So its July 2020 and it's a whole new world. I mean, its still planet Earth but its a whole new world. Covid-19 has changed literally every aspect of life. We can't touch, or kiss strangers or shop without an alcohol swab nearby. Besides hoping we can find a cure, one of the biggest questions about all of this is in regards to the fallout. What happens next? If we can get an affective vaccine, how to we move forward? What will be the outcome of all we learned and experienced? Get ready everyone. Life is forever changed.Redditor u/fool126 wanted everyone to discuss what we all think a post Covid world looks like.... it's time to make some hard realizations... they asked.... What's never gonna be the same after this pandemic?
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For me, I feel like even if there's a vaccine and the virus is wiped out, the world will still be at a loss.
There will always be that feeling or memory of the time when the world shut down and irreplaceable people died.
Not 100% sure but graduations. My sister had a reduced and socially distant ceremony and after your child's name was called, you were allowed to leave. Do you honestly think that when the restrictions get lifted, people are going to want to sit through all 200+ names?
Concerts. I love concerts and festivals. I honestly don't know that I will ever go to another one. My anxiety through all this has helped in now being so turned off at the thought of going to a concert.
Where I live (Finland) there will already be some festivals in August and I'm amazed that some people can go. I don't know how long will it take for me to not feel extremely anxious in crowds again.
Nothing. We'll forget. Plagues, Spanish Flu, Smallpox, Polio all happened.
I doubt the people who lived through them forgot. Did you forget the great recession? I know I haven't. My grandparents never forgot WWII. My dad never forgot Vietnam. My mom never forgot quaaludes. This will forever change how people interact with strangers.
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Nightclubs , I don't ever see myself wanting to be around that many people in an enclosed space.
And a lot of experienced teachers are retiring this year if they can rather than dealing with this crap, and something like 50% of teachers leave the field entirely within the first 5 years. The overall demographic of teachers is going to shift this year, I think.
People flying for business. I'm a FA so air travel is so different this year. Well tens of thousands airline employees will be furloughed come October and if things go well a good portion will be rehired by next spring. Some airlines won't rehire for years. It could be less if more employees take early retirement. Most of the airlines are expecting a year to three to come back to 2019 levels.
Right now foreign international carriers have laid off or terminated probably just shy of 100k staff. I believe close to 40 airlines have gone bankrupt this year.
People will fly again, they want to get out and vacation, see family and friends they didn't see this year and such. Those coupled with fare deals will encourage more to fly when things calm down, but that isn't working well right now with the resurgence of positive cases.
I can't speak to London but I lived in NYC for a few years. It was great for a young person but I cannot imagine doing it now that I'm older and I have no idea how people raise kids there. No car, no easy shopping, and while mass transit exists it's EXTREMELY slow and the amount of stairs is not to be underestimated, nor is the amount of walking. I would literally walk through the soles of my shoes on a regular basis.
As a younger person I loved going to all kinds of restaurants and bars and museums and stuff, and the cultural scene was amazing - lots of supposedly "amateur" shoes for $5-10 that were incredible. And DAMN, the restaurants. I find myself often thinking of them with genuinely tearful longing. Every kind of cuisine and all of it amazing.
Right now, I imagine it's kind of a second circle of hell, because apartments are TINY and often badly ventilated. The whole point of living there is that you just don't spend that much time actually in your apartment.
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Spin the bottle.
Instead of kissing we're just going to make finger guns at each other.
Not sure how widespread this is; but, the local universities (US) are starting Fall semester earlier (Aug). Then, when students leave for Thanksgiving break, they do not return until Spring semester starts in Jan. They don't want students to interact with so many people from all over, during the long Thanksgiving weekend; then, return to spread anything.
Plus, those who have to travel far, don't have to return for the short time frame between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Seems like a long-term beneficial shift for all, that should be considered permanent.
Similar to the year-round schooling, the big chunk of "summer break" is slimmed down.
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Work... Many office jobs will be done remotely.
This. Businesses will see that they no longer need giant buildings and parking structures to support work that basically amounts to a few emails and some excel or word docs.
