Our homes are our safe spaces—our sanctuaries, even—and with that sense of security comes a general idea of the things that are and aren't okay to do in other people's homes. Well, it does for most of us, anyway.
Not everyone seems to possess that inherent knowledge of things that are Totally Not Okay to do in someone else's house, though.
Reddit user u/Themaster0fwar asked:
"What is the most disrespectful thing that someone has done in your home?"What is the most disrespectful thing that someone has done in your home?"
20. That's Just Disrespectful
Intruded in a homemade family dinner uninvited and then insulted my cooking. Didn't get a "thank you" either.
Don't get me wrong, a lot of these comments describe vandalism and theft and drunken/drug fueled assholery, but I can never ever stand for someone eating another's home cooked food and being disrespectful. It's just not ok. One of my little brother's friends would always ask for "something else" to be made. Even if it was a steak just for him, he'd want the leftover pizza or some french fries. Despite him being a relatively normal kid, we all hated him for spurning our food
19. I Like My Collection Of Random Cookware
One night the girls who lived in the apartment across the hall brought a friend with them to hang with us. As soon as she walked in she screamed "this will be hilarious. College guys always get the sh*tty, hand me down dishes from their parents!"
She walked into the kitchen and began pulling out pans and dishes and howling about how old and ratty they were. Our friends were mortified.
When they tried to talk to her she talked louder. After 30 seconds of this lunacy my roommate and I told her to leave. She threw a giant fit and called us assholes.
18. Totally Not Okay
Not "my" home but I was renting a house and the landlady kept turning up unannounced and would let herself in, and would give the key to people doing work on the house without telling us so we'd, without warning, have strangers let themselves into the house. It was a very stressful way to live.
Very stressful, and if you live in the States, also very illegal.
17. That's Not How To Be Good To Family
It was after an awful spinal surgery I went through when I was 12. They were cousins and my parents caught them trying to steal my painkillers.
I had a half-sister do that. She was staying with us for a bit, I had jaw surgery and she attempted to (maybe did? I'm not sure anymore..) Steal some pills.
The worst part is she left some on the ground where my dog could have gotten them. Thankfully that didn't happen though.
16. Wow, WTF?!
A babysitter stole my vibrator and blocked my calls. like really?
This hit home for me as someone stole mine too, when I was moving apartment. There were a few people that helped me move in so I have no idea who it was. They took it out of its pink case, zipped the case back up and left the case. I still wonder where my vibrator went ... dark times.
15. They Should Be In Trouble
My grandmother took in a family off the street who lived in their car. She lived alone, and no one was happy about it, but grandma does what grandma wants.
She goes upstairs to clean their bathroom-finds their meth lab. Calls my uncle to ask if she should call the police, because she doesn't want to "put the family into more trouble".
Yeah, She called.
14. Turnabout Is Fair Play
This reminds me of when I was probably 6, and our housemate got her kid to steal the cheque I got for my birthday from my grandparents. It was probably like $40 but a lot of money to me as a child and we didn't have a lot of money, so a lot of money to my mom too.
My mom asked the lady about it and she completely denied it. Being 6, I went into their room and found it in her purse. My $40 tyvm.
13. Popcorn Is Not Confetti
When I was in like 2nd grade, I invited this girl over and we made popcorn as a snack and not even 5 minutes later, this jerk decided it's a good idea to run all over my house throwing it everywhere. This goes on another 5 minutes while I chase her down. But the damage is done. The popcorn is in between couch cushions, under the fridge, under my bed, in my laundry basket, all over the damn floor. My mom ends up sitting us down and proceeds to lay it out on her, telling her that what she did was disrespectful and to help clean up.
She pouted and said no, saying since it wasn't her house she didn't have to clean sh*t. She continued to pout as my mom called her mom and pretty much told her to leave and to not expect to be invited back anytime soon. I haven't spoken to her in a while, but apparently she got banned from the mall for trashing a Lush store with her friend, throwing food, dumping out products, and smashing bath bombs...so I guess she hasn't changed much.
12. Poor Fishy
Back in college my roommates and I hosted a birthday party for a mutual friend at our apartment. Earlier that day we gifted her a pet goldfish because she had been talking about getting a fish.
Fast forward to later in the night. Our male friend, let's call him Mike, decided he needed to find a way to impress our other friend, who I'll call Darla. Mike tries every lame joke and pick up line on Darla and fails time and time again. Then he sees the goldfish in his tank and scoops him up in his hand. He says, "Check this out, Darla!" He then plops the fish into his mouth and swallows it alive. My roommate and I immediately rush over and start trying to make Mike puke the fish back up. Darla quickly makes for the door and leaves the party.
Sadly that fish met its doom in Mike's stomach that night. He never apologized although he did complain about severe stomach issues for several days afterwards.
TLDR; bought a fish for a friend and another friend swallowed it alive at a party to impress/flirt with someone.
11. Get Out Of My Bed
She invited a bunch of sleazy guys over, despite me asking her not to. She let them in while I was in the shower, so I did not realise they were in my house. She then took one into my housemates bedroom and locked the door (super disrespectful to my housemate who had so kindly offered that she could stay in her room as she was going to be at her boyfriends for the weekend).
