It's time to talk truth.

Humans seem to do all we can to avoid that word.

Nobody wants to be embarrassed or feel weird.

But if we don't ask the hard questions to get to the truth (with finesse) we're just running on assumptions.

And assumptions are the enemy, especially in relationships.

But what a world of difference it would be if you just had a respectful conversation about all the things.

Let's try...

Redditor Batman_1267 wanted all of the men out there to share some things they've been dying to talk about, they asked:

"Men of reddit, what's something you've always wanted to ask a woman but thought it would be too embarrassing to ask them?"

I'll go first.

Ladies. Why do you hate heels? Maybe you're not practicing enough.

Now y'all...

Leakage

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"I always assumed periods were a constant stream of blood (like a cut, as another Redditor put it). Apparently this is wrong, so how does it work? Small gushes?"

billionai1

"Very very very slow leaks… slow on day one, a little heavy on the second and third day, slow to none for the next couple days… varies from person to person."

inmyelement

Roll It

"Do you really like it when men roll up their sleeves?"

Bigbird_Elephant

"Yes. Can't really tell you why. Something about the forearms. It's important to note that it's a phenomenon specific to having long sleeves that are rolled up; a shirt with three quarter sleeves does not produce the same effect. (I think it might be linked to giving the appearance that you're ready to knuckle down and work even though you aren't dressed for it. Idk.)"

LJGHunter

Let's Chat...

"What‘s the most neutral and comfortable to start a conversation (maybe at a bar), without being too shy or too aggressive/rude?"

firebullmonkey

"For me commenting on what’s going on around us. If you’ve tried the cocktails before and want to share opinions, if there’s a game on and I’m looking up at the tv, if there’s a couple on a first date nearby, whatever. The really important thing is to get a good read on if the response is polite vs engaged. If I give you a “yeah” with nothing else stop trying lol even if I smiled or whatever."

General_Organa

Basics...

"Other than the obvious (lying, cheating, rude to you or your friends)what’s the quickest way for your S.O, or someone you’re interested in, to lose your respect?"

DanMittaul

"Lack of general manners or hygiene. Please/thank you/excuse me are important. Regularly bathing, washing your hands, trimming your nails, tidy clothes, etc are important. If you don't invest time and care into these basic things, how am I to know that you will invest time and care into our relationship?"

holy__granola

Smooth...

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"How do many of you have such nice skin? I want to be silky smooth too."

I_ate_your_skin

"Your username makes this question… concerning."

Doom_Toon

How do you get skin that soft? I've tried the lotions. Not working.

With a Cracker

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"Does offering cheese really work?"

Shardnic

"Only if it's gouda."

papayaseth

The Wife Way

"If you have a wife, there is no question too embarrassing to ask."

high_dosage_of_life

"Before wife-liness, I was a nurse. We got rid of embarrassing questions right off the bat when we were discussing 'experience.' He had none in the physical relationship department, and neither did I, however, I did have to admit that I had probably seen and handled more penises than he ever had... and come to think of it, more vaginas as well, lol."

DishyPanHands

Stay Together

"What’s the deal with peeing together?"

beetus_gerulaitis

"Safety in numbers. Also we like to reapply make up or have a little gossip by ourselves, sometimes it just nice to go with someone else and continue whatever conversation you were previously having."

DI93

Be Free

"If bras give support then why does it feel good when you take them off? Would it feel good to never wear a bra?"

TinyThrowy

"Have you ever worn really tight jeans? They hold everything in place but the firm contact all day gets a bit much. Not wearing a bra if you have larger breasts can be pretty uncomfortable."

"It hurts your back (bras help a little by holding everything in centre so your gravity isn’t too funky), your breast hurt if you move too much, you get sweat under your boobs where they touch your skin. Not fun for everyone. Also it can be uncomfortable when your nipples rub against your clothes from excess movement."

Extension_Drummer_85

Listen

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"When you are really upset, how would you like your partner to respond or comfort you?"

Think8437

"Be empathetic, hold her (if she's comfortable with that), listen, and ask if she wants your advice. If she doesn't, just be a good listener and don't make her feel like she's to blame or that her feelings aren't valid."