I think we'll value the time spent in person with family and friends a whole lot more. I haven't seen my parents or siblings or nieces or nephews since Christmas and likely won't until (if?) this whole thing mercifully ends. I daydream all the time about what it will be like to see them all again. I surely won't be squandering that time distracted by scrolling through social media on my stupid phone.
No to Real Estate.
Our law firm is now counting the days until our office space lease is up (649). We've all been forced to work remotely for 4 months which has convinced us we don't need space. We'll likely give back about 1/2 of our floor, and convert the rest into small video-conf conference rooms and hoteling our individual office spaces, instead of the individual 100 to 200 sq ft offices we have now.
Don't invest in commercial real estate...
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Calling in sick will become calling in via Google Hangouts 😢.
It can't be. Or at least no changes from pre-pandemic. If you're on PTO or sick leave, you're off. That said, I've worked important events (outages, planned major projects, etc..) while severely sick, as I'm sure many of us have.
Remote work will be more mainstream, so needing to live close to work will no longer be as desirable, causing inflated home prices in major tech metro areas to deflate.
Home delivery services like Amazon and Instacart will mean less time spent shopping.
Malls which were already on the decline will start closing down completely.
Business travel will decline as virtual meetings become normal.
Housing with home offices/video production studios and high speed internet will be important selling features.
Tech Days Ahead.
The pandemic has made this very clear that many of activities that require you to go outside are non essential. technology has grown up to fill that gap very well. I think technology will play a big role in this transition.
Can anyone imagine what would have happened if this thing arrived 10 or 15 years ago? The Western world would be torpedoed.
Before the pandemic I could go to an "upscale" buffet and tell myself everybody else was being hygienic.
I love buffet. But I will never eat at a buffet again in my life.
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My sleep schedule.
Can confirm. It's 4:30 AM and I haven't slept.
Hopefully the view of the work week. 4 day weeks are overdue and having the permanent option to work from home 1 or 2 days should be a thing
Not gonna happen soon though.
The 40 hour, 5 day work week has been proven many times to do more harm than not. Well for corporate M-F roles anyway. We still gotta have people doing service things but they still need a more appropriate work schedule
But then someone's going to fuss that they have to pay more to employees per hour (this is an issue across a lot of jobs tbh, not just entry level hourly gigs).
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JC Penney's is legit about to go under.
There's a lot of brick and mortar stores that could disappear by this time next year. Sears, Bed Bath and Beyond, Macy's, Best Buy. Malls are going to empty of most of their anchor retailers.
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Recently I was shopping in a Walmart and my day had been a cavalcade of suck. I'm still carrying Covid weight, my hair is greying and uncut and before I went to the store I opened a Diet Coke that blew up in my face and stained my new white shirt. So naturally, I went to the liquor store to preserve what was left of the hours before me. I didn't bother to change. Why? Nobody is looking.
While I was in the checkout a woman tapped me on the shoulder and said... "You have beautiful eyes. I noticed them above your mask. I saw you in the aisle and I just wanted to say that." I thanked her and we parted. After I stopped crying in my car while eating a rotisserie chicken and drinking a vodka/diet (in my mother's driveway... not driving) I reflected on that woman's kind words. They were short, simple and her intentions were only good. Yes, she was giving me a superficial boost, but, I needed it. And tomorrow was a better day because of it. Sometimes... a little compliment goes a really long way.Redditor u/akar17 wanted to hear about all the ways we can make others smile by asking... What is the nicest compliment you have ever received?
