A woman trying to dictate who can and can't play on a public playground at a particular time wrote in for sympathy and advice and got a well deserved earful instead.
Washington Post advice columnist Carolyn Hax let a playground bully have it. No it wasn't a child; it was a mom who overstepped her bounds and asked another mother and her son to leave the public park so her daughter and friends could have a "girls-only" day of fun.
Here is the letter sent into the advice column.
The faux-feminist mom seems to want advice on how to insult the other mom in a "better way" the next time the two run into each other:
"I have a daughter and some other moms of daughters and I have started getting together at a local playground at a set time each week. Recently a mom of a boy brought her son to the playground at the same time we were there. I asked her (nicely, I thought) if she would mind leaving because we had wanted it to be a girls-only time. She refused and seemed angry at me. If she comes back, is there a better way I can approach her? This has been such a sweet time for moms and daughters and having a boy there is naturally going to change things. We live in a world where boys get everything and girls are left with the crumbs, and I would think this mom would realize that, but she seems to think her son is entitled to crash this girls-only time. I know I can't legally keep her from a public park, but can I appeal to her better nature?"
Of course the woman is so over the top ridiculous that Hax tore into her saying:
Can I appeal to -your- better nature?
Goddess help us all.
Shooing off the mom and her boy was terrible. And justifying it as a cosmic correction? Wow.
That kid is a human being--not with privileged little man feelings, either, but with feelings, period. Perhaps even a disposition that fit better into your idea of girl behavior than one or more of the girls there. People are not widgets. And the adult you shooed off is a mom, possessor of the same crumbs you've been fed, no? So don't you think she would have just liked to hang with some fellow moms in the park while she was out with her child?
I mean, maybe not now. I'd avoid you thereafter if I were the one you asked to leave on these terms.
If you're going to have an exclusive gathering, then host it on private property.
And if you're going to accuse anyone of being "entitled," then ask yourself who was claiming possession of public space for her own purposes.
Hax goes on to set the woman straight letting her know if she wants private girl time, she needs to do it on private property.
Twitter agreed with Hax.
@Harlan Agree with you, it’s a public park. Have a girls only party at your house— Cooper's Mom (@Cooper's Mom)1541107170.0
@Harlan @truthcounts4 Awful mom...and as a mom, I cant believe that another mother cant reach deep and realize how… https://t.co/6vCwJzpLJc— Christie Clear (@Christie Clear)1541025963.0
@Harlan Ok sorry, I would tell her to kiss my ass.— Tania USA ❌ (@Tania USA ❌)1541023005.0
I would've laughed in her face and kept on playing with my kid. Mom Asks Stranger and Her Son to Leave Public Pa… https://t.co/qkDRVniOQR— #MikeCon #Photography #GermanFitnessPhotographer (@#MikeCon #Photography #GermanFitnessPhotographer)1541107523.0
I sincerely hope this woman took the [solicited] comments regarding her actions (& the reaction) to heart & will ad… https://t.co/BEzsQm5OCa— Nikki Lyn (@Nikki Lyn)1541084183.0
Geeze...kids just want to play. LET THEM PLAY! Boys, girls, trans, green, white, black purple...for gods sakes!!… https://t.co/cwiUoWaj7l— Nichole (@Nichole)1541034114.0
What this woman did has nothing to do with feminism.
https://t.co/hiMEF3GYFk As a feminist, I actually side with the the boys's mother on this one. You can't just have… https://t.co/bqpah7nK5t— Erotica Fox (@Erotica Fox)1541068263.0
It's like you think the resounding belief of women and girls have the moral ground and the higher amount of virtue.… https://t.co/igvP3vUBMO— Erotica Fox (@Erotica Fox)1541068264.0
This is not feminist behavior. This is a privileged white woman who expects to get her way. In the 1980s deluded wh… https://t.co/1bTqWKn8X9— Felicia (@Felicia )1541037824.0
The mother in this story considers herself a feminist but she’s not. Rather she’s foolish and insensitive. Thank y… https://t.co/TNtPfvoklx— Cathy (@Cathy)1541033479.0
Mom Asks Stranger and Her Son to Leave Public Park Because of Unofficial 'Girls-Only' Playtime - People This was s… https://t.co/J9gdLKS0fJ— Stacey (@Stacey)1541037514.0
Real feminists want equality for all children.