Men want men to know that having and showing respect is something vital for all of us. Always. There is no reason to act a fool to impress others or, just in general. Most of the time women will speak up about men's behavior first and they're told they are being hysterical. But other men have somethings to share about what behavior constitutes a fool and being an actual man.
Redditor u/JumboMoonz wanted all the gents out there to speak up to other gents by asking.... Guys of Reddit, What is something that you absolutely cannot respect another guy for doing ?
Not the testies...
Hitting another man's testicles. SonOfTyrone
Unless it's in self defense under threat of death or serious injury. finlshkd
Not Cute!
Bragging about being able to drive under the influence, or on the phone.
Like what am I meant to say, 'congratulations, you needlessly put others at risk to boost your own ego, props to you, fool!' BinnsyTheSkeptic
Pee Right.
Peeing in a urinal with your pants all the way down. aioli_man
And pulling your shirt up above your chest too. steingrrrl
Out of curiosity.....
Out of curiosity since I saw some comments about cheating and bad behavior towards women, if a guy you know, maybe even consider him a friend or an acquaintance was playing multiple women, leading them on and lying to them, would you say something to any of the women or would you let the women find out eventually themselves because it's none of your business? ShadowBoxerBabe
"Guys only want one thing"
Dudes that brag about skating out as soon as they get a girl pregnant. Like why have sex unprotected if you don't want kids with her. Also it continues the "Guys only want one thing". OakyGrim
Just Yuck!
Cheating on their SO. That's real trashy and they expect you to not care that much just because you're friends. Like no dude. Gross. orion109
Drunk you is still a a part of you.....
Getting handsy on alcohol. Be able to control yourself or stay damn sober fool! Quasar_One
Even worse. Is feeling fine the next day because "you were drunk". That's not a damn excuse. Even when I sobered up the next day, I'd be embarrassed by stupid stuff I'd said and done. Drunk you is still a a part of you. dmkicksballs13
Talk Honest Bro.
When a dude talks down about his girlfriend when she's not around. Constantly joking about what a drag she is or like, how he had to 'break out of the house' to be there or something. Just makes them sound like they straight up don't like her, it's really gross. Jackielegs93
Be kind for Service...
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Being mean to a waiter, or anyone in the service industry while going out. It's literally so low, and makes me so mad. bearface7771
And it is always done by dudes who have never worked a customer service job before. They work for their daddy's construction business and think that makes them an expert in how things should work. Meanwhile if they had to work a single day as a server they would cry and rage quit. Comprehensive-Olive
Grow Up.
Seeking physical violence because you're unable to deal with conflict in other ways. Majorly pathetic. Grow up. mcarlini
Being a fool. Using violence against people when it's not self-defense. This applies to people in general. I don't have anything gender specific as I don't believe in one gender having the right to do things that the other gender wouldn't be allowed to. Blunders4life
Where Dogs Lie....
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A woman I used to work with was sleeping with a married man who didn't want to leave his wife because she was pregnant. He would come in to our place of work with his wife sometimes, but when he would come in alone he would try to be cool with the staff because he was "with" our coworker but all I could think about is what a prick he was. Dr_The_Captain
Do No Harm.
Being abusive especially to children. ufjhfhcc
And animals. When I saw my ex kick his dog that peed in the house, I started forming my escape. He never even bothered to train the dog, so shouldn't have reacted that way when the dog had no idea that what he did was even wrong. jessiker
Playing dirty in the dating game......
Make deliberate attempts to discredit other male friends to secure their chance with a female in the social circle. Playing dirty in the dating game essentially. I find it absolutely disgusting. BlueKat25
My girlfriend (now wife) and I met up with my sister and her friend for drinks a few years back. While there a guy walked up to our high top and immediately started talking crap to me in an attempt to woo the three women. I mean just total fool comments.
Little did he know he had just walked into a lioness' den and I just sat back and watched him wilt under the three headed onslaught of some of the most assertive women I know. Vanderwoolf
No XXX!
Leaking his gf nude as a revenge after breaking up with her. RobertDentist
One of my exes did this. He spread it around to allllll my previous coworkers, since he worked where I used to. Luckily I never included my face in any of my nudes. After him, I'll never take photos like that again. It still makes me feel sick that he has those, and that unsavory sexist pigs at my old workplace probably have them too. HellyHailey
No Respect.
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Going after another dude's girl despite knowing their relationship and how happy they are in it. McDazzler
Shame on YOU!
Sharing intimate sexual details about his girlfriend/hook-ups in a pathetic attempt to impress me. exportkaffe
Just that kind of shaming in general, it says more about the one dishing it than the one being made fun of.
Okay so you hated their body in this case something they couldn't control and you were with them and now you're... making fun of them? What are we doing here? Get over them and grow up jeez, I have one ex I really do not like and I still don't body shame like that. Monteze
Be Nice.
Being mean to impress a girl, there is this one dude who is a real damn fool if that girl is around, no matter what lessons we have etc. He doesn't have a GF. AlmdudlerKing
They do it to impress their male friends too. JayPunker
Be Unhooked....