Crush<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ5Ni9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzOTY0MTcwOX0.4UTUrjmg151OWDmtb16h0-r4fbvrhDO1hVuqxHr32EQ/img.gif?width=980" id="67f81" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="0a51b9dbde34a499f55502ca68ab541f" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="428" />bashful snow white and the seven dwarves GIFGiphy<p>A older friend of mine told me his daughter (teen) had a crush on me (not a teen) and said he was glad because that meant she had good taste and would find a good man when she grew up. I still think about it because although I was slightly uncomfortable I knew that must have been even harder for him to say which to me made it that much more meaningful. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjx1ktr?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Kindbarbarian</a></p>
fathers & sons<p>I lost my dad when I was in high school and a friend's mother wrote a condolence card that said "I never knew your dad but I do know the young man that he raised, and because of that I know what an amazing father he was." I got a lot of condolence cards around that time and that is the only one I remember.</p><p><em>Edit: </em>thanks for the kind words, everyone! It was almost 20 years ago so it doesn't hurt quite so much anymore. We will all lose our parents someday unless they lose us first - and those are the real tragedies. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjx16j0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Renzology026</a></p>
Let's do Trivia....<p>This was when I might have been 8-9 years old. I used to do well in trivia and quizzing. Not insanely good just good enough for people to notice. In our school sometimes if a teacher was absent a different teacher used to fill in their classes and these periods would be self study or something boring. One of the teachers who knew about me used to call me to the front of the class and frequently asked me to be the quizmaster and organize a mini trivia contest as an activity for that period. </p>
Ride or Die<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ5OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxOTAyMTY4M30.JkIgxuSjn1DhzUCXoyK5tZsGc5qxiYjzLy2MqSTnhjI/img.gif?width=980" id="085e9" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="f1f180789ebfad9a6ed9ca9fcd33505a" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="250" data-height="184" />Kisses GIF by SpongeBob SquarePantsGiphy<p>Actually, I have two that are dear to me. <span>The first was from a friend who had died way too young who told me that when he writes the book of his life, I would have my own chapter. The next was from a coworker who was ex-army that told me he would follow me into battle.</span></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwwhma?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">charlie2135</a></p>
"you're so pretty!!"<p>7 years ago I was heading into the office to a job I hated, and stopped at McDonald's on the way.</p><p>I pulled up to the first window to pay, and after the young kid gave me my card back, before he closed the window, he said "you're so pretty!!" with a high voice and so much energy, and closed the window with a huge smile on his face.</p>
I Miss You<p>Probably not the nicest but one of the most memorable. I used to work as a runner for a delivery company (someone who helps drivers deliver stuff buy doesn't actually drive). If I was ever working with drivers I disliked, I would intentionally talk to them less and try unload the truck a lot faster than normal. If I liked the driver, we would go slower and have a lot more banter.</p>
Silent Clap<p>I am very patient and usually overly-optimistic. I tend to think the best of others and the worst of myself.</p><p>In a morning status call recently, a coworker announced that she was "going to try to be more bubbly and patient, like me. A couple of coworkers agreed that they'd try and do the same and that everyone should try and emulate me a little bit. Typing this out, it sounds like some crap you'd see on <a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/thathappened/" target="_blank">r/thathappened</a>, but it actually did happen, nobody clapped. I wish I had been recording the call. It was a huge boost to my mood and self-esteem and honestly one of the best (if not THE best) compliments I've ever received. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwu3fg?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">farts_n_darts</a><span data-verified="redactor" data-redactor-tag="span"></span></p>
You Soothe<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTUwMC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYxNjI1NDczOX0.xUjX5cybD0z3ru6HEUS34S7qSgZXr7qykXI8h8t6qS4/img.gif?width=980" id="c0fe2" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="93b65e75fee9cf088da06a71bc72dd50" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="261" />Giphy<p>One time when I was talking with a girl that I liked, she told me I have a soothing voice. I normally have trouble accepting compliments and actually believing them about myself, but that one kind of stuck with me. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwwlph?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Elbo_80</a></p>
Hair Bounce<p>Nicest compliment came from a little girl. She told me I had pretty hair, which is not anything special. But about 10 years on and I still remember this little girl I didn't know having the confidence to give a stranger a compliment. I dunno, it's stuck with me because SHE was so sweet. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwpzgo?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">pads28</a></p>
Healthy Mind<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTUwMi9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTYzODczMDYzNn0.ESOqo1BibwUdgmPyIOqTcUEpd80Nvkik80vsec30muE/img.gif?width=980" id="13ff7" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="1b77f095e43756e48e0b3271b7a31a29" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="400" data-height="400" />Pop Tv Thank You GIF by Schitt's CreekGiphy<p>That I was the most emotionally intelligent person they know. (By two different people on two separate occasions) I hold this closely to my heart. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l10qx2/what_is_the_nicest_compliment_you_have_ever/gjwvr6a?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">ExecutiveJM</a></p>
A cancer diagnosis can be terrifying, even traumatizing, for any individual. It can send their life into upheaval and strike fear into their hearts as they worry about the possibility of needing to settle their estates or attend to their family members. But most cancers are survivable. It's a lot easier to get through it, too, if you know what you're looking for and go to a doctor the second you feel something might not be right.
