Small Slights That Made People Feel Majorly Betrayed By Their Significant Other
Reddit user _Halboro_ asked: 'What was something fairly small that made you feel betrayed by your SO?'
When you're in a relationship, the things your significant other—or sig-O—does hit different.
Teasing remarks you'd laugh off from friends can feel like a knife in the heart when your romantic partner says it.
Minor slights can easily become major issues in your relationship if you feel vulnerable.
Reddit user _Halboro_ asked:
"What was something fairly small that made you feel betrayed by your [significant other]?"
Unequal Devotion
"When he was doing a work contract overseas I sent him love letters every two weeks to feel connected."
"When he got home and unpacked I found many of them unopened."
~ athenasplanet
"My high school girlfriend lent my hoodie to someone else."
~ Responsible_Roll7065
"Gah! I had a University BF lend My hoodie to a girl (who was a smoker, too. 🤮)."
"There were at least 15 other single guys there that could have stepped up and lent her their sweaters, but mine was up for grabs!"
"And when I got it back it reeked. So, annoyed with him on multiple levels."
~ Au-stellar-12
Unequal Effort
"My sister was in the hospital and he didn't do the dishes while I was gone for 3 days."
~ shirleytrix
"When he got Covid, he was quarantined downstairs. I waited on him hand and foot."
"Three days later, I got Covid but while he was feeling better and still quarantining himself, I had to be sick and care for our son."
"I was stooped over the counter trying to make him dinner and he just went back downstairs. I’ll always remember that."
~ Lychanthropejumprope
"My sister, nephew, and mom went on a vacay for about 9 days including travel days."
"When she and my nephew got home, the sink was full of dirty dishes and so was the island in their kitchen. Their island is HUGE, bigger than what I would consider average for a home."
"There were also trash bags just sitting around the house and it was just absolutely disgusting."
~ Ill-Stomach1871
"It's small, but one year we were both working 15-18 hour days but had Thanksgiving off. I planned the menu, he didn't give input."
"I ordered the ingredients online during my lunch break to pick up after work because I didn't have time to shop."
"I woke up early, made everything. Cleaned the dishes and the kitchen after."
"All he did was complain."
"I made too much. I had too much wine (3 glasses over 7 hours)."
"After all that work and not even a compliment or a thank you?
"Yeah—we divorced. That was our last Thanksgiving together."
~ azorianmilk
Unequal Consideration
"After complaining for months that I never got to sleep in, despite being the only one to get up to the kids in the night, he finally let me sleep in one morning."
"I woke up hearing him quietly saying to the kids 'Mummy’s had long enough; go wake her up'."
"I only had maybe an hour extra. He always had several."
~ a-nony-mouse33
"I'm almost always up first. I tend the pets, get the kids going and make coffee. 20 min routine."
"Every morning I'd bring him a cup of coffee and open the curtains to let some sunlight in and then leave and he would play on his phone and sip coffee for half hour while I tended the kids and got to work."
"Then he complained that just because I was up didn't mean he had to be up."
"Guess who doesn't get hot coffee in bed anymore."
~ MsFlippy
"My ex would skip the songs I liked that came on the radio."
~ violet_hydrangea
"Was on my way back from Turkey with a nice stash of dried fruit from Afghanistan (imported to Turkey)."
"Declared it on my customs form."
"Got detained for agricultural reasons, said they would let me go but had to take the dried fruit."
"I looked and looked but could not find it. Was detained for hours."
"Turns out my girlfriend ate it all while I was asleep on the flight."
~ neuro_exo
Unequal Humor
"We were going through airport security together."
"She went first and when she was being screened, pointed at me and said 'make sure you check my boyfriend, he always has knives' as a joke and then I got detained for a search and questioning and almost missed the flight.
"And no, I didn't have any knives other other contraband on me. Then she got mad at me for almost missing our flight."
"LIKE WHAT DID YOU THINK WOULD HAPPEN HERE EMILY‽‽"
~ ThadisJones
"When we were signing our first lease she joked with the landlord about how rowdy I am, to 0 chuckles or even a smile.
"I wanted to bang my head into a wall."
~ NCAA_D1_AssRipper
Unequal Respect
"I had a friend who dumped his girlfriend when he overheard her making fun of his (admittedly, rather nerdy) sister to her friends."
"He said it wasn’t just about loyalty to his sis, it was about not wanting to be with someone who has to put others down to feel better about herself."
"Always thought it was admirable."
~ whitneywestmoreland
"The most extreme case I know of is my dad and the girlfriend he had before my mom came along."
"He and the gf were high school sweethearts and had been together for three years. They were both dying to see Back to the Future 2, a movie that had been highly anticipated for years."
"He had a family emergency the day it came out so they agreed to see it the following Monday. He found out from friends she went to see it with a douchey guy friend my dad never really liked."
"He was so hurt and she was so unapologetic—her attitude was 'I’ll go see it with you too! Why did I have to wait?' even though they’d agreed to see it together. He told her they needed to take a break."
He fully meant for it to be temporary, just until he cooled off, but then he met my mom when he went to see the movie by himself…and he never looked back.
"He does feel a bit guilty though because his ex was pretty devastated when she found out he’d met someone else and wanted to end things for good."
~ levoyageursansbagage
People felt these were minor slights, but many seem pretty major from the outside looking in.
Most ended the relationship being described.
I guess it's proof positive that little things—good or bad—mean a lot.
