Men and women who are subjected to creepy or disturbing behavior from their dates or long-term partners often don't come forward because of the stigma. Men in particular are told to "be men" and just move on, but that's easier said than done.
After Redditor Kangheh4533 asked, "Men of Reddit: what's the most creepiest thing a woman has ever done to you?" the men of the men of the community shared their stories.
Warning: Sensitive content ahead.
"In a rage..."
In a rage, in the middle of the argument she took my fish out of the aquarium and threatened to step on it.
I saved the little guy. It was a beta if you want to know.
"She was right."
Cut off all of her pubes. Put them in between layers of scotch tape. Crammed them in an envelope with a pair of her used panties and put the envelope under my windshield wiper.
There was a note. Read something like, "I know we can't be together, but now you'll always remember me."
She was right.
"The woman stalked my sister..."
I had an ex-girlfriend stalk me for 5 years. I had a restraining order against her that included my grandparents (she had been bothering them) and my parents, but I didn't think to include my sister because she lived in a different city.
This woman stalked my sister and ended up approaching her at a music festival. She was wearing (this is so insane) one of those hats that has fake dreadlocks attached to it, and she was trying to pretend to be a stranger and get information from my sister. Now, keep in mind 1) She was white AF, 2) That was the only thing she did to "disguise" herself, and 3) MY SISTER KNEW HER ALREADY.
It would be hilarious if not for the years of harassment and inconvenience she caused me. Every time I would move, she would send me something in the mail to let me know she had my address. One time it was a box with a flannel shirt, a half empty bottle of cologne, a broken toy axe, a bundle of pubic hair, and an 11-page letter written in crayon. She was crazy.
"I woke up..."
Met a girl at a bar and we ended up back at her place. We did the deed and fell asleep. She seemed normal all night, and I saw no red flags at all. I definitely would have dated her again, until she went crazy.
I woke up around 5am and started getting dressed to leave. I had to get home and get ready for work.
She woke up while I was dressing and totally freaked out. She was screaming, angrily "YOU CAN'T LEAVE!!" I explained I needed to go to work, and that I'd call her later. She was having none of that.
Then she attacked. I literally had to physically fight my way out of her apartment, with a few scratches on my arm for souvenirs.
I have no idea what her deal was, and I never went back to the bar I met her in.
"I met this girl..."
I met this girl when I was out one night. She was nice, seemed normal. Went to her house and there was pictures of me around her mirror.
"I dumped my ex..."
I dumped my ex about 9 years ago and she pulled up outside my back door and held the horn down blocking the road for literally 30 minutes straight.
I got in the shower and left via the front door and went to a friend's party. She could have been there for hours because she was still going when I left.
"I finally calmed her down..."
Once dated a girl, ended up sharing an apartment. After living together for a month I woke up to her staring at me absolutely livid. Naturally I asked her what the deal was, she said "I had a dream that you were messing around with your ex, and I've been searching for reasons not to cut your manhood off".
I finally calmed her down and she left to work. I never collected my belongings so fast in my life. Never looked back.
"The day we were supposed to meet..."
Met a girl at a party, we flirted, than we ended up in my bedroom (this was in my appartment). Heavy make out, I suggest having sex, she declines. Heavier making out (basically including anything that's not intercourse), I suggest having sex again, she declines. Fair enough. We stop the making out and plan to see each other again.
The day we were supposed to meet, she stood me up (I had cooked and it was already time to meet). She told me that she doesn't want to see me again because I wasn't pushy enough, she liked men who were less soft and gentle??? She basically told me that when she said no, I shouldn't have listened?!?!
"Let her know I wasn't interested..."
My one and only Tinder date.
Turned out she had signed her divorce papers that day.
On the date she laid out her 1-year plan for us to date and get married.
Let her know I wasn't interested in a second date.
She thanked me for my opinion and declined not having a second date.
Very luckily I hadn't been able to meet her at my house at the start of the date like she'd suggested and we had to meet someplace neutral. I don't like to think what would have happened if she'd known where I lived.