After Redditor BarooTangClan asked the online community, "Survivors of cancer, how did you know something was wrong and what did it feel like before you found out?" people shared their experiences.
"Don't drive yourself nuts..."<p>Testicular seminoma stage 1 here.</p><p>No joke, it just didn't feel right. I had a weird discomfort/ache - not even a pain above my crotch, and not even in my testicles. It essentially didn't go away for a few weeks, and I figured that enough was enough.</p><p>Self-checks are super easy if you know what you're looking for. I felt no lumps, and after CT/MRI confirmed cancer, the doctor at the cancer hospital put my finger on the very obvious lump that I missed.</p><p>Don't drive yourself nuts here (lol). It's an awkward thing to get checked out, but you can very easily get cleared by an ultrasound if there's something questionable, or things don't feel right.</p><p>Listen to your damn body. If things don't feel right, don't lose sleep - just get that checked out by a professional.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjsvaiq?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">krugo</a></p>
"It didn't go away..."<p>Got a stomach ache.</p><p>It didn't go away, some days were not so bad, other days slightly worse. Never agonizing but constant. I ignored it for a long time because it wasn't "that bad."</p><p>JK, it was ovarian cancer.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt7e6w?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">ladybetty</a></p>
"In the lead up..."<p><span>Diagnosed with Acute Promyelocytic Leukaemia in Feb 2003. In the lead-up, I was even more tired than usual, short of breath just climbing a set of stairs, had unexplained bruises. Turns out my platelets were 1/20th of the bottom end of the normal range and my RBC was less than half. Went to the dr who must have had an inkling because she sent me for a blood test, with a fairly detailed range of tests to be performed. She came to my house that afternoon (a Saturday) to deliver the news. Chemo and tablets and I've been in remission for coming up to 17 years.</span></p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjsuq44?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Polished_book_lover</a></p>
"This time..."<p>I only knew something was wrong because I did a self-breast exam - I do them regularly. So I felt a lump, but I've felt lumps plenty of times before. I've had lots of mammograms and ultrasounds - all benign. This time it was cancer though.</p><p>I didn't feel any different.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt0p2f?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">sassylittlespoon</a></p>
"Less than a week later..."<p>I had this really weird chest pain. I would wake up feeling fine, but it came on over the course of the day, I had shortness of breath, tightness in my chest, and just constant pain at night. Went to my general practitioner who noticed a murmur and ordered an EKG. A cardiologist who worked in the same practice took a look and was the one to notice the mass that was pressing up against my heart.</p><p>Less than a week later I had a biopsy, more EKGs, and Cat Scans done to narrow it down. I'll always say that the weirdest part for me is that the chest pains went away after going to the doctor. There wasn't even anything they did that would have stopped the pain, and I didn't start chemo for another month after that.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt48lb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">zipGeorge</a></p>
"If you find a lump..."<p>Lumps are not normal. Sometimes they are safe but that doesn't mean it is normal. If you find a lump that wasn't there. Get it checked. With cancer, the earlier the better because cancer spreads, and if it gets to a vital organ and/or overruns your body it could be too late or make the treatment more intense than it needed to be.</p><p>I had to do 6 weeks of chemo instead of 9 because we caught it early enough.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjswmuh?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">hanginnowwith2fingers</a></p>
"And then I felt..."<p>20 yrs ago, I could just feel an uncomfortable tingling in my pelvic region. I went to an OBGYN only to find out I had Stage II cervical cancer. After many cervix sparing surgeries and a couple of rounds with interferon, within a period of 6 months, I was declared NED.</p><p>Fast forward to 20 years later and I started hemorrhaging to the point of needing blood transfusions and was exhausted, but rationalized it as being anemic, due to months of menorrhagia. I was also bleeding after sex.</p><p>And then I felt that sickening uncomfortable tingling again and pushed for a Pap that showed the cancer came back (more like it never went away). Two surgeries in the past six months and in 11 hrs from now, I will have the results of a DNA biopsy. Sleep isn't happening tonight.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjtj7l7?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Icanbyours</a></p>