What is minor to some is major to many. And that's ok. We all process feelings differently. One's last straw is one's last straw! The smallest things can often be the spark that ignites the powder keg. That is why we all need therapy and meds. The "small" things add up. And when emotion is unchecked.... the small can lead to a HUGE explosion!
Take cover y'all!
Redditor u/visualsplendor wanted everyone to share about those things that drive us up a wall though they might not seem like that big a deal by asking.... What minor thing offends you the most?
MOVE!
GiphyCouples/groups not switching to single file on the pavement when people are coming in the other direction.
Freaking move ya bag of crap. ushouldcmoiinacrown
Lacking Humans.
Then there are people that lack the compassion and humility to moderate their behavior based on the effect it has on the people around them and the world in general. TocTheEternal
Speak Less.
So I'm a terribly shy and quiet person even with friends and family. I get a lot of comments on "how I should talk more" or "why don't you talk more" or "all you say is yeah" so it really offends me when I actually do talk and either no one listens to me or they cut me off and talk over me. It hurts and actually makes me want to speak less. uninvitedwhitechick
Thumbs Up!
GiphyWhen I work really hard to accomplish something, tell someone about it, and they say something wow that's lucky! Outrageous_Claims
Dirty. Dirty.
When I'm almost done with dishes and someone brings me a dirty dish. RiaModum
I'd rather that happens than when you've done the dishes, wiped down the counter, the sink has emptied and then BAM! A dirty plate on your nice clean counter. SkyScamall
No veggies Jesus!
When I was like 5-10 years old I wouldn't eat any veggies. My family always talk about how picky I was and now that I can eat most any veggies (not lettuce or onion they still suck) we will be out and when I eat something i normally don't they act like it's the second coming of Christ, its pretty humiliating to have your family in shock because you ate a carrot. Trixieboi
Hey Brad.
Being called, "bud" or "buddy".
I'm not your dog, my name is Brad. BradS2008
My former landlord used to call me "champ." I would pay my rent and he would say stuff like "thanks champ." It was kinda awkward. Reddit
Poopers.
Dog-owners who let their mange poop anywhere it wants., if you call them out, it's "oh, I don't have a bag with me and I didn't know he was gonna do it" yeah, why you walking it around the block 4 times. SFBushPig
I bring handkerchiefs and are not afraid to pick up the sheet and drop it in a bin. dope_tastic
Gee Thanks.
GiphySometimes People don't understand why this is a backhanded compliment but if you say "you're pretty for a black girl" it's implying that I'm pretty despite being black like it's a flaw. Chickensandpumpkins
Dog. Barking.
My neighbor's dog barking. Then I go backpacking. I walk many miles to a secluded area to relax and still. Dog. Barking. Someone brought their dog, and it will not stop barking.
I go on vacation far away from home and somehow the same barking.
There is no escape. There is only barking.
Trying to do school work? Might as well relate it to the constant barking in my ears.
Important phone conference? You guessed it: dog barking.
Trying to relax in my own yard? Dog. Barking. LethargyLord
MOVE, I can't wait for you!
GiphyWhen someone pushes you to move faster, but it is the person in front of you that is holding everyone up. Fluffiddy
People stopping when they get the top of an escalator. "MOVE, I can't wait for you! The floor below me is literally moving!" DrKnowNout
I'm talking.
being interrupted while speaking.
I know I'm not anyone super special or of nobility but still. Felo-DeSe
My in-laws were doing this all the time whenever I came over for dinner. One night I was so done and asked them politely 'I'm sorry, do I interrupt you in the middle of my sentence?'. I know its sassy but it did work. DD0805
Be Kind.
People being condescending. MeAnIntellectual1
Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will only cause... permanent psychological damage. lordpookus
Don't Toss....
Littering.... Vohdre
Most of the other answers are pretty brief annoyances. Littering, on a case by case basis, might be a minor thing but the apparent widespread willingness to litter has an enormous negative effect on our living spaces. Damn litterers. Lazy selfish PoS's. TocTheEternal
You're Mouth!!
People slurping or crunching foods loudly. salad_hater_117
This isn't even mildly offensive. This is just blatantly offensive.
Once, at a Starbucks, this man inexplicably had nothing but ice in a cup. No water. He'd violently stir the ice then spoon out an ice cube and open mouth crunch. He just sat and finished his cup of ice like it were a bowl of cereal. When he was done he just walked out.
It was possibly the most bizarre thing I've seen. spacesuitz
Hands Off!
Being touched by someone without permission. It just sends me over the edge, it's rude and I hate it. Keep your hands to yourself damn it. Whitewolf023
Yes. I really hate being poked or jabbed with a finger. Especially in the belly! Hey pokers, how is it that you even think that's an acceptable thing to do to someone else without their express consent? BubbhaJebus
SCREECH!!!
People screaming at completely inappropriate times. Some people just never learned what an inside voice was or slept through that lesson. mondriart
The kids who used to scream when the power went out during school. viking162
My neighbors children just SCREECH constantly as they play in the backyard. I simply don't understand it. I don't allow my daughter to do that, it's unnecessary. I can't imagine it plays into their games—they're just being awful to everyone around them. And mama Karen sits out back with her margarita and headphones without a care in the world. ObserveTheSpeedLaw
Be Kind.
People who think being offended is grounds to stop others from doing what offends them. pisspoorplanning
But also people that lack the compassion and humility to moderate their behavior based on the effect it has on the people around them and the world in general. TocTheEternal
Park Elsewhere.
GiphyShopping carts in the parking lot. A pastor once said "leaving your shopping cart in the middle of the parking lot means you think you're better that other people." shaka_sulu
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