Getting hung up on a girl clearly not interested in them. I'm not talking about in like high school where you have no clue what you're doing anyway. I'm talking about full grown adults obsessing with coworkers and going full nice guy. Along those lines, guys who get upset when attractive girls aren't attracted to them when they put zero effort into themselves. biggman57
Shut Up!
Cat calling....
Drives me crazy. My partner will often tell me about people yelling out of their cars and following her for blocks while on her walk home. We have since got her some pepper spray in case things get too out of control, but I just wish I could do something about it. JohnDough39
Bedroom Secrets.
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Cheating or bragging about all the women you bed. There's no bro code when it comes to that crap, I'm not in the business of being involved with someone who couldn't care less to ruin or embarrass people. s_team7
Wanna jump off the bandwagon? Then keep reading!
U/lit3rallyuseless asked: What doesn't deserve the hate it gets?
Film and media are probably the biggest contender for being hated on randomly. It may seem harmless, but not always deserved.
Actors are people too!
Actors who played characters that people didn't like.
Really if you hated the character then the actor did a good job (assuming that was the role).
The best cartoons.
nice day summer GIF by PBS KIDSGiphyChild cartoons. Some are actually really good, even as an adult.
I feel like watching cartoons aimed at generally a younger audience allows for you to be reminded of some life lessons, I know I forget some things, or didn't realise others, or it at least partially renews my awareness of something I should still like or appreciate
This doesn't deserve awards, it's just my opinion that is apparently shared by many.
This man did nothing wrong.
Guy Fieri, he literally is the nicest person in the world but since he looks like he was electrocuted by mountain dew people want to saw his head off.
Even before that, I was witness to his other charitable work. A few years back, Santa Rosa was hit by some terrible fires and he showed up at a few shelters and personally cooked up and served some killer buffet food. No cameras, no massive team of PR, just a dude with an assistant to keep him on schedule to hit up other shelters in the area. Guy Fieri legit earned a lot of respect in my book for that.
You know who DEFINITELY doesn’t deserve hate? Animals. They’re just living their best lives, and need to be left alone.
The best cats.
Black cats.
We got a black cat for the first time last year. I've since formulated the theory that black cats might get some of their reputation from the fact that people can't see them well in the dark and so they seemingly appear out of nowhere and they might be instinctually cautious because they know people have a tendency to kick them while walking in the dark. Our black cat is the sweetest cat I've ever known.
They get a bad rep.
Discovery Sharks GIF by Shark WeekGiphySharks. They are beautiful, complex creatures, deserving of respect and, like any wild animal should be left alone in their natural habitat, but they get this reputation as vicious bloodthirsty monsters. This is only because every shark attack is news, and only then because they are so rare. More people are killed EVERY DAY by mosquitoes than sharks kill in a year.
Any apex predator that has remained evolutionarily unchanged for hundreds of millions of years, whose existance predates TREES, is deserving or our respect and admiration. Shine on, you crazy cartlaginous fish, shine on.
So cute too!
Opossums. They're neat little critters. They eat tons of ticks that carry Lyme disease, (mostly) don't carry rabies because their body temp is too low, and they're the only marsupial native to North America! They get a bad rap because their first defense is to hiss and bare teeth, but failing that, they just play dead.
If you don't have the predisposition to hate them, you'll find they're pretty cute too.
E: this is about /opossums/, the north American species.
Kiwis, I feel for you, but this comment isn't about your possums.
Hating on other people for just living their lives also seems to be a big contender for things that don’t deserve to be hated on.
This is so true.
Unemployed people. A lot of people genuinely are looking for work and did not want to lose their last job/it was beyond their control (like a layoff) but they get so much hate and called lazy by most people. I know too many unemployed people that are actually really trying hard. They definitely aren't lazy. (Not saying lazy unemployed people don't exist, but to be fair, so do lazy employed people too lol)
Leave the weather man alone!
Fox Raining GIF by Family GuyGiphyMeteorologists. They try their best to predict the weather based on patterns, models, and data. They're not perfect because predicting the weather is insanely difficult. When they get it wrong, I think we should go easy on them. It was probably an outlier result almost no one could have foreseen.
I've seen people get angry over the meteorologists for getting it right. Like they control the weather - it is their fault we are having rain, that kind of BS. Never made sense to me, but hey, I have plenty of relatives I clashed with growing up.
Please stop being d*cks to these people.
Customer service associates.
I hate when customers think that I, the minimum wage person forced to sit there and listen to them yell, am personally responsible for every policy they disagree with. Like, ma'am, if I had that much power and influence, I wouldn't be sitting here on a Saturday evening serving you.
Wholesome and necessary.
People don't deserve hate they give themselves when they are not doing too good at the moment.
I'm in a weird place and I didn't know I needed to read this. Thanks buddy.
If you haven't heard it from anyone else today, I'm proud of you.
It seems like people hate on things simply because they think they're meant to hate them. But you can always be the change and make an effort to stop being an a**hole about certain things.
No matter what though, sometimes haters gonna hate