Men want men to know that having and showing respect is something vital for all of us. Always. There is no reason to act a fool to impress others or, just in general. Most of the time women will speak up about men's behavior first and they're told they are being hysterical. But other men have somethings to share about what behavior constitutes a fool and being an actual man.
Redditor u/JumboMoonz wanted all the gents out there to speak up to other gents by asking.... Guys of Reddit, What is something that you absolutely cannot respect another guy for doing ?
Not the testies...
Hitting another man's testicles. SonOfTyrone
Unless it's in self defense under threat of death or serious injury. finlshkd
Not Cute!
Bragging about being able to drive under the influence, or on the phone.
Like what am I meant to say, 'congratulations, you needlessly put others at risk to boost your own ego, props to you, fool!' BinnsyTheSkeptic
Pee Right.
Peeing in a urinal with your pants all the way down. aioli_man
And pulling your shirt up above your chest too. steingrrrl
Out of curiosity.....
Out of curiosity since I saw some comments about cheating and bad behavior towards women, if a guy you know, maybe even consider him a friend or an acquaintance was playing multiple women, leading them on and lying to them, would you say something to any of the women or would you let the women find out eventually themselves because it's none of your business? ShadowBoxerBabe
"Guys only want one thing"
Dudes that brag about skating out as soon as they get a girl pregnant. Like why have sex unprotected if you don't want kids with her. Also it continues the "Guys only want one thing". OakyGrim
Just Yuck!
Cheating on their SO. That's real trashy and they expect you to not care that much just because you're friends. Like no dude. Gross. orion109
Drunk you is still a a part of you.....
Getting handsy on alcohol. Be able to control yourself or stay damn sober fool! Quasar_One
Even worse. Is feeling fine the next day because "you were drunk". That's not a damn excuse. Even when I sobered up the next day, I'd be embarrassed by stupid stuff I'd said and done. Drunk you is still a a part of you. dmkicksballs13
Talk Honest Bro.
When a dude talks down about his girlfriend when she's not around. Constantly joking about what a drag she is or like, how he had to 'break out of the house' to be there or something. Just makes them sound like they straight up don't like her, it's really gross. Jackielegs93
Be kind for Service...
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Being mean to a waiter, or anyone in the service industry while going out. It's literally so low, and makes me so mad. bearface7771
And it is always done by dudes who have never worked a customer service job before. They work for their daddy's construction business and think that makes them an expert in how things should work. Meanwhile if they had to work a single day as a server they would cry and rage quit. Comprehensive-Olive
Grow Up.
Seeking physical violence because you're unable to deal with conflict in other ways. Majorly pathetic. Grow up. mcarlini
Being a fool. Using violence against people when it's not self-defense. This applies to people in general. I don't have anything gender specific as I don't believe in one gender having the right to do things that the other gender wouldn't be allowed to. Blunders4life
Where Dogs Lie....
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A woman I used to work with was sleeping with a married man who didn't want to leave his wife because she was pregnant. He would come in to our place of work with his wife sometimes, but when he would come in alone he would try to be cool with the staff because he was "with" our coworker but all I could think about is what a prick he was. Dr_The_Captain
Do No Harm.
Being abusive especially to children. ufjhfhcc
And animals. When I saw my ex kick his dog that peed in the house, I started forming my escape. He never even bothered to train the dog, so shouldn't have reacted that way when the dog had no idea that what he did was even wrong. jessiker
Playing dirty in the dating game......
Make deliberate attempts to discredit other male friends to secure their chance with a female in the social circle. Playing dirty in the dating game essentially. I find it absolutely disgusting. BlueKat25
My girlfriend (now wife) and I met up with my sister and her friend for drinks a few years back. While there a guy walked up to our high top and immediately started talking crap to me in an attempt to woo the three women. I mean just total fool comments.
Little did he know he had just walked into a lioness' den and I just sat back and watched him wilt under the three headed onslaught of some of the most assertive women I know. Vanderwoolf
No XXX!
Leaking his gf nude as a revenge after breaking up with her. RobertDentist
One of my exes did this. He spread it around to allllll my previous coworkers, since he worked where I used to. Luckily I never included my face in any of my nudes. After him, I'll never take photos like that again. It still makes me feel sick that he has those, and that unsavory sexist pigs at my old workplace probably have them too. HellyHailey
No Respect.
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Going after another dude's girl despite knowing their relationship and how happy they are in it. McDazzler
Shame on YOU!
Sharing intimate sexual details about his girlfriend/hook-ups in a pathetic attempt to impress me. exportkaffe
Just that kind of shaming in general, it says more about the one dishing it than the one being made fun of.
Okay so you hated their body in this case something they couldn't control and you were with them and now you're... making fun of them? What are we doing here? Get over them and grow up jeez, I have one ex I really do not like and I still don't body shame like that. Monteze
Be Nice.
Being mean to impress a girl, there is this one dude who is a real damn fool if that girl is around, no matter what lessons we have etc. He doesn't have a GF. AlmdudlerKing
They do it to impress their male friends too. JayPunker
Be Unhooked....
Getting hung up on a girl clearly not interested in them. I'm not talking about in like high school where you have no clue what you're doing anyway. I'm talking about full grown adults obsessing with coworkers and going full nice guy. Along those lines, guys who get upset when attractive girls aren't attracted to them when they put zero effort into themselves. biggman57
Shut Up!
Cat calling....
Drives me crazy. My partner will often tell me about people yelling out of their cars and following her for blocks while on her walk home. We have since got her some pepper spray in case things get too out of control, but I just wish I could do something about it. JohnDough39
Bedroom Secrets.
