Sure there are plenty of things in life that are cool and sexy. We can't help but b e drawn to certain things that we think are hip or will make us look better in the eyes of the world. Sometimes it's okay to indulge in what's trendy but we really need to take a step back and look at the things and the people we are putting on a pedestal. More often than not we're caught up in the fantasy and the real life effect is toxic.

Redditor u/uh_vika wanted everyone to get smart about a few things in life by asking.... What is something people need to stop romanticizing?


Practice Makes Perfect....

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First time sex. sometimes it doesn't go well, and that is ok. deathiswaitingforme

This is true. For some people it doesn't. For me it did so much I had to stop, which led to him saying we were "basically still virgins" later and making me realize I made a very poor choice for my first. People need to understand that the first time can be like sitting on a knife or completely fine, or anywhere in between. littlekellilee

Hit Snooze....

Lack of sleep. hydrofeuille

Yeah. The aviation industry and Air Forces around the world mandate crew rest time because people were dying from accidents caused at least partly by lack of sleep, but some people make it a point of pride to drive an unsafe amount of hours without rest. judgingyouquietly

Disease is NOT funny....

Bipolar Disorder is not chic. ogrefoot87

This this this this this. Having out of control emotions, both good and bad, is torturous. You know they're not realistic but you can't help it. Feeling empty and hopeless isn't glamorous. Being manic and hyperactive isn't fun. It's draining. It's awful, and the havoc makes the people around you miserable too.

Not. Fun. lunayoshi

You're just plain annoying..... 

Being OCD... there's a difference between being "neat and particular and a clean freak," and having crippling/unwanted thoughts, behaviors and actions. In one case you're just extremely anal. The other, more serious case, you have a genuine mental health diagnosis. ericasin

How much for the divorce?

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Ridiculously expensive weddings. Average cost of a wedding in my state is around $60,000. A lot of people take out loans and debt for one day of living way outside their means. jonny970

Working to Death! 

Living those "overly stressed lifestyles." Especially in college. Congratulations on your pulling the sixth full-nighter to cram even more for your finals, but I'd rather get a decent night's sleep and study with a clear brain. to_the_tenth_power

It's not Love! 

Abusive relationships. If you're constantly arguing about anything and everything, calling each other names, causing drama for the sake of it, or guilt tripping each other to do what you want then you're not good together. Both or only one of you doing this is not okay and not cute. It's abuse.

Also, mental illness and faking it for attention. Cyanide_Kitty_101

Not so Sexy afterall... 

Falling in love with a bad boy and hoping he'll change his ways for you. arttyfidas

It's the equivalent of every guy who thinks he can make some totally uninterested woman fall in love with him. DConstructed

Not a love connection...

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Serial Killers. It's important to educate people about them, but the people who talk about wanting to f**k them online are crazy. pimpmywalrus

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Child beauty pageants. Wrong_Answer_Willie

Children dressing up like adults, in general.

Back in 2015, there was a 10 year old girl who was dressed up in sleek dresses and heavy makeup with lots of mascara, and was posed very sexually for Vogue magazine. She had her hair up, wore stiletto heels, and lots of flashy diamond jewelry. If you look it up, she looks like a 20-something year old woman.

And now there's those two 11 year old boys doing drag, one of them stripping in bars and in parades, and posing with convicted felons. The other one did a photo shoot posing nude with an adult queen. It disturbs me that everyone pretends these literal children are adults. They're not adults. JackEaston

Out of Tune. 

Drug abuse as a way to deal with mental health in rap. 7evin7

As an alcoholic alcoholism 100% should not be romanticized. That said, full blown insomnia is absolutely hellish and I do sympathize with those so desperate to get some kind of sleep, even the alcohol induced shitty kind, that they turn to drink. superfurrykylos

Memories....

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I've learnt that Nostalgia is toxic. You only remember the good parts. You forget why you chose to get out. amitnagpal1985

Is there an antonym for nostalgia? Not for being positive about the future, but for only remembering bad stuff? UnculturedLout

Objection! 

Don't romanticize toxic relationships. Or relationships of any kind that don't benefit either of the parties. Both people in a relationship need to be comfortable and happy with one another— otherwise it's a s**t show. Shyn_exe

Just Sad. 

Depression and suicide. Its not charming, its not poetic. It sucks and is not cool. Danni_dude23

There is this secret on "post secret" where a teacher wrote a poem that starts with "f**k the poets of the past, my friend. There are no beautiful suicides. Just cold corpses with crap in their pants and the end of all gifts." These lines need to be read by anyone who thinks Suicide is in any way a cool thing or a glamorous thing. BetsyZZZ

Be Alone. 

Being overly busy/committing to everything someone asks for.

People who have things/activities every night and weekend stress me out.

Be at peace, just learn to be at peace. hisspaceprincess

Rocky is not a life goal. 

Fighting... it's not cool getting almost killed and left with several inner bleedings. JonathanTheZero

This. Everyone acts like a concussion is a normal thing, and shouldn't be taken seriously. My best friend hit her head a week ago. When she woke up, she asked who I was. I'm not sure she'll ever get her memories back fully, and her teachers don't seem to believe her, because it's "just" a concussion. myriidabit

You're Mine! 

Possessive behavior.

No, it's not cute when your SO gets jealous because of everyone that looks at you; it's fricking sick. I mean, honestly, if you don't trust me enough to know I would not cheat on you we should see other people. goldfishhate

Stay Calm. 

Anxiety. I'm sure someone else has already said this but it can be said again. People on the internet seem to think it's some kind of "trend" to have anxiety and panic attacks and they throw terms around like it's nothing. Anxiety isn't a joke and it isn't something people should claim to have without any reason other than that they feel stressed out. (Also, I totally understand that there are plenty of people on the internet who really do have anxiety, but I've seen my fair share of people who are very clearly faking it). shiinymoth

Answer the Call...

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WAR! caler733

I have seen so many advertisements for the US military lately. They all look like Call of Duty commercials. flpacsnr

Love Stinks. 

Affairs. Advice37

Which form the plot of half of the romantic comedies/dramas in Hollywood it seems, but it's ok, because the protagonist's boyfriend totally wasn't right for her, and the guy that she cheated with is her true love... ugh. Eshlau

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