"I couldn't breathe..."<p>I couldn't breathe through my left nostril, despite taking antihistamines. Turns out it was a stage II tumor in the back of my nasal passages. Chemo and radiation impacts were worse on me than the tumor, but necessary. Four years on and now I'm all better.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjt52y4?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Gneelce</a></p>
"I could lie on my back..."<p>9-year survivor of rare ovarian cancer.</p><p>I could feel my tumour. I could lie on my back and feel a solid mass in my pelvis. I had the typical ovarian cancer symptoms too. I knew this wasn't normal so I went to my doctor who sent me for imaging. I went to a gynecologist who thought it was a fibroid as it was the likely culprit due to my age. It wasn't until they did the histology of the mass that was removed until I found out what it was (a week after surgery). One month before my 25th birthday I was told I needed chemo. I started chemo 2 days after Xmas in 2011. My specific tumour responds to chemo and unlikely to return.</p><p>I was meant to be on a contiki trip but instead I had cancer treatment.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjtc1fn?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">edot87</a></p>
"And then more and more."<p>Horrible cramps right after I ate. And then more and more. Plus a bit of blood during #2. Thought it was hemorrhoids, but I wanted to be sure since I was hoping to have another baby. Colonoscopy revealed a lemon/sized tumor. Stage 2a. Surgery, 6 months of chemo. 10.5 years cancer-free. And my daughter is 6 this Spring. I was in no risk group and I was in my early 30s. Just never know.</p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/l0ccvn/survivors_of_cancer_how_did_you_know_something/gjtkxe6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">oneeyedalienalright</a></p>
I miss the good old days of "reality" tv. Don't you? Do you remember The Real World & MTV's Road Rules? Those were the days, long before everything got convoluted. Then Jerry Springer came along with Survivor and the Kardashians and now it's all just scripted chaos. The fact they use the word "reality" proves they don't know the meaning of it. It's all a show darlings.
Redditor u/flyingbeetlekites was dying to hear from behind the scenes peeps who work on tv that sell "realness" by asking... People who work on reality TV: What happens behind the scenes that you don't want the public knowing?
"unannounced"<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQyOC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NTk3MDY0MH0._TZkkQpCHZPskUilRTXbT-if2arcWcBat7QxfMH8yPU/img.gif?width=980" id="24972" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="2a2488d9a8b85fb0e6607e54ccf0d16d" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="270" />busting in season 1 GIF by Ash vs Evil DeadGiphy<p>I love when they show up <em>"unannounced"</em> at someone's house and there's a film crew IN THE HOUSE! </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlkjy0?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Hawkmek</a></p>
Repeat after Me....<p>I worked with someone who had been on one and he said they tell you what to say and how to answer. They also mix and match the answers. They basically film you completing a set of sentences in a controlled way and then thread the narrative they're going for. It's utter nonsense end to end. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlkq10?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">rb6k</a></p>
"Therapy"<p>Was on a kind of "documentary" years ago for British TV. The kind where the person has a problem, the TV people offer therapy, activities and fun things to solve the problem (think supersize vs superskinny) when they did the wrap up interview, the edited the hell out of the segment to get the result they wanted. To the point where they spliced audio together and made it a voice over etc.</p><p>Eg,</p><p>Original audio: This didn't solve the problem, but it's a start and I'm really optimistic. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjm09vy?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Illustrious-Tea-8920</a><span></span></p>
Authors....<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ0MC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NTg5ODIyN30.4e6yke-0JDBIyfABCFhIofrINqZ2k0rN8cC9lTfIwd0/img.gif?width=980" id="86c7d" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="36b70962da72e31b3830b782042c52e3" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="500" data-height="500" />fail seth meyers GIF by Late Night with Seth MeyersGiphy<p>I've got an old friend who writes for a reality TV show. That's right... scripts the spontaneous stuff for actors to say. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlk73b?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">refreshing_username</a></p>
