Having a best friend is like having a sibling you get to pick yourself. Together, the two of you can challenge the world, take on all comers, and stand together as you support one another.
For a short time.
Sometimes, best friends can last a lifetime. Sometimes, life pulls you in different directions and your best friend suddenly becomes an acquaintance, to no one's fault. Life happens. However, sometimes it's one persons fault you're no longer friends and they know exactly what they did, Karen!
Reddit user, u/beetsalt, wanted to hear about:
When You Realize Who's Been Causing Your Stress
I didn't see her that week, and for the first time in months I didn't have a panic attack that week. So I went another week without seeing her and low and behold, no panic attacks. It made me really reflect on our friendship and recognize how toxic it was and how much it stressed me out. That was when I finally started to see how manipulative she was and how she was always subtly putting me down. I cut things off and all of a sudden my mental health improved dramatically and I almost completely stopped having panic attacks.
Plans Without You
My "friends" planned a trip to Boston without me, and talked about it right in front of my face. Joke's on them, it got cancelled! Thank you COVID!
I hate it when "friends" make plans right in front of me without including me. I totally feel😔🙏
You Know How Lucky You Are?
My former best friend had a habit of trying to make me feel like I was lucky to have him as a friend who can actually put up with me because no one else does. Of course I had other friends but even then he would often try to make me seem horrible to them in an attempt to destroy the friendship
So anyways I became friends with someone and of course he didn't like that and started being passive aggressive to her, naturally I asked him what was wrong and he went on this long rant about what a horrible person I was and how I probably dont even like my new friend as a person or something like that so I was like f-ck it, why do I put up with this sh-t and blocked him on everything while avoiding talking to him in real life
That's Strangely Shaped Like A Pyramid
She kept peddling an MLM and I told her multiple times it was a bad idea. She got her feelings hurt when I told her the bald faced truth about it, and I told her she can talk to me when she runs out of friends and family to sell makeup to.
This dude was a habitual liar. Lied about everything, even stuff he didn't need to. Things like what his favorite drink at Starbucks was. Everything.
Eventually he lied about having cancer. I thought he wouldn't lie about that, I was wrong. I grieved for my friend. Turns out that he was not above lying about cancer. I wasn't going to let my grieving be for nothing either.
You Need To Draw The Line
I had a friend who would constantly make fun of the town I grew up in, my education, my job, and the way I dressed, among other things. I always just thought "well friends rib each other" but the last straw was when he made a fake twitter account of me saying I grew up "in da hood" and tweeting how I'll be a "virgin for life." It was just in low taste and it helped me realize that true friends draw the line somewhere.
My husband's best friend's wife. I attempted to be friendly with her and welcome her into our group when no one else seemed keen on it. She then proceeded to go around saying how desperate I was to be her friend and that I was a loser. She then constantly proceeded to taunt and put down every social media post I made, and when I asked her about it, she told me to "stop my yapping".
Guess who needs a job now and is not getting any help from the yapper.
I Always Thought I Was The Line?
I had a "best" friend from first grade through to the beginning of our senior year. She used to always criticize any ideas I had, what I wore, how I thought (she was super "religious", I wasn't). I stupidly put up with it because I thought she might see things differently and know what's best. She would also get super jealous and knock me down because I ended up being better at certain things.
She always talked sh-t about other people she would hang out with (I wasn't allowed to hang out with anyone else but her and her friend group) to me.
The final straw was when I found out by a different (real) friend, she would talk sh-t about me and everything I'd do to everyone else at school/outside of school.
I stopped talking to her midway through senior year and hung out with the other friend and her friend group. I was instantly happier and less stressed.
To this day I found out (small town living, yay) she still talked sh-t to others and made up rumors about me when I moved out with my ex after high school (because I wasn't married and that's a sin), and she's currently doing that right now "but it's ok because since she's religious god understands".
Sorry to go on a rant, the older I get the more I realize how toxic she is/was.
That's One Way To Loosen Up
I'm a happily married woman. A female friend, who'd recently left her husband for another man, invited me to her house for dinner. Cool, sure, sounds great. She said there would be a surprise waiting for me. Without much prompting, she said she'd arranged for a male friend to join us. "You know, you really need to loosen up and have an affair." Yeah, that's a hard pass for me. We never talked again.
Holy sh-t. Misery loves company.
At the time, she was still happily involved in her affair. Her misery came later, after she married the guy and had a kid with him. He had an affair, and left her for the other woman. Not sure if that's karma, but it certainly was predictable.
Change For The Better, But Mostly For The Worst
When I didn't recognize the person I was talking to anymore.
Just suddenly hit me.
I don't believe a word from people who say people can't change. When people change for the worse, I'm ready to gtfo there with my dignity intact
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