MelanisticCrow

Postures

"How do you do the math and physics for when you pee outside? Some of my female friends took postures straight out of a yoga book and never made a mess."

LeMiaow51

"Sometimes I lean back on a rock or stump (almost in a 'crab walk' position) so that I am aimed at the ground and not my feet/pants."

BreWanKenobi

Playtime

"Do women play with their own breasts out it boredom? Like randomly squeeze them."

Regera80

"I do and it actually helped me! I was just laying in bed one day, playing with my boobs and I noticed a lump. Eventually went to the doctor and they were like, 'oh, were you doing a self exam when you found it?' And I had to be like, 'well, no…'"

"I ended up getting a biopsy and it was a fibroadenoma (benign common tumor in younger women) but I basically had to skirt around the fact that I found the lump from feeling my boobs in bed. No one ever asked directly, I just avoided being specific when they asked how I found it."

Apozerycki1

Hairy Situations

"How do you shampoo long hair? I've always had short hair, so lather and rinse is pretty easy, but with long hair I feel like it would get complicated quickly."

TheMathNut

"With shampoo you basically get used to massaging it directly on your scalp and the rest of your hair kinda rinses out along with any dirt as you wash away the shampoo. You focus on your scalp because that's where things get greasy and you don't want the bottoms of your hair to get too dry. This is why you also focus the conditioner towards the ends of your hair."

COVID_KISSES

Obsession...

"What is the obsession with murder? The whole serial killer book/podcast industry seems largely female oriented. Ironically many females I know who love this stuff also hate fake violence in fictional movies?"

Yngstr

"I’m taking notes so I don’t make the mistakes they made that got them caught."

"Honestly though, it’s a combination of the psychological aspect (why did they do it, what was going on in their head, what made them the way they are) and the forensic/investigation side of things. I also know some women who watch them in part to learn in some way how not to be the victim of crimes likes those featured."

Glowingrose

In the Books

"In a book/piece of writing, what do you think is the best way to describe a woman in a sexual context without being too crude or cliche or getting into the whole 'she breasted boobily down the stairs' thing?

"I'm a writer but I would feel WAY too awkward asking any of my girl friends this 💀 writing women characters isn't hard for me per se, you just give them goals, development and make them add to the story like anybody else. But I'm always second guessing myself when it comes to writing stuff in an intimate context."

AV8ORboi

'hot guy'

"Have heard what not to do on a date mostly but what are the top things a guy can do on a date? Without coming off as awkward or weird?"

UnKoNoWnDuDe

"Your looks will count for a little more in the beginning because I don't know you very well. But if you come across as decent, charming and confident, looks start to fade into the background."

"My husband is never going to win any 'hot guy' awards. He's a bit overweight, going grey, wears glasses and has more hair on his back than on his head. But I immediately fell in love with his personality; he's everything I've ever wanted in a man on the inside, so I honestly don't care what the outside looks like."

LJGHunter

Give it a try!

"How do you all make those little towel hats when you get out of the shower?"

mw407

"Imagine you have your towel across your back, both ends in each hand, flip you hair forward so you're bent over roughly 90°, being the towel forward so it's completely draped over your head until the edge of the towel that was touching your thighs, is now at the base of your hairline on the back of your neck, the towel is now draped over your head, grab the drape and twist it a few times, then toss it back. Give it a try! You don't even need hair to do it!"

78Carnage

Prepared

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"Does it appear weird that I have pads and stuff ready, even though I don't need any? My mother once said that would be very nice when I have people over and periods just happens. I agreed to that thought, so I have some in the bathroom."

FanStrong3311

A Leg Up

"As far as I can tell, leggings are one of the most universal/flexible pieces of clothing a woman can wear and still remain as casual as jeans, but as comfy as pjs. YET you always manage to look hella good regardless of what top you pair with leggings. What the f**k do you wear with leggings/how do you always seem to pair it correctly? (Correctly being it never looks like something you wouldn’t pair with it)."

Honorzeal

Listening, empathy and cheese. It's always more simple than we make it.

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