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Actress Jameela Jamil who stars on NBC's The Good Place says that going to the gym helps her deal with anxiety.


Unfortunately, after a recent workout, a male stranger took it upon himself to body-shame her, which did nothing to help her anxiety. Instead she was feeling judged and angry. Jamil took to Twitter to share her thoughts on people who think it is okay to give their unsolicited opinion about other people's bodies. Hint: Don't.

She said in part as she recalled the story:

He decided to tell me without prompt that he's seen me around and that he always thinks, 'Oh what a shame. She could look so amazing,' and there's so many different things I could do to improve my body. So he essentially walked up to me and body-shamed me in the middle of the gym.

As a word of advice she continued:

Don't do that. Don't walk up to someone and impose your belief of what you think they should look like onto them. Don't do that to women, don't do that to men, don't do that to anyone ever.


As a personal note to the man, Jamil added:

To that man… don't walk up to a woman ever again and say anything like that. I don't need your advice. I don't want your advice. I didn't ask you for your advice as to whether or not you think i'm good looking enough. Just f—k off.

Jamil's message struck a chord with many.



People can be truly awful!






In an essay on Huffington Post, Jamil writes:

This is likely what makes exercise feel like a punishment to so many. They are doing it for results that take such a long time to see. Growing muscle and losing fat takes a lot of time and patience. When I go into the gym just expecting a rush of endorphins, a high and a release, I feel INSTANT GRATIFICATION and pride for doing something good for myself. Fabulous. What more do I need? If my bottom perks up a little, then that's lovely. But if I'm not waiting for that, and just exercising for me, then it can only be a welcomed surprise, without being what is driving me.
Shame is rarely a driving force towards good. For most of my life, I've only seen it lead people to eating too much or too little, and moving too much or too little. It rarely invites balance and well-being into someone's life.

As a parting shot, Jamil threw this tweet to the man.

Unless you are speaking about your own body, keep the lips zipped.

H/T: People, Elite Daliy

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