When I got out of the shower one of the guys was in my bed! And I was like, "dude, get the f*ck out of my bedroom." And he refused and said my friend said he could stay there. I was very not ok with that. I physically had to push him out of my house. The next day when she sobered up, I kicked her out of my house and did not speak to her for three years.
10. Wow, That's A Whole New Low
My wife's cousin was staying at our house because he was going through marital problems. One night I woke up in the middle of the night and I heard some change rattling. He walks down the hall with my 5 year old's piggy bank. He was taking money from my daughter's piggy bank to buy beer and smokes.
9. Theft Is Always On The "Not Okay" List
When i was in cub scouts, in third grade nonetheless, my mom hosted a meeting for the scouts in my grade at school where we built birdhouses for some badge or something. while we were waiting for everyone to arrive, me and the scouts who had already arrived started playing in my backyard. One scout, let's call him N, told us he had to go to the bathroom "really bad" and left. When everyone arrives to start the project, I notice that N was sitting at the edge of the table looking down and my mom was REALLY angry, and was trying her best to suppress it. She asked me and all the other scouts if I had given N permission to go in my room. Me and all my friends said "no, he said he had to go to the bathroom really bad." This response only made my mom even more visibly angry and N ducked his head more. 5 minutes later N's mom arrives and is apologizing profusely to my mom.
Turns out N went into my room, pocketed the 20 dollars I had been saving up (I got paid 2 dollars a week for mowing the lawn as an allowance), and was stuffing my toys and video games into his backpack. My mom went upstairs to ACTUALLY use the bathroom and noticed the theft taking place and caught him red-handed. He then lied to my mom and said I gave him permission to go into my room and he was just "checking it out." But no, my mom caught him red handed, and my mom is SCARY when she's mad. In total he tried stole around $150 in game boy cartridges, pokemon cards and toys and around 3 months of allowance.
8. Why. Just...Why?
Buddy from college was traveling through town and stayed with my wife and I for the weekend. Nothing crazy, hung out and remembered our college years. A few days after he left my guest bathroom reeked. Took a bit to figure out but finally discovered an upper decker left for us. Disgusting.
...as in he sh@t in the tank? Why? After a presumably pleasant visit? Like what is the thought process here. Revenge? A sh*tty (pun intended) prank? He must have known that you would figure out he did it. Have you talked to him since?
Correct. He thought he was being funny. Our group in college would pull pranks on each other all the time (not this bad). The problem is everyone else matured, he did not. Our paths haven't crossed since he stayed with us, only a few comments in group chats. He hasn't apologized, told me to "chill, it was just a joke"... honestly, i'm done.
7. The FRIDGE?!
Constantly unplugging electronics. First it was the thermostat (she didn't like the sound the water heater made) then the wifi (the CIA was snooping on her) and finally my fridge (she was saving the environment).
6. Don't Redecorate!
Changed my bathroom mirror because they didn't like the one I had.
It was my MiL who came to visit my then boyfriend and I. We were in a rental that had a weird little bathroom that the rest of the house made up for. But I got up in the morning and went to the gym and grabbed some food to make dinner.
When I got home, I went to shower and she has taken down the bathroom mirror (which came with the rental!!!) and put up a new one that was really ugly and too small. I wrapped myself in a towel and switched it back. She asked me why I did that and I told her it wasn't my mirror and gave her the other one back
5. Were There No Gas Stations Nearby?
Friend must've seen me once put in the code for my spare key lockbox, and I came home to her IN my f*cking house (mind you, we're not close). Her excuse? She had to go to the toilet. Safe to say, I reset that sh*t and didn't invite her over anymore. Weirded me out.
4. Nosiness Gets On Everyone's Nerves
When we would host family dinners with certain cousins we would have to lock every room of the house besides the ones meant for party use, because otherwise they would go into rooms and look through drawers randomly.
Pretty minor, but definitely a pet peeve.
3. You Had One Rule
A friend from college days stayed in our house while he was looking for a job in the area.
The only house rule was: Do NOT let the cat out - he's strictly and indoor cat and never goes outdoors.
We came home one day and found the slider and screen open - our beloved cat was gone. When he saw how upset and distraught we were, his response was, "It's only a cat - no big deal!"
As I've noted here some time ago, we put this guest out right away, and it wasn't until many days later that our cat returned home (thin, but safe).
2. Poor Pooch
Tried to discipline my very old, very sick dog for jumping up on the couch after they had given the "jump up on the couch" signal to him. I had trained him to come by patting 3x on whatever surface he was invited to, and this person kept doing the pat 3x then yelling at the poor confused puppy for coming. They were trying to summon the cat and it went as well as expected.
1. Demolition Is Not Generally Part Of A Party
Had a drunk partygoer attempt to do pull ups from the planks of my old ranch style ceiling just beneath the heater vent and ended up pulling down a large portion of my ceiling.
Refused to pay for it.