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Cheating or bragging about all the women you bed. There's no bro code when it comes to that crap, I'm not in the business of being involved with someone who couldn't care less to ruin or embarrass people. s_team7
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I can't think of anything hilarious at the moment. Make us LOL.
Lady
Shocked Oh No GIF by Yêu LuGiphy"I have this friend, love him to bits, but his wife has a tendency of just constantly showing everyone pictures of their son at every social event. At the start it was understandable, but now I'm just like 'Lady, it's been two years; they're not going to find him.'"
UnoriginalUse
at 9am...
"Not the most morbid but I love Anthony Jeselnik’s story about his neighbor who has Alzheimer’s. 'One of my next door neighbors is a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s. And every single morning at 9am he knocks on my door and asks me if I have seen his wife.'"
"'Which means that every single morning at 9am I have to explain to a 90 year old man suffering from Alzheimer’s that his wife has been dead for quite some time. Now I’ve thought about moving. I have thought about just not answering my door in the morning. But to be honest, it’s worth it… just to see the smile on his face.”
dreagan021
Comedy?
"Why can't orphans play baseball? They don't know where home is."
GW2RNGR
"Why can't orphans play tennis? They get confused when they hear love."
JayDub506
People who make comedy are evil. LOL.
The Darkness
That 70S Show Reaction GIF by LaffGiphy"Dark humor is like food; not everyone gets it."
storm_the_castle
God Laughs?
"A Holocaust survivor dies and goes to heaven, where she meets God. To break the tension she tells God a joke about the Holocaust, but God doesn’t laugh. The lady shrugs and says 'I guess you had to be there.'"
“'I guess you had to be there' is a common expression used when someone doesn’t laugh at a joke. It means that the comedy may not translate without the context of the situation."
"In this case the Holocaust survivor is saying it, meaning that during the Holocaust God was nowhere to be found. It’s not really a joke about the Holocaust, but the absurdity of belief in a benevolent God. Hilarious right?"
semimillennial
Oh Baby
"How many dead babies does it take to fix a light bulb? More than 3 cause my garage is still dark."
sirnibs3
I don't know whether to laugh or cry. Because I don't know what it says about us as people if we laugh. Oye.
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Curious to hear from strangers online, Redditor Liam_Tang asked:
"People who've divorced, aside from adultery, what were the irreconcilable differences that ended the marriage?"
You think you know a person when you walk down the aisle.
These Redditors were in for a rude awakening.
Pet Neglect
"My wife divorced her ex for many reasons, but the final straw was when she went out of town for a few days, and when she got back he had not fed or given water to the dog. The dog lived a long and happy life after that."
– StrangeCrimes
Obsessed With A Crush
"Not me, but I had an old coworker that divorced his wife for spending their entire savings on candy crush and games of the same type."
– Hexis40
Compatibility Musts
"ITT: Intimacy (sex/romance), beliefs (religion/spirituality/politics), kids, and I haven’t seen it yet but it’s coming: finances."
"The big four. You REALLY need to discuss these things in detail BEFORE getting married."
– rabbiskittles
Physical violence is a legit reason for people to peace out of a relationship.
The Flattening
"She threatened to hit me with a hammer."
– michaelrohansmith
Hitting The Bottle
"She became an abusive alcoholic. It was sad but I had to get out."
– diegojones4
Emotional pain is too damaging to recover from.
Truth Hurts
"She told me as we stood in front of the judge ending our 7 year marriage, 'I never loved you, I just wanted kids.'"
– Pinch_Dogs
Can't Fix Angry
"She was beautiful/smart but an angry angry person. I thought I could be sweet to her and 'fix' that. Heh. She kicked the crap out of me emotionally. Wife II has been a walk in the roses for 32 years now :)"
– lowlandr
A change of heart is worthless if comes too late.
"We Could've Had A Nice Marriage
"He could not understand that my wants and needs were as important as his wants and needs. We tried to make it work for 7 years. During that time, for things that were really important to me, I tried explaining logically, asking nicely, begging, crying, yelling, passive aggressiveness... cycled back through all of these options multiple times."
"(If I knew something was important to him, I would do that. For example, he was really into sports, so I went to all his events, even though that is not at all my thing.) When I finally threw up my hands and told him it was time to get a divorce, he suddenly panicked and said 'What can I do? Do you want me to do half the chores? I'll do it! Do you want me to get a job? I'll do it! Do you want me to buy you presents for your birthday? I'll do it!'"
"So, in other words, he could have been doing that all along, but just couldn't be bothered. That made me so angry. We could have had a nice marriage that we both enjoyed, but no, by the time he saw the light, that ship had sailed."
"We are both happily remarried now (to different people) and I joke that his new wife owes me a thank you note. It was his experience with me that taught him to listen to her and take her needs seriously."
– Bluebird-True
"What Can I Do?"
"My ex was exactly like this. I didn't marry him but when I told him let's break up, he went all like, what can I do? Let's get engaged, let's look at houses, etc. Basically all the pre-marriage topics that we should be discussing about after being together for 7 years."
"I got so angry and straight up told him it's too late... I don't need you anymore."
– gudetarako
As much as a couple wants to stay together, unforeseen circumstances can eventually tear people apart.
Very few people can maintain healthy long-distance relationships.
When a new job opportunity takes a significant other away, would you begrudge them for wanting a better position to earn more money? Or is it better for them to reluctantly turn down the opportunity so they could stay with you? Do either scenarios breed resentment?
These were questions I've often asked myself with past relationships, and my answers varied depending on the person I was with.
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