Counting Cars<p>On Counting Cars. Two scruffy dudes in torn clothes and biker tattoos entering someone's garage unannounced and the homeowner is like, "Hi, how are you guys?" </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjlu1rb?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">startinearly</a><span></span></p><p>I've noticed this too. Not to mention, scruffy guys driving alongside you, asking you too pull over so they can get a better look at your car; then asking if they can drive your car. The number of antique cars with completely trusting owners is not realistic. Not to mention they buy many of these cars on the spot. I like the show enough to overlook the obvious staging. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjnaosk?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">Facelesspirit</a></p>
Let's Date?<p>A German satirist once managed to sneak an actor he hired into one of those reality TV dating shows and while the character he created already was very weird; the TV channel that produced the dating show made him completely over the top.</p><p>The whole thing is on youtube <a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mG_Fyc-nyOs" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">with english subtitles</a> even. It's brilliant. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjn0d2t?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">BerndDasBrot4Ever</a></p>
Consent<p>I acted as a lawyer for a reality TV show many years ago. They fired me when I started advising them that they needed informed consent from participants to appear. They said that was impossible, and in any event, half the participants are mentally unwell anyway. I said that just makes me even more certain you need informed consent, and in that case, make sure you have a fully qualified mental health professional sign off of the capability of the prospective participant to give informed consent.</p><p>I have not worked for any reality TV shows since. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjndbo6?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank">purrcthrowa</a><span></span></p>
So much to splice...<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ2OC9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2NTg2MTQ0Nn0.bMld-SzVBp6fIJ1kiyCObqUNFj0dReykCMkzOJHiT48/img.gif?width=980" id="c55b4" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="ece2bf369b4262c9cbf2702e4b7fa8d9" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="450" data-height="247" />f for fake film GIFGiphy<p>I have a friend who worked as an editor for reality shows a few years back. The thing I remember him telling me is that because they shoot so much footage, he can make any storyline the producers want with it. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjnab0u?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">thewhits</a><span></span></p>
For 5 Minutes....<p>I saw something about those shows where young people live in a house together, go out and get drunk and pick up randoms to take back to the house and have sex with.</p><p>Well the production companies have a duty of care to the drunk randoms, so they are taken away from the "celebs" made to sober up enough to provide consent, provide full ID and sign a waiver. </p>
Again & Again<img lazy-loadable="true" data-runner-src="https://assets.rebelmouse.io/eyJhbGciOiJIUzI1NiIsInR5cCI6IkpXVCJ9.eyJpbWFnZSI6Imh0dHBzOi8vYXNzZXRzLnJibC5tcy8yNTUwOTQ3MS9vcmlnaW4uZ2lmIiwiZXhwaXJlc19hdCI6MTY2MDQ1MjE3OH0.sfUbn-sbgzjVcveRQHyodHDH4mO57szQ21bdNnMdZfU/img.gif?width=980" id="9953b" class="rm-shortcode" data-rm-shortcode-id="50c8d3c4fe36e704cfac452b53e1b40b" data-rm-shortcode-name="rebelmouse-image" data-width="480" data-height="261" />basketball wives smh GIF by VH1Giphy<p>The retakes. Endless retakes. It's tiresome. You think filming has wrapped up but then have to do pickups. The stuff someone messed up on and there can be many. </p><p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/kz7ueh/people_who_work_on_reality_tv_what_happens_behind/gjn23kz?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3" target="_blank" rel="noopener noreferrer">Moramug</a><span></span></p>
What has been seen... cannot be unseen.
You've probably heard that before. You might even have experienced that yourself. On a light note, I walked in on a teacher of mine while they were smoking a cigarette in an empty classroom. (They'd forgotten I was going to see them for a quick meeting about a grade.) That teacher jumped out of their skin... and swore me to secrecy. I never told any higher-up.
After Redditor B_K asked the online community, "What's something you saw that you weren't definitely supposed to see?" people shared stories of their own.