Considering that I'm not attractive or rich or otherwise someone women are usually interested in this was a very weird situation. It was just a "Hi, I don't know anything about you, but we're going to be married by the end of the year. No, your opinion isn't relevant."
"Woman I was engaged to..."
Woman I was engaged to was doing all the prep for the wedding, this was in her country and I didn't understand the language all that well so I was a bit limited on how much I could help her out other than helping to cut the invite cards out etc...
She was a very hot tempered person as she was but as much as I asked her what tasks I could help out with she just refused to involve me in anything at all, and then complain that I wasn't helping enough. She argued and argued with me about how I 'didn't care' despite my efforts to be involved in all the prep. It was all very manipulative.
Eventually she actually pulled a knife out at me. I slapped it off her wrist and she stormed off.
When she left for work the next day I packed my bags, took a taxi to the airport and noped out of there.
But sometimes, the wisdom imparted by friends isn't always helpful or relevant to the situation.
Curious to hear from strangers online who could do without specific knowledge, Redditor Saibotnl1 asked:
"What life advice can just f'k off?"
These Redditors have a problem with how certain people have on outlook on life.
Time To Rest
"Sleep when you’re dead."
"Cool, but you’re going to be dead a lot sooner."
– Tag2graff
Irrelevant Sadness
"People have it so much worse than you so don’t be sad!"
– notrachelmar
"To that I like to say, 'people have it so much better than you so don't be happy!'"
– ___jupiter____
Your Life Path
"Almost anything relating to what age you must be in order to buy a house, have children, marry, have a profession, or do anything else. Seriously, everyone's life is different from everyone else's. Make your life the way you want it to be. If you so desire. Up to you."
– Frn071
On The Contrary
“Cheaters never prosper”
"Yes, they f'king do."
– waqasnaseem07
People can get out of any situation they find displeasing.
But others feel people should just "stick it out."
Ignoring Bullies
"Just ignore bullys or get someone else to handle it for you. I have never seen this work, only makes it worse. The only effective way I've seen to deal with them is by not making yourself an easy target and make them scared to f'k with you again. If going psycho on their a** is the only thing they'll respond to that's their fault. Also want to add in schools they will punish you for self defense but that punishment is only sitting around a few hours in detention or sitting around at home with a suspension. The punishment is temporary boredom, it's absolutely nothing compared to being bullied and when it's over the important message will still stand that you will not tolerate being a victim."
– User Delted
Remain to be Miserable
"Stick it out"
"Whether that's sh**ty jobs, shi**y relationships, shi**y living situations..."
"By all means don't just give up on things when you face challenges, but if something feels wrong or is wrecking your peace then take some control and change it if you can!"
– petitezoey
"Easy for you to say," might be an auto-response to these suggestions for many people.
Invitation For Recklesslessness
"Live like everyday was your last"
Yall know what people do when they learn they have a single day left to live?"
– LimeGrass619
A Possible Consequence
"I did that as a teenager and ended up homeless and addicted to heroin. Didn’t pan out for me too well."
"19 years sober though today."
– Open-Section-7263
A Practical Approach
"If I knew with certainty that I had one day left, I'd double-check all my financials, my will, and my insurance policies, make sure my wife had all of my passwords and knew where all the money was, spend the rest of the day with her and the kids, then call the medical examiner and ask to lie down on the gurney so that when I die they won't strain their back moving my remains out of my house."
– Asteriad
Nose Stuck In A Book
"Work while they sleep. Study while they party"
"That's not a recipe for success, that's a recipe for a lot of white hairs, burnout syndrome and a stroke before your 40s..."
– Khomuna
Doesn't Apply To Everyone
"Do what you love and money will follow"
"I love walking my dogs and grilling food for my friends but That sh*t doesn't pay the bills as well as my engineering degree!"
– Elons_android
While people's intentions are good, they're better off keeping their two cents in their own pockets.
Not everyone likes to hear platitudes.
Sometimes, people just want to know they're not alone with their problems over listening to unlikely solutions that are nothing more than superficial pick-me-ups.
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