People Explain Which Significant Event Marks A 'Before' And 'After' In Their Lives

There are always turning points.

Before and after is a serious part of life.

We change in these moments.

From one phase to the next.


Redditor CantStalkMeNowLmao wanted to discuss the moments in life when the massive change happened.

They asked:

"What event divided your life into 'before' and 'after?'"

My life is all about weight.

The gaining and the losing.

It's all before and after sizes.

Happy Occasions?

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"Event #1 - getting married. Event #2 - getting divorced."

lukrog33

"I am trying to figure out which one of these I would go with if I could only have one."

htownlifer

The Worst

"Death of my dad! I had to grow up so much faster due to court fights against my mother. I now don't speak to her so I'm pretty much parentless. I will always encourage people to have their will up to date because death brings out the worst in people."

portlover91

Wild

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"I fell on my a** and broke 2 vertebrae."

"Lost 80 pounds (? 40 kg) and changed my job."

"Life was wild."

Mysterious-Data-8307

Barbie butt

"I'm sure most people will say something like: marriage or birth of their kids. For me, it was having my anus removed."

"I live with Crohn's disease, which is where the body starts attacking your intestines. Mine was so bad that the only option was removing all the afflicted parts, where were the anus and rectum."

"So first the surgeons re-route the intestines to a surgically made opening on the abdomen. This is called an ostomy.
Then the diseased parts are removed, including the sphincter muscles of the rectum. Finally, everything is stitched up. It's often called a 'Barbie butt' surgery because the patient ends up with a backside that looks like a Barbie doll."

"Minute_Cartoonist509

Necessary

"Rehab. About 6 years ago I moved a few hours away from my hometown. I stopped talking to everyone I used to associate with, I changed my phone number, I quit social media. It’s nice being sober but when I quit drugs I found I have bad depression, so now I just sit in my apartment all day on days I don’t work. I don’t have any friends or anyone to talk to. But at least I’m not spending 100% of my time and money trying to get heroin or meth."

blitherblather425

So many endings and beginnings...

Different country

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"Moving to a different country for me. My whole life changed. Different country, moved in with a partner, different job, different language... Would I do it again? No, probably not. Would I move back? No."

Both_Manufacturer311

The End

"My father's death. He died suddenly, and it turned our lives upside down. I wasn't a child, I was 20, but I still wasn't ready to lose a parent, let alone without warning."

"Plus, my grieving process wasn't exactly healthy in its beginning, so a lot of the repercussions of that are still at play to this day. Yes, I did go to therapy, and it did wonders, but it can't undo the consequences of my actions back when my father's passing was recent. I lost friends, I lost time in university, I effed my body up."

Interesting-Issue475

Found my feet

"Mum and dad dying of cancer within six months, we had to sell our childhood home and my sister married an abusive guy who only hung around long enough to spend her money. I was lucky I was taken in by my aunt until I found my feet but could easily have ended up homeless."

New-Outlandishness28

That Day

"Birth of my daughter. I have trouble remembering a time before her, and she's only 15. Not trouble remembering stuff events before her, but in my head with old memories I'm like 'let's see, how old was she when that happened?'"

Eye_Doc_Photog

"The part that is terrifying though (for me anyways), is how much slower life was before my daughter. Just way less happened in those years so they felt like they just stretched on and on. Now I’ll jolt upright in the middle of the day at like “Holy s**t she was born yesterday but also six years ago.”

SeaTie

I'm Out

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"I moved from my hometown to Los Angeles to get into the film industry. I didn't ever really make it in film, but that decision to move might have been the first big change in my life that wasn't approved by my parents."

Snoo-35252

Grief

"The deaths of my older brother & my mom within two years of each other. I was really close to both if them now my life is permanently changed I just see the world differently."

AltruisticRule6711

Dropping Out

"Dropping out of university."

"I was a traumatized, depressed, and anxious young person who couldn't see a life that didn't involve completing a degree, and I was drowning. Letting go of that future was terrifying, but it had been dragging me down for years at this point."

"The whole world opened up for me. My "after" has been hard work, but I love it."

Strong-Usual6131

Against My Parents' Wishes

"At the age of twenty, I went against my parents' wishes and abandoned my study of physics for a degree in the performing arts. My father, an engineer, (as are all my brothers) didn't speak to me for two years."

"Recently retired from a 45 year career as a property master, first for live theatre, then for television, film, and eventually blockbuster-level features. I've been asked by some of the most creative people on the planet, whose names are household words, to help them make movies in some of the most beautiful, desolate and challenging environments to be found. Loved nearly every minute of it."

"That one moment of decision changed me from a dutiful, manipulable and obedient child into a fully-functioning, independent adult."

theartfulcodger

Murder

"My grandfather murdered his wife when I was like 10. So, that."

giveupbee

Life changes every second. Be ready....

Do you have similar before and afters to share? Let us know in the comments below.

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