daenerys

Friend told me the guy not only asked for a selfie but posted on facebook with the caption "my queen". First time meeting.

Dubstepface

Same thing happened to me. Met up with girl I matched with on tinder, she was already hammered when I got there. When I was being noticably distant, she was making a scene and demanded that I reassured her everything was okay. She asked we take a selfie, and I said sure. Posted it on FB, broadcasted that I was "the one".

Never again.

Atrocity_unknown

The Ex Was A Victim Too

"I invited my ex to join us for lunch."

She did show up. We went to McDonald's. The ex was really nice and tried to make things less awkward. She didn't know it was a date, she thought she was just meeting with her ex for lunch and she was shocked that I was there.

Whilst my date was in the bathroom, the ex confided in me that she was hoping to get back together. I told her that's fine because I had no interest whatsoever at this point. There was no second date and those two ended up back together a few weeks later.

Excellent-Raccoon-32

Always Wanted To Date A Sociopath

I told this guy I played the piano, and like half an hour later he said: "If I wanted you to always remember me, I'd break your ring fingers. You know, cause they don't heal well and then you'd always think of me when playing."

Suffice to say, I left the restaurant fairly quickly.

NotGreatAtSocializin

Yikes On Bikes On Trikes

Went on a tinder date to the movies when I was 18.

He picked me up in his truck and played terrible loud depressing music. In the theatre, he was on his phone swiping on tinder the whole time, then leaned over and told me that i was lucky to be out with him because all these other girls wanted to be with him.

YIKES. My roommate picked me up when I excused myself to the bathroom.

Kyoshi-atemycabbages

Hmm....Expectations

"Look, this has to go well. Both of my brothers' wives are pregnant with their second children. Do not let me down."

Said to me within three minutes of sitting down.

I thought it was a joke at first and tried to awkwardly laugh it off, but the tone of his voice was something I'd never heard before. He also didn't blink much and he had the most intense, intimidating stare, like he was trying to make me break down and confess my darkest secrets right there at the table.

Some other things were said, mainly pertaining to his occupation, that made the hairs on the back of my neck stand up. Looking back now, I feel like there's a 99% chance he was doing abusive, illegal stuff at his job, and whatever he was doing would have impacted a ton of people for life.

fireflyfly3

Ted Bundy Says No Date For You

Went out with a girl one night and after dinner she drove me up into the mountains (I was new to the area) and after a while, when there were no more lights, she started talking about serial killers.

I still remember her saying "I used to think about getting away with stuff like that sometimes"

zDemon1c

There Is No Sane Reason For This

Not what he said but what he did.

He stole my keys while I was out of the room and took off into the night. We had an hours-long standoff where he wouldn't answer my calls or texts begging him to return them.

I stood by his truck that was parked a few blocks away making sure that he didn't leave with them. Eventually he dropped them off in my car and I got a ride home from the cops. Honestly one of the scariest episodes of my life.

JesusHoratioChrist

What Is With The Imprisonment Jokes

She was driving us back home from the restaurant and started saying things like "ya know, you're in my car now I technically can take you wherever I want.. you're like my prisoner".

I laughed the first time she mentioned it because I'm into dark humour but when she kept going on with it little did she know once I got out of the car that would be the last time she'd ever see me.

Baby_Driver_2007

TMI Right Away

This is not my story, but my Mother's: My Mom was was a "pioneer" in online dating. She was really interested in finding "someone special". She agreed to meet a guy for dinner (first mistake) and went in to be seated prior to him arriving. He came in, the waitress brought menus and he set down his menu and the first words he spoke were asking my Mom if she has ever known anyone who had a penis enlargement?

He then went on to explain the he had flown cross county for this operation and it had "gone wrong". He went into great specifics about just "how wrong". My Mother excused herself to the ladies room and left out the back door. We still laugh out loud when she reminds us of her "search for Mr. Right"

Riva20

Baby Fever

Showed me a long list on her phone of if I can guess without exaggeration, at least 60-70 baby names for when she has a kid, and joked about having baby fever.

They were all really country-bumpkin names like "Brekken" and "Gatlin" too, which somehow made it more unpalatable for me.

Edit: She's only 21

-MinimalCollector

Thief 

It wasn't something that someone said, but he stole my credit card out of my purse when I wasn't looking. Luckily on the way home I stopped for coffee and noticed it was missing. Froze the account that second

It was a horrible date. Please don't confuse this with a sweet guy and a fun date.

This guy was incredibly misogynistic, talking bad about his ex-wife, saying most women are bad mothers. He was saying why he doesn't date within his old school Romanian gypsy community is because the women lay there like dead fish during sex and how he thinks American women are more fun. I clearly didn't vet him enough before hanging out.

Of course, he went on about politics and how he wants a wall as well to keep out the Mexicans. His words, not mine. He said he knows this because he's an immigrant and worked along immigrants for years until he built up his own business.

Needless to say, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and just froze my account while I searched everywhere for 3 days. I did have the card an hour before the date and I feel like prefacing this with the fact that I have never ever in my entire life misplaced my card. However, for me, you just know. You know when you've been played. You get that gut feeling.

-luvtomaketrouble

Hard pass

​He described at length how men are all naturally as violent as those in the movie 'A Clockwork Orange' and how they actively suppress it to fit in with society... This guy also invited me to a pub and proceeded to drink water while buying me G&Ts.. needless to say I yeeted out of there real quick.

-CR9193

Didn't pass the vibe check


We met online and had been chatting for a while before meeting face to face. Soon into the date, he began to talk about how we would be telling the story of this date to our grandchildren. Honestly, if I was vibing with him it might have been a romantic story, but instead it just kind of freaked me out.

-SweetSitty

Too fast

He asked me if I'd rather go on a cruise or to a resort for our honeymoon. Then sent me a text later to tell me he showed one of his clients my picture and the client told him his girlfriend was pretty.

-anmitche

Danger zone


Drove me out to the desert for a planned stargazing/bonfire thing. (I know it's a dangerous first date/meeting, I was stupid and young) Once we found a good spot he turned the car off and told me "now this is where I kill you". He said it with a smile and started laughing. I'm just glad he was just joking, but doesn't make it less creepy.

-TheHumanSamoyed

Dark web

Spent most of the date talking about the dark web and how you can buy drugs and human organs and how cool it sounded. Awkward but okay. Next day called and invited me to go shooting in the desert. Noooopppeee.

-Arpsar

Tindr 


"My son is gonna love having you around"

Lady, we talked twice on tinder and I've only known you for five minutes. Ease up on the step daddy talk.

Full disclosure, not long after I met a nice woman with three children, I adopted all three not long after we married. I met her on tinder.

-MikeErk67

Pathological liar 


This was in the early 00s when I agreed to go on a date with a persistent coworker at Target. He showed up to my house with a giant bouquet of flowers. My parents invited him in to check him out and spoke with him for a bit. His story didn't really check out ("as a volunteer firefighter I flew to help on 9/11 from Syracuse" no flights obviously happened) but then all of a sudden the pulled out a disposable camera. When my mom asked him what it was for, he said "chs135 is going on vacation for a week and I want a picture to remember her by" and like from a dark comedy, we then heard the click of the shutter.

I faked being suddenly sick and my mom told him I wasn't feeling well. Luckily it was only a summer job.

